NewStats: 3,262,885 , 8,178,459 topics. Date: Tuesday, 03 June 2025 at 10:38 PM x5657

Met this girl early November 2019 , we were both serving corp , we actually flowed along, talking late into the night and so on. After the festive period 2019 December we came back to our PPA and we started dating, I found out she was a virgin. I was asurprised cus I never expected a graduate to still keep her virginity till nysc, we kept on dating tho , along the line I ed out of service and went back home (p.s I reside in lagos and shes from ilorin). The distance was giving me a lot of issues so we broke up around April 2020
Fast forward to October last year, I came back to delta state( that's where I served ) and she was almost done with her service, so things took off from there , I begged her back and we started dating once more, even tho she had a new guy she was dating ( based in ilorin also)she said she never stopped loving me and I also discovered she was still a virgin after that long period of time I left her.
We talked about everything and she said she was willing to leave the guy , and also allow me take her virginity, she went back home after her service that October, with the plan of coming back November so we could build a future together. She was also ready to give me her virginity cus we talked allot about sex even while she was away ( she was ready right from the first time we broke up ) but me going back home after my service change a lot of things .
She came back from ilorin December and we started living together, she does a lot of things , all house chores and cook also , I also assist her , especially in cooking because I also love cooking and like preparing my dishes.
We kept on postponing the time we were gon have sex, like I wanted it to be her decision , never wanted to force her. One month ed she wasn't still ready, Only for her to tell me that there's something attached to her virginity, that anyone that disvirgin her would be the person to marry her , that I have to go see her parents first before I can take her virginity. That really got me pissed off cus she knows I'm very sexually active and got a high libido, but I'm this kinda guy that sticks to one person, as far as I am getting all my needs from her......what pissed me off was the fact that she came over from ilorin to delta state knowing we weren't going to have sex and she never told me all that on phone ( probably I would have had a rethink about her coming back)
I'm 24 and shes 22 , the issue now is that tho I'm okay and I have a online job I'm doing that fetches me money atleast for upkeep and also to spare cus I live in a comfortable self con apartment with every thing I need in it..., But Ive not yet gather enough money to be able to get married, cus I don't want to bring a child into this world to suffer , so I made up my mind to be very comfortable with atleast 10 to 15million in my before I can be able to get married so I can give my children what they need.
Now she has been staying with me up to two months now without sex ,cus I don't want to cheat on her and she's not even ready to offer the sex . I'm getting frustrated everyday with her attitude and I'm also planning of sending her back to ilorin so we can just be dating distantly till we are ready to get married and I can be free to be with any one I want to over here , cus I've got a lot of girls over here ready to be with me but I pushed all of them away cus of her , now she's no ready to give me the one thing lacking in our relationship
I don't believe in relationship without sex, cus if I'm keeping her here to get married and she ends up jilting me I'll be the one at loss....and I don't want that ...
I don't know what to do and I really want to know if sending her back to ilorin is the best option so we can date distantly, cus I really don't think if I can cope with lack of sex and I can't be with someone else cus she stays at my place
Please I need your matured advice with no insults please

P.S she's a very good girl and from a good family, and I'm also a good guy from a good family and I also wouldn't like to loss her , but my libido is telling on me

Den wait for her

ask stacyOn to get you a sexometer!
it can save your life. from advantages and disadvantages

You've not saved up enough money to get married and have children yet you want to have sex with her?

You sound very selfish, you only want to satisfy your urge but isn't ready for the responsibilities associated with your actions.

Leave that girl alone until you're financially ready to settle down then go and see her parents.

