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Physical attraction is also important in relationship talk more of a marriage. It’s not a yardstick for measuring a successful relationship or marriage but it’s a refreshing therapy when you think about how attractive your partner is to you in which ever way they posses this extrinsic quality, the intrinsic qualities are the next to consider.

If there’s no physical attraction it’s a dead end.

deceitful marriage!

Ask that man what he really wants for himself first & then for you and the kid.

Cos a person don’t love another person except they love themself first.

Secondly why is he switching career? His effort wouldn’t amount to anything at the end of the day, he should pick an interest work on it, give it time for it to grow and be successful and he should focus on just on career for atleast a space of 5years.

You as the wife, be a Shoulder to lean on. If he’s battling depression it could be as a result of restoring his self esteem as a man probably he’s being stretched beyond limit trying to provide for the family.

If that’s the case, do what he’s supposed to do as the wife, you’ll see his pride drop and then he wants to seek advice from you on how to go about his life cos he now sees you as his best friend.

Lastly pray fervently so God can speak to your mind.

Your mommy is on her way to HELL if she’s marrying a second husband while the first is Alive.

Children of the world wouldn’t want to settle down, they now enjoy what is supposed to be enjoyed in marriage for free.

But you see the ones in Christ will strive to get married because they know the damages it has on their spiritual life.

Don’t expect a person without the fear of God to manage in marriage and build.

Pray to find that humble sister who’s is willing to bear your name.

I’ve never posted a comment here ever since I signed up on NL but my conscience keep disturbing me that I must say something. I hope this helps anyway.

I thank God that you could be courageous enough about seeking for help because alot of people die in silence and that’s how the devil ruin their lives.

Firstly, you have to forgive the past, whatever your parents have done, you have to forgive and let go so you can focus on the present and the future.

Whatever happens now is an obstacle to make you weak and discouraged to achieve that big price ahead.

It doesn’t matter if you were born into an Islamic home. That’s where God placed you to be by birth, however that’s not your final destination.

If you feel stuck that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior. He’s willing to accept and help you out of your situation.

HE said: I am the WAY, the TRUTH, and LIFE

The way you must follow to know the truth and have a blessed and eternal life.

Secondly, I would not advice you to joke or leave school. Think about how bad you wanted the ission before you finally got it. Think about the late night burning candles, early morning, tests and exams you ed through before getting to where you are now and you’re just 1 session away from your final year.

Whatever you missed in school you can still make up for it with time and you will graduate even though you may not sign out with your mates but eventually you will.

There’s a joy that comes with people seeing and calling you a graduate even if after graduation and NYSC it’s difficult to get high paying jobs but at-least you’re one step ahead and it’s an opportunity to bigger things ahead.

My dear we live in a messed up society, your discipline in school don’t determine success in your field. What employers want to know is do you have B.sc or HND and do you have common sense?

Let me foretell you the consequences of writing jamb all over and starting again.

1. By the time you leave, reality sets in and the big bad world slaps you in the face when you see your level mates and juniors going for NYSC and you’re not with them.

2. You become Depressed

3. You start chasing money and won’t have zeal to go back to school except with God’s intervention.

4. You would regret you gave up

5. Unstable economy will frustrate your efforts

4. ASUU will help add to your age

5. You start seeing yourself as a nuisance

6. You become a drop-out and many more unforeseen circumstances

Thirdly, since you’ve deferred ission for one year. It’s a beautiful avenue to learn a skill. It’s not a must you learn a physical skill. You can learn a skill online like graphics design, coding, marketing e.t.c or better still if you want to go for physical trainings the sky is the limit.

All you have to do is to be committed and dedicated in learning for that 1 year and be certified, so that after that training you will start making money for yourself and stop being depressed on how to make money.

I actually know how being broke and stuck can mess with someone’s mind. Like I said it could lead you to taking wrong decisions and will lead you astray.

Lastly, you shouldn’t be the one to worry about your family’s responsibility, your parents should be responsible for that, even In your Quran they are supposed to feed you till you’re 40years of age.

They shouldn’t bother you neither should you feel bothered because that pressure can make you loose focus. For your own sanity, focus first on yourself before thinking of how to help other of your family.

If you hadn’t deferred your ission due to some cleric advice I would have asked you not to. All you needed was to have a relaxed mindset to finish up with your studies and take the next step but since you have.

Leave every other problem aside focus on the 1 year you have to solve your financial instability by getting a skill handy.

If you don’t have nothing to offer no one will give you money! Always that.

The scriptures says: if the blind leads the blind they will both fall in a ditch.

I wish you all the best.

JESUS LOVES YOU.

Anusiemgood:

I like to sit with your kind for exams, pretending like something dey your head

Hmmm

Haha mad oh!

Mustiboy:
Advice Needed Please. Help

Good morning nairalanders. I've brought a family issue which has been causing chaos and most likely will cause mayhem because great lacerations are now being involved.

My dad worked in a law firm and also had a truck that he employed an old man to handle and he paid him monthly. The truck was used in carrying commodities for people within Lagos state. The business was booming well and my dad immediately paid money to his boss's wife whom lives in Dublin with her children to get another in order to make it 2. My dad's boss is a lawyer and the legal procedures were made in order to get this vehicle down to Nigeria. The vehicle is over about 3million.

Unfortunately, the old man my dad employed had an accident with the truck and destroyed lots of properties and many people were injured. To cap it all, one person died. This stupid old man would have spent the rest of his life in jail or even sentenced to death but my dad did everything he could to get him out. The vehicle was in the police custody and it was virtually beyond repair.

My dad had no interest in this business anymore. And mind you, my dad's boss's wife hadn't bought this vehicle, as she only had the money with her. Why my dad didn't collect the money back immediately is what I can't comprehend.

Later that year, my dad got sick and ed on the following year. We called this woman after a year and she said she has bought the vehicle and she's gonna have to sell it in order to refund the money. I'm sure she's lying cause she never bought it when my dad was alive so, why would she buy it now? Of what use is it?

She and her husband, my dad's boss, were very close friends of my dad and I see no reason why they should suddenly possess such greedy trait. Even my uncles who sold my dad's personal car and used the money for themselves are not saying anything about the matter.

My mother called the husband last month and he sent 50,000 saying we should manage it that the vehicle money would come out very soon. I told my mother not to collect the money but she did because she was badly in need of money. These people are rich, so why is 3m something hard to sort out.

My mum had been calling the man making threats and I told her to calm that we can't fight them because we don't have the documents to show the transactions of the money between my dad and his boss's wife. I'm sure my dad's boss has it because my dad lived with him. Immediately my dad died, all his things in his room had been moved out by this lawyer.

Please, what do you suggest we do in a situation like this?

I'd advice that u put your matter before God, fast and pray about this so u'd get a perfect solution cos u have no proof to show for the transaction plus your Dad who ought to fight for this is late....so let God interfere.

Naturalobserver:
Here in Benin,when I was staying with my aunt,we were inside her car when she saw I GO DIE in his convertible driving close to her,she rolled down ND started calling"I GO DIE" I GO DIE"...nd I GO DIE was like "abeg make Una hold that woman oooo,she say she wan die"

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