NewStats: 3,261,407 , 8,173,894 topics. Date: Thursday, 29 May 2025 at 07:13 AM 6v953

you have no idea the world you live in ... don't be too nice and generous to people... you indirectly make yourself a target for criminals.

slawomir:
Damnnn niggar
Yeah

Don't bring anybody too close

It's always cold inside.

jaxxy:
Yes u have to have a level awareness of people u work or interact too closely with. U may not know bt some are studying and reading u for information or weakness.

They studied ur house and know u live alone and other information they shouldn't ideally know. Next is to exploit it.

why should u bring a bike man or dispatch rider into ur house when he should stop at the gate?

Acting too nice to the wrong people only makes u a soft target.

NewDea4:


Standard

Most Nigerians repay generosity with ungratefulness or worse, evil. Once you're generous most people see you as a stupid person; if you're courteous you're perceived as weak or of a lower cadre to them.

Na so

Chee59:

Nigerians are not good people.

Lol

You're reinforcing the statement. No time.

sukkot:
people need to start moving like me

1-get spiritual protection . this is spiritual warfare
2- appear poorer than you are. present yourself as STRUGGLING to the world
3-never accept help from anyone poorer than you
4-trust no man. keep everybody at arms length
5-always avoid eye . they read your spirit through eye
6-do everything yourself if you are not crippled
7-if you have 1 million naira, hypothetically speaking, and the rent is between a 3 bedroom in ebute metta or a studio flat in ikoyi, always choose ikoyi. its about the location not the size of your house, always aspire to be around rich people . those places are heavily protected

Hmmmm

sukkot:
people need to start moving like me

1-get spiritual protection . this is spiritual warfare
2- appear poorer than you are. present yourself as STRUGGLING to the world
3-never accept help from anyone poorer than you
4-trust no man. keep everybody at arms length
5-always avoid eye . they read your spirit through eye
6-do everything yourself if you are not crippled
7-if you have 1 million naira, hypothetically speaking, and the rent is between a 3 bedroom in ebute metta or a studio flat in ikoyi, always choose ikoyi. its about the location not the size of your house, always aspire to be around rich people . those places are heavily protected

Hmmmm

My chairman.

sylve11:



Hmmmm

My chairman.

my Chief, sylve11, salute to you and happy new month

Give only when necessary,i.e when they ask for help and make sure it's not always because it will make them think, u always have money.

Anytime they ask and u refuse to give,u become their enemy.U need to act broke at times even if u have all the money.

Some become entitled because u give them always.

Others just want to collect from u because u have good heart and not because they need it.

Don't get emotional about people's problem...who knows if they are suffering from the consequences of their past.

lenghtinny:
Na normal level….
Keep people at arms length, dem go say you proud…..
Draw them closer, dem go sting you like scorpion…

It’s a very delicate balance

Una no da ever get sense when una don da see money. I don zero my mind tey tey as far as dis country is concerned. I am a silent millionaire but u go me for street think say I day suffer. I don't buy fancy things or given to lavish lifestlye. I enjoy life with my ravishingly beautiful wife and ive fam. I help in the little way I can but I no da loose guard cos OLORIBURUKU people just full this country.

Being nice can get you killed, literally.

Sonnobax15:

Na once dem rock am for my guy.......

Well,an average Nigerian is criminally minded....Only waiting to take advantage of the vulnerable ones

This is very very very true. I have had my fair share of people who take advantage of your kindness. In Nigeria, kindness is often interpreted as foolishness and they will take advantage of it to the fullest. You see you wey nice, na you gan gan go suffer. Nigerians can't handle the freedom and kindness you extend to them.

All the advise una go advise under this thread go be the usual yimmerish,nor be every poor person bad so no need for many talks,in everything that you do just use wisdom, stop exposing urself unnecessarily, internet fraudsters have done more harm than good to the minds of the average Nigerian.

yongg:

I learnt a great lesson that day about human psychology. Since that day, I see through everything, It won't matter if you use religion or blackmail to pyscho-babble your way. I will do what I intend to do strategically at all times with self preservation in mind. It pays to have a minimum amount of selfishness, especially if you haven't stood well and are considering rendering help.

You said it all.

Chee59:

Nigerians are not good people.

Any country that have prison does not have good people...

Chee59:

Nigerians are not good people.

Go and be watching Investigation Discovery (Channel 171) on dstv. You will see evils you've never thought exist...

Our society value dependency and entitlement attitude, it is a prayer points in our religious centers, i.e. God created the rich because of the poor.

Starboytwo:
Na normal thing make bike drop you few houses to your house.

E.g the bike man wey carry you go buy weed, same bikeman na him go describe the front of your house.

Hope you grab.

Bad guy

Caseless:
you borrowed someone money for a useless thing like burial and not investment and you expect him to pay back?

if anyone want to borrow money from you, be it investment or non profit spending, refer them to Microfinance or Lapo. The friend I lend money to during university days to pay his school fees, promising heaven and earth his dad will send the money before 1 month. 3 months after, he bought a new phone (×2 higher than what he's owing)... its been 4 years now and the debt still exist... my guy never for once mention that money again ...

