NewStats: 3,261,377 , 8,173,832 topics. Date: Thursday, 29 May 2025 at 04:22 AM 6p3j2f

YourCoffin:
They ask first to know if the lady is a kidnapper, makeup artist or prostitute.

On a second thought what exacrly would a man be doing with a jobless girl?

So, once she's not jobless, she's okay to be your wife?

missdivineprove:
A man is meant to be in charge. Whatever a woman have, is only to her man.
But when the man begins to look for a well to do woman, it's an abnormality.

But a woman is meant to look for a well to do man?

WE ALL GOLD DIGGERS...

YOU EITHER DIGG OR GET DIGGED

Op na today you know?

Men these days are lazy and gold diggers, their mission is to be completely useless in marriage, their wife go bring chop money and carry belle to bear kids that will answer papa name, all while balancing housework on her head and the only thing the lazy husband does is to go to work and come home and relax while waiting for obedience and submission from the same woman contributing to his feeding him and paying bills.

That is the world they are trying to create, a world where they do as little as possible in marriage while women work like Jackie and collapse from stress.

CHoccolaTE:
Op na today you know?

Men these days are lazy and gold diggers, their mission is to be completely useless in marriage, their wife go bring chop money and carry belle to bear kids that will answer papa name, all while balancing housework on her head and the only thing the lazy husband does is to go to work and come home and relax while waiting for obedience and submission from the same woman contributing to his feeding him and paying bills.

That is the world they are trying to create, a world where they do as little as possible in marriage while women work like Jackie and collapse from stress.

Too bad.

Pochettino:


Madam I don't understand you. Do you want them to marry liabilities?

Will u be proud and happy if your brother or son brought home a jobless girl for marriage? Tell yourself the truth. Or do u think only women have the monopoly of choosing the best?

Will u date a jobless man? Why are u even scared that a guy wants 2 know what u do 4 a living?

The problem with we women is we always want to eat our cake and have it but guys are wiser now.

That's why I got a job so no one will take me for granted. Maybe you should quit hustling on d streets and get a job so u can attract men of your dreams too.

.h

Oh really! Are they?
How many gold digging men have you met?
And how much gold did they dig?
Plus femin....nevermind I no know Watin I wan talk again

Pochettino:


No it is not. For serious minded people, it is an effective way of knowing whether it is worth the effort.

Relationships are an investment. You don't expect me to invest my time, emotions and effort in you if you have nothing reasonable doing with your life.

Gbam!!!!!

Men don't look for well to do ladies. They look for a lady that is WILLING and doing all she can to get her hands busy. Busy here means something that is financially profitable.

Nobody should be idle, it's irritating. Not attractive at allllll.

Conversation with someone that is busy is better than "Facebook, DSTV and WhatsApp" all day kind of person.

I prefer to hear "my Akara sold better than bread today, I'll make more tomorrow" story than Telenovelas.

I prefer to hear "my boss is eyeing me" than shits.

That's how bad idleness irritates, NO MATTER HOW RICH I'M.

Have a purpose, pursue an objective, have a burning desire, celebrate your highs and joke about the lows. I'll GLADLY do things you'd only WISH.

I find it easier to send urgent 2k to someone that her business is not doing well/owed salary than to someone that is just....idle.

First conversation will reveal bits of these things. She don't need to be a ready-made.

Asking bluntly "what do you do for a living" at first meet is kinda rude.

missdivineprove:
I'm not of that opinion.

You guys are learning the wrong thing and it's very annoying

What do you call 'wrong thing'?


Gone are the days women depend on a prince charming to save her from her woes and Carter for all her whims and caprices as well as save her from poverty.

As economy hard, no sane man can take a gamble of marrying a woman that can't even contribute a Kobo to family upkeep.

Besides how do you intend to be a helpmeet if you don't work or have money to his efforts?

Why do men think housewives do nothing all day but watch television?
Dont they cook, clean, keep the house in order, pay attention to their children's welfare and proper upbringing than career women that are outside all day, morning till evening and when they come home they are too tired for their family.

Why do you think housewives dont have anything to discuss except Telemundo? They can tell you how your kids are keeping up and how things are faring at home if everything is running smoothly.

Men just hate women that is why they cannot see the value in things women do, they think raising children properly and keeping a home and cleaning and cooking every single day is meaningless because women are the ones handling those chores.