Thinee:
Met this girl early November 2019 , we were both serving corp , we actually flowed along, talking late into the night and so on. After the festive period 2019 December we came back to our PPA and we started dating, I found out she was a virgin. I was asurprised cus I never expected a graduate to still keep her virginity till nysc, we kept on dating tho , along the line I ed out of service and went back home (p.s I reside in lagos and shes from ilorin). The distance was giving me a lot of issues so we broke up around April 2020
Fast forward to October last year, I came back to delta state( that's where I served ) and she was almost done with her service, so things took off from there , I begged her back and we started dating once more, even tho she had a new guy she was dating ( based in ilorin also)she said she never stopped loving me and I also discovered she was still a virgin after that long period of time I left her.
We talked about everything and she said she was willing to leave the guy , and also allow me take her virginity, she went back home after her service that October, with the plan of coming back November so we could build a future together. She was also ready to give me her virginity cus we talked allot about sex even while she was away ( she was ready right from the first time we broke up ) but me going back home after my service change a lot of things .
She came back from ilorin December and we started living together, she does a lot of things , all house chores and cook also , I also assist her , especially in cooking because I also love cooking and like preparing my dishes.
We kept on postponing the time we were gon have sex, like I wanted it to be her decision , never wanted to force her. One month ed she wasn't still ready, Only for her to tell me that there's something attached to her virginity, that anyone that disvirgin her would be the person to marry her , that I have to go see her parents first before I can take her virginity. That really got me pissed off cus she knows I'm very sexually active and got a high libido, but I'm this kinda guy that sticks to one person, as far as I am getting all my needs from her......what pissed me off was the fact that she came over from ilorin to delta state knowing we weren't going to have sex and she never told me all that on phone ( probably I would have had a rethink about her coming back)
I'm 24 and shes 22 , the issue now is that tho I'm okay and I have a online job I'm doing that fetches me money atleast for upkeep and also to spare cus I live in a comfortable self con apartment with every thing I need in it..., But Ive not yet gather enough money to be able to get married, cus I don't want to bring a child into this world to suffer , so I made up my mind to be very comfortable with atleast 10 to 15million in my before I can be able to get married so I can give my children what they need.
Now she has been staying with me up to two months now without sex ,cus I don't want to cheat on her and she's not even ready to offer the sex . I'm getting frustrated everyday with her attitude and I'm also planning of sending her back to ilorin so we can just be dating distantly till we are ready to get married and I can be free to be with any one I want to over here , cus I've got a lot of girls over here ready to be with me but I pushed all of them away cus of her , now she's no ready to give me the one thing lacking in our relationship
I don't believe in relationship without sex, cus if I'm keeping her here to get married and she ends up jilting me I'll be the one at loss....and I don't want that ...
I don't know what to do and I really want to know if sending her back to ilorin is the best option so we can date distantly, cus I really don't think if I can cope with lack of sex and I can't be with someone else cus she stays at my place
Please I need your matured advice with no insults please

P.S she's a very good girl and from a good family, and I'm also a good guy from a good family and I also wouldn't like to loss her , but my libido is telling on me

congrats

hmm

Then marry her. She doesn't want sex before marriage. She came to you in Delta so you two can work on the relationship no to come fornicate with you. You claim to love her and would love to marry her and you are stable to some extent now, you two are already living together just like you two would be after marriage, so it's not as if marriage is more diff than that except few external interference after. You can marry her now and plan your child birthing. It's not a must you start giving birth immediately after marriage, you can wait for when u two will be ready.

And if you no wan marry am then now then go sati yaself for outside then o.

fati2001:



congrats

Why

Kapeter:
Then marry her. She doesn't want sex before marriage. She came to you in Delta so you two can work on the relationship no to come fornicate with you.

Both we are working on the relationship also, but I also need sex that's the issue...I've always been sexually active and she knows all this, so why come when she knows she won't be able to satisfy me also, the truth is that we engage in almost everything apart from penetration, I've also made her achieve orgasm severally with penetration...but I can't keep satisfy her when she doesn't do same to me

Oga..you are not ready
You cant even marry her. You will marry in like 8yrs by which time she will be 30 and old cargo for you.

You guys will still.break up soon, and another guy will disvirgin her. No cap.

Fvck her now, and prepare your mind for the break up when it comes. The person shes gon marry is already in his 30's now, probably working with MTN or Dangote.

Know this and know peace

Nazgul:
You've not saved up enough money to get married and have children yet you want to have sex with her?

You sound very selfish, you only want to satisfy your urge but isn't ready for the responsibilities associated with your actions.

Leave that girl alone until you're financially ready to settle down then go and see her parents.

I'm not a selfish person , and I also consider a lot of stuffs also, the issue now is that what if while waiting for her she jilt me and end up with someone else ...and I'm also ready for the responsibilities , just that marriage is not yet in my agenda now, not cus I'm promiscuous but cus I'm not ready to let a child suffer ...we could also have sex without her getting pregnant

Thinee:


I'm not a selfish person , and I also consider a lot of stuffs also, the issue now is that what if while waiting for her she jilt me and end up with someone else ...and I'm also ready for the responsibilities , just that marriage is not yet in my agenda now, not cus I'm promiscuous but cus I'm not ready to let a child suffer ...we could also have sex without her getting pregnant

bush!
if you want to marry then marry
if you no ready shift comot for road.
leave her for the man who is ready to marry her


if na Bleep you want to Bleep
go find olosho

coming2america:
Oga..you are not ready
You cant even marry her. You will marry in like 8yrs by which time she will be 30 and old cargo for you.

