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Please I need advice on what action to take concerning a girl.We have been dating for a while but one thing about the relationship is that am older than her with almost 15years ,she is 23 years old while am 38 years and I express my fears about the age difference that we shouild quit the relationship but she would not accept ,althought i was helping her to pay part of school fees,and helping her financially.she was now disturbing me to come and see her people that i was not serious in the relationship that i must come and see her people,fast forward we did the introduction a month later she told me she is no more interested in the marriage,that she is still young ,that we should still be dating but no marriage.please I need advice on what action to take concerning this issue.
And i notice since she said she is no more interested anytime we are chatting she trys to be nice to me .please I need advice no insults.

mp3ree:
Please I need advice on what action to take concerning a girl.We have been dating for a while but one thing about the relationship is that am older than her with almost 15years ,she is 23 years old while am 38 years and I express my fears about the age difference that we shouild quit the relationship but she would not accept ,althought i was helping her to pay part of school fees,and helping her financially.she was now disturbing me to come and see her people that i was not serious in the relationship that i must come and see her people,fast forward we did the introduction a month later she told me she is no more interested in the marriage,that she is still young ,that we should still be dating but no marriage.please I need advice on what action to take concerning this issue.
And i notice since she said she is no more interested anytime we are chatting she trys to be nice to me .please I need advice no insults.

I did a write up on how young men can pick their wives. You are already violating one rule. You have not clearly assessed or conduct due diligence on your future in laws.

Why are you paying the tuition fees of a woman you are not yet married to? What other fees and bills will you pay when you eventually get married? How will your financial income cater for you, your wife, your future kids and possibly your future in-laws.

Chief - you have to be logical here and think about your future. That’s why many young men struggle financially

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I did a write up on how young men can pick their wives. You are already violating one rule. You have not clearly assessed or conduct due diligence on your future in laws.

Why are you paying the tuition fees of a woman you are not yet married to? What other fees and bills will you pay when you eventually get married? How will your financial income cater for you, your wife, your future kids and possibly your future in-laws.

Chief - you have to be logical here and think about your future. That’s why many young men struggle financially[/q
Please I want to know should i allow her to go

yep.. let her go

she isn't in love with you and worst of all, she probably has a guy that is 'closer'to her age bracket than u are.
and most importantly, she still wants to explore.. so just let her

guys should stop paying school fees or house rents of ladies they are not married to.... it is wrong on all counts.. marry her first before doing all these things...can you pay the school fees of any of your family ?..free the lady now and look fir someone better

Let her go for your own personal good and try get a lady in her early 30's, such ladies know what they wants and the age gap won't be much. Marrying a girl with an age gap of 15yrs stakes u at a higher risk of raising someone else's child . Paying her fees isn't a wrong act at all, to whom we love we will try to give them the best not minding the consequences.

babyfaceafrica:
guys should stop paying school fees or house rents of ladies they are not married to.... it is wrong on all counts.. marry her first before doing all these things...can you pay the school fees of any of your family ?..free the lady now and look fir someone better

Are his family sleeping with him? So paying the fee isn't bad. Of which he must extend a helping hand to his family to.

Find your mate bro, what were u expecting before??

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Chief do you wish your future to be miserable? If you are with her because you ONLY love her - I’m afraid love is not enough for marriage.

On the other hand, you are playing the role of her father prior to marriage. This is totally nonsense for logical men.

stinflame:


Are his family sleeping with him? So paying the fee isn't bad. Of which he must extend a helping hand to his family to.

so because the lady is sleeping with him..he should pay her school fees..so the relationship is a poverty allieviation scheme?

babyfaceafrica:
guys should stop paying school fees or house rents of ladies they are not married to.... it is wrong on all counts.. marry her first before doing all these things...can you pay the school fees of any of your family ?..free the lady now and look fir someone better

Correct. Don’t play the role of a father in a woman’s life. If the family are not financially buoyant and the young man is trying to establish himself - leave that lady and go get another. Except you are wealthy with a big heart and a big house because after you finish paying bills for the future wife, the younger siblings too would expect the same.

Boss13:


Correct. Don’t play the role of a father in a woman’s life. If the family are not financially buoyant and the young man is trying to establish himself - leave that lady and go get another. Except you are wealthy with a big heart and a big house because after you finish paying bills for the future wife, the younger siblings too would expect the same.

I can't even understand how a matured man can do that?..marry her then pay her school fees..simple!!

sorry bro, but it's obvious she wants u no more, look for another

At your age, I think you should have enough experience on what to do.

anthonyuncle:
sorry bro,
but it's obvious she wants u no more,
look for another

She is even telling me we should still be dating,but no marriage.

Memberclub:
At your age, I think you should have enough experience on what to do.

She is even telling me we should still be dating,but no marriage.she is still interested in what i give her ,i have this idea of just using her to satisfy my urge until i find another lady.meanwhile no more mr generous on my part.
what do you advice on my plan

Give her some space so both of you can see things clearly. You should be happy she told you this now you're not yet married to her, it's hard but she has declared her intentions, don't force yourself on her, what you get in return won't be real love.
Next time make less financial commitments please.

mp3ree:



She is even telling me we should still be dating,but no marriage.

can u imagine, u are just wasting time with her

Bros...look for a much older lady,say between 27-28yrs.

mp3ree:
Please I need advice on what action to take concerning a girl.We have been dating for a while but one thing about the relationship is that am older than her with almost 15years ,she is 23 years old while am 38 years and I express my fears about the age difference that we shouild quit the relationship but she would not accept ,althought i was helping her to pay part of school fees,and helping her financially.she was now disturbing me to come and see her people that i was not serious in the relationship that i must come and see her people,fast forward we did the introduction a month later she told me she is no more interested in the marriage,that she is still young ,that we should still be dating but no marriage.please I need advice on what action to take concerning this issue.
And i notice since she said she is no more interested anytime we are chatting she trys to be nice to me .please I need advice no insults.

She has seen someone younger nd beta nd would also luv to explore.d aspect of u both to be still dating z to make u not to feel bad

mp3ree:
Please I need advice on what action to take concerning a girl.We have been dating for a while but one thing about the relationship is that am older than her with almost 15years ,she is 23 years old while am 38 years and I express my fears about the age difference that we shouild quit the relationship but she would not accept ,althought i was helping her to pay part of school fees,and helping her financially.she was now disturbing me to come and see her people that i was not serious in the relationship that i must come and see her people,fast forward we did the introduction a month later she told me she is no more interested in the marriage,that she is still young ,that we should still be dating but no marriage.please I need advice on what action to take concerning this issue.
And i notice since she said she is no more interested anytime we are chatting she trys to be nice to me .please I need advice no insults.

Let her go. She is emotionally and psychologically unprepared for marital commitment so don't waste your time with her. Get someone older and willing to settle down in the foreseeable future.

See as girl dey use this old man heart play kite..

Who say women no get power.

mp3ree:


She is even telling me we should still be dating,but no marriage.she is still interested in what i give her ,i have this idea of just using her to satisfy my urge until i find another lady.meanwhile no more mr generous on my part.
what do you advice on my plan

Stop acting like a sissy. End that darn thing!