NewStats: 3,263,754 , 8,181,282 topics. Date: Saturday, 07 June 2025 at 06:06 PM 204ta

@POSTER,
God is too merciful not to forgive you.
His love for you is also so great that He
will gladly accept you for who you are.

Just tell it to Him and He'll take care of everything.
then ask for His sufficient grace and strenght not
to repeat same.

but most of all,do not condemn yourself,
cos God hasnt condemned you.

HIS LOVE IS REAL.

happy christmas and merry new year
to all of us nairalanders.

@delaronte
all departments of the bank have their stress
u know.in cash and teller, you av to keep paying
shortages, in order to balance
in customer service,u no dey even get time to
go 4 lunch.
and marketters are always given unachievable targets.
in fact the whole system is f__kedup.

but fellow bankers,if you would chose a department,
which one would it be?

@olorioko
maybe you should take a break from the relationship
thingy and just settle down for friendship.
it will help you appreciate the female folks.
they are wonderful friends you know

@mighty ike
i hope you are mighty enough to handle this.

what exactly is the age difference btw both of you?
how soon do you intend to marry her?
is she also ready to marry you?

could you pls give info on the questions above so that
we can analyse the issue properly.
but if she keeps reminding you(if not jokingly) that she is
older than you,then you better think twice

@ufobabe
how do i come in in this situation?
how does my saying yes affect your decision?

@jkpretty
i feel same too.
sometimes,work can be annoying,
just that one cant let go.
guess we'll just wait till its friday or
one could spice up the office work by chatting.
my YIM is richendo2002

@ufobabe
what is your reason for wanting to let go?
pls let us kno?

abeg you o!!!my post is not to encorage you to
break pples heart, but to walk away(if need be) with your dignity
intact.

@ufobabe
HHHmmmmmm
u are a lucky gal o!
what a swt way to start your day.

i agree with[b] jkpretty[/b]
let it sssstttaaaayyyy

so watz bin hapening to u lately?

Dear All,
Hope you're all doing great. I just got this from a friend of mine and thought I should share it. Do have a beautiful week.
Richmond

LET GO AND LET GOD

PONDER OVER THIS!


By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
away from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into
staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to
see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us
that it might be made manifest that they were not for
us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have
continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not ed to you.
And if they are not ed to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.


And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just
means that their part in the story is over. And you've got
to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep
trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something.
I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift,

I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm
faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong
to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ,

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and
see your worth,

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or
talents ,

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude,

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better,

LET IT GO!!!

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take
you to a new level in Him,

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken
relationship,

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try
to help themselves,

LET IT GO!!!

If you're feeling depressed and stressed .

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so
used to handling yourself

and God is saying "take your hands off of it,"

then you need to,

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing from now on !!!



LET IT GO!!!
Get Right, or Get Left
, think about it, and then ,

LET IT GO

@Boy Georgery abi na @Bobby James
there are three way to handle such issues.

1 stay with the situation,accept it as your fate, and ask
for grace to carry your cross.

2 take necesary actions (murder excluded) to change your situation. you will
need strenght and wisdom.

3 walk away from the problem with your dignity intact
it means you'll have to start all over again.

just hold on a minute . before u decide,consider the following

how long av you been married?
do you have children?
are you sure your hands are clean?
during your courtship,did you see any of these signs?

take a walk to a quiet natural environment and do a soul
searching exercise as you ask yourself the questions above.

you are the one wearing the shoes,and it is only
you taht has the full story.

Finally, PRAY TO YOUR GOD.

We all have different reasons for ing this forum, and i'm sure
we've been affected positively in one way or the other.
for those of us who had issues that we posted on this forum,
i'm sure one or two people have made contributions that
have helped us out.
its time to say thank you

@OLAJIM
thanks a bunch.you are a true friend.
i really dont know wot you look like.i've not met and may
never meet you.but you av really affected my life with your
contributions.

@ufobabe aka[b] swtsmile[/b]
hope you know you have a heart of gold.thanx for
the help you rendered my sister.hope i will c you one day
so that i can appreciate you properly.God bless you

ok,you are next,
hu do you want to say thank you to?

@ poster
the earlier you accept the fact, the better for you.
especially since the boy's mum aint with you no more.
you are free to show him love, care and whatever,
but a time is coming when either the mum or the biological
father will come for their son and then your heart will
be broken all over again.

MY ADVICE
let the boy go and stay with his mum. that doesnt stop you
from being a good father to him.DO NOT REDUCE OR STOP
YOUR FINANCIAL AND MORAL RESPONSIBILITIES TO HIM.

Tee baba, dont fuss about what your family and friends
will say or do.that should be the least of your worries.
its your life and your cross.
MAY GOD GRANT YOU DIVINE WISDOM. AMEN!

@ poster
the earlier you accept the fact, the better for you.
especially since the boy's mum aint with you no more.
you are free to show him love, care and whatever,
but a time is coming when either the mum or the biological
father will come for their son and then your heart will
be broken all over again.

MY ADVICE
let the boy go and stay with his mum. that doesnt stop you
from being a good father to him.DO NOT REDUCE OR STOP
YOUR FINANCIAL AND MORAL RESPONSIBILITIES TO HIM.

Tee baba, dont fuss about what your family and friends
will say or do.that should be the least of your worries.
its your life and your cross.
MAY GOD GRANT YOU DIVINE WISDOM. AMEN!

