NewStats: 3,262,956 , 8,178,647 topics. Date: Wednesday, 04 June 2025 at 08:31 AM 1lb44

Adunny07:
Please I just really need someone to talk to about this and I will like your candid advise..

So since my older sister got married I always come to her house and spend few weeks or months and go back. Al·through my university days, whenever school is not in session I always come down here to spend time with her and her husband.

Truth be told the husband is a very nice man and has helped me always financially, anytime I come here once my sister welcomes me the first day like this, from the second day she leaves all her house chores for me, I mean everything and she just relaxes. At times I get really tired and don't even feel like doing those chores but because most times when I come visiting she is heavy ( pregnant) so most times I just help her...

Thing is my sister doesn't appreciate all my effort, most times she complains self its the hubby that tells her that I am hardworking and at least she should give me credit for all I do.

Now the reason why am writing this is because am done with service (NYSC) and as it is its like I have to stay in her house because the state where she stays has more job opportunities compared to where our parents live... She stays in Abuja...I have been down with malaria for few days now and I have been on treatment, just because I can't do certain house chores because am not too strong my sis started complaining saying I can't be living in her house and be waking up whenever i like... Mind you I was always the first that wakes up when I wasn't sick, in fact I will wash the dishes, sweep, mop daily, cook food, bath her children and all those things.

The only thing she does is to bath her youngest baby, but now because for these few days she has been doing those work I do daily she is already saying she can't tolerate me sleeping and not waking up on time.

My question is this, does she have the right to be so angry at me because she is doing her house chores? I feel its her house and so she doing her house chores herself shouldn't be a problem since am not too strong to help her do it. She herself just sweep and doesn't mop, but she expects me to sweep and mop everyday.

Should i just go back to my parents house and get a job there? Me renting my own house is not an option because am a lady and am just 22...

Please i need you guys advice, what can I do?

I can bet that you are going to do exactly the same thing when you get married. There's always that tendency among women to maltreat someone who is beneath them or possess less power than they have. It gives them an orgasm doing that. It's even more regrettable that this is your sister.
Mine came from my elder brothers' wives.

These people are so lazy they can't lift a finger yet they expect you to work like a camel. When you talk people will say she's training you. Which useless training? You destroy someone's self esteem and you call it training.

My advice to you is to seriously start looking for opportunities to get out of that house. Job, marriage, further study...just look for opportunities.

It's only in Nigeria that car is seen as a big deal. Dear Op car is a necessity. Out there in the west even barbers and waiters have cars.

See ehn, if you want to buy a car, then buy a car. Not a moto. Don't buy something that will end up frustrating your life. It's a one time expense, and will be there serving you for at least 7 years. I think our poverty mentality is dealing with some of us here.

Following the partial relaxing of the lockdown from Monday, many people will be resuming work.

But with cases still on the rise, is it really safe to resume work now?

How many people are ready to leave their homes now. Are you one of the bold ones?

I am kind of getting tired of the whole situation in my current abode.
I pay up to 5k monthly for electricity, sometimes more. Still it doesn't last till month end. For a mini flat in a suburb of Lagos, that is too much. It used to be less than half of that amount as at last year.
I only have one fridge and TV, I don't iron as I dryclean my clothes.
I'm just wondering the average amount people pay for electricity in Lagos.
Is there an increase in tariff like my landlord is making me believe?
If there is, should it be this much?
How can I get information on my consumption?

Lalasticlala can I please get some opinion on this?

That's an STI. Either Gonorrhea or Staph. Go and do test in a good diagnostic laboratory. They will prescribe a combination of injections and tablets that will fight it.
Be careful from now onwards.

This is getting realer by the day

Nigerian politicians.
It's always about the money. First thing they go for is always the money.

He hasn't even looked at what is on ground project wise for the people. It's how to quickly secure the s first.

This singular action just tells you how the next few years are going to be. All the systems and procedures put in place by the outgoing person will be jetissoned. Na money first.

We don't have a government, just a bunch of very irresponsible, power drunk, greedy people.

I was in that service that day. He never said most of the things in this post. He never talked about staff or whatever. He only said that most people are moving out and others would also want to move, but that's not the solution.
Stop lying against people.

LadySarah:
Because you don't want to.
Did you keep anything evil there thst makes ur place evil?
We dey rock am well well.My place in Abia dey hot well well during this period.

Where in Abia are you from

Few weeks after getting my car, I just woke up one morning to find a very deep scratch close to the left headlamp. And I never had any encounter on the road the previous day.
I just weak.
My suspicion is that a jealous and wicked fellow did it in the night cos I just painted it and it was shining.

Trying really hard to justify the unjustifiable. Nothing was said about the two judgements to release him which the dss disobeyed. Or is the executive free to override the judiciary whenever they want?
You have already sat down and decided what his intentions are without following due process of justice. How on earth did we end up this way?