They think breadwinning is the only worthwhile chore because that is a traditional chore for men.

missdivineprove:
There's nothing controversial here.
Sometimes, I wonder why the question that pop up immediately you sight a lady is ''what do you do for a living''?
When has having a job, or business become a criteria for friendship?


Is that not an act of gold digging?

you are getting it all wrong. See, querying a friend is not goldigging. Rather its getting to know her potentials and capabilities.

zedegit:


What do you call 'wrong thing'?


Gone are the days women depend on a prince charming to save her from her woes and Carter for all her whims and caprices as well as save her from poverty.

As economy hard, no sane man can take a gamble of marrying a woman that can't even contribute a Kobo to family upkeep.

Besides how do you intend to be a helpmeet if you don't work or have money to his efforts?

Is that why the only thing he look out for is what you can bring (working class)

missdivineprove:
Is that why the only thing he look out for is what you can bring (working class)

Can you marry a jobless man?

Jman06:
But a woman is meant to look for a well to do man?

Most time, women don't really have the opportunity to look for.
They only fall back on the man who claims/displayed/ shows he loves them more.
Men have more opportunities in that area.

Liposure:
you are getting it all wrong. See, querying a friend is not goldigging. Rather its getting to know her potentials and capabilities.

Since the beginning of this year, how many ladies walk up to you for the very first time maybe in the mall, bank etc and politely greet you then ask you ''where do you work''or ''what do you do for a living''? Be honest. How many?

CHoccolaTE:


Why do men think housewives do nothing all day but watch television?
Dont they cook, clean, keep the house in order, pay attention to their children's welfare and proper upbringing than career women that are outside all day, morning till evening and when they come home they are too tired for their family.

Why do you think housewives dont have anything to discuss except Telemundo? They can tell you how your kids are keeping up and how things are faring at home if everything is running smoothly.

Men just hate women that is why they cannot see the value in things women do, they think raising children properly and keeping a home and cleaning and cooking every single day is meaningless because women are the ones handling those chores.

They think breadwinning is the only worthwhile chore because that is a traditional chore for men.

Very true.

In asmuch as every adult must have a source of income to each other, consciously looking for a working class lady (a lady entering marriage with loads of responsibilities: house management, child's bearing and up bringing) is an act of gold digging.

zedegit:


Can you marry a jobless man?

Having a job is important, but do you know some women make more money legally than some men? If that's all that matters.

missdivineprove:
Having a job is important, but do you know some women make more money legally than some men? If that's all that matters.

If you can't marry a jobless man, why then should a man marry a jobless woman?

missdivineprove:
Very true.

In asmuch as every adult must have a source of income to each other, consciously looking for a working class lady (a lady entering marriage with loads of responsibilities: house management, child's bearing and up bringing) is an act of gold digging.

It is.
Majority of black men are gold diggers and very lazy that is why black race is so backward and the most disrespected race on earth. Because black men that are in charge of black nations have typical black man mentality of laziness and selfishness and wickedness.

Anyway let me not derail.

If you can't marry a jobless man, why then should a man marry a jobless woman?

It's not the same thing
In traditional African families husband has more to gain in marriage than wife, the only thing wives have to look forward to is the money their husbands provide
Husbands on the other hand gain children that belong to their families and prolong their lineage, they get a lifetime cook and cleaner and nanny for their kids, they get lifetime sex partner, if you hire someone to cook and clean and take good care of your kids for 18yrs you will spend millions and millions but women are expected to do it free after marrisge.

Men get to lead their families and rule over everyone and give orders how the home should be run.
In Nigeria sef they can cheat and sleep around freely after marriage and people will tell their wives to stick to them because it's normal for married men to cheat.

Women will suffer to carry pregnancy for 9 months and sleepiness nights after giving birth and breastfeeding for 2 yrs for every child and spend 18 plus yrs raising the kids to be up right only for kids that officially belong to her husbands family.Some women even die because of pregnancy complications all for kids that belong to someone else family.

Sex life is terrible after marriage. In a survey conducted on married women many of them said they dont get satisfaction from sex with their husbands because the men stopped caring.

Now the only thing women actually enjoy after marriage which is money provided for them is being taken away and women who wait for husbands to provide are called liabilities.

