NewStats: 3,262,610 , 8,177,685 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 01:37 AM 6536o

Formularcr7:
you are the kid in this conversation because your response to some comments are childish

I generated 404 likes on a post from people that can father your father because they understood me and saw wisdom in it. My son I have done my humble part to show people like you the way, don't make same mistake I did while I was your age so you won't have to come on nairaland 2043 to tell same tale.
Everyone matters

Advancedman:


This reply is stupid.
You said it yourself you now know his worth or you are just an hypocrite only interested in being invited to functions as that it what you emphasis the most here.
While someone quote you I of the value and virtue you now felt after his demise you are here asking stupid question in so doing you insulted someone who appreciates you point.
This confirmed your immaturity.

no man, you are the one being stupid here and immature.

He made a point but wasn't specific enough and I tried to get him to expatiate more so I could understand where he was coming from. Where is the insult there?

Yes I didn't see my father value and worth until is ing which I it in my post and I came here to tell others so that they can cherish what they have now and not have the mindset that I had back then.

Your just a frustrated fellow and everyone knows you here on naira land looking for quarrel up and down and no we don't even miss the invite or functions ceremonies... parties that we hardly go to?. What we miss is the relevance from different people but it's okay. I made my point.

7upnigeria:


My only conclusion from this post is that "YOU CONCLUDED THAT YOUR FATHER WAS USELESS" to your family and the society but your big brother is even more valuable that your Dad. You didn't know your late Dad had any worth until 4 years after his death.

Well you could say that, but I really didn't think he was useless maybe that word was not the right one to use, I was just trying to make a quick point in my post. But you did get the point though that's what matters.

seguno2:


Did you just imply that your dad was useless

no I did not, it just an illustration of trying to make a point.

okoroemeka:
what you must understand is that in most African societies including the igbos of the southeast,old age and experience is always appreciated and respected,despite that your father drinks a lot but he knows history and traditions that's why people still seek his advice about history and counsel,they will no longer come because he is dead and you the children cannot give such service,they will turn their attention to the next elder avalible that has such ability

Yes exactly.
Then we the children was just taking the respect they had for my dad for granted because it also refldcted on us. We didn't even take it as anything. Smile, now that he's gone..we got to understand that he mattered very much despite he drinking problem.

NFBI:
I hope you won't take his alcohol gulping footstep

you are so foolish for this statement

Chibuzoc:
Did you guys bother to know why he choose to drink?

A self habit since he was a teenager. Na talk we never talk? Abi na cry we never cry? Abi na complain we never complain.

Smile.


But how wish it was now, me especially would have toke it easy on him.

malcom1X:


Bro I don't want to argue with you. It's your family.

My advice is for you to move on.
Things happen.

You don't need to argue. Just it you didn't read the post very well and understand the message I was trying to .

We are not suffering okay?
I am doing well for myself same with my older siblings.

Cruise777:


It's a forum for general discussion not your private social media and I can bet any amount you can't even stand in my presence to call me a kid

Moderation is a vague word, your moderation isn't my moderation

While I was in the Middle East everyone smoked and we took smoking break at work

In Nigeria smoking is so frowned upon

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your ignored

Cruise777:


An Average Russian is a regular alcoholic who is dependent on Vodka... Russia don't see that as a problem because they don't constituite nuisance after taking Vodka in moderation


Irish and Scottish Men on Average Consume more Beers, Stout, Whiskey daily even Americans

Try this is Nigeria and watch people start looking at you like sinner


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Now go back and read my initial post and see if you find that bolded word there.

Kids like you who hardly understand post, just to rush and comments irritates me so much

malcom1X:
Shows you he was the one holding that family.

What you need now is to stand on your own and gain respect.

They only respected your father because he earned their respect. The focus is now on someone else now that he's dead.

What have you done to earn their respect? You don't expect them to come and pay homage to you or seek advice from you. Or is that what you want? Move on.

Holding the family in of what?


My elder bro has been the one fending for us since 2009

He trained me to the stage I am now, while my father was just looking, drinking.

