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bluefilm:
If only some women know how disgusted some men feel about them immediately the sex is over, they will definitely think twice before exposing their bodies anyhow.

Nonsense.

If you know how much some women don't care about your disgust or irritation, you would shut the Bleep up.

Nonsense

Nice one, OP.

Confusing independence and feminism for disrespect and lesbianism is very common.
I wouldn't say all men have this characteristics, if you are someone worth respecting without patriarchy giving you a platform of lordship because of your gender, a working class, outspoken woman will not be someone you have something against. Like someone above me said, it is inferiority complex. That's the only thing making the guys against this subset of women act out with verbal abusive words.

The Big Dick Myth is spot on.
Dick size is not sexual prowess. One of the girl power blogs I follow on Instagram conducted a survey on this topic. It goes Medium, Small and last of all big. But adult film culture that teaches most of us sex education has brainwashed some of us into thinking if you don't love the Biggie-Biggie, there is something wrong with you or if you don't pack some seriously large pipe there, you can't do nothing with a woman. This theory is false. Most women don't like big dick and most men don't have IndecentStar looking dick. Sex is not porn.

Last of all the age factor:
I think with the highly publicized marriage of the Duchess and A-list actress Priyanka Chopra, women in this age bracket have developed more confidence. A male friend of mine said, "no woman above 25 is dumb enough to settle for me that's why I gotta catch them before their eyes tear"
This statement was a joke he was making to excuse his penchant for young women. But there is some truth to it. The logic of women above the age of twenty five being fairly used goods or evening newspaper can only come from the mind of a child. I don't think men actually think like that. The saying things like this cannot even get a reply from the under 18 years old girls they pester on Facebook.

Bobby4090:


Don't confuse a financially successful person with a role model. Trump is far richer than Obama, but when it comes to be a role model for decent living, pls don't compare the two.
We all hail Davido, Wizkid and other baby dadies for now, why? Cos their present cash covers up a multitude of immoralities. But when they grow old and their children become adults then you will see the real family squabbles come into play.
Till today, Abiolas family is divided to the core dues to different children from different women. Same as Ojukwu.. But these are successful and great men who made mistakes earlier in their lives. No matter what one talks about IBB, I respect the fact that he kept a woman to the end despite billions and ability to go on a marriage spree. Sometimes I wonder if there are two IBBs, IBB the model family man, and IBB the known Maradona.
Banky W for now is a role model, I pray he keeps his family and career going well. We are in a crazy world that worship money and stars proudly go making babies all around as if it's a commodity.

Mention the Top five blogging Icons in Nigeria.

I'll wait.

Being good in your career doesn't means you have a good character. Is she an excellent blogger? Do bloggers try to follow her pattern and tenacity in knowing the spiciest gossip, play around the truth without lying, her investigation skills, the way her blog is designed, and everything that concerns her blog so as to follow her steps and be half as successful as she is blog-wise?

Ps: I called her a mentor. It is slightly different from a role model.

Thanks.

80% of the people opposing this idea vehemently don't know what rape is.

I wish they never get to experience it. It is a pity Nigerians don't have much faith in mental imbalance and see it as a demonic spirit.

You think rape is just non-consensual intercourse then you're... I don't know the word to use.

The way a rape victim is broken down years and years after the incidence, it takes a miracle to mend.

Her soul is almost taken from her. She is scared. I have read cases where the girl has panic attacks whenever she has to urinate because she has to remove her panties. Girls that almost burn of their skin trying to wash out the dirty they feel. Girls that result to drugs to block out that memory, women that become agoraphobic and never go out again. Women that start cutting themselves. Wem thatbused to be strong and self assured now suffer from chronic insomnia combined with fear of darkness. Women that become almost celibate for the rest of their lives.

Someone took away her choice by having forceful carnal knowledge of her, and you're taking away her choice to live with or without that memory?

