NewStats: 3,263,743 , 8,181,215 topics. Date: Saturday, 07 June 2025 at 04:25 PM 86k4c

Good evening all,


Please I’ve been waiting for this package for 2 months and today happens to be the last estimated delivery date. Unfortunately, the tracking says that the package has arrived Nipost south-south for a while but I haven’t received any call or text��‍♀️

I’m getting really frustrated. Now, AliExpress says it’s a “logistics delay”

Should I just open a dispute or just give them like a week grace or something. I’m confused

Nigeria is gone.

How contradicting can red pill be... Your image stated that red pillers should not marry but most of the men u listed here are married. SMH


You guys are just confused.

Funny how they want the financial role to be shared 50/50 but never want chores and home management to be shared 50/50 too. You can't eat your cake and have it


Men are natural providers because it boosts their ego and gains them respect while women are natural home/care givers.


There is nothing wrong with your woman helping you out financially but making it her role is just insane and shows how less of a man you are. She can always help out when she can but it is not her job. Even if u guys want to share the burden, 80/20 is fine, 70/30 is fine but 50/50 is just laughable lol

That's if your are willing to change the kids diapers, go to the market, cook, clean, wash the toilet, make food for the kids and do their laundry 50/50 too. Then it's all settled

If not, stop wailing. The number of cry babies we have as men these days is just annoying.

Women are the ones chilling these days lol. How many threads do women open on Nairaland about men but check the number if threads they open about women

If you hate Nigerian women, foreign women are waiting for you oo

So all those good things she wrote about her future husband, none of you guys saw it. The only thing you guys saw is the broke comment



Nairaland men and insecurities, what's up with being overly sensitive with the word "broke". Hate it all you want, if you are broke, you are broke. You are either broke or not broke, there are two ways about it

Lol the gist must be so boring she slept off, I can imagine



Op let it slide. She doesn't like you.

Makeup looks beautiful if done right.

Stop comparing ladies makeup to that of your girlfriend that is not blended well, not baked well,not contoured right. Maybe u should consider giving her money to go learn how it's done.

Stingy men be like I hate makeup, I like it all natural, I prefer your natural hair. Yen yen yen yen yen mtcheww, it's getting old.


Who even does makeup for men there are so many team natural girls there, go after them. They are all yours

Same reason they will ask you why did u go to his place

You were already talking about marriage to someone you just met?

If you guys like, don't go and marry. Every weekend, men are getting married to women while nairaland men continue wailing



Continue using fake chats as yardstick to marriage. Cry babies

ubunja:
I feel like there's a point you're trying to make but you can't really make it clear enough. I sense a combativeness, like you're hitting against something that is not there.

Did you get the impression that I was attacking women who are not feminine? Cause I feel like you're justifying non femininity in women. Which will be hilarious. And why do you keep stressing it's men's fault?? Please don't make this writeup into a who's wrong, who's right thing because you're missing the point of it.

You really were attacking women who are not feminine because to you they are not "woman" enough. Your idea of being a woman is being 100% feminine, aka femininity. Therefore, the women who happen not to be on that your context of being a "woman" is competing with men.


It's not about right or wrong here. It's just me judging from what you wrote


Last reply to you. Have a nice day ubunja

ubunja:
it doesn't need like a very rich man to enable a stay-at-home wife. Anything middle income can do. But I get you because that's the point I made when I said femininity is costly. If a man can't afford a stay-at-home wife then he must accept that his wife won't be very feminine. Because when a woman contributes 50/50 into a relationship it's no longer a masculine/feminine relationship. But a man has become feminine a lot just as the woman has become masculine to a great extent. And a man loses a lot of the respect due him.

The easiest way for many men to have a feminine woman would be to date way below their class. Which many men will never do.

I'm happy you understood my point.


This goes to say, men are the problem not women. Femininity is costly if u don't have enough money as a man to finance it, just forget it or date under your class. Unfortunately, men's ego won't let them. Which shows they are the problem not women, so you guys with not enough money to finance feminine women should just stop wailing.

A lady can't be feminine with a broke guy. That's the fact. And please we are not talking about management here, there is no room for poverty in any type of femininity.

So please you guys should leave girls that don't show their femininity, life is hard; allow these girls to hustle or build a life with an average girl. Life is not ABC

Akinbahm:


No offence bro, despite Ubunja explaination from simple to complex you still went ahead and quote the whole thing out of context.

You mentioned we should raise our daughters that way or so, even my unborn daughter(s) knows I wont raise her up to be competing with men out there but rather men competing to marry her off...

You as a man in all honesty do you want your wife to take charge over your duties at home, she bossing the house and you dancing to her rules & regulations.

No man is feeling insecure here unless you have agenda towards nature cause that's ow nature wired both parties to operate not the other way round...

Lemme drop this as a case study. I have a girl in custody which I wouldn't mind her to be the mother of my kids do you know why am having a rethink over it is because her femininity side is drying up all because I dont want one man to be bossing me around on top financial issues.