CHoccolaTE:


It's not the same thing
In traditional African families husband has more to gain in marriage than wife, the only thing wives have to look forward to is the money their husbands provide
Husbands on the other hand gain children that belong to their families and prolong their lineage, they get a lifetime cook and cleaner and nanny for their kids, they get lifetime sex partner, if you hire someone to cook and clean and take good care of your kids for 18yrs you will spend millions and millions but women are expected to do it free after marrisge.

Men get to lead their families and rule over everyone and give orders how the home should be run.
In Nigeria sef they can cheat and sleep around freely after marriage and people will tell their wives to stick to them because it's normal for married men to cheat.

Women will suffer to carry pregnancy for 9 months and sleepiness nights after giving birth and breastfeeding for 2 yrs for every child and spend 18 plus yrs raising the kids to be up right only for kids that officially belong to her husbands family.Some women even die because of pregnancy complications all for kids that belong to someone else family.

Sex life is terrible after marriage. In a survey conducted on married women many of them said they dont get satisfaction from sex with their husbands because the men stopped caring.

Now the only thing women actually enjoy after marriage which is money provided for them is being taken away and women who wait for husbands to provide are called liabilities.

Too bad

It means if the woman did not find love and happiness in that marriage, she gain nothing.

CHoccolaTE:


It's not the same thing
In traditional African families husband has more to gain in marriage than wife, the only thing wives have to look forward to is the money their husbands provide
Husbands on the other hand gain children that belong to their families and prolong their lineage, they get a lifetime cook and cleaner and nanny for their kids, they get lifetime sex partner, if you hire someone to cook and clean and take good care of your kids for 18yrs you will spend millions and millions but women are expected to do it free after marrisge.

Men get to lead their families and rule over everyone and give orders how the home should be run.
In Nigeria sef they can cheat and sleep around freely after marriage and people will tell their wives to stick to them because it's normal for married men to cheat.

Women will suffer to carry pregnancy for 9 months and sleepiness nights after giving birth and breastfeeding for 2 yrs for every child and spend 18 plus yrs raising the kids to be up right only for kids that officially belong to her husbands family.Some women even die because of pregnancy complications all for kids that belong to someone else family.

Sex life is terrible after marriage. In a survey conducted on married women many of them said they dont get satisfaction from sex with their husbands because the men stopped caring.

Now the only thing women actually enjoy after marriage which is money provided for them is being taken away and women who wait for husbands to provide are called liabilities.

What is this? really?
Listen, Women have everything to gain in marriage, while men have little to non!

Husbands on the other hand gain children that belong to their families and prolong their lineage, they get a lifetime cook and cleaner and nanny for their kids, they get lifetime sex partner, if you hire someone to cook and clean and take good care of your kids for 18yrs you will spend millions and millions but women are expected to do it free after marrisge.

What are you saying exactly? Husband gain children? really? how? when in reality, women are more interested in giving birth. And no one is putting a gun to your head to give birth, there women who don't change their surname nor want kids, This is 2021, not 1920 lady! prolong lineage? smh, when men of these days don't care about a child's gender and moreover the children oftentimes end up loving and caring for their mother more, so who exactly is "gaining"?
Lifetime cook and cleaner? again this is the 21st century, cooking and cleaner is practically nothing, anyone can cook, In fact I cook better than most ladies and it not even a big deal, cooking is a survival skill for everyone. Chefs and live-in help abound everywhere now. So cooking and cleaning has stopped been a big deal since, Are you expecting a woman to be paid for taking care of her own kids?? I really don't understand this argument.

Men get to lead their families and rule over everyone and give orders how the home should be run.
In Nigeria sef they can cheat and sleep around freely after marriage and people will tell their wives to stick to them because it's normal for married men to cheat.

Marriage is a partnership not some military rule or dictatorship, if you end up with a dictator for a husband then blame yourself.And a lot of married ladies suck up to their cheating husbands due to financial incapabilites meaning they don't have a choice. A person knowing you don't have a choice and no other means of taking caring of yourself without them empowers them. With your money, you can always to divorce a philandering husband.

Women will suffer to carry a pregnancy for 9 months and sleepiness nights after giving birth and breastfeeding for 2 yrs for every child and spend 18 plus yrs raising the kids to be up right only for kids that officially belong to her husbands family.Some women even die because of pregnancy complications all for kids that belong to someone else family.