It is not a teenage mistake. Even if the girl is literally rolling in diamonds or spitting out dollars and can dress the child in Versace and Givenchy until her dying days, she should have the right to choose when to have her first child.

Heard of postpartum? Combine that with a little dose of depression and a dozen other psychological issues she is supposed to deal with under nine months? What the hell?

There are some issues that the victim should be allowed to decide how she heals. Even medicine can't explain ho the mind works. If the best way for her to heal is erase every trace of the man existence, let her.

The reasons against abortion most of y'all be giving is too shallow (Ronaldo, Bieber, 'The Game' and a host of other) great individuals the world wouldn't have known and benefited from if they were aborted. Well, if given the opportunity to hinder the birth of Adolf Hitler, Abubakar Shekau, Osama Bin Laden and a host of other terrible people the world is suffering from, will you really play this game?

This is RAPE!!!
It is the worst kind of crime there is to me. Whether to a minor or an aged. The victim relieves it every day till he/she dies. And you want me to live the next 50 years of my life seeing my DNA mix with that of the person that broke me? You're forcing me to do that in the Name of a God that was not bothered when the sucklings of the amelekites where killed in his word? Or the one that order his messengers to kill and rejoice in the blood of the heathen? The one that created people because he was bored and needed amusement in his 'eternity' of existence so he created me and watched me go through pain just to 'test' me because there is no temptation bigger than me?

Or is it what if she died? What if she contracted a deadly STD during the ordeal and dies either way? What is she dies of depression? Na sha sorry and star in her crown ba? Gone too soon and faithful servant? Are you people really actually okay with that?

I don't know wallahi.

I am very, very, Anti-FRZ because he is filled with so much hate. But anyone that wants to force a rape victim to do something against her will is no different from a rapist in my book.

Get a job. At Least a job of six figures and let your wife do the same(If she wants to, because this is something you should have discussed beire marriage).

Both of you can then calculate how much each of you will contribute in the t for running the family's expenses.

Sit your wife down and tell her, the family cannot grow into what it should be if it is being directed by an external force. If she wants the marriage as much as you do, then all decisions should be made and finalized by the both of you and the both of you only.

Her father shouldn't have a major authority unless both of you decide to seek the opinion of an experienced person.

The family is going to live within the means you(and your wife) can provide until you can afford better.

You love, respect and appreciate her father for all he has been doing and will always do you best to give her the best.

But if she married you expecting the same luxury her father used to provide. You are not there yet so, she should build with you.

Have a little pride. It is better you soak garri and salt than be seen as anther dependent instead of a fellow adult married person because of few nairas in your .

Don't quit your job for her next time. If she loves you, your success will be her priority and leeching of her dad isn't success.

swiz123:


Why are you this ugly?

I wish I was conscious during the fertilization of my mum's egg by my dad's sperm. I would have I don't know, picked another sperm?

How has my ugliness affected you, Adonis... The face of the gods?

Bobby4090:
A woman of 36, with no husband and yet flaunting her pregnancy can never be a role model in a sane world..
She can only be a model in a deranged world that worships money. Which am sure can cover up multitude of short comings and immorality.

Oprah has been 'engaged' for almost 2 decades. Tell me about her 'immorality' and/or shortcomings that makes her unfit to be a role model. Abi she's been celibate for 20 years?

What is it? She's not married. You think if Ikeji wants to marry today she cannot slap even you with 20 million naira to the altar?

This is what she wants right now. A baby. And if a man she can spend the rest of her life with, that she trusts, loves and respects comes along, fine. If he doesn't, she has created her own happiness in her son.

Save your judgement for the 'Nigerian male role-models... ' Sorry, baby daddies.

PS: I don't follow her at all... Don't know much about her actually, but I can outrightly say she is one of the strongest influence and mentor in the blogging industry. She is someone 95% of Nigerian bloggers look up to in their field and will always learn from. If the it not emulation worthy, then please pelt her with rocks.