But hey if you say my father was still the one holding the family I agree but you have to be specific, because from your post it seems financially but it's not.

The point I am trying to make here is different.

Everyone is useful you might not know now, but when they are gone. You get to realise that

Cruise777:



Africans tend to see alcoholics as a problem

However there are highly functional Alcoholics in the society


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You can only say this when you don't have a close family member as an alcoholic.
So definitely you have no ideal.

I wonder if you will still say African tends to see drug addicts as a problem... because to me alcoholism is even worst than a drug addict.

No matter how useless a man is, once he dies the household of the family strength changes. It might not be financially rather emotionally and physically.

Here are my reasons

My dad is a man who drinks alot to the extend we the children are embarrassed for him because we can't go to functions he goes to... because as he goes, he comes back in a different way.

So we do everything possible to avoid where he is at, but on some occasions we cant..depends on how close the celebrant is. Then we bore it in mind that that day we might get to hear something that offends us.. the shame and embarrassment and might retaliate or ignore.


Being one of the senior men alive, they always come to pay homage everytime despite being the way he is..to settle dispute and to also pray for them.. and also tell them about history how we related and mention names of our forefathers, tracing back their Roots step by step..he knows all..because his father also told him. so they respect him for that as an elderly man even though dry gin is his best friend. all they can do was to talk and laugh behind his back. When he's sober they dare not make jest of him.
I repeat they dare not.


But now he's been dead about 4years ago and I tell you we that normally get the first invitation of marriage ceremony or any functions happening in the extended family no longer gets invited.

Nobody has come in to ask hwfar from us the children since he was buried. They see us as not important since the elderly man is no more.

Our family house that used to trooped in by different new faces almost every week don't see it no more


I am not talking about money here, I am good... But even if I don't have...my elder brother who is a graduate the back bone is there...but I am just stating the obvious fact...

THAT everybody has use no matter how useless you perceive them to be and one day you might get to realise that.


The thing is that during those period we don't even take it as anything. Instead we the children gets angry whenever they comes to inform him for a function because we know that week we will not sleep at night...but as it has its advantages so those it has it disadvantages.

Nwodosis:
Are you for real?

Before you see a man lamenting in the middle of the night.
I have all the proof of our chat yesterday evening already screenshot on my phone in case something happens. But God knows I have always advised her and did my part.

I don't know why I feel bad, but I do feel bad..I am human. She refused to give birth out of wedlock unless I go see her parents and do the necessary which is very okay by me, because I know I am not yet ready and where she's from I heard just the traditional rite alone can start a building foundation to lintel level...
we have tried breaking up because of this but one way or the other she still find her way back to me..My withdrawal game is good if not the count would have been more than that, but no matter how pro you are they must be some accidental discharge unknowingly most times.
I have advised her from the bottom of my heart because of the love we share that what she's doing it's not good and might affect her in the future with her family which might be me or some other guy. The thought of this is killing me and I am ready to call it off by the end of this month with no looking back.

As an SSCE HOLDER, can one secure a good federal/state paying job in the country?
with salary raging from 300k to 500k?
because I know they are some federal jobs like driving, security guarding that doesn't need bsc
lalasticlala
seun

you try, I can't lie

SenatePresdo:


You have been in many shoes already?

Oh lawd.

being fustrated that you had to come online to insult your mother and father who begs for arms is not a new thing. so many lame niggas like you out here

SenatePresdo:


For the Records, God created Only Adam and Eve.

And then asked them to go and multiply, so you are a product of multiplications.

You should be blaming why your dad or mom is ugly, not blame God.


Lastly, you have low self esteem, and broke at the same time. Don't ask me how I know, ugly broke guys feel intimidated easily.

My Advice is, You should take your bath this morning, and then go and hug a live transformer.

Partial God kee you there.

your just fustrated and depressed at the same time.. don't ask me how I know because have been in your shoes before.

Godsofsoccer:
It's the gay tendency in you that's unfolding.
Werey.

bro me no gay,. I love women.. especially their tight cherry

I won't say I'm ugly let's just am an average looking guy, every time I get to see boys who are handsome or finer than me I get moody, angry and jealous about their looks...the way people stare at them and wish they are their friends.