@siena(kesiena)
no it didnt happen to me and it cant,
geeez she will be loosing tooo much.

actually got it from klassyguy's post titled
SHLD HE STOP CALLING HIS EX?

put yourself at both ends (givin and receiving end)
wots wld be your reason and your reaction?

HHHHmmmmmm.
MARRIAGE!!!! HHHmmmmmm
the only institution where you get your certificate
once you resume lectures.
for a guy, i think its when he is ready to lose
his bachelorhood degree(it took u years to achieve)
for the lady to get her masters.
maturity is very important.
readiness is also very important.
age, age, is it really important? well, if you cant stand the
pressure from family, friends and the society.
as for me, a guy should start positioning himself (in thougts,
attitude, achievments)towards marriage as from 27yrs ;
and the lady 22years

HHHHmmmmmm.
I JUST DONT LOVE YOU ENOUGH TO MARRY YOU
dear nairalanders wot is your view on the statement above?

sori tkb417,
actualy meant fatty27.
guess i'm just xcited about kissing the bride

chei!!!!
@ ufobabe
y u won break my hart 5mins after saying yes to me?

@tkb417
dont mind her.she is internet shy.
lets toast to my new bride

i may kissss the bride

@ ufobabe
i am honoured.
i think say ONE DAY I GO MAKE AM
i thot i was waitin in vain, but now
it looks like i've made it, look how
far we don go.
i'v updated my profile.

marriage! marriage!! marriage!!!
@ufo
hu could this lucky nairalander guy be?
the guy don win jackpot ooohhh

just wandering why overdue singles are not really hapi.
does it mean that marriage gives some form of hapiness?

also someone once told me that married men are happier
than single guys.does it also apply to women. hw tru is this?

does marriage make pple happy?
are you referring to the PROCESS or the PRODUCT of marriage?

for me i believ your hapiness is your sole decision.either single or
married,make up your mind to be hapi AND YOU SHALL BE HAPI
shi ke na !

@poster
i quite agree with uchetobi
the guy likes you and thats a plus on your side.
some guys would come out straight and ask you out,
but some of us would start with friendship as a good
foundation.
dont push him of,and dont throw yourself at him.
just be your self.he'll drop it on you when you least expect
i'm sure he is seeing the signs already.you could send him
text messages but make them plain,not too romantic.
if he shows you some care, then reciprocate.
by doing that,you wont be throwing yourself at him

when i met my girl,we text ourselves for about two weeks
and the mesages were based on general issues and daily
experiences, but nothing personal.

the first time i kissed her,it took her by surprise.that
was when she asked me what i wanted and trust me
i asked her if she hasnt figured it out by then.i just kissed
her again.it was untill 2months later that she jokinly asked
me to formally ask her out which i did.

@Idera
are you saying that her chances of settling down
is higher if she dates just one person?
look at it this way,
if that one person decides to call it quit, wot happens
to her?i am of the opinion that competition brings out
the best in responsible guys,as well as pruns the unserious
guys
guys find it difficult to believe that a charming young lady
with a heart of gold can be single,yet we would stop at
nothing to have her.
why is that so?
do not put all your eggs in one basket,some folks
call it deceit,but i call it wisdom.
how you choose to play the game is solely your decision

@poster
why are you so desperate to get married?

secondly, did you say u had a fight with her?
hope u dont mean you beat her up? cos with that,
you have given yourself yellow card oo

thirdly are you convinced that she realy wants to marry you?
it seems to me that you are forcing her. cos if she is as willing
and desperate as you, she will be on your side.

fourthly, can you think of any reason why her mum wouldnt
want you for a son-in-law?

bro think twice, its not all about early to bed, early to
rise, but you have to be wise

in my final year in UNILAG, we had a counselling session
and we raised this issue.the counsellors authoritatively
told us that double dating,especially for the ladies is
very much encouraged.

in her words "a lady is free to date as many as 3 guys
as long as she doesnt have 2 sleep with any of them."
difficult you would agree, but not[b] impossible[/b]

"but once one of them decides to take the relationship to
the next level (courtship), and she accept his proposal,
the lady is expected to drop the other guys and stick to
that one."
i guess this is just to protect the lady to some extent.

but for the guys, we have no reason whatsoever to double date.
c'mon, it aint cool you know

wise guys and wise ladies in the house,
God did not make marriage compulsory,
in fact, Paul only advised that those singles
who can't cope should get married.

marriage is like life.
the fact that we are faced with diverse problems
in life, does not mean we all have decided to stop living.

so why is it that pple are refusing to get married because
of the problems encountered in marriage.

we should not 4get that there are still marriages that are
blossoming no matter how few and i know that mine will
be one when i am ready to lose my bachelorhood degree.

well its your life, your choice and your decision.

@poster
i smmil ;Dd after talking to you today.
also smiled when i read your topic.
now i'm smiling cos the pressure at work is over.

INSECURITY IS A DEADLY VIRUS DAT IS EATING DEEP INTO RELATIONSHIPS.

it leads to telling of lies, pretence, and even succombing to sexual advances.
i once asked a lady
WHY DO LADIES SUCCOMB TO SEXUAL ADVANCES FROM MEN?
amongst her responses,she said its because she doesnt want to
lose the guy.THAT IS INSECURITY.

WHY DO WE TELL LIES? INSECURITY

WHY DO WE DOUBLE DATE? INSECURITY

MY QUESTION NOW IS HOW CAN INSECURITY IN A RELATIONSHIP
BE PREVENTED OR MANAGED PROPERLY.