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why don't you counter those point he mad? , you're ignorant and still loud at displaying it jeez!

It was those senator that start that ridiculous story of sovereignty bullshit, they begin many investigation concerning Chinese loan, and this this could stall the funding of those rail line if they continue to interfere

Just saw this now, thanks

Greetings to all good people of nairaland, please I need a job In ibadan, as a graduate of agricultural science, I did my best to be self employed by engaging in bee farming, infact I invested all my savings after nysc on the project and my efforts were already paying off few weeks after I set it up, but thing turn out bad for me when those in the business of illegal logging set fire on it in order to gain access to a location, I lost everything, I tried to make them compensate me but It didn't work. This is why I want good people of nairaland to help me with any job that I can use to sustain myself and also save up to start again. Na God I take beg una

Greetings to all good people of nairaland, please I need a job In ibadan, as a graduate of agricultural science, I did my best to be self employed by engaging in bee farming, infact I invested all my savings after nysc on the project and my efforts were already paying off few weeks after I set it up, but thing turn out bad for me when those in the business of illegal logging set fire on it in order to gain access to a location, I lost everything, I tried to make them compensate me but It didn't work. This is why I want good people of nairaland to help me with any job that I can use to sustain myself and also save up to start again. Na God I take beg una

Stop your rant and tell us how Buhari government is responsible for the problem we're facing as a nation, you want him to allow fuel subsidy or allow the reckless importation of food that we can grow?some of you have vow not to see anything good in this government so you can cry till 2023

But the same incompetent lifeless general have been able to sustain the economic amidst low oil price, develop critical infrastructure, encourage local food production and many more. His only sin is stopping you from importing rice, chicken etc, Nigeria cannot afford to continue wasting money that should have gone to health, education on subsidizing fuel consumption. A large majority of Nigerian are ignorant about governance and they're always the first to criticize any policy design to help the masses

Liliyann:
I wish I can have a 1sec man that is financially buoyant!!
No lady in her right senses cares if the man takes just 5sec as long as he is taking care of her!!
What matters is his pocket and how willing he is ready to spend on you!
If you are bothered, you can always look for a side nigga to satisfy you sexually and take you to cloud nine or better still look for your fellow female
Women are the best sexual partner for their fellow lady coz they know what you need!!

Is there any law that stop women from making money? only a lazy and unambitious women think this way..

Nbote:


If she doesn't turn him on den he's actually supposed to last longer on her... D fact dat he doesn't find her attractive will kip him from get too excited hence make him last more than usual. He's a one minute man and is too ashamed to it it hence he's making excuses.. His tale of lasting longer with previous ladies is jus a lame excuse...

you got it all wrong, if he doesn't find her attractive, this will lead to weak erection or having difficulty in keeping it for long time

dihhowner:


I'm Bassa-nge from kogi. she's Igala from kogi too.

we're both inlove...
The way she's confused now, shes weak to say or do anything... i thought she could fight for it, but I'm betrayed by her effortless actions.

I think bassa is made of two parts and there's a particular part that my friends usually warn me not to ever try to sleep with their girl cuz of bad luck and a severe repercussion if anyone outside the tribe sleep with them,I used to think it's just a superstition but on the hand I was scared cuz it's a popular opinion among boys in my school then... bassa culture doesn't suit women from another tribe from what I heard (it could just be a misconception) so I think they may have heard about all this stuff and got scared of allowing their daughter to go along with it,igala parents believe in those superstition especially the one that has to do with bassa and you will be surprised that they may allow her to marry other tribe that's not bassa

It will be hard for kogi to produce any good governor considering the calibers of youth that dominated the state,they're self centered and only care about how to make money from their politician,I spent 6years in their university and couldn't see any project anywhere in ayingba,no local government presence, no state presence and they're all cool with it because holding their government able seems to be strange to them.. salary payment is the only thing that's making them complain and has nothing to do with lack of infrastructure..if Bello pump them money, he will surely win again, tribalism is another thing that will never make them produce any good politician especially those igala part of kogi

mrjojo:
send me a pm

I've tried sending u PM but I don't seems to understand how this works cuz I'm getting a reply that read"you've sent too many anonymous email"..pls send d me WhatsApp messg on this no: 0.7.0.6.5.8.4.9.1.9.5 thanks

mrjojo:
Listen, mate, The sole reason your sis-in-law seems disrespectful is cos you are IDLE, and the least you can do in the house is help out. At 28, you sound kinda entitled and more like a mama's boy, You came to your brother's house to get a job, you couldn't find any, ok fine, then what do you do all day? Sleep, watch TV? Bros, go learn a skill, even if it Fashion design, Anything at all to get busy, and productive at the same time.

You kept screaming you want to go back home, to do what exactly? To continue eating Mama's meal and living "way better". If I were you I will stay back, endure the disrespect (which i'm sure will cease when she start seeing less of you at home ) learn a skill, graphics design, POP installation, Fashion Design, barbing, Website design etc and make sure I work my NYSC posting to same Ibadan so as to continue my training. You have a big opportunity right now, (free food, free accommodation, no bills), Maximize it Mr! some of didn't have this luxury.