I had an issue with one the other time just a minor misunderstanding I took it to another level... which was very wrong of me.

God is to be blamed, why did he create some people normal and the other better looking..and yet they say he is not a partial God.

Bluezy13:
Your body can only process a given quantity of Sugar at a time depending on the quantity needed by your body.
So, if you ate Eba in the morning, your body has taken the quantity of sugar it needed (point of saturation, according to the Economists) for perhaps, the whole day. And within that time interval, any other Carbohydrates you take will only satiate your appetite while on the other hand, it will be a waste.

So, your are weak this morning because the quantity of Eba you ate since yesterday afternoon and evening (maybe) has been nothing but a waste and ed out as feaces (that's if you have defecated already) or the waste is still in your large intestines for now pending when metabolism is complete.

Then the quantity of sugar your body took in when you ate Eba yesterday morning was what has sustained your energy until depleted this morning.

true talk

yesterday morning I ate eba and banga soup..... in the afternoon I drank garri empty....in the evening eba and a newly cooked ogbonno soup.... waking up this morning...I'm feeling weak like for real...I thought carbs are supposed to give us energy why this.

Anon4:
Sorry eh. Work on your personality or hustle more. Trust me they will.

hustle more, you think I'm talking about hôes and leeches?
or to be seen as a retirement plan?

my friend get out.

no matter how handsome you are, girls won't approach you.... instead they stare from afar... ire from afar... everything from afar... because their mindset is that your already taken, prideful.. or playboy.

same can't be said to a pretty girl every guy wants to get with.

Klass99:


No vex, I said I was wondering. It is good you clarified you are not like that, but why were you silent about the issues raised in my first post, then as soon as I narrate Richard's story you respond with vexation? That wasn't a fairy tale either but a family's reality.

I kept quiet because I owed you no explanation about my financial strength, that wasn't why I created this thread..be sensible and ask reasonable questions then you get a reply...or if you want to take me as a jest you get a bountiful of it.
silly girl, the Post you made comparing me with your brother richard you think it's cool, I see it and I be happy and dancing.

what if I compare you to a mad woman I saw in my shop today? becareful

Klass99:


It's interesting you said this because one of our family friends, has a 42 year old son (Richard) who still lives at home with his parents and claims ownership of his parents house.

Richard is not the only child neither is he the first born child, but he keeps claiming ownership while the parents are alive and contributes nothing to that house.

His sisters who live on their own are the ones who pay the NEPA bills in that house, send upkeep money to their parents, which feeds him as well. When his sister Dorothy who I'm close friends with, starts lamenting over this guy's matter ehn!

This OP didn't respond to the question I asked or the issue of paying bills in my first post. It makes me wonder if he is another Richard in the making.

well, I'm not richard... what I make a week can comfortably feed you and your family for a month, no sweat.. and yes I'm the only child, the only son. so tell your fairy tales on the next thread

VeryWickedMan:
Not yet.
Wait till you are 40. That's the best age to be ashamed.

are you indirectly calling me a fool?

I'm the only son, and the house is mine already...I got my own detached bunk..but sometimes people do stare at me and gossip that as old as I am, I still stay with my parents. my fiancee refused to have my child because of this same issue, that i should pack out first... before we think about having kids or marriage.
left for me I see nothing wrong here, why would I go and pay house rent when I could use that money for something better..because my own apartment is detached and my parents are not even complaining..

but friends, outsiders always pokenosing... sometimes I feel ashamed when I think about it

Seun
lalasticlala

JASONjnr:
This one wan learn how to do fact-check....

Who b this new , you nor sabi kingOG with his popular top 5 countdown..

Ewwwu

CoronaVirusRelo:
It’s glaring…..

Xvideos would make it to front page if they are willing to pay.

The platform is more focused on monetary value than content.

The next you will see is that “Regina Daniels buys a dog”

I was very disappointed when I came online this evening, almost everything I saw was bb9ja.
In an election year like this.
Pathetic
Then later we all we start complaining the country is not getting better.