Op:

1. Can you marry a woman like your mother?
Although I actually have no problem marrying a man with most of my father's character.

2. Do you want to marry a 'dumb' girl?
Marrying a poor man is not the issue. Marrying a lazy man is. If he ks hardworking and intelligent, they're thousands of opportunities for wealth creation.

3. Can you allow your father-in-law with you?

4. Can you really allow your friend date your ex knowing what you know about her?

1. Uduj
2. Greiboy
3. Lefulefu

Those are the top three impartial romancelanders I've noticed. They call it like it is without resorting to insults or trolling... And Lefulefu popcorn is just ��

How these ones take concern Markle, Ikeji, Feminsm, Celibacy?

Use the title you used on your blog

Life Lessons I Learnt from Social Media

lifedynamics:



Sorry... But Wizkid and Tuface never said they were celibate or encouraged people to engage in celibacy...

Contradictory proof... Argument lost

So... She is a hypocrite... Not sexist.

That's the argument. Forget her gender and/or her feminist identification if she used to identify as one and call her a hypocritical person. Not hypocritical feminist.

Dikeh is hypocritical too. She preaches forgiveness and holds grudges... Doesn't make her less philanthropic.

ShyCypher:




Simple question you can't answer.

Is Linda Ikeji a feminist?




Don't explain, just a "yes" or a "no" will suffice.

Simple answer, you can't read.

I don't know her or her beliefs. I don't know.

IamD18:




Goodnight

Night!

IamD18:


I want you.

Toh... You can travel to a parallel universe where I am an olosho...

Extend my regards.

IamD18:


Yeah, are you?

No, but I can get one for you.

IamD18:


U be olosho?

You dey find olosho?

DOUBLEWAHALA:


olosho for 300 naira? she dey baff ahtol ? ewww

Averagely it is #700 for illorin Olosho. But asper customer and since e sabi give 'organism', e fit get a regular's discount #300. E fit baff her for him house self.
Shebi CD dey self, instead of all these familial embarasment he is becoming.

Nigga, you have 62 posts all aboiyt need wet pussy in Illorin. Why don't you just get a standby hooker. If you patronise her daily, you can get one for maybe #300 per round and #500 an encounter.

Problem solved.

Yes, she is actually a wife material. One material doesn't suit all. There is definitely a man out there that wants exactly the kind of material you are as wife. You are his wfe material. You're not marrying society so don't let the tell you you aren't wife material. Do you. You'll find your soul mate.

ShyCypher:




Answer this question:

Is Linda Ikeji a feminist?

Like I said, I don't follow her principles well enough to say.

But if she used to be a feminist before the whole pregnancy débâcle (that is she believed people should be treated and respected or condemned for their believes, accomplishments and contributions to society rather than gender) then her pregnacy doesn't change that.

ShyCypher:





In other words, Linda Ikeji is a hypocritical feminist.

Hypocritical person.
Her wanting kids doesn't make her less a feminist if she used to identify as one.

Her judging people for liking sex whereas she does the same makes her hypocritical.

Feminist are not perfect dear. I have my own shortcomings. The fact that I struggle with anger issues once in a while doesn't make me less a feminist.

Mr. Op...

I don't understand why the hell y'all think Linda has made a mistake or whatever.
Honestly, I don't follow her much so I don't understand her views on celibacy and whatever. So maybe the accusation should be Linda Ikeji is Double standard.

But her getting pregnant outside wedlock is not anti-feminist.. I don't know why you will ever think that. Even the most radical feminists (the bra-burning, man hating, lesbians) don't have a thing against children.

I am a feminist! 100%. I don't have any hatred towards men whatsoever. I only hate hate. But my whole happiness is never second to the male gender. That is all.

Feminism means do what makes you happy irrespective of your gender.