You can't blame men for this, this is nature, You can always decide to remain single and not pregnant. Men once upon a time were ok with taking responsibility for their family 100%, then you women started the feminism movement (treated the same way as men) now y'all are getting the treatment you have been clamoring for then again when it comes to responsibilities you want to take a pause on the feminism all of a sudden?

Sex life is terrible after marriage. In a survey conducted on married women, many of them said they don' get satisfaction from sex with their husbands because the men stopped caring.

Now the only thing women actually enjoy after marriage which is money provided for them is being taken away and women who wait for husbands to provide are called liabilities.

Sex life getting terrible can't be blamed solely on the man When some women gt married and they turn themselves to something else, getting so dirty, unkempt, wearing adieu papa shirt everywhere in the house, etc see Men are moved by sight, and when the sight is different from what you got married to, this slowly affects the sex life. If your husband is not satisfying you then you have the right to talk about it and find a solution together, a lot of married people only have sex for procreation.

If the only thing you enjoy in your marriage is the money then you are nothing but a gold digger, you don't enjoy the company, the love, the laughter, and other things that come with been married.

Finally, in today's world, most men still provide up to 80% of the family responsibilities. Do you know why men have lower life expectancy compared to women? it's pressure and responsibilities.
They are more male Mechanics
They are more Male in jail
They are more male in the most strenuous of jobs
Between both genders, women are likely to be more likely favored, job-wise and otherwise.
Men have been marrying jobless women from time immemorial, with no complaints whatsoever, Men are waking up and requesting and little help now the whole world must hear it? How many of y'all will even look at a jobless guy twice??

mrjojo:


What is this? really?
Listen, Women have everything to gain in marriage, while men have little to non!

Husbands on the other hand gain children that belong to their families and prolong their lineage, they get a lifetime cook and cleaner and nanny for their kids, they get lifetime sex partner, if you hire someone to cook and clean and take good care of your kids for 18yrs you will spend millions and millions but women are expected to do it free after marrisge.

What are you saying exactly? Husband gain children? really? how? when in reality, women are more interested in giving birth. And no one is putting a gun to your head to give birth, there women who don't change their surname nor want kids, This is 2021, not 1920 lady! prolong lineage? smh, when men of these days don't care about a child's gender and moreover the children oftentimes end up loving and caring for their mother more, so who exactly is "gaining"?
Lifetime cook and cleaner? again this is the 21st century, cooking and cleaner is practically nothing, anyone can cook, In fact I cook better than most ladies and it not even a big deal, cooking is a survival skill for everyone. Chefs and live-in help abound everywhere now. So cooking and cleaning has stopped been a big deal since, Are you expecting a woman to be paid for taking care of her own kids?? I really don't understand this argument.

Men get to lead their families and rule over everyone and give orders how the home should be run.
In Nigeria sef they can cheat and sleep around freely after marriage and people will tell their wives to stick to them because it's normal for married men to cheat.

Marriage is a partnership not some military rule or dictatorship, if you end up with a dictator for a husband then blame yourself.And a lot of married ladies suck up to their cheating husbands due to financial incapabilites meaning they don't have a choice. A person knowing you don't have a choice and no other means of taking caring of yourself without them empowers them. With your money, you can always to divorce a philandering husband.

Women will suffer to carry a pregnancy for 9 months and sleepiness nights after giving birth and breastfeeding for 2 yrs for every child and spend 18 plus yrs raising the kids to be up right only for kids that officially belong to her husbands family.Some women even die because of pregnancy complications all for kids that belong to someone else family.

You can't blame men for this, this is nature, You can always decide to remain single and not pregnant. Men once upon a time were ok with taking responsibility for their family 100%, then you women started the feminism movement (treated the same way as men) now y'all are getting the treatment you have been clamoring for then again when it comes to responsibilities you want to take a pause on the feminism all of a sudden?

Sex life is terrible after marriage. In a survey conducted on married women, many of them said they don' get satisfaction from sex with their husbands because the men stopped caring.

Now the only thing women actually enjoy after marriage which is money provided for them is being taken away and women who wait for husbands to provide are called liabilities.

Sex life getting terrible can't be blamed solely on the man When some women gt married and they turn themselves to something else, getting so dirty, unkempt, wearing adieu papa shirt everywhere in the house, etc see Men are moved by sight, and when the sight is different from what you got married to, this slowly affects the sex life. If your husband is not satisfying you then you have the right to talk about it and find a solution together, a lot of married people only have sex for procreation.

