NewStats: 3,261,399 , 8,173,892 topics. Date: Thursday, 29 May 2025 at 07:06 AM 3h4s67

Fhemmmy:

I will advice you take the child with you to avoid any wahala . . . Besides, if you will be driving, just bundle the child well and spend time on the way too . . . 3 Years is a long time and i will surely advice a Canadian port if the child is a citizen, apply for a visa and you could have the Nija port just as backup . . . .
In Nigeria, i am not sure they will deport the child, but i could be wrong

Yes she is a citizen.I was thinking of applying for Nigerian Visa and then get the port immediately I get to Nijia instead of travelling in this cold and slippery road. Thank you very much.

Fhemmmy:

Spoke to a friend that just got his, he said - you will have to go to the website for Nigerian high commission, Fill out form there and will take you to Another website for the payment with credit card and once that is done, you will Mail information to them and you get acknowledgement within 24 hours, after that you could schedule appointment, again, please this is from a friend, cos i have no tried it myself.

It is the appointment part that is bothering me cos I don't want to take her with me to Ottawa in this cold ,I thought since I am applying for a child under 16 they will wave the appointment part. I will just have to apply for visa.

How many months or years do they give for visa cos I might be come back until 3 years and don't Nijia immigration to deport my baby ooo...lol.
Thank you.

Fhemmmy:

Why no apply for a visa? Also, please whatever you do, make sure the little kid gets all the vaccination to go to Nigeria . . . Please, for the port, i will check with a friend and get back to you, cos i dont have one

Thank so much.

Anybody plz.

How do I get a Nigerian port for my child from Ottawa?
Do I need to take her with me to Ottawa ? She is an infant.
Or do I just send in the application ?
I have tried calling the Ottawa office but they won't pick calls or return calls.
What do I need to take her with me to Nigeria?I don't want immigration probs when I get to Nigeria

Plz where in Lagos can one snap Visa port photograph for Accra visa pick up.

Thanks everybody . I took Akamu thinking it was the best for me then cos i could'nt chew anything ,Orange was no go area for me,it makes the heartburn worst. i was just so weak . Each time I took the Maternal vitamin then na like say i wan die, the drug knocks me out completely . I stayed back  on my bed all through the 3months thinking it will help but my goodness ! I really give kudos to all mothers in the world, i tot bin one is very easy , now i know better.

Mothers in the house help me cope with 1st trimester . My first pregnancy was not fun at all and because of that,I'm so scared of conceiving again. Can anybody who has the same experience share with me how to cope or what to avoid during pregnancy . My problems are . . . . heartburn ( terrible one n was told not to use medication) , like a loop in my throat, indigestion , food keeps moving up n down my stomach even though all i had for 3 months was OGI (Akamu ) , hot flashes inside my tommy every now and then , in short the symptoms wasn't pleasant at all .

harakiri:

@Poster. . . You sound like a home breaker and perpetual gossip! The woman that you accomodated when her husband chased her out was probably influenced by your destructive advise and "busy bodiness" and when crap hit the fan, she had no other option than to run to her "mentor". It's women like you that are solely responsible 4 breaking marriages. You even had the cohones to state that you SPOKE TO THE HUSBAND on phone. If i decide 2 get married tomorrow and my wife in conjunction with her "friend" pulls this shyt on me, that so called marriage ends that instant. I don't care if kids are involved. This is what happens when men lose their senses by giving in to women's demand for "love,trust and security" in marriage. This poor guy didn't block his wife from travelling. Now she is there, she realizes that she married a semi-literate. Gosh! Men have suffered. I feel sorry 4 guys who go out of their way 2 please their women. I'm NOT sorry to say this but men who trust women absolutely are either dumb or clinically insane! ! !

Where did i state the bolded ? You dey mistake me for Uju ? Uju dem say u be home breaker oo.

Oga you dey see at all ? Were ma po ni NL OOO

chaircover:

If the education thing is going to cause such kata kata, surely there must be other ways round this. BTW how long will this course last?

Rita when you spoke to the husband, what were his views/plans/options on how he was going to maintain his family if he is unable to find a good job as a result of his lack of education?

I beliv 6 months should be okey for the man since he doesnt like school and that will even be a priavte career college but in university the course might be 2-yrs ooo ,depends on how far you want to go .

The man said he just doesnt like school and he belivs he will be anywhere he want with the Job he learn , he said going to school is just like wantin to do something against is wish cos he never liked school that the little he had in the first palce was becos of his parent . i told him those who didnt go to school here ends up in factory or cleaning Job and he might not want to do that . Then he said atleast that will put food on his table, i said maybe,then he said we shouldnt woryy cos God will see him through.

Ujujoan:



She dated him for 8 years and still doesn't know how much he hates schooling

I'm not married!

I've had married friends confide in me . . . I even had to house one for months when her husband chased her out of the house. Me I just can't see myself butting in in people's marital troubles, friend or not!