Sheggz22:
Good morning

Please am in a state of dillema right now
I really need advice.

Currently am 24years. I was withdrawn from pharmacy school due to the fact that I could not the required mark for each session, It was quite depressing and sad but I shook it off and went on with life

I took up some jobs which earn me some good sum of money, but it's a toxic one but I was able to save the amount I needed to start a business

Am thinking of starting a popcorn business on a campus next year and start my life from there (because I've really drafted a plan for my life).

But my parents just called me now to tell me to go back to school. Truth is, I really lost the ion of going back to school. I saw hell while I was in school

Please nairalanders.. should I heed to my parents suggestion or proceed with my instinct and go ahead with my business?

People please help me

At 24 you can and should go back to school. The good thing is that you've learned your lesson from the first experience (I'm hoping you have) and will do well this time.

A degree gives you an advantage. Don't let anyone deceive you. There are opportunities you can never have access to unless you are a graduate.

Think long term, not just immediate gratification. Going to do popcorn can't take you far in the long run. While you can do that while studying (get someone to manage it while you oversee things) you don't have all the time to study later. This is Nigeria.

You can change course to something else, but make sure you go to school. You will start seeing opportunities that require your degree much later.

Nuklex:
I don't even know where to begin my own.

Just that I've decided never to work for an unmarried female boss EVER again.

They frustrate you to the point where you won't be able to differentiate between singlet and long sleeve shirt

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Yeah some do change after marriage while some don't. Be ready to deal with shiit when you work with women.

donstan18:

I'm not saying you aren't worth anything, but there are things I don't expect someone who know his/her worth to tolerate.

Bro, in Nigeria knowing your worth is subjective. You can know your worth and still go hungry. People are scared to lose their jobs that's why they just keep enduring.

So during the weekend, I was just thinking about the Nigerian employment system and the sometimes enormous challenges employees go through.

Apart from very stringent requirements in of education, age and experience, there is the very rigorous selection process which sometimes lasts for months.

Then if you are eventually selected, the challenges of the job can be gruelling sometimes. Apart from the normal everyday demands of the job, sometimes you get to work with very difficult people.

Some bosses can really make you regret your life. I have seen and heard about bosses who abuse their subordinates emotionally and sometimes even physically.

I once worked with a boss who would push you, call you names and yell at any slightest thing. Have you ever had such an experience working with a difficult person? How did you or are you handling it?

Just called my Senator now.
He picked up and assured me that he is already against the social media and hate speech bill and told me some of the things he is doing to avoid ing the bill.

He sounded really ANGRY saying that since yesterday he hasn't rested from calls from Nigerians. He said he's one of the few people who are against the bills yet he's been insulted, that he would stop fighting against the bill because of the insults he's receiving.

I apologized and begged him to continue. Before I could finish he cut the call. But I recorded the call sha.

safarigirl:
When men say they want a strong, independent woman, what exactly do they mean?

A) I want a woman who makes her own money and is confident in her abilities?

B) I want a woman who won't ask me for money and is only as confident as I want her to be?

C) I want a woman who will feed me with her money AND be submissive


Will modify as it comes to me.

Hardworking, confident, able to represent you at forums/negotiations, comfortable in her own skin, but still loyal and respectful to her husband

A lot of people here do not understand where the op is coming from. They have never been in these situation before, they are just replying based on their imagination.

If you were born and lived all your younger years in a very close knit, loving and caring family like the op, you would understand how it feels to suddenly loose one of your siblings, not to death but to disagreements. Your sibling is alive but it seems like he's dead, you see you brother relating very well with others, helping others, he's known as a great guy who's always ready to help. But to your family, he doesn't care.

I'm not surprised that it started after he got married. It always does. To those saying leave his wife out of this, yall don't know anything. If his wife is not responsible, who is? You guys don't understand the extent of women's influence on men. Some of them go to the extent of using spiritual means to turn men into sissies, in connection with the wife's mother.

People don't just change overnight. If the brother was fed up with them, he would have shown that a long time ago when he wasn't that comfortable. The truth is that he still loves his family but a lot of things are happening underground which only the wife and her family know.

Op, there is nothing you can do in this situation other than keep living your life. It's hard but that's the reality. The more you try to force it the worse it becomes. Let your family continue living their lives and ignore him. He will come to his senses if he wants to.

Nothing they won't use.
They tell you it's organic.
But they can't work on their smelly character.

AnanseK:

So the competition begins:

1. Adaobi
2. Dolapo

There is no competition here at all.
Dolapo doesn't measure up.

1.2 and I'll come for inspection on Saturday.

1.2m
Location?

1.3

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What's the price

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Gazzuzz can u get me a Camry muscle. Toks

1.050m . I hope everything is working well.

1.35m

No woman will tell you what they want in a man, because they don't know. Women take decisions based on their feelings, not logic like men.
So how a man makes them feel will determine how much they accept or care about him. Women don't choose, they wait to be chosen.

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