If the only thing you enjoy in your marriage is the money then you are nothing but a gold digger, you don't enjoy the company, the love, the laughter, and other things that come with been married.

Finally, in today's world, most men still provide up to 80% of the family responsibilities. Do you know why men have lower life expectancy compared to women? it's pressure and responsibilities.
They are more male Mechanics
They are more Male in jail
They are more male in the most strenuous of jobs
Between both genders, women are likely to be more likely favored, job-wise and otherwise.
Men have been marrying jobless women from time immemorial, with no complaints whatsoever, [b]Men are waking up and requesting and little help now the whole world must hear it? [/b]How many of y'all will even look at a jobless guy twice??

Waking up? In the real sense, women already have lots to offer in marriage. So, I see no reason why a man should be expecting too much responsibilities from her.


Anyway, your points are well explained.

missdivineprove:
Waking up? In the real sense, women already have lots to offer in marriage. So, I see no reason why a man should be expecting too much responsibilities from her.


Anyway, your points are well explained.

Which point did he explain well?

Make I reach house first I go settle down answer that man I dey inside uber

Just look at the lies men tell themselves that they get nothing from marriage and women get everything? In this africa?

And these are the so called logical gender ooo

CHoccolaTE:


Why do men think housewives do nothing all day but watch television?
Dont they cook, clean, keep the house in order, pay attention to their children's welfare and proper upbringing than career women that are outside all day, morning till evening and when they come home they are too tired for their family.

Why do you think housewives dont have anything to discuss except Telemundo? They can tell you how your kids are keeping up and how things are faring at home if everything is running smoothly.

Men just hate women that is why they cannot see the value in things women do, they think raising children properly and keeping a home and cleaning and cooking every single day is meaningless because women are the ones handling those chores.

They think breadwinning is the only worthwhile chore because that is a traditional chore for men.

True!

If tables were turned, these same men will nearly die!!! Just leave these same men with the house chores they call nothing, let them cook, clean, wash clothes, while backing a crying child at the same time, breastfeeding another and still expected to bath the kids, change diapers cook, and still give mind blowing sex at night!!
Then you'll quickly realize that many of them are not just lazy, but are also damn fragile!

Half of the crap they dish out to women, they can't take!

Now imagine all of these in a working mom, who'll also go to work since morning, and pulls her weight whilst also bringing cash to the table, yet will still get home at night and enter the kitchen, care for kids, homework etc!

So what exactly is the man bringing to the table, seeing as a working mom is also making money and sometimes even more than the man??

Truth is, marriage pays men more than women! Especially in Africa!! The only people who will argue this are those yet to marry!

CHoccolaTE:


It is.
Majority of black men are gold diggers and very lazy that is why black race is so backward and the most disrespected race on earth. Because black men that are in charge of black nations have typical black man mentality of laziness and selfishness and wickedness.

Anyway let me not derail.

No race is superior or inferior.

missdivineprove:
Waking up? In the real sense, women already have lots to offer in marriage. So, I see no reason why a man should be expecting too much responsibilities from her.


Anyway, your points are well explained.

Being in love with someone/being sexually attracted to someone doesn't mean you should marry the person or have children with the person.
I think the physical health and financial status of anyone in any relationship remains equally relevant.
So,if you and your partner can't be of benefit to each other,then you guys shouldn't be in whatever relationship.
Thou shall not be a good/helpful girl/woman towards a selfish or/and wicked boy/man and vice-versa.

zedegit:


If you can't marry a jobless man, why then should a man marry a jobless woman?

They are hypocritical and selfish being.

CHoccolaTE:


Which point did he explain well?

Make I reach house first I go settle down answer that man I dey inside uber

Just look at the lies men tell themselves that they get nothing from marriage and women get everything? In this africa?

And these are the so called logical gender ooo

Following your responses, I see you hate the male gender probably due to your childhood misfortune or a past experience of some kind. It's toxic. Try not to get married. And you've not met up to 2 percentage of the men in Africa.
Bless you.

You have a valid question OP. Many who come from home where their father was solely responsible saw how it didn't worke out well.

And again, guys don't go around asking ladies what they do for a living. Because one guy did it doesn't make it a fact.

Pray for a good husband and please don't be a liability!