I repeat no man want a woman to retain his role in a relationship nd no woman want a man to retain her role in relationship that's why no matter ow successful/rich a woman is to find a loyal man who's below her financial status is hard cause the woman has ruined her feminine of receiving not giving also, it's hard for a man to stay loyal to a woman giving him because he has ruined his masculine of giving not receiving.

Bossing you around because of financial issues lol

If you have money, no woman will boss you around because of financial issues. That's why you are the man. So go get the money and see her feminine side

Ubunja said it clearly, when u as a man plays your masculine role, then her femininity comes out naturally.


P.s I'm a lady

ubunja:
these writeups are usually very long and I have to cut out paragraphs for brevity because NL has a limit on words.

Here is one of the paragraphs I edited out:

A WORKING GIRL'S GUIDE TO FEMININITY.
If you're a working woman, your road to femininity is by finding a man who thinks you're too pretty to work, who'll allow you to stop working but continue to pay you your salary in the form of an allowance. Which is not as impossible as it sounds. This will make you a "kept woman". This road, if you stay on it, ends blissfully with you being the all-feminine stay-at-home wife who's paid to stay at home while other women leave their children every morning to waste their youth slaving 9 to 5 for some BossMan whose wife is also a stay-at-home wife like you. Bliss.

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Now listen Slumflower, there's a wrong way of doing a right thing. And stay at home wives do the right thing the wrong way. Staying at home is not a problem if your husband pays you a salary. Actually many women have this arrangement with their man. And it works wonders for the woman by keeping her provided for. Bonus points if she has a maid or two to do the housework. Then she has all the time to stay fresh for her man. You guys don't understand the game or how best you can keep your woman happy and rested and ready to nurture you. You just need hustlers and career women who bring nothing to the table cause they can't even do anything for you because they are exhausted just like you after a long day at work.

I pity you.

I totally understand your point.

But never forget this is 21st century. Everything works hand in hand right now, how many men have enough money to live this kind of lifestyle, that is paying their wife allowances to just stay at home and be pretty and feminine for them. How many men? Without disrespecting the woman


The problem is not women losing their femininity but men losing their masculinity because a high number of men do not have enough money or are not rich enough to have a "kept woman". Men you have in mind have money, I mean real money which most young men these days don't have but you won't blame them; life is hard. And you know being a feminine woman is expensive and the said men are supposed to fund it, which is unfortunate because most men these days don't have that kind of money.

And that's why most men these days want a ive wife, a.k.a wife that works so she can help out.

Trust me I get you, being feminine as a woman is beautiful but all these things work hand in hand. You can't be a "kept woman" without a very rich man. Unfortunately, we don't have a lot of them these days that can comfortably finance a feminine woman without turning her a liability.

So the problem is not women.

P.s I'm not talking about feminists.

So basically being feminine is associated to being a dumbo. SMH

I hope all of you men raise your female kids to be one. Raise her to be highly dependent on men, raise her to be have a notion that being a housewife with zero skills is what makes her more "feminine".


Human nature has it to always prey on the weak. When a man find a woman as weak, a "yes sir", naturally instincts has it that she's gonna be taken for granted. Ask housewives with no source of income how it is for them at home.

Ubunja is an intelligent man, I give him that but being versatile in explanation and not using one aspect to explain is what he really needs to work on or rather consider.

A lady can still be feminine without acting like a dumbo. Sometimes u need your woman to act smart and be able to defend and take care of serious things when you are not around. And please I'm not talking about fixing bulbs and shiii, I'm talking about real business.

There is nothing like a feminine lady with a little bit of smartness and a little bit of "bougieness" in her. It's sexy.

The main thing is knowing the right time to bring out these two sides.


Maybe you should teach these men how to stop being insecure. That is the underlying factor here. Insecurity because they "feel" their masculinity has been ripped from them, when rather they should appear stronger and take charge as the men they are.

She really tried with the gyming. At least this weight loss looks more realistic than some others


You really gotta give it to these big girls that gym because I can't, I fitn't, I cannot can . Gyming is so exhausting jeeezz

Y'all talk like "bad relationship material" is boldly written on people's forehead.

The pictures are soo pretty. That color contrast is everything OMG


Tiwa has always been beautiful.

This is a real issue women face and it's so scary

I believe you will be fine. Just stay strong. Just know that your baby is a miracle. You brought a human being to this world, you should be proud of yourself because I am

That is enough miracle on its own. Just know that those scars and weight and an indication of how strong a woman you are

Sadly, so many women go through this phase after childbirth. I am not yet a mother so I might not really be in the right position to advice. I think the mod should take this to family section, I believe a lot of mothers over there will be of great help.


You will be fine darling.

I honestly feel like your requirement is justifiable. Don't let nobody tell you different. Do you girl .

