NewStats: 3,264,345 , 8,183,419 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 June 2025 at 04:57 PM 2h665

GoldenSpine24:


Bro, try understand his context. He isn't putting him down. What he is only saying is that such attitude may not go a long way in helping him. That is, despite the whole email body that was sent, the only thing he could pick out was a perceived flaw. It kinda (tho maybe wrong to you sha)portray an attitude that fights against the team spirit you rightly talked about. It's more like trying so hard to look for a flaw and forgetting to focus on the overall positivity. I believe that's what he meant by not bringing such an attitude. You also have a very strong point too. All the best to us.

Peace out

Part of the job of a management trainee would be to be smart enough to have an eye to pick out a flaw and the guy was right to state a perceived flaw in their grammar, I also didn't think it sounded correct when I first read the email. Take a look at how that sorzy1 guy expressed his view concerning it maturely but the niyinficient did his in a condescending manner saying he shouldnt bring such attitude to the Assessment center, let me give you some education Mister, a penchant for spotting a flaw is one attitude you need to bring to the assessment center for your information okay?

I always feel so ashamed as a lady whenever I see a lady making an issue about the brokeness of a guy, when a lady makes an issue about the money level of a guy most times it means that's she is money orientated and not sincere.
that's how I commented on a fellow lady's status on facebook concerning she saying broke guys are annoying, I asked her that isn't her being unemployed annoying to her as well? she immediately deleted my comment and blocked me.

metrosexual:
This reminds me of those HR communication tests we used to have way back in training school back then. Let me give it a try:

Dear applicant,

We appreciate your desire to work for our organisation. Thank you for the interest you have shown in our organisation and the time and effort you spent in your findings and applying.

As correctly stated by you, we lost our ant recently but I'm sorry to inform you that we do not intend to recruit publicly for the position; as an in-house replacement exercise has been duly completed which was geared at saving time and cost.

We however have saved your curriculum vitae in our database of applications and anytime a position comes up which suits your competences and qualifications you would be duly ed by us.

Kind regards,

Mr. John Doe,
Human Resources Manager,
ABC Ltd.,
Nigeria.

I cant stop laughing here, Do you work in HR department? Because you wrote it so well, as how a proper HR manager would reply

WOW! I didn't know my topic made frontpage, I just closed from the office this evening and came online to see this.

You guys are the best, I got a lot of wonderful advises here, my sisters in the house didn't disappoint and they guys did a good job as well, I and my sister would be most grateful for all your advises and inputs.

Now to those who claimed I'm the one who is affected by this but lying and saying my its sister, I just laugh! This is a faceless forum so why should I do that? From my old topic of 2015 I was bold enough to say I was the person involved so why lie now? And to those who were arguing about my age and all saying I'm the person involved in this post, if you check my old topic I was 27 in 2015, I'm 29 now, my sister is 27 and turns 28 this year like I said in this topic, I'm older than her by a year and six months. Although my topic of 2015 about me has some little similarities with that of my sister but we are two different persons please.

And to those who are surprised about how I know enough details about my sister's life, its obvious most of you don't study ladies well, even a female friend of a girl knows almost everything about her talk less of two sisters who are very close.

And to those who were calling my sister bad names and all because she has slept with the 3 guys she has dated in her life, I just laugh! Nigerians are just hypocrites! How many of you out there at 28 years of age be you a male or female haven't slept with at least the previous 3 people you have dated? Age 28 is too far, how many of you at age 23 have not slept with at least 3 people you have dated in the past? I'm sure not more than 10% of you guys have not so why the hypocritical attitude?

Lastly, I wanna tell you all thank you again, you guys rock! I would send my sister a link to this thread later on this night for her to read every comment diligently. I know she would wanna kill me at first for putting this up here though

deji47, Dextology, and kimbra Thank you all for your inputs

TosinDru:
Say no to Blackmail. (You get me pregnant, you must marry me).
The end results of such union could be more disastrous than the initial problems.
Let him make up his mind himself.