VeeVeeMyLuv:
ExAngel007 always keep a low profile, infact ehn don't go about boasting, or telling folks you are making money.

Please I beg you with God hide your secret.

If you have earned more to some comfortable level please pack out to a new location that befits your new status before close folks like your bike man devour you.

These are very brutal times in Nigeria. The new president has even reinforced the brutality 77x7 times.

Beware. Watch and pray.


These are one of the commemts that makes me glued to nairaland all 247

Flangelo12:
The average Nigerian youth.

Fear them.

An average motorcyclist belongs to a robbery gang

yongg:
I had already learnt this lesson while in Nursery school. It amazes me how I'm still able to virtually everything (even the perfume permeating the air et al) that transpired the day I decided to show a little kindness to a classmate because he said I should give him small. Brethens, I don't know if it was because of the Sunday school lessons of the previous Sunday or if it was the morning devotion that made me decided to test this show of kindness, I kid you not, till this day (in Deontay Wilder's voice), I will never forget the experience.

That was how one became two and I was almost mobbed, they wouldn't even let me eat my break food in peace because I was hungry too. Different guilt tripping emotional tactics to get from me what some turned out to have, some even came multiple times. If you didn't bulge, they go "ok, I won't be your friend again", and that's coming from someone who wasn't even my friend to begin with.

I ended up sharing it to everyone that wanted it, thinking they would be satisfied. I got the shocker of my then short life, lols. They cursed me out saying they didn't even get anything, people that just several seconds ago were just nibbling out my lunch like piranhas in an eating frenzy.

Of course I cried that not only did I get not to eat my lunch while hungry my self, but that even after helping they didn't acknowledge that I help them and cursed me out for it.

I was now hungry, traumatized (effing brutal something for a <4 year old, the things that were said? Hmm), got mobbed (they even mobbed off my flask and water bottle from my possession, lols) but also gained more enemies than friends (shit seemed to get worse the more I tried to explain and ask them didn't they when I cut for them just now?)

I learnt a great lesson that day about human psychology. Since that day, I see through everything, It won't matter if you use religion or blackmail to pyscho-babble your way. I will do what I intend to do strategically at all times with self preservation in mind. It pays to have a minimum amount of selfishness, especially if you haven't stood well and are considering rendering help.

My brother it pays to have a maximum amount of selfishness. Majority of Nigerians are evil.

JoyinChrist:

It's quite unfortunate that in 2023 Nigerians still reason this way

Even the police and the efcc are not left out it is so unfortunate

Chee59:
Nigerians aren't good people.

travel more and see majority of the world are not good people... You act too nice they take advantage of u

Techie with no backup?. One formatting and your whole life is gone? You're more dumb than stupid.

ahnie:
One supplying me woods has made me her personal ATM, because I always give her foodstuffs,it even got to the extent of them knocking on my door,and telling me nothing dey house o,the kids became irritants,and pesty.

Like my home became their succour,they forgot I also have a family hanging and surviving on my neck.

The mum even had the effrontery of wanting to search my kitchen because I told her I don't have foodstuffs to give to her.

Too much kindness n familiarity to some people wallaihi e nor good

Better pack out of that place. Them don see you finish already oh.

Na to come rob you remain.

No sey I no tell you sha

flexyrule:
Na normal naija way...

Always taking advantage of people's kindness.

That's how I gave this guy 500k to bury his father...

To pay back now, e be like e want make I go dig the papa commot for inside grave before e go pay me back my money.

Actually some Nigerians think you helping them or being nice to them means you're weak or a mumu.

yongg:


Yeah, I think about that too. The only disadvantage would be that if one of them decide just randomly on first meet that one is a worthy target your radius of investigative net would be wider.

In the military, they tend to have and orderly or batman/batmen as they were called. That way the search net is smaller, even if the the culprit decided to outsource the deed out, one perceptive enough could reasonably link 1 and 2 together and form a reasonable haunch (I'm not talking about just blindly accusing anyone, although there are ways the military police can get it out of them, lols)

Your reply is very apt. I wonder if it is safer to have a smaller circle or regular and familiar people or a larger circle or random and unfamiliar people. Which is actually safer?

Herbiodun09:
I always say leave poor people to their predicaments. Help the littlest ways you can.

You extending too much to them could harm you.

Na from experience we dey talk o.


Hope you got back on your feet tho?

On point, our problem sometimes is that we try to solve a problem we didn't create.
Secondly, we tend to question God on certain life issues not knowing they are man made problems

JoyinChrist:
Please if anybody can help me with any little amount to cook something to eat I will be very happy. Feeding is a big problem for me and my family please no matter how small. I havent eaten anything since yesterday in the morning pls. My dad is a retired teacher and my mom is late. Am a single mother with my own son mouth to feed, the little money i make have use it to cater for my dad illness and pay house rent but his health is getting worst. Now we can't even eat or buy water to drink. Please if you're reading this message pls come to our aid, no matter how small it will go a long way pls. May God meet you at the point of your need as you have show us mercy amen

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FaithS.H
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What is really going on with this dude, I ed this forum almost 2years ago and there’s hardly a day that you don’t beg for money on this forum, what’s the real problem? Are you handicapped, lazy or you just take begging as hobby?