You guys will still.break up soon, and another guy will disvirgin her. No cap.

Fvck her now, and prepare your mind for the break up when it comes. The person shes gon marry is already in his 30's now, probably working with MTN or Dangote.

Know this and know peace

I understand your point also friend, but I see everything I want in a wife in her ,just that I'm not ready for marriage, and that's why I'm also trying to have sex with her cus I don't know what might happen tomorrow, she could break up with me and the next guy she meets she gives him her virginity immediately....and I don't want that

Thinee:
Met this girl early November 2019 , we were both serving corp , we actually flowed along, talking late into the night and so on. After the festive period 2019 December we came back to our PPA and we started dating, I found out she was a virgin. I was asurprised cus I never expected a graduate to still keep her virginity till nysc, we kept on dating tho , along the line I ed out of service and went back home (p.s I reside in lagos and shes from ilorin). The distance was giving me a lot of issues so we broke up around April 2020
Fast forward to October last year, I came back to delta state( that's where I served ) and she was almost done with her service, so things took off from there , I begged her back and we started dating once more, even tho she had a new guy she was dating ( based in ilorin also)she said she never stopped loving me and I also discovered she was still a virgin after that long period of time I left her.
We talked about everything and she said she was willing to leave the guy , and also allow me take her virginity, she went back home after her service that October, with the plan of coming back November so we could build a future together. She was also ready to give me her virginity cus we talked allot about sex even while she was away ( she was ready right from the first time we broke up ) but me going back home after my service change a lot of things .
She came back from ilorin December and we started living together, she does a lot of things , all house chores and cook also , I also assist her , especially in cooking because I also love cooking and like preparing my dishes.
We kept on postponing the time we were gon have sex, like I wanted it to be her decision , never wanted to force her. One month ed she wasn't still ready, Only for her to tell me that there's something attached to her virginity, that anyone that disvirgin her would be the person to marry her , that I have to go see her parents first before I can take her virginity. That really got me pissed off cus she knows I'm very sexually active and got a high libido, but I'm this kinda guy that sticks to one person, as far as I am getting all my needs from her......what pissed me off was the fact that she came over from ilorin to delta state knowing we weren't going to have sex and she never told me all that on phone ( probably I would have had a rethink about her coming back)
I'm 24 and shes 22 , the issue now is that tho I'm okay and I have a online job I'm doing that fetches me money atleast for upkeep and also to spare cus I live in a comfortable self con apartment with every thing I need in it..., But Ive not yet gather enough money to be able to get married, cus I don't want to bring a child into this world to suffer , so I made up my mind to be very comfortable with atleast 10 to 15million in my before I can be able to get married so I can give my children what they need.
Now she has been staying with me up to two months now without sex ,cus I don't want to cheat on her and she's not even ready to offer the sex . I'm getting frustrated everyday with her attitude and I'm also planning of sending her back to ilorin so we can just be dating distantly till we are ready to get married and I can be free to be with any one I want to over here , cus I've got a lot of girls over here ready to be with me but I pushed all of them away cus of her , now she's no ready to give me the one thing lacking in our relationship
I don't believe in relationship without sex, cus if I'm keeping her here to get married and she ends up jilting me I'll be the one at loss....and I don't want that ...
I don't know what to do and I really want to know if sending her back to ilorin is the best option so we can date distantly, cus I really don't think if I can cope with lack of sex and I can't be with someone else cus she stays at my place
Please I need your matured advice with no insults please

P.S she's a very good girl and from a good family, and I'm also a good guy from a good family and I also wouldn't like to loss her , but my libido is telling on me

You are a fool . Just see how a girl is playing mind games on you, all in the name of sex. Believe she is a Virgin at your own risk. Dude smash that girl and allow things flow naturally if you can't dump her manipulative ass if you can.

Kapeter:
Then marry her. She doesn't want sex before marriage. She came to you in Delta so you two can work on the relationship no to come fornicate with you. You claim to love her and would love to marry her and you are stable to some extent now, you two are already living together just like you two would be after marriage, so it's not as if marriage is more diff than that except few external interference after. You can marry her now and plan your child birthing. It's not a must you start giving birth immediately after marriage, you can wait for when u two will be ready.

And if you no wan marry am then now then go sati yaself for outside then o.