Thank you for your input

gbegemaster:
Medical science has shamed the witches and village powers that fight conception.

There are other conception procedures that will allow her get pregnant without a man with high sperm count. All it will take is money.

Thank you, I didn't see it from that perspective

Alondrah:
Number 3 is totally out of it! Never manipulate/ force a Man into marriage.

This is a very hard nut to crack though. I think you should move this thread to family section to get better ways out

Thanks, Please how can I move this to family section? Can lalasticlala or any other mods help out? Or I should just create another of this topic in Family section?

I asked for the ladies in the house to help me out with advice because I feel they would know better in such a situation. Men who may have ideas can also contribute.

I will try and be short as possible. My sis turns 28 this year. She has been down emotionally for some time now and she is very close to me and it has made me down too.

My sis has been dating this guy for about two years now, the guy is 28/29 years I think. She got pregnant for this guy about a year ago, the guy was not ready for marriage and they decided to abort it. Along the line she wanted to keep the baby though, but a medical condition stopped her from keeping the baby. The doctor said the baby was growing outside the womb with complications and an operation to abort the pregnancy was needed even if she didn't want an abortion in the first place. Two other hospitals confirmed this through scan.

Also, another shocking revelation was discovered, the doctor said she has a medical issue which would make it kind of difficult for her to conceive easily, that she needs a man with a very very high sperm count for her to take in and the chances are slim because just about 1% of men have such rare high sperm count. This meant the guy she is dating has the rare high sperm count and she attested to this because she said of the previous 2 guys she has dated before him, they at some time engaged in sex without protection and she never had taken in before, but as for this guy in question the very first time they had unprotected sex she took in for him. She didn't reveal what the doctor told her to her guy though. Just her and myself know about her medical condition. The doctor even suggested she sticks to her guy because there is slim possibility of finding another man with such high sperm count. The doctor even asked that guy enrol for sperm donation in fertility clinics as his type of sperm count is in high demand and rare. The guy doesn't stay in the same city with her so he couldn't be around during the abortion process and the doctor couldn't tell him any of these revelations.


After the abortion she and the guy have still been dating, although they don't stay in the same city. She said they guy loves her but he is not directly clear about wanting to marry her anytime soon. This dude is the tall and very handsome type and I sometime see him as a playboy because he gets a lot of attention from ladies but my sister says she has never seen any red flag to suspect he has ever cheated on her and he respects and cares for her like a responsible man. I presume the guy still being young for a man(28/29 years) and very handsome doesn't feel its right time to get married but its not the case for my sister as she is turning 28 years soon. For what I know between her and the guy, they love each other deeply but the dude is just not ready yet to get married, both of them are working but the dude isn't too comfortable yet, but at least comfortable enough to get married if he is serious. The dude isn't just saying anything about settling down at all!

Now here are the questions I need to ask the ladies in the house to help me;

1-Should my sister tell the dude everything? Would this make him more emotional towards her and consider marrying her soon or he would feel he is doing my sister a favour in marrying her?

2-Should my sister consider breaking off with him and giving a chance to other serious suitors? She is very beautiful and has a job and men keep asking her hand in marriage everyday. the doctor said her medical condition makes it hard for her to conceive and needs a man with very high sperm count, can she find a man with that rare high sperm count in the other men asking her hand in marriage? The doctor said just about 1% of men have such and if you do the maths the possibility of finding another man with such is very low in probability.

3- Should she try to make the guy get her pregnant again and based on the fact she has had an abortion before for him he would not have the guts to request she aborts it again and would be forced to make marriage plans? Ever since she had the abortion about a year ago the guy and her have become very strict towards unprotected sex, she says they don't even make the mistake to try it again. But we know as a lady she can have her way with him if she really wants to get pregnant. Mind you she may get pregnant but it would not be that easy from my family side because my dad has said he would not give his blessings to any of his daughters who gets pregnant before wedlock.