Ps. I served in same Ib and still here, If you are interested I can teach you web design, only if you are REALLY SERIOUS O, Free of course. Offer is for Op only, please.

thank u very much, i'm interested pls how do I you?

menix:


Yes u re not, we hear that often..
Few months back, a father "framed" up his 2 male kids just to lock them up for some days because of a popular festival, he was scared of their life.
Sure u re asking Why?, he knew his kids better..
So, ur mum ain't scared of u been killed without a genuine reason because she knows u better than us. U re not the only kid on the Block..

lol,she was afraid I could be initiated into d nonsense because most of the people engaging in it are young boys,I'm the last born and she loves me alot,in fact my babe was marveled at how my mom always care for me sometimes ago when she came over,she's simply paranoid and has nothing to do with someone being a cultist or not thanks!

eniolorunfe:

Alright then....BE SAFE!
All the best!!!

thanks

eniolorunfe:
I would suggest you ask your brother if you can him in Lagos rather than go back home. There are better opportunities there and it will help you be closer to him.

You can also ask your mom to suggest this to your brother. I think that's a better option for you.

If you also have friends in town in Ibadan or Lagos who you can share with that's another option since your mom thinks staying at home isn't safe.

my brother usually come back to Ibadan everyday after work ,I've already suggested that before but the wife never ed the idea since she want me to be helping her with chores (I got to know why she always pressurised my mom to allow me come was because of those chores), going back will be better since nysc is around the corner..all I just need to do is stay away from old friends who may not be too clean,most of the school I went to here told me they can't employ someone who has not yet served..thanks

dominique:
This story is too one sided. How I wish we can hear the wife's side of the story as well. While I think it's unfair for on your part watching your SIL struggle with a heavy gas cylinder (my husband's 20-year-old nephew will never do that), she shouldn't have made an issue out of it (I certainly wouldn't). I know Yoruba in-laws too well, they love to lord over wives and make her feel like she owes them lifelong servitude because they married her. You can't be living under someone else's roof and be claiming you're being disrespected. Besides she's much older than you, I don't see why she shouldn't scold you every now and then. Oh! I forgot, she's just a wife. Her job is to be worshipping the ground you walk on.

this is the whole truth,I have collected gas cylinder or anything whatsoever from her countless times and even dry her clothes for her,I only open door for her and never knew she was even holding any cylinder since it was in the night untill she came back from the kitchen and started scolding me,I always watch her plates in the house even when she had two kids who happened to be 11 and 9yrs,do u think it's a bad thing if she allow them to watch it? I was d one that always go there to picks kids are even while my primary objective there is to get something doing pending the time of nysc,she always belittle me by telling people I'm a small boy whenever any of her friends greet me with respect (don't know if na old mama my brother got married to) in fact I always treat her like my own sister but she won't stop nagging over small issue,so u mean I should be disrespected because she's doing me a favour? she's not doing me any favor cuz I live far far better where I come from compare to this place but another reason that my mom gave this afternoon was that she want me to move closer to my brother...note: it was our second born who was around that started calling my mom to bring me home since she witnessed everything that transpired,she said I don't have business here at all

Ioannes:


Leaving like that will create bad blood between you and your brother. You will need your brother later in life if not now. Don't leave without his consent.

You say you have difficulty dealing with people that are proud. Do you know why? Because you are also proud. Maybe too proud. That's why I said earlier that your stay in your brother's house till NYSC is a means to imbibe humility.

I caught on with that conclusion that you are proud from your original post.

Anyway, you said you're 28, ultimately the choice is yours to make. I am giving you an advice as someone who has been in such a situation before.

Getting a job before NYSC isn't all that easy. No one wants to employ someone who's going to run off in some few months. Unless you get employed through man-know-man, the first thing they are going to ask you is your NYSC discharge certificate.

Your mother knows what she saw before asking you to leave that vicinity. Mothers are almost divine. What if you go back and something bad happens to you?

They'll say, "but we told him..."

The choice is yours though.

thank you

romenna:
alright here is my word to u, man to man.
To be honest wit u bro, u r running behind schedule, so no time to argue abt politics that will not put money in ur pocket, no late nights except u r working and making money at night, no time for frivolities bro!
u r now a man! i dnt want to start comparing or wateva but u dnt hav any biz bn under anyone's roof at 28! that really shocked me.
make sure to never return home after service, as a matter of urgency, u need an EXIT STRATEGY FROM HOME DURING UR NYSC.
best of luck to u. cheers

thanks bro,I don't have plan to come back after nysc to be eating momma food

Ioannes:


NYSC is around the corner right?

Stay there with your brother. This is an opportunity to learn humility.

I'm guessing your brother's wife is older than you.

