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deshclones: Revenge jare....i one chic that left me for some dude back then in school....i begged this chic tire...i wrote poems,sent emissaries,bought gifts,mr biggs etc...just to get her back...after a month or so she succumbed and came back...i totally dealt with her...

infact one day,we were about to make love,i allowed her pull off her smelly clothes ,looked at her lying on my bed and told her to dress up that she was disgusting...i think that was the last straw cos the re-ignited relationship didnt last for 2months before it finally packed up....mine was solely for revenge...esp if it was the girl that did the dumping...a man gotta protect his pride sometimes.

Meeeehn!! I totally understand the "protect your pride" part, but you are way too COLD ooh......what if she commits suicide?, will you be happy?.....be sincere.

You need to understand that some people are very fragile. Shit happens, but learn to let it slide...because it doesn't make you a lesser man. Infact when you don't react, its way better......because your silence will make her ponder/confused if she's making the right decision of dumping you.

Someone once told me that the best revenge after a breakup......is to UPGRADE/be successful.

MRbrownJAY: @OP
a high state of desperation/low self esteem/insecurity, believing that the lady is their everything, believing they cant get better than her, believing they wont get any other woman.
many guys out there are not that skilled with women, so when they finally get someone, they will try to keep that woman at all costs.....thus begging when she dumps them.

MrBrown...you got a point there.

But then, some guys are still begging for sake of punny....that's the part that baffles me.

P.U.N.N.Y? I thought guys with cash don't have to beg for that . Nawa oh!! I can't even imagine myself doing that.

Harbosede02: Any guy i dump ehn,dey must beg me cos dey av no choice,they knw dat as i dump dem,deir lyf don begin spoil be dat!!hehehehehehehehe..

Really? You mean you usually rip out the Lungs of your ex....& take their breath away, spoiling their life abi? . Now that's a "special" selling point.

I couldn't come up with a suitable title for this thread, so bear with me.

But the thing is, I have seen situations where guys beg their girls when they(girls) decide to break up with them. Some guys even go to the extent of CRYING!!!

What is it about the girl that could make you beg her to stay?..or make you want to beg her to stay?(even if you later didn't beg). I'm trying to be as realistic as possible here, because I know some guys will start forming "Robocorp" on this thread.

For me...I'm am introvert, I don't keep much friends i.e. the smaller they are, the better....& when I choose my friends, I nurture the friendship. I used to apply the same principle whenever I'm in a relationship, I don't just see my girl as my lover.....I see her as my friend too, which means I get her involved with almost anything/everything I do.

When break-up occurs, I always feel down, and more of the reason is being the fact that I was about to lose a friend. Communication drops, boundaries are set, and any attempt to want to continue the friendship part at least, would be seen like an ulterior motive is involved. So....because of that, I don't bother begging/convincing the girl involved....no matter how moved I may be at that moment.


Guys.....share your reasons too, and GIRLS......tell us what could make your guy beg if you ask for a break up(tell us your selling points)

So my thread isn't dead yet?......choi

I can see some female derailers, turning my simple question into an arguement.

I'mma leave you in the hands of Sagamite.

2s£xy:
Bros, wetin you want make I do na. I don turn crusader by force and the only place you see me post/comment on this section, with concerted effort, is in threads like this.

Me sef suffer nau.

Won fi oju mi ri mabo.

But the fool came back to beg after them don fvck life out of her. She nor even good again.

A very selfish being who said: 'I would have like us to continue but I am scared you may use it against me.'

you see am? She deal with me but no want experience d same thing she do me.

Anyways, age no dey her side again and guys no dey show her face... na so devil dey punish them.

Now you talking!!

I know for a fact that every prof in relationship matters must have experienced heartbreak several times......to a point where NOTHING scares them anymore. Their heart has tranformed form Flesh to Leather(kpomo), and "Emotion" is a word that doesn't EXIST in their vocabulary.

Its all good sha , coz I experienced a similar thing. IT IS WELL

2s£xy:
Baba saga, another mumuni just been slaughtered

E be like say you be MUMUNI hunter abi?....dey show yourself, yeye fowl.

fr3ddi3:
Oga...this is the only part I understand from your philosophical write-up

And please, be eazy with the coaching on your son( that witches still exist).

that's the only part I understood too, I swear!!

@Sagamite: I want to appreciate your contribution to this thread, your theory is kind'a deep....but it still maintained its logical reasoning.

To the female contributors too, thanks for dropping your opinion. I guess guys can now go "stereotype" when dealing with ladies, since all your reasons and action almost matched with one another.

2s£xy:
In case you don't know, here is what happened:

she found you exciting initially but a guy came around and she swiftly switched...

Most times girls in this category are aware of the fact that your love for them sures theirs for you- that is head over hill in love.

Based on that notion, they feel in control and can have you at the click of remote control button; they feel they could go around with other guys, possibly fvcking them and then come back to meet you where you stay put. When things go awry for them, they would wanna come back to you as option B.

They see you as mumu-ni(according to saga the dynamite sagamite). No other reason because you show them TOO MUCH attention(dont mind girls when they tell you they need attention. if you give them the attention they will call you a pest.)

but girls tend to respect you when you do the opposite: When you don't call too often, when you don't say sorry too often, when you don't say 'I love you' too often, but minimally, when you don't seem to be so crazy about them(you may act like you are initially), when you act like she isn't the only thing you think about but there are more important issues to iron out...

Most of the guys who fall victims are those who show a girl 100% of attention, love and care and are too gentle. But once you scold her aggressively not to play on your intellingence, she would get the sense that you are a no-nonsense guy. Never be too soft but be hard as steel man.

