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Do we have challenges? yes. Do we atimes disagree? yes. Is she a perfect person? no & neither am i. All of that not witstanding, i realize she's neither a mistake from d past nor trouble in my life but God's blessing, gift & help to me & I find dat d forces at work for us are by far greater dan those against us so yes, i'll marry her again & again if i had to.

maclatunji: OP, you have been given sound advice by some of the usual 'suspects'. Let me just add a little more: It is obviously a difficult thing when one is fired from a job because it implies rejection (no one likes being rejected, dropped or dismissed) and a loss of means of livelihood. Now, you as his wife and mother of his kids are quite edgy and apprehensive about the whole thing, nothing wrong there- it is the appropriate reaction for such a situation as you find yourself.

BUT! You must:

1. Talk less and act more: Purchase the daily family needs of the house if you can with your own money for the meantime. Allow the kids to continue the way it used to be with their dad before he lost his job. However, educate them on the need to be reasonable- now is not the time to ask daddy for Apple iPad 3!

2. Gauge the mood of your husband, respond positively when he wants to engage you in discussion and avoid discussing the issue of the loss of his job/his future plans if he does not bring-it-up (for now).

3. Make time to go the extra mile for him, try to close from work early, cook if he is one who will not do it. I don't know how your home was before he lost his job but take time out to be in charge of family meals as much as possible. This will do two things for you:

a. Get your husband to want to get back to work soon because it would be embarrassing to him for his wife to go to work, come back to cook elaborate family meals whilst he is there just sitting at home (you wouldn't have said a word but a great message would have been ed across to him this way).

b. It will show him that you still cherish and respect him as the head of your home.

4. Avoid discussing the loss of his job with the numerous "well-wishers" within your kith and kin. Your default reply to their messages of condolence should be: "It is God's will, we have accepted it and I trust my husband to take the right decision for us." (No more, no less).

5. Monitor how he is coping- it is quite possible he may want to lag into alcoholism, gambling and/or profilgate spending. Once you know these danger signs, intervene strongly. At this point he is weak, you have to be strong. If you can't handle this, get somebody he respects to talk some sense into him preferably by "accident".

6. EVENTUALLY, when your husband brings-up his "come-back" plan. Look at it critically and tell him maturely wherever you find loopholes that he can improve on the idea and make your own well-researched suggestions. You need him to succeed, so help him with it.

7. Be prayerful, tell God you want this setback to be a stepping stone to a happier family and greater things for you all individually and collectively.

8. Good luck!

U, CC are sm of d pple i've come to respect a gr8 deal. God bless u.

Ehen people, whats yours please?

If like most people in their 30s you've worked in a number of places, can you kindly drop the name of the organisation you enjoyed working for the most and why so. As for me, i've always been a private enterprise guy and even though am not so enjoying it right now, am sticking around. Whats yours?

traeces: Kabarka, Madam L et al, 10x for d great & selfless work u've elected urselves to do. God bless u. Pls empower me wit all d data dat relates to a cost-effective & profitable start-up at [email protected]. 10x

Will some1 pls talk to me.

Kabarka, Madam L et al, 10x for d great & selfless work u've elected urselves to do. God bless u. Pls empower me wit all d data dat relates to a cost-effective & profitable start-up at [email protected]. 10x

Looked up twilio but realized it 'ot wat am looki'g for. More possibilities pls

kodewrita: search google for twilio and see if it fits your specs.

10x.

Pls will the good people of this forum educate me on what my options are so i can know how to proceed.

Pls great experts of dis forum, i'll like a simple & robust computer program dat will automaticali a pletora of periodic but regular sms to a spreadsjeet program like MS EXCEL for immediate assessmemts. De program must be able to allot specific rows of de spreadsjeet program to specific #s & allow for data build up over time. Wat are de possibilities. 10x all.

Dat u believe or dom't believe de existece of God does 'ot alter d trut dat states dat God is spirit & der dat worsip must worsip im trut & im spirit. (Jo. 4). Wateva u decide, pls be prepared for d resultamt aftermat bot 'ow & after u die.

@ all, pls is a software dat will task a computer to recieve & process periodic but regular text messages (replies to same queries) from various places & people possible?

Well, am happily married by the grace of God and pray, hope and work towards staying so. However, in every divorce scenario, there are atleast 2 culprits. The man and the woman. There's always something we can do and even when all else fails, we can still pray.

How do I begin to appreciate the one woman who gave everything in other for her children to be all they ever wanted to be? It is cliché for people to refer to their mothers as one in a million but am positive there isn’t a single mother living or dead who compares to you. Many times I ask God what I ever did to deserve you and then he tells me the most precious things in life are not earned- I could never have earned you.
Thanks to your resilience and doggedness even though dad wasn’t able to materially you well enough, me and my siblings attended and are attending some of the best schools around.
You pointed us to God-I would personally have been a lost soul were it not for that sentence you made to me that day in Nov., 98 which drove me to God.
Your patience with me even when I have lost patience with myself is the greatest expression of love there could ever be.
Mama, Thanks for been my mum and even though I realise you are never ever going to read this as you don’t read, I need everyone to know that if I had to choose a mother one million times over, it still would have been you. I love you Mama.
My only prayer is that God preserves you until such a time when you have satisfactorily enjoyed the fruit of your labours.