Apologize to her. Help out more around the house. She's your wife too. Try and be good towards her.if she's a nasty person, bear it patiently.

When you eventually have a job and your boss is nasty what are you going to do? Run away to your mom in Ekiti?

Take your stay in your brother's house as a lesson on how to manage difficult people and difficult situations.

You won't stay with them forever will you?

After you leave there, when next she sees you her respect for you will be triple fold.

Also, you aren't allowed to speak ill of your brother's wife to your family or even to your brother.

I would have try to endure everything had it been I was able to achieve the number one reason for coming here ,I think she just want me to look after the kids and do shores, I don't want to waste my precious time here since I can do something back home,I have difficulty to deals with people that are very proud, so to avoid future wahala, I want to leave without telling my Bro what has really happened

menix:
@OP...

1. U re a cultist, ur mum is aware, Why fear death when u know whatz up.
2. Why dive into politically issues knowing Fully well its not safe for u, why not change if u think U re matured....
3. U think staying with inlaws re easy U must be dreaming, just that if ur story is true, ur Sister inlaw is childish..
4. This is advise with option, stay put but ur ego in checks cous I ve been there or go back home but u must amend ur wayz...


Goodluck..

I'm not a cultist,she's just being paranoid cuz young boys are getting shot almost every weeks.thanks

Chubhie:
It's difficult being a woman. Don't aggravate or add to her problems.

Move away in such manner that wouldn't being friction between your bro and his wife and the way your mum sees her.

Learn the lessons about self respect, love and forgiveness. Work yourself to a position of power so nobody can look down on you.

Everyone deserves all the happiness they can get.

thank u!

romenna:
wait a minute!
At 28, u neva do NYSC?
hmmm i laff u in spanish language
guy u r sleepin on a bicycle!
wake up! wake up!

I did a pre degree and was given another five years course,the incessant strike by both national ASUU and the state level which sometimes goes about 7-8month doesn't help the situation

adontcare:
Some women are just like that. They don't like any of dia husband family member in dia house. I will advice u to leave as soon as ur bro got back.

I will do that, but I want to inform him about my leaving without raising suspicion cuz my Bro won't take it likely if he get to know about her persistence nagging in d past and the one that happened yesterday thanks

emmaokw:
Truth be told, she's arrogant but assuming you don't have any other place to go, won't you keep enduring it?

in this case I have a place to go and feel comfortable more than I am now thanks

Olifiz:
U don’t have anything doing there. The work u went for is not forth coming n might not even come. So u said u left ur house because u argue too much about politics n u come home late n all that cult ish. See en u are 28 years old u are matured enough to make good n sound decisions for urself. Get urself disciplined as respects towards ur arguing ish control urself n stop stayin out too late. I’m sayin all this cos u should go back to ur family house. It’s ur life n it’s important to u. Just caution urself. because if u stay in ur bros house on day u n he’s wife will fight n she will never be wrong irrespective of whatever happened so just leave. God bless u. Even if u explain to ur bro don’t expect him to do anything much he will only beg u to be calm, so on ur part so as not to cause ish wit husband n wife just leave

already planning to do that but I want to wait for my brother to come so that the issue will not lead to a fight between them

Olifiz:
U don’t have anything doing there. The work u went for is not forth coming n might not even come. So u said u left ur house because u argue too much about politics n u come home late n all that cult ish. See en u are 28 years old u are matured enough to make good n sound decisions for urself. Get urself disciplined as respects towards ur arguing ish control urself n stop stayin out too late. I’m sayin all this cos u should go back to ur family house. It’s ur life n it’s important to u. Just caution urself. because if u stay in ur bros house on day u n he’s wife will fight n she will never be wrong irrespective of whatever happened so just leave. God bless u. Even if u explain to ur bro don’t expect him to do anything much he will only beg u to be calm, so on ur part so as not to cause ish wit husband n wife just leave

you're too much thanks!

ITbomb:
That's the truth about life that they never taught you in school
When you don't have a job, someone will find you a job, problem is - you won't like it.

So get useful, challenge yourself, save money to get a room. Stop seeing yourself as "if I can't stay with my brother, I will stay with my mother", why not stay alone

you know I can only consider staying alone after the one year compulsory nysc,so the best thing for me now is to go back to my family, my mom is even angry and order me to start coming back when she heard everything from my sister who came for a short visit

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@op,what you need to understand about Nigerian Ladies is that they always keep their option open and will give in to any guy that can offer something better financially,I won't really blame them for this cuz most of them have experienced poverty. love and physical attraction alone won't make most girls consider you for marriage but ur money will,even a job is not enough cuz some one with a job that seems to pay more will be a better choice to them,this is not to say that every ladies fall into this category, the only exception are girls that have a good background and a good upbringing, so try and look for a girl with good upbringing and work on how to become a better person. broke guy hardly enjoy real love except in few cases so don't ever get too serious with any lady untill you're sure ur financial status have improved or better still date Lady that is not too attractive so that competition will be minimal lol