Yes, 8 years , they av bin dating since high school but she never had problem with the fact that the guy didnt have university degree cos he was doing well. they never knew they will both have to relocate abroad oneday , so why will she bother hersef aboout the education thing in 9jia, she realised how important education will help her husband when she got here cos she has to go to school again herself

jennykadry:

You spoke to her husband? why you no dey mind your business?

Anyways If I post now you go say i dey do gra gra, gra gra for speaking my mind?

These people have spoken about this thing right from the time go, he told her from the beginning that he was not interested in going to school, your friend seeing that age was catching up with her decided to marry him and then make known her intentions later.

Jenny

I know you got married very early but thinking women who didnt are desperate.If getting married at the age of 27 means there is no age on that woman's side then i think something is wrong with this world. Considering 9jia eduaction,strike,unemployment and coming abroad to have to start over.Stop using age to bash your fellow woman , does doing it make you feel like you are superior to them ? Any little thing, you will say some women got married becos age is not on their side . That na how you take age and husband yab one NL lady becos she come share her problem for NL .  There are single ladies on NL  and they have peace of mind while some so call married lady dont but this married ladies will come to NL forming as if their marriage no get ups and downs but all na lie . Well if you like change , if you like no change. . . . life goes on ooo Madam jenny.

Jenny


Yes I spoke with the guy i will do it over and over if that is what will save this mariage .
In life you have problem,sometimes you cant even confide in your own family,you might feel comfortable sharing your problem with your best friend or your pastor or somebody whom you know you are save with. That doesnt mean you are silly. I've known the husband with my friend for more than three years,way be4 they got married. i talk to the husband like a brother. . . . not all marriages are perfect,people have bin on NL sharing their problems here, you think if only they only peopl to confide in really life they will be on internet ?  I know you and uju are super woman and your marriages are wonderful but not every women are .  I dont know waht the big deal in talking to your friend's husband is,when you know the problem is eating her up, would you rather watch your friend in pain rather than help her if she request for it ? I bet you dont have really friend sto confide in you in really life cos you will mock then.

dayokanu:

The guy doesnt want to school in Canada, the woman is hesitant to bring him

Let them divorce and go their separate ways.

Afterall she saw that he was not well educated before she married him. Most likely the man is shining Kongos all over naija now

Yes .she saw that the man was not educated b4 she married him but is she suppose to leave a man she's bin with for 8yrs becos the man doesnt wanna come school abroad ? she has no problem with the guy eduaction before she left 9jia but when she realized that he has to change location,she belivs the guy's education will have to change . The lady herself never knew it will be like this, she never knew she herself will have to start all over abroad. They were both fine in 9jia with or without eduaction.

Hmmmmm, uju and jenny na wa oo . Yes i am the woman does it make both of you feel good ?

Mobinga:

It seems you are the lady herself. Selfish Woman why did you get married to him in the first place you naughty woman?

Olori buruku . Yes i am the woman does that make you eja.culate ? Ode oshi !
I know say you be mad dog but i wont be caught wasting my time with you.
i will let you be from now on . Omo ale.

2buff:



Just for them to win US visa lottery, drop everything, and fly there. Come see sukpa life afterwards. Levels just change anyhow.

My cousin who won lottery 2009 was complaining bitterly about not having anybody to help him with the children ,that in 9jia, your mother or sister can alwayz watch your kids for you while you are at work but abroad noffin like that and you get too much bills, In 9jia if you dont pay your rent,your landlord go just dey threaten but here you have to pay or you become homeless . . . . . all this things peopl in 9jia dont know, they beliv abroad is money money money.

BusyBody

Your own case na another thing, na jenny i say her wahala too much but your own self na die ,only be say you make sense and thank you so much .

We sent the application today . She spoke with the husband yesterday but he was still bent on not going to school .  I spoke to the guy myself and the guy said ,he already made it known to her from day one that,he wont go to school,he said he wanted to learn trade and he did . He said he does nt believe he cant make it there without going to school,i told him he as to go for atleast 6months but he was like we shouldnt worry God will see him through when he gets here but he's never gonna go to school cos he never liked school and that was why God made him prosper in his business in 9jia without going to school.

Well some peopl for 9jia beliv say na God dey take miracle put money for people pocket here oo,even when dem no work . anyway Wella dey,he go dey collect wella feed him family .

For those sayin she is cheating on her husband and she has a skeleton, yes she's cheating on her husband and she has been cheat on him for the past 3 year but the only thing she having an affair with is her work ! I have never seen her with a man,she doesnt even have the time,sometimes i wil even tease her by asking her how she dey manage feed her kitten, lol .

I've known this woman for  more than three year and i must confess, i envy her energy .  she left 9jia over three years ago as an ing graduate,she got there and realized she cant really make it in banking industry ,so she opted for the health industry. Ever since i've known her all she does is school,work and school.she will come to school sometimes without taking a bath not that she smells but when you see her with same clothe the next day,it wont be hard for anyone to figure out she didnt sleep home. The only time she was not working was when she has to be my chief bride's maid . Every year she has to pay back reveune Canada cos she has really over worked ,it is either her income tax is begin garnished or something.