I am still in my early twenties... Still schooling kinda, but I want to get married, I want to have three beautiful kids, I want a fairytale Harry/Meghan love story. I love romance. But my whole purpose of existence is not marriage and kids.

I won't stay with an abusive, good for nothing, fuckboy just because I'm scared of time flying by.

I won't settle for someone I can barely stand because society expects me to be married at a certain age.

If I still don't find happiness with a man at thirty, if I don't see the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, the man that is truly worth it all, it is fine. I still have forty and fifty and sixty to get married.

I won't put my love of children and wanting to have one or three on hold because there is no man in the picture. And I also won't settle with a wasteman just to have kids. I will get them all by myself. I will get pregnant or Adopt. I love children and that is not going to change.

All I strive for in life is my happy. So I do whatever the Bleep makes me happy. Bleep society.

The funny things is Wizkid of how old is not getting half as much moral lashing for siring three kids that we know of from three different baby mamas.

Tuface had a truck load of kids and that has not stopped him from being happy in his marriage.

The list is endless. And Linda Ikeji, a grown ass woman still has to take permission from Nigerians before celebrating one of the happiest day of her life?

Saying I do, to the man I love will be one of the happiest day of my life. It won't be because a man chose me, It will be because I love him and eternity with him taste like heaven.

Getting my PhD will be one of the happiest day of my life too. Not because I take education above family, but because I love books. I get an award for expressing what I love to do.

Having my first son will be one of my greatest accomplishment. Not because society expects me to give birth.. But because I'll love my son.

Starting my own company is also one of my greatest aspiration in life. Not because I'm in competition with the male gender, but because I truly think I could make life easier through what I do.

Helping my son grow to be the man he is meant to be is a journey I honestly look forward to...

Building my legacy and making my family a household name is one of my dreams.

Having one doesn't mean I'll have to sacrifice the other.

So you can say:
Linda Ikeji is a hypocritical (typical) Nigerian. She holds morality so high and makes everyone that have enjoyed an orgasm or two feel like the greatest and vilest of sinner, while she enjoys it. Her enjoying it is not the crime. Telling people not to is..

Once again, marriage, child bearing, house-wifing, parenting and etc. Is never anti feminist. Check your dictionary and look for another reason to mock feminism.

Hmmmm.... I can only comment based on your post here.

Please move out of the house. Not only because your parents are 'burdening' you with financial responsibilities that's crushing you, but because you're an adult. Living with your parents keeps you in a cocoon like state. You're not as independent as you should be. You are not learning what it means to handle some things as an adult living on his own. You cannot be as hardworking as your mate because you live in your family house. So, save enough, get and apartment first. It is going to toughen you up. And from your post, you need some toughening.

Secondly, although it is the African (Nigerian) Culture for a child to take care of his parents in appreciation to them for taking care of him, don't do it to your detriment. Calculate your salary. Maybe you can say:
20% for transport, airtime/data and other day to day expenses you incur...

30% to your parents which includes food, utility bills and etcetera...

40% for savings towards your rent...

10% as emergency fund... Sickness, contribution for some unprecedented situation.

(If you're religious you can make it 15% out of the rent money for tithe and offerings)


After getting the apartment, make sure you set aside at least 20% towards investment in your own dream. After working 6-7 hours, you can't just sleep and chat for the rest of the day. Start creating your legacy. You don't want to 'burden' your kids too do you?

So, explain to mumsi in a calm respectful manner that things are getting a little tithe for you and you have a very very important project so... Your income is automatically deducted by say... 50%. Trust me, if you explain it patiently, she will understand. Don't sha tell her you're moving out yet.

Take care...


PS: you can also get a part time job to compensate...

Religion is the leading cause of cruelty...

I think the IG is currently on ission for transfusion after this level of savagery. Any further explanation will be made by... The oga at the top. Who is the commissioner of the transmission confusion.. I means transmission concussion... Sorry please commission transmission. Thank you.

