NewStats: 3,263,783 , 8,181,391 topics. Date: Saturday, 07 June 2025 at 09:48 PM 5b2z3w

smh na dem sabi tank God my crush no follow 4 d list

APC n Kogi people are at it again

I hope d addict read n learn to help their future

naijaboiy:

But who is she chatting with that she cannot pay attention to her boyfriend when he's around?

Even when kids come that kind of person can still be busy with her phone instead of breast feeding her child.

Some girls these days are married to their phones than to their husbands. Instead of them to be cooking they are busy updating pictures on Instagram and instead of them to be breastfeeding their kids they rather engage in Twitter fights or searching lindaikeji for Amebor gists that is not their business.


Doesn't seem normal to me.

wat ll u say abt boyfrnds n married men dat r glued to dere fones?

its so unfortunate some people get married without knowing d meaning of marriage

too bad no foolish man is worth d trouble, na d husband she 4 attack sef

buhari's govt can lie

nawao u live in a room n u still brought a maid na ur laziness go kill u

May God mould my man to b dat or even beta

haba woman y r u behaving like a senseless man, technology is good but it would have been beta if we could only make calls n send text msg wit our phone cos some people r married to dere phone not partner

Generals03:




Do you suspect he might be suffering from depression?

Has his health affected his finances? If yes, who buys stuff and takes care of his responsibilities in the house?

Has he ever used a viagra with you before? Do you suspect his Manhood no longer rises effectively?

These are serious issues because your hubby may be going through some emotional trauma he is not willing to let you of.
If his health has affected his thing and it isnt functioning effectively, he may be ashamed to make you aware, and he resorts to testing the thing with some one else.

Please answer the above questions. Be sure it is not depression. If it is, then its a serious matter.

he still gets his monthly pay cos it's a federal work he is doin though he is not as strong as he use to be. y must he b depressed am always encouraging him n letting him know am fine thou sex is very important but being happy is more.

cococandy:
No pregnant woman should be treated that way.
Not when they need all the love and they can get.
What's wrong with some people?

OP if you didn't do anything to warrant the accusation, pls pay it no heed. Some people before they go out and do something bad, they rationalize and justify it in their minds any way they can so as to feel less guilty about it. him accusing him might be diversionary tactics to justify his own cheating which he's planning to go do.

Goodluck with your baby. You're almost there. For now rest your mind no matter how hard it is because you don't want your blood pressure up at the risky stage.
If you need to get away from him so that anger at him won't push you into over drive, pls do so.

When you're done having your baby.
Ask him if he's tired of the marriage. The worst way to spend your energy is in trying to stay married to someone who doesn't want to stay married to you. And the worst cheat to live with is one who's not repentant. You'd basically be giving the person a license to treat you as they wish once you start condoning their unrepentant philandering.

If he's not tired and you aren't tired, then both of you can consider counseling. It seems you didn't know each other well before marriage. you said you never saw the bad leg until marriage, that means you guys never met until marriage.
Maybe he's disillusioned with what he saw after meeting you. Hence the lack of sexual attraction.

Time to rediscover yourselves and see if you can ignite sparks between the two of you.
Provided he's willing to try with you.
One person can't build a marriage alone while the other person is continuously sabotaging the union.

Unfortunately he's not here and he's the one that needs talking to. More than you even.

thank u he had d accident last yr and we dated for close to 2 yrs b4 getting married it was only distant cos he works in d western part of d country while am in north central

fem29:
Hi dear I'm so sorry you are going through this. As someone already asked, are you legally married to him(no judgement). Right now the most important thing is your baby. You need to reduce your stress levels. It's not good for you or baby. Please try to remove all thoughts about his girlfriend from your mind right now. Wait till after you give birth before you hash it out. Focus on trying to get money from him for baby stuff and hospital bills for now. No fighting him for now, you are in no condition. If he doesn't bring the money, do you have family and friends that can help you out?.

Also is your mum or sister available to come and stay with you for a while?. You need someone to lift your spirit right now. It will get better in Jesé name. Just pretend as if he doesn't exist for now.

thank u n God bless

njokusboy:
@op...

If your husband is rebuffing ur advances andd banging another girl inspite of his bad leg... then he is an irresponsible, pathetic son of a b1tch... nd it doesn't matter whether u spit or fart every minute...

In cases like this, there is no single solution.. you should consider your welfare as well as dat of ur child before taking any decision..

Modified... if your husband actually says he is not the father of the unborn baby, then you've got bigger problems, you're not telling us the whole story..

it also baffles me him saying dat I don't know if he is just saying it not to take responsibility of babies arrival or what cos if we pray 2geda he commits d unborn baby n calls it our baby. I actually don't know where I have gone wrong n he has not told me

5minsmadness:

.And everybody ignored this to have a go at the man.


This is a VERY SERIOUS accusation and not one to be taken lightly at all.