Yea we could also get married now, but it will still cause a lot even for a very simple marriage , and I've not still gather enough for that....I'm not sure her parents would want a struggling guy

Nazgul:
You've not saved up enough money to get married and have children yet you want to have sex with her?

You sound very selfish, you only want to satisfy your urge but isn't ready for the responsibilities associated with your actions.

Leave that girl alone until you're financially ready to settle down then go and see her parents.

What happened to protection and contraceptives? Last time i checked this things are available and easy to get.

Don't be surprised this so-called virgin had rode numerous dicks of varying sizes .

themaestro08:


You are a fool . Just see how a girl is playing mind games on you, all in the name of sex. Believe she is a Virgin at your own risk. Dude smash that girl and allow things flow naturally if you can't dump her manipulative ass if you can.

No insult please , bro no girl can tell me shes a virgin without me confirming....we have tried multiple times and penetration ain't even easy cus I'm big, especially when we re in really deep romance

In excess, what I'm trying to say is that...I've seen and confirmed she's a virgin, even when I spoke to the former guy she was dating he told me same thing

Thinee:


Yea we could also get married now, but it will still cause a lot even for a very simple marriage , and I've not still gather enough for that....I'm not sure her parents would want a struggling guy

Everyone strugles at a point in time. You both are educated so you two have something(Certificate) to be everything.

themaestro08:


What happened to protection and contraceptives? Last time i checked this things are available and easy to get.

Don't be surprised this so-called virgin had rode numerous dicks of varying sizes .

I'm a street guy tho educated, cus I grew up in the hood (okokomaiko to be precised).... So no girl can play me that way , by telling me she's a virgin without me confirming her virginity., Even my fingers find it hard entering her and I've never even put my fingers in her fully cus she's fucking tight and feels a lot of pain

themaestro08:


What happened to protection and contraceptives? Last time i checked this things are available and easy to get.

Don't be surprised this so-called virgin had rode numerous dicks of varying sizes .

condoms can break

and sometimes all these family planning can disappoint

baralatie:

bush!
if you want to marry then marry
if you no ready shift comot for road.
leave her for the man who is ready to marry her


if na Bleep you want to Bleep
go find olosho

Okay thanks, I've also told her that if she sees someone else ready to get married she should move on, will send her back home, we can still date distantly

Thinee:


I'm not a selfish person , and I also consider a lot of stuffs also, the issue now is that what if while waiting for her she jilt me and end up with someone else ...and I'm also ready for the responsibilities , just that marriage is not yet in my agenda now, not cus I'm promiscuous but cus I'm not ready to let a child suffer ...we could also have sex without her getting pregnant

Read what you just wrote...you're not ready for the responsibilities yet you want to disvirgin her. She has told you she isn't ready but nevertheless you still want to do it. Isn't that selfishness?

Disvirgining her will only be beneficial to you since she isn't ready and you aren't ready to bear the consequences of whatever comes after it. That's selfishness.

And you claiming not to get her pregnant is just laughable cos there's no way a girl will live with you and you'll keep using protection every time you both have sex. Protection works when she's visiting not when you both are staying together, how long will you keep buying condoms before you damn the consequences and start diving in raw, most especially when it's the middle of the night and you've run out of stock? And you've already acknowledged here that you've got a very high libido.

Like I said, respect her decision and let her be. For her to to graduate from the University as a virgin means she's decent, I don't know how else you want her to prove it to you. So stop pestering her everyday for sex, or you'll give her the impression that her virginity is the only thing you care about and leave you for good.

Whenever you're financially ready, you can go and see her parents. That's what responsible men do when they meet decent girls.

Thinee:


I'm a street guy tho educated, cus I grew up in the hood (okokomaiko to be precised).... So no girl can play me that way , by telling me she's a virgin without me confirming her virginity., Even my fingers find it hard entering her and I've never even put my fingers in her fully cus she's fucking tight and feels a lot of pain

You still dey learn work . That she is tight doesn't mean she is a Virgin, in fact, there is ample evidence to debunked that myth. Morever,Promiscuity has little to do with "loose vagina", age and childbirth do.

You better play your cards well and smash that pussy.

Kapeter:
Everyone strugles at a point in time. You both are educated so you two have something(Certificate) to be everything.

I've actually never thought of settling down while still struggling, maybe cus I've got really big ambitions, I've always thought my settling down will be when I've All basic things of life including a fat

Let the girl go. How selfish can you be! The sex is the only reason you still value her, after you've had your way, you're most likely to dump her in 4 months.