All the 'English is nor our mother tongue' gang, abeg shut up there. For as long as English remains the official language of communication in Nigeria, public office holders should at least have enough power of the grammar to properly communicate with citizens. If he couldn't speak the language, he could have read his speech in Hausa or Pidgin and have a translator to translate to non-hausa speakers. I tried listening to him slowly and still didn't understand who and who make up the transmission commission and how that concerned the apprehensive effective confusion...

Where I had to die was when he opened the next page. What the hell? You didn't read your speech before hand? You don't have anything to say from your head?

Yankiss:


A very brilliant mind steeped in this nonsense. Who is the bride and who is the groom? What is the new nationality of the couple, Nigerian or Kenyan? If they adopt children, what is the surname of the children? This is identity crises at its worst. I was a freelance writer for G21: the World Magazine at a time Wainana or The Bing as he was called, got the Caine Prize under that platform. I was also nominated by then editor Rod Amis, but wasn't as lucky.

How is love nonsense? Because it doesn't fit into what you think it should be?
They are both grooms, they are both brides. What differentiate a bride from a groom? The bride is the word for a female individual getting married. And the groom is the male word. End of story.
Interracial marriage has been going on for decades and it is now time to question nationality and citizenship because dual citizenship has ceased to exist? Whatvis the surname of Adichie's kids? They are getting married if they choose to give the child Jack Jackalog it is their business. Hyphenated surname, one gives the child his middle name and the other his last name, they pick a random Congolese or Senegalesename as the famoly name, whatever.Their choice. I frankly don't see any identity crises since they would be open minded parents willing to discuss whatever troubles facing the kid as a result of their seeming unconventional lifestyle. That is better than we can say for your kids. I think it would be a case of identity crises if they get married to women because society thinks they should. They are gay!!! That is their identity. A part of me wants to say it is this kind of closemindedness that probably resulted to your inability to win the "alleged" award. But I'm too nice to say that.

Itzonlyme:
I will keep shouting blood of Jesus for like two weeks if this one visits me in dream..so disgusting

Your professor will pay hundreds of thousand to attend a 2 hours lecture with this man. Who are you that he wants to visit?

mu2sa2:
That's a sign of insanity. May God heal all gay, lesbians, bisexuals, transgender or whatever they call themselves.

And polygamists and maturbators and watchers of pornography and MouthAction practitioners and fornicators and strippers and.... Why stop there?

J2381:
can your jamb score buy bread, talkless of pure water?

Pure water is averagely cheaper then bread. So I think your diss should be:

Can your jamb score by pure water not to talk of bread?

All the mummy G.Os and daddy G.S. of nairaland will come here with their awaiting result and jamb score that cannot buy bread to insult an award winning writer because of who he chose to marry?

Stupidity.

HML to the couple jare.

And NL cannot just write Award winning writer... Mba oh! The gay is an adjective to qualify his nationality.

You want the side chick/nigga handbook?

1. You don't need love from a woman that cheats on the man. She's going to cheat on you if you become her man. Act uninterested and get all the puna.

2. You already have the benefits. There is no need for the responsibilities. You're not under pressure to claim her, no need for commitments, no need to anniversary dates and meet the parents and all the drama. She calls you when she is mad at her 'boo' and you go like a soldier and service that Kitty

3. Act nonchalant, it reduces her 'ego'. Don't make her feel two guys are 'dragging' her. You enjoy her pussy, she enjoys your dick. The end.
No clinginess, no jealousy or whatever. It is all about the benefits.

4. Revel in being a side nigga.

Your girlfriend of how long doesn't have all your numbers?
You continue chatting with her after it is clear she is interested in the faux lekki big boy because?
Abeg, you're not in a relationship if this story is true. Except you bought a new Sim Card and other things.

And trust me, you no get work oh!!! Creating the whole Facebook page and whatsapp drama to prove what? That your girl of how many weeks is cheating on you?

Well, I hope you're happy now.