If there is anything I have learned on nairaland it's to always listen to both sides of the story. A man has a broken leg and is supposedly in pains but goes out of his way to buy viagra to have an affair. That means he can't get it up by himself. That means he is going out of his way to cheat on his woman. This is not some random infidelity. This is Malice. An act of vengeance. Something went wrong.


Op what actually happened between you two?

I've said all dat happened I equally Love sex but am taking it easy on him cos he complains he is tired n sick God in heaven bears me witness he has neva seen anything negative in me His only complain is no man should compliment me cos am married

thorpido:
The first question I'll ask you is,do you really know the man you married?Was he this way when you were dating or did he change?
I'll want you to sit with him when the atmosphere is most conducive and have a frank talk with him about your marriage.It seems like he has not 'settled' even though he is married.
Does your hubby have someone he looks up to or listens to?Even though 3rd parties are usually not encouraged in marriages,if your hubby is uncooperative,you may need to talk with someone he respects.

he changed I would neva have married such a man, I've tried talking to him severally to no avail of recent I went to see his uncle n as u know d advice is continue to b patient n prayerful

coogar:


if everything you have said is true, he has shown he's not responsible!

i suggest you bring him to this thread https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/1582623/boys-night-out-discussions

we will teach him how to be a grown man

thanks alot I appreciate

NewBorn2:

Don't ever argue with him. Ask him for regular upkeep, if he refused, look for work and take care of yourself. Don't despair dress well and look delicious. People around him will draw his attentio n to his stupidity. Remain a good wife. don't argue with him. There is no good husband out there.

thanks

Ginaz:
Men and their wahala, God pls give me a caring husband

amen dear take ur tym n choose wisely

niggi4life:
Nothing to be worried about madam except for that statement of his that he's not responsible for the pregnancy.
Men usually get turned off by pregnant women and women who menstruate, once you have delivered safely, am sure he will come back to his senses.
Just carry on your normal life and care less about him. He is just an irresponsible man. Be strong, stay safe and i wish you a happy delivery of your baby

thanks n God bless

coogar:


you don't have to show your identity....

when you confronted him with the evidence, what was his line of defence? what was his excuse? you said the sex sessions have decreased, what caused this? can you him complaining about anything prior his infidelity?

he has a broken leg so he always say he is not strong, I don't know wat caused it maybe it's his nature wch I neva saw we've not stayed 2geda we work in diff state but his condition is d reason he is not at his duty post. when I confronted him he told me notin no apologies but started acting as if he cared by asking me wat was wrong if I had discomfort due to my present state.

coogar:


your current status is probably turning him off. how long gone are you? are you the type that looks clumsy, unkempt and spitting around when pregnant?

God so kind am non of d above I don't spit, vomit or fat just baby bump I ll b due next month by God's grace if not because I don't want d whole world to see my identity n know my problem I wld have posted a pix

kadas01:
I feel your pain sis!
Confide in any of his "close relatives" whom you are also close to!
The LORD is your strength!

thank u

SeverusSnape:
Obviously, The man doesn't love you. It seems you're not legally married for him to proudly deny being married to you.

we got married in a church

I've not really reached the point of being suicidal because I know my future is bright and the baby in my womb is more of a comforter to me. I have been married for close to two years now.

My hubby has not been very healthy for close to a year now, we just leave like roommates, hardly any sexual activity, but it was a blow to my face when I came back from church on Sunday and saw a pill of Viagra 100 on my matrimonial bed and when I checked his phone I saw his chat with a girl inviting her to his guest house and denying he is married.

After confronting him, there was no remorse not even an explanation. He is just pretending to be nice (meanwhile am heavily pregnant but he cares less, I care for my pregnancy and buy my babies stuff. Hee sometimes even tells me he is not responsible for my pregnancy)

Please, I need candid advice on what to do. thanks.

I've not really reached d point of being suicidal cos I know my future is bright n d baby in my womb is more of a comforter to me. am married for close to two yrs now my hubby has not been very healthy for close to a yr now, we just leave like roommates hardly any sexual activity but it was a blow to my face wen I came back from church on Sunday n saw a pill of Viagra 100 on my matrimonial bed n wen I checked his phone I saw his chat wit a girl inviting her to his guest house n denying he is married. after confronting his there was no remorse not even an explanation he is just pretending to b nice ( meanwhile am heavily pregnant but he cares less I care for my pregnancy n buy my babies stuff he sometimes even tell me he is not responsible for my pregnancy) please I need candid advice on wat to do. thanks.

dats so unwise, my work is my pride I don't know wat ll b my predicament without it

4get his frustrated ass n move on wit ur life, na lack of sense n inferiority complex dey cause dat one.beauty is in d eye of d beholder

enuf of d stories abeg let's see alert

y I love karma very soon oda men will also enjoy ur widowed wife

hahaha abeg xtian or non xtain enjoy dey go, do n say as u r motivated

men r not trustworthy I pray dat God ll give me ur kind of mind