Man sinned and fell short of the glory of God (ROM 3:23). God sent Jesus christ to reconcile man back to himself and to man's original position and place giving him hope for eternal life (JN3:3,16). That pretty much summarizes the gospel

Jesus himself stated clearly in scriptures for his followers not to be carried away by even his own signs.(Jn.1:50). Also the bible variously foretell the appearance of false prophets in the last days who will so demonstrate power and wonders that even the very elect will be at risk.(MATT 24:4,5,24). Since the eternal destiny of our souls is what is at stake here, we must be diligent enough to study the bible for ourselves and know what God requires so that we can look out for the kind of fruits these men's lives bear and not their giftings. This is because fruits are an excellent pointer to the nature, species and kind of a tree whereas gifts are gifts irrespective of the person bearing it and could derive thier origin from either God or the devil. We must be careful as things are not always as they seem.

We live in days and times when the much that ordinary Nigerians can do for and about Nigeria is pray since no one pays attention to our dilemmas, desires, demands, plights, miseries and protests.
So what are your prayers for and about Nigeria? As for me, I pray;
That Nigeria will be great again.
That our thieving leaders at all levels, past and present be brought to book.
That our leaders be insightful, courageous and resourceful enough to provide good governance.
That our electoral processes be systematically reformed such that our every vote counts.
[s]Sometimes i pray for the military to take over government.[/s]

If u find, be sure d associated risks of loosing Ur capital will be as much if not more.

@ poster, i agree wit u so much dat i feel like u just raped ma mind. Ladies, u do well to listen.

AN OPEN LETTER TO THE PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA (ORIGINALLY INTENDED FOR GOODLUCK JONATHAN) ON REVAMPING THE ECONOMY

Mr President Sir, in the hope that in spite of the widespread criticisms against your government and policies in recent times, you mean well for this nation, I write to make a candid contribution which I strongly opine that if implemented properly will translate to a real economic boom for this nation.
It is public knowledge that the economic base of all the developed economies which we as a nation constantly look up to and try to emulate is built on the private ownership of the means of production which is the only viable approach to efficient production of goods and services, economic growth and development. The government almost always never runs businesses as government has never proven anywhere in the world to be a good manager of business. On the contrary, governments focus on the task of providing infrastructural facilities such as railways, roads, bridges, water, electricity, port facilities and formulating business enabling laws and policies. Consequently such nations in the process of time become favourite destinations for international investments whether these investments are solicited or not.
I believe it was this realisation that made previous governments to privatize government stakes in businesses in Nigeria which process unfortunately was marred with so much controversies, scandals and corrupt practices. Some of the businesses that have been privatised overtime include; Daily times of Nigeria plc, The Electricity Metre Company of Nigeria, Peugeot Automobile of Nigeria, The Federal Superphosphate Fertilizer Company Limited, The Nigerian Paper Mill Jebba, The Zuma Steel Rolling Mills Jos, etc to mention but a few. Sadly, all of the above mentioned companies have either collapsed completely or are near complete collapse. I make bold to say that the only thing that all the past privatisation efforts of Nigeria has achieved has been widening the gap between the rich and the poor.
It is with this background in perspective that I hereby propose what I believe can be a fail-proof, people-oriented and revolutionary ownership transfer policy. The government in order to revive our ailing industries should expose these industries beginning with Ajaokuta Steel Mill to competition by bringing in private ownership and management. Unlike previous efforts however, these industries should not be sold but transferred to a representative sample of the citizenry, particularly the youth population. The equities of the industry whose ownership is to be transferred should be divided equally among say one million Nigerian youths drawn impartially from every council ward in the 774 local Government areas of Nigeria. In order to qualify for these selective ownership, each of these prospective shareholders should be required to contribute One hundred thousand naira (N100, 000.00) which money when pooled together adds up to one hundred billion naira (N100, 000,000,000.00) and becomes the capitalisation with which this new ownership turns around the fortunes of the company and by extension the economy of Nigeria.
Even though this plan at a glance currently appears simplistic, its gray areas can however be structurally fine-tuned such that when the plan is transparently and efficiently implemented, it will not only put Nigeria in the limelight for once for the right reasons but will leave a legacy for your government on the sands of time by which your government will be judged and evaluated for generations to come. Interestingly, I foresee other nations borrowing a leaf from us when this policy eventually begins to produce the results it is wired to produce.

Modified on 23rd March, 2018:

Natasha Akpoti in the video below suggested crowdfunding to the house of reps as an alternative source of funding for revamping Ajaokuta steel mills largely re-echoeing my boldened opinion from 6 years ago.

https://www.google.com.ng/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3Dm1QTfGYj_0g&ved=0ahUKEwj5qdjVqYLaAhVD0xQKHRDwBTUQwqsBCCQwAQ&usg=AOvVaw1Fmg2AJRbktGPWR4Vf9J0p

OAM4J, Mynd44 and Lalasticlala, don't you think Nigeria should see this?

Lawyer you sure are doing a great job here especially in these days when it is out rightly difficult in this country to find people who are even marginally proficient in their certified areas of profession. That's why am so very impressed with you.
I have a question sir, I started this business which i ed in 2003 as a business name while a student. Today, it has grown and am seriously considering incorporating it as a limited liability entity but must i give out my equity just like that since i don't to just bring on someone just like that.

Where can one find Low Cost Toyota Cars on Nairaland (Cars like "pure water, first lady, starlet, etc"). I need one of these- a high grade, low mileage and full option toyota corolla (dog nyash) for my small business. Any offers please.

I won't because God HATES divorce