But why don't you start with having an extroverted female friend? Just someone you can hang out with and chill. Must it really be a guy?

You can have that kind of friendship with a female, going out and stuff. Who knows from one of those outings, you might meet a guy.

And you need to be open minded too dear. Let it not be all talks and no actions. Not when you are called to come out, your introverted nature will come calling and start feeling like staying back inside. Just be open minded, you will be fine.

waywardpikin:


To be honest, I only used the word Simp to elicit reactions from readers seeing as the word Simp seems to tilt towards the bolded on mainstream media these days. Of course, we all know that there is more to being a Simp than what is written in the original post. A lot of details were glossed over.

Also thanks for your compliment about my writing skills. I recently took a deeper interest in following my ion which is writing, and my whole gig revolves around highlighting certain events that happened in my life and making a thing out of it.

So... have you never been a Simp before?

Lol you sure do know Nairaland well enough. Anything "simp" generates traffic here, so funny.

Well responding to your question, I'm a female. I don't know if girls "simp" too or whatever that is. I could care less.

Lol. What exactly do u guys mean by simp?

Automatically when you are good to the opposite sex, you become a simp? Lol nawaoh. Anyways, enjoy your transition to "Alfa" mode

Away from that, you have a good writing skill. Keep it up.

KevUnique:


Nawa oh, see issue. Sorry, first of all. I think you have to go to any customs office nearest to you and Kay the matter before any one on desk you find. If you live in Abuja or Lagos then this should be easier for you . Besides, the laptop may land in either, abj or lag . I can help, but it depends on you if can trust me. To go to customs office here in abuja on your behalf with all the necessary info needed so I go prepared and not look stupid before them.

Thank you but I'm not in Abuja. I'm in the east now and the package is supposed to get here after everything. At least that's what they told me.

My confusion is on the fact that they haven't sent me the custom fee I'm supposed to pay. It's just frustrating.

Hey guys, please I need help. Though I didn't get my product from Aliexpress.

A laptop was sent to me from the USA through FedEx and they called me last Friday and told me that my package is held by custom. I sent them my email, as they requested and they sent me a message that my custom duty fee will be sent to me in three days time. Which should be Monday but I still haven't received anything from them.

Please guys I don't know what to expect because this package is very important to me. I don't even know anyone that works in FedEx or custom that I can talk to

bukatyne:


How many 'financially independent' women would leave cheating husbands?

I said something there about giving yourself value as a lady. A woman that values herself and her sanity will.

First time might be a mistake. Cheaters will always be cheaters. But multiple times? Which she is aware of but still chooses to stay? Is definition of aiding disrespect to yourself.

Kids aside though.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Hey! Can i ask?

Are you by any means related to Chidera Eggerue? Your name is so familiar

Lol not related.

baralatie:

that is a big lie!
it will still be the same problem.those that want to cheat will cheat

Nobody said they won't cheat. Cheaters will always cheat. Women too

Where I'm appalled is the idea of some men rubbing it into their wife faces because they know she can't do anything or in a situation where he secretly cheats and confronted but instead of working on the marriage, continues because he knows he can get away with it. That is alter disrespect.

Don't let nobody disrespect you. Cheating can never be a mistake. A mistake is loosing your keys, and not sharing body fluids with someone. Period.

I will forever advice women to make their own money and be independent. Let your husband know you can do three times what he does when it comes to money.

From the above comments and ones from the thread, it's all about finances. Kill that financial gap and see how everything changes. They won't try it if they respect you because they know you will 100% thrive on your own and this is 21st century, there are hundreds of learned men who will marry a good, hardworking, pretty divorcee lady. Don't let Nairaland fool you.

As of the one up talking about bride price. Nobody forced you to pay. That one concern you and her kinsmen. Funny enough, how much wey you pay sef

Women have so much power. Some just haven't realized it yet, which is sad.

I've seen women that their hubby cheat on their faces and they won't say or do nothing SMH, thereby aiding the act. Definition of giving yourself no singlee value as a lady

Be a financially free woman from your husband and see how things turn around. Like they say, money stops nonsense.

It's not really worth it and they know. It's just hard to stop such habits, I hope they can move past it.

Nothing positive comes from it. Do everything responsibly, don't be an addict. That's the rule.

Now I believe that some guys gladly push themselves into friendzone and later start start complaining. Like for real. *rolls eye*

What do you mean "going after her"? Sir, she is just your friend for now until you ask her out!

If you have interest in a girl, ask her out and see how it goes. Then you will know what you are emotionally investing in. Not when you have emotionally invested in her and can't leave, then you get moved to friendzone.

Guys and their self afflicted torture sef

Sad. The woman is wrong, at least you are married ffs


But it's funny how some men claim online to never take back a cheating spouse but reality is always different. Love and relationship is something that is very complicated, no manual for it.

Never say never, you will be shocked what you will do when it happens to you. But anyways, I'm happy immediately you off your data, you come back to reality