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My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin.
To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing.
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

Women!!! U can't satisfy them.

i guess you're seeking for insults from us

Check yourself well are you normal?

AdesewaAde:

My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin.
To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing.
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

That man is very foolish for using you as next of kin when he hasn't wedded you.

No sensible man would use a fish brain as next of kin!

The only wrong thing he did is using you as next of kin,


spend on you kor

use your money and start ur business,

unsatisfied philistine tueh

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booscy:
HushAunty


You’re Greedy Greedier Greediest

I Gbadun ur comment the way Oyinbo dey take gbadun Cigar

HushAunty

Greed won’t let you enjoy your money and comot eye from another person money.

You still Dey find him own on top your own.

Next of kin wey him use you do na mistake because as your eye Dey red so you fit kpai d Broda sef claim him sweat

You’re Greedy Greedier Greediest

AdesewaAde:

My fiancé and I have been dating for over two years now, when it comes to financial aspects he is transparent,he do carry me along,whenever he is expecting any money he do tell me about it and we will both plan on what he wants to use the money for but the truth is he won’t include me in his budget though he do foot my petty bills (hairmaking and pedicure)at first I don’t see big deal in it cause I’m also working and he has never for once asked how I do spend my salary ,recently I was cleaning the house and I saw his documents,I decided to check everything ,to my greatest surprise he used my name as his next of kin.
To cut my long story short,he called me last week that he got some money and we should plan on it as usual,that was when I told him to help me with some money to add with my savings to set up a business,he stylishly turned the request down ,I repeated again after a week and he did the same thing.
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

Op I hope this is a joke

The gender (woman) is the definition of problem.

Mad insatiable woman.

Any problem with that?

flyingpig:
That man is very foolish for using you as next of kin when he hasn't wedded you.

Nope
It isn’t a joke

JOACHINpedro:
Op I hope this is a joke

I’m not greedy,but don’t you know spending your man’s money is always more sweeter?

booscy:
HushAunty

Greed won’t let you enjoy your money and comot eye from another person money.

You still Dey find him own on top your own.

Next of kin wey him use you do na mistake because as your eye Dey red so you fit kpai d Broda sef claim him sweat

You’re Greedy Greedier Greediest

AdesewaAde:
I’m not greedy,but don’t you know spending your man’s money is always more sweeter?

you are a clown

"next of kin"...the baba wey do am for u,do am well.

AdesewaAde:
Any problem with that?

so if anything happen to am now you don claim all em wealth , carry go marry another man
He no get brother or sister or mother? This is akin to making your girlfriend your next of kin. Well his decision. Explain to him the importance of why you need that money, may be he needs real convincing of the utmost importance of that venture.

In the end, my father will always advise us and say, nke gi bu nke gi, nke anyi bu nke anyi.

Meaning "what is yours is yours, what is ours is ours". In otherwords, your fiance money is his, and the money you guys make tly, is you guys own. Stop having entitled mentality for what you didn't labour with him ( if he refuses to give ). Stop having entitled mentality for what is not yours or what you didn't labour with him for. I'm sure he had plans for the money when he was labouring for it.

donbachi:
"next of kin"...the baba wey do am for u,do am well.

Make my gf next of kin I dey craze? if anything happen to me he