Disregard all those if you aren't in a serious relationship with them but just after the fun.

Above all, respect them IF they are worth it.

Bruv....take a chill pill and relax a little bit.

That little story I narrated happened about 3years ago. I didn't mentioned that I was soft, nor did I mention that I gave her 100% attention. I just simply did my thing, still being me while dating her, and I'm wiser now. Every guy has this kind of story to tell, whether you like it or not. Besides........I DIDN'T DIE NOW!!

Note this:
Every guy has his own unique qualities that distinguishes him from the next guy. Its not only about being "exciting" that attracts girls, but its more of the girls being insatiable; they WANT IT ALL. Funny enough, I can't have all the qualities they wish for, all stuffed up in my short life on Earth. I'm always me, and if they can't cope, I simply move on and go to church for thanksgiving, thanking God for making me dodge a BULLET.

Every guy has a different approach to handling girl problem; some guys go all macho, arguing, raising their voices on their girls, some even go physical. But all those isn't my style. I usually do the "silent withdrawal" method to prevent further drama.

Sagamite:


What irritates me is when a guy is not interested in a girl anymore and other women (EVEN HIS OWN SISTERS) and their lap-dog real men mugus come and start harassing him like if he was evil and basically demanding he explains himself. Then they will now respond with "Oh you used her", "You are not a nice person", "You did not understand her", "You will regret it, she is a nice girl", "you were the on that was wrong" etc exception is in extreme cases where the guy can prove she cheated. These women and the mugu real men think only women should have the option of dumping someone because they are simply not interested anymore or they are bored of her.

Coach, you really made sense with this statement. That's kind of what actually happened to me.

I was dating a girl sometime ago, the relationship was smooth until she started acting funny. I tried to find out what the issue was and resolve it but she stood her ground and still kept acting up. At a point she became very annoying, aggressive and irritating with her attitude that I quietly bounced out of the relationship.

Later on, she rubbished my image to people I know just because she tried coming back and I refused and I got close to a girl who was digging me(on platonic level)not knowing she was a friend to my ex.

Girls around me started looking at me as a player.

Few of my male friends saw me as a Bad guy.

Even my Momma would ask after my ex(since I already brought her home during the relationship), and she would give me "the look" for an unserious fellow.

I was at the receiving end, that's why I stayed out of relationships ever since.

sexytabhi: There has to be a break up once the relationship is not going anywhere. Every ministry has to move to a permanent site

Nobody is stopping you from moving ti your permanent cite now!! But why not notify the former site owner officially before your relocation?

gree-die:
we do it coz we don't want you to commit suicide or become a social recluse, coz we care about you eventhough we are moving on.

so how would you feel if we just walk up to you one fine day and tell you "its over, its not you its me" just like dat?

im all for dropping the bombshell and moving on but i don't want anyone's blood on my hands so....the signs are to prepare you for our inevitable irrational act. it should be in stages with good techniques and methods to soften the blow......... its just like terminating an employment

Babe.....you are full of EVIL

@Sagamite: Bruv I get your point 100%. I wish I had a coach like you during my turn of heartbreak, but its over now. I just decided to stay clear from relationships. But na my friends need this piece of info, because I don't know what to tell them.

@Didocold: In a way, I get your point, and I prefer dealing with your break up style.

fr3ddi3:


Yo Miss, I don't think a reasonable guy would slap a lady just because she broke up with him. Besides, guys are not that violent these days(except a few jerks).
And the other bolded part, are you saying that is the way majority of ladies naturally behave when they want a break up? i.e. a REFLEX action?

Please break it down, and let the guys learn a few things about ladies.

I'm behind you bruv....especially with the bolded question.

DonCrust:

What are you trying to say pls? That guys are fund of beating up our partners? Maybe your guy always slap taste out of your mouth but that doesn't make all guys the same?
If I may ask you, isn't every relationship based on agreement between two people? If your answer is yes, then i see no reason why you't talk your way out of the relationship without insult that begets slap

You really got my gist.

Bros......I don't have any other choice than to survive now , but my tenure don since. Na my guys e dey happen to, and e dey pain me. But funny enough, I think a lot of guys have experienced such from ladies. We plenty like cockroach!!

They don't know that their last minute action always discredits all their good attitude/action during the relationship, and the most annoying part is when you finally try to move on, they'll claim they still want to retain the "FRIENDSHIP". Why didn't they put that into consideration before acting up in the first place?....making the guy lose all the respect and trust he once had for her. Or who would want to make friends with someone that will tell a lie straight to your face? (For me...........that's my biggest turn-off). That's kind of childish.


But still on the matter; I want to hear people's opinion especially the ladies on why they prefer that style of breaking up.

For a while now, I have noticed that when ladies want to break up from a relationship, they don't really have the guts to do so. WHY?!!

As a lady, you have dated a guy for quite some time; you both took the effort to nurture the relationship, became best of friends, carry each other along in all your activities, made you known by his family and friends(same as yours), gained his trust, and sometimes, he fantacizes his future with you etc etc. Then, along the line, you found out that you might not be his sole mate(relationship-wise; for whatever reason) or probably started seeing another guy that you really dig......then why can't you break it off with the former guy OFFICIALLY?

A lot of times(from my personal observation though), most girls will start acting funny; no calls, keeping distance, cancelling dates with unreasonable excuses, telling heavy lies, taking the guy for granted, etc. And these things hurt....they really do!!

What will it cost you ladies to sit your guy down and tell him your reason for wanting the break up, no matter how hurtful it may sound at that moment, instead of acting up?

N.B
This is not one of those female bashing threads, I'm just wondering why girls act that way.