Let the girl be and let someone serious come for her while you should focus on establishing yourself. She isn't the only lady that decent. There are better ladies to come than the ones you've dropped behind.

themaestro08:


What happened to protection and contraceptives? Last time i checked this things are available and easy to get.

Don't be surprised this so-called virgin had rode numerous dicks of varying sizes .

Leave contraceptives, only a naiev girl will take that rubbish. Cos constant taking of it can damage the womb leading to barrenness.

If you look carefully on drugs like "Azurette" which is a very strong contraceptive pill you'll see where it's written clearly to be taken not more than once or twice in a month, a situation where he's constantly releasing inside her and she's constantly taking it, and her womb damages will he still marry her?

Let's not be selfish with our advices please, these are people's children you're trying to ruin and it's very bad.

I can't read that thing you wrote up there. No paragraphs, damn my eyes.

Nazgul:

Read what you just wrote...you're not ready for the responsibilities yet you want to disvirgin her. She has told you she isn't ready but nevertheless you still want to do it. Isn't that selfishness?

Disvirgining her will only be beneficial to you since she isn't ready and you aren't ready to bear the consequences of whatever comes after it. That's selfishness.

And you claiming not to get her pregnant is just laughable cos there's no way a girl will live with you and you'll keep using protection every time you both have sex. Protection works when she's visiting not when you both are staying together, how long will you keep buying condoms before you damn the consequences and start diving in raw, most especially when it's the middle of the night and you've run out of stock? And you've already acknowledged here that you've got a very high libido.

Like I said, respect her decision and let her be. For her to to graduate from the University as a virgin means she's decent, I don't know how else you want her to prove it to you. So stop pestering her everyday for sex, or you'll give her the impression that her virginity is the only thing you care about and leave you for good.

Whenever you're financially ready, you can go and see her parents. That's what responsible men do when they meet decent girls.

If while having sex she gets pregnant, then good luck and goodness also , but I'm not even talking of condoms, I dated a girl for 2years + while growing up, I don't think we used condoms more than 5 times in a period of 2 years , she has a very high libido more than me, she never got pregnant until at the end of our relationship and she decided to terminate it herself even tho I wanted her to keep it.......I told her twas her decision and I was ready for whatever she thought was right

What I'm saying is that we could have sex without her getting pregnant, I'm almost perfect at withdrawing and I despise condoms that's why I don't have random sex just one person is enough for me..

You ain't thinking to her own end , what if she ends up with someone else after I've waited for her or she ends up sleeping with someone else ?? Or leaving me what will I do, knowing I didn't have sex with her and she left for another person

Thinee:


No insult please , bro no girl can tell me shes a virgin without me confirming....we have tried multiple times and penetration ain't even easy cus I'm big, especially when we re in really deep romance

In excess, what I'm trying to say is that...I've seen and confirmed she's a virgin, even when I spoke to the former guy she was dating he told me same thing

Understand this: A tight vagina doesn't mean a girl is a Virgin, or less promiscuous, to believe this is naïvity and ignorance.

Some sluts are tight down there despite their promiscuity, it all boils down to body difference.

The earlier you know this the better for you

Thinee:


I understand your point also friend, but I see everything I want in a wife in her ,just that I'm not ready for marriage, and that's why I'm also trying to have sex with her cus I don't know what might happen tomorrow, she could break up with me and the next guy she meets she gives him her virginity immediately....and I don't want that

You sound confused and mad here.

You really want to take the virginity by all means without marriage.

Are you nuts or what?

Gerrrrrarahia

The5DME:
I can't read that thing you wrote up there. No paragraphs, damn my eyes.

I'm not sure you read anything cus there are more than.5 paragraphs there
I don't understand what else you mean by paragraphs

Thinee:


If while having sex she gets pregnant, then good luck and goodness also , but I'm not even talking of condoms, I dated a girl for 2years + while growing up, I don't think we used condoms more than 5 times in a period of 2 years , she has a very high libido more than me, she never got pregnant until at the end of our relationship and she decided to terminate it herself even tho I wanted her to keep it.......I told her twas her decision and I was ready for whatever she thought was right

What I'm saying is that we could have sex without her getting pregnant, I'm almost perfect at withdrawing and I despise condoms that's why I don't have random sex just one person is enough for me..

You ain't thinking to her own end , what if she ends up with someone else after I've waited for her or she ends up sleeping with someone else ?? Or leaving me what will I do, knowing I didn't have sex with her and she left for another person

you just won k'oba omolomo