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I agree that people should marry as early as possible but those who are pushing you to marry, would they be there when you need financial or give advice on getting a job ? Some say marriage will bring blessings, but if it doesn't it can bring a level of frustration, plus which woman is ready to marry a man with no means of incomes, all these things are easier said than done.

Nazgul:

Wao. Maybe I didn't get the context of his message. He's always very cautious even during projects.

He would say it's illegal to projects you did for a company to another company when looking for leads.

Well I've never lived in Europe so maybe he has has his reasons why he does such.

Oh yes that's if you signed an NDA

Nazgul:

Women and their problems.

Is cold emailing legal in Europe, I know it works fine in Africa and north America, but for Europe I don't know, cos I my German boss telling me that Europe has so many laws like that so reaching out randomly to leads can earn you a court case.

That's the first I've heard of, but i did reach out to a german client and I did her job.

Nazgul:

Sorry about that. You'll definitely make it back to 100%. 3 five stars from 3 different gigs would guarantee you back your 100%.

She was just being a b.tich but I am working on cold mailing so I guess i needed this experience to try out alternative client leads.

Nazgul:

What happened?

Did a client rate you low after a gig?

Yeah a client did, despite going far for her, but I do take some blame, i shouldn't have accepted the gig, but I needed it because depending 100% on Upwork is a danger

3 years ago, since relocation haven't been that happy, but that's life as an adult.

kennethfranc:
@qtguru

Good morning sir
I'm sorry to ask, based on your last post, what happened to your "madam" as you normally call her back then?

living her best life

Revealpanda:
Install FIFA and GTA For variety

guy

WizardOfNG:


Not necessarily. She may have worked hard for decades in the US to have the lifestyle change she has now secured.

Yorubas say "ile ni abo isimi oko" meaning home is where you rest after toiling hard in the farm. She is home now and resting. Kudos to her.

I understand where she's coming from, i stopped doing alot of things, because of I can use my time for other things and pay people

Zanzibar1:


That's life, just make sure you stay tight

Thanks my brother

airsaylongcome:


This is the problem right here. You have to be specific and intentional. "One skill" doesn't sound like someone that knows what they want. And believe me, NO experienced person is going to be the one show you which one to study, unless they are really close to you.

Many people that experienced people are "stingy". But there aren't. They are overwhelmed with juggling many things they barely have time. You need to do the research in what piques your interest. And start putting effort into learning them. My father(+) had a saying, the teacher will arrive only when the student is ready, not one minute before. And understand that the teacher is just a guide, their job is to open the door. The student MUST be the one to walk through that door. By themselves.

I know this isn't what you want to hear, and are probably looking for a "mentor" that will hand hold you. Those don't exist. I tried to "mentor" a less experienced colleague and lost a job in the process. NEVER AGAIN. Who wan learn, go get materials and directions from me, but I am not ever again spending one-on-one time with someone. Unless that person has put in the work.

There's an Iranian website that provides "free" materials for almost any stuff you wanna learn. I can't mention their name because the spambot has spiritual assignment and is following me upandan on the forum. But if you snoop around a bit you will be able to figure them out. Begin there to start self-learning. Good luck in all your pursuits and endeavour.

I don't even believe in mentorship, only advices tell me what to learn, I've stopped mentoring people because alot of people are not serious, maybe it's our education system that spoon feeds us, You will see someone asking me which Youtube resources should they use, and I'm like at least start searching and using AI.

I use AI 100% to even determine what skills to learn and for it to provide a guideline, people need to be self efficient, nuff said.

Zanzibar1:
Generally women don't believe in helping men. Naa men Try help and impress them.

Try not to fall short of funds o

Learnt the lesson the hard way

Upwork is competitive now, I got dropped from 100% Top rated to 67%, the alternative I have been doing now is cold-mailing.

oluseyiforjesus:
If our past n present leader mean well nobody will want to leave Nigeria
Nigeria is a blessed country

IF

tosinhtml:


But the tech ecosystem in Nigeria is much friendlier. Newbies with good portfolios can easily get jobs, unlike outside Nigeria, where you compete with a supposedly high number of seniors posing as juniors because they have no jobs. Tech jobs are even at their lowest in the US now, anyone traveling to the US now for a tech job should just forget about it.

Yes but let's see depends on the pay , but you're right about seniors posing as juniors , but the pay doesn't usually help as much.

Karleb:


Bros, this is not true.

There are still tech jobs in Nigeria. We can argue that the salary and work conditions are not the best but at least, tech still has more jobs than other sectors in Nigeria.

Nigeria ke, haven't worked for Nigerian tech in 7 years or so, no one is striving to earn naira as a techie.

Bade007:
To get tech job hard especially if you day naija

Even if you are outside, it's hard too, tech isn't recruiting for coders like that, the few senior engineers with AI can reduce the need for alot of engineers, the alternative route is building a solution and servicing clients. the future just got dark quickly lol