4-Married ladies, is there a way a woman can smartly make a man consider marrying her faster? Are they any tricks to making a man more eager to marrying you or are there proven ways to push a man who has cold feet towards getting married? Please has any lady been in such a situation before and know what to act accordingly? Please help a sister out.

Thank you all!

Hey guys, I opened this just for this reason alone, I just can't use my popular Nairaland moniker. I'm a very active and popular member on Nairaland but I'm using this moniker because you guys might give bias advise if you all know who I'm.

I'm 27, I work, not earning high though, but enough to keep me financially independent to some degree to fix my basic needs and wants.

I'm dating Daniel, I'm in love with him, he is 29, he works for an average firm, his pay is just like mine, just average pay. But enough for basic up keep and basic "flexing". Now I wanna tell you what's so special about Daniel, he is 6 feet tall, he is not too slim and not muscular, he has not just a handsome face but a pretty one, he makes my intelligence seem like ignorance with his high level of intellect and smartness, he has taught me a lot I couldn't have learnt even at Harvard University, calling him intelligent is an understatement! And about intimacy, ladies, have you ever met a guy who is so good in bed that you can hardly resist him even when you are in your worst mood? Daniel is just something else in bed, he is perfect in bed. His is a firm and loving guy, he doesn't tolerate me behaving silly but yet he still draws me closer if I behave silly. He has never hit me even when I get on his nerves, he acts calm and collected and goes silent if he is not in the mood to put me in my right place with his some harsh words.

Career wise Daniel has focus and has a vision where he sees himself in the next 5 years. He is my 3rd ever boyfriend and he is the type any girl would wanna keep.

Now the only issue with us is that Daniel has told me he would be ready to get married when he 31 years, that's 2 years from now, he has calculated everything for me to see how it would take 2 years before he is ready financially and otherwise, he is not a fantasy dreamer who thinks he would win a jackpot and marry tomorrow therefore his 31 years age mark of getting married considering his current job and future career prospects.

Now guy number 2 is called Joe, he is 32, he is a very high earner financially, generally he is a nice guy, handsome, neat and a gentleman.

I met him at my place of work some months ago, although he doesn't work there, he had a project with us which made him to frequently be at my work place a lot during that period. From the initial familiarity talks and all he stated it from the beginning that he wants me as a wife and he has observed me for about a month and I'm the one but I always sternly told him I'm dating someone else I love and nothing can happen between him and I. He has asked I follow him to his family house to see his mom on a couple of occasions, I refused on all occasions. I have never accepted to even hang out with him for once, we just talk on phone and chat.

I was surprised when one day at work during break at the cafeteria he came with his mom, he smiled and left us alone, his mom looked me straight into the eyes and told me that as a woman she gives me her word and she is telling me that her son is for real and not just after sleeping with me, she even told me that she already told her son she will not vouch for him if he wanted a sex involved courtship with me. And she also told me she liked me the first time he son secretly brought her to the office so she can see me. She also said if I agree the families would commence marriage plans after Joe and I have had about 3 months of courtship, after which we would do all medical tests and proceed to the actual wedding proper.

My dilemma now is this; In 2 years from now, would Daniel still love me and remain faithful to me and still keep to his promise to marry me? If I decide to wait for Daniel, in 2 years from now I would be 29, isn't that too much of a risk to take?

My parents and relatives keep pestering me about marriage and in my family all ladies get married before they reach 27, I'm the only person who has clocked 27 without being married yet.

I'm in love with Daniel, I'm crazy for that boy, but Joe on the other hand offers me what Daniel can't offer for now. I don't have feelings for John at this stage and to be fair he is the type of guy any girl can fall madly in love with if given a chance into her life, so my question is this- "Should I wait for Daniel or should I give Joe a chance?"

Please this is more complicated than the popular cliché; "If you are confused about two people to love, pick the new guy because if you really loved the former guy you would not consider the new guy". This is more complicated than that, please I need good opinion and advise, and your reasons for your opinions.

Thank you all!

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