Mobinga:

I'd have divorced her long ago. What an absolute biyatch.

So you will divorce a woman you just got married too and the marriage is not even up to 6mths? you will divorce a woman becos she wants you to improve yourself academically so that you can fit into another enivorment ? You will divorce a woman becos she doesnt want you to earn below want you earn where you are coming from cos it might shatter your ego as a man knowing you cant provide for your family like you would want to?

Now listen very good ! GBOGBO OBINRIN TO WAN NI FAMILY E NI AJA !

naijafrend:

And wetin be ?
Talk i am listening !

@ chaircover

You are a blessing to Nairaland !

@ Jenny

2.What kind of woman believes in sex for baby making purposes only? that is selfishness,That man is going to regret marrying that woman for the rest of his life if she doesn't change her mindset

Na everything you alwaz take gragra do,abeg life too dey easy to dey take everyday reply people post with anger and vexation . . . .Haba ! No be every woman like sex,so if one say the only reason for having sex na for procreation,so be it . To some women, dem no want pikin sef cos pikin go disturb their sex life,to some sex na food and to some sex na no go area but they will do it for one purpose,which is kid .


@ ALL

She decides to talk to the husband , if the hubby is not ready to upgrade himself when he gets here, she said she will take her kids and relocate back to 9jia to go train her kids and she will start business in 9jia and they can always come for vacation here,instead of staying here and having to take up two Jobs and at the end of the day,she will still not have take for the kids. She said after talking to her husband today, she will send the document tomorow and whatever her husbands decision is,she will know she tried her best to make him know,he needs education to be able to earn more abroad.

THE CONFESSION is a new tv series by Jack, it is only 10 episodes and I cant wait to see it !


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M79Wk0e8NuM&feature=related

I feel bad for her too but i no even know sef, some people life na die . Na God go help married people.

@ tpiah
wetin do your eyes ? Make i no show am how people feel about am ? i belive say na wetin go make her send the document be all this yabs here.

wetin be quandary ">

Busybody and all i showed her all comments on this thread and she was sobbing badly and for the record she's not selfish but i guess she is scared of so many things. She is a very hard working person and for those that says who is shining the Kongo, she is one of those women that belivs you only have sex for baby makin purposes,so she's not cheating on her husband. she has no kids yet but pregnant.

She narrated how her sister brought her husband from 9jia and the man ended up not working when he got here . The wife is a personal worker and the wife ought to take two Jobs to cater for the family. She said her sister's husband was a bank manager in naijia when the man got here,he was suppose to write some exams  he can have his managerial post back or whatever but the man refused saying, how can a whole him go and start writing exams all over, he siad he will never take any degrading Job either cos he cant tell his friends in 9jia that's he's now working in a factory. The man later decide to be a pastor,so he wasnt workin apart from the peanut he earns from is church. So the wife ends up doing all the runing of the family.

she said since her husband is comfortable in 9jia,there is no point for him coming here and end up complaining that he cant take up any job below what he does in 9jia or that he cant go for upgrading in his field since he already said he does not wanna go to school. He said the husband really wanna come here but he does not wanna do all the things that will make life better for them here.

Hmmmm, this life is something . Some people want something and they cant get it and those that have it dont know how to take care of it . Honestly I dont know what to say, i just wish she can sit down ,think properly and whatever her desicion is,she will get to live with it for the rest of her life.

A friend of mine who got married recently was suppose to file a sponsoral application for her husband but after gathering all the document and filling it, she decided not to send it to the processing office . I asked her why she went through the trouble of gathering all the document with her husband when she actually knew she didnt wanna bring her husband here and she said , she didnt want her husband to look at her as an enemy of progress.

She said her huband is not well educated and he woould not wanna go to school if he comes hence he cant get a better Job. The guy is a pastry chef and he's doing good for himself in 9jia. she said if he comes here ,he cant work as a pastry chef immediately becos he cant get a pastry chef job here without having a canadian experince, they will hire canadians before considering hiring an african make even if you he's better than them.

She said she want to raise her kids home and he believes somebody has to be in 9jia with those kids,so she think it is safer if the husband is in 9jia with the kids for few years,while she is here working and the kids could always come for vacation. She said ,she's not too good with staying under the same room with a man for a long time ,so she prefers the distance .

What are the advantages of bring your husband abroad when you know he could be better off where he is ? I need to convince her to bring him but i need a good advice. For real, some men come here and they change, it is either they start pushing you to go do nursing or they decide to depend on you becos you are a nurse while they prefer factory Jobs or drive cab.

Is season 2 a flashback ? Cos i dont get it !

Na so e dey be ! If your friend's daddy had gone thru her phone to see what she's bin up to, una go say papa invade privacy . I no no wetin dey alwaz do this pikin dem, anywayz you the friend should gather the rest of your friends and do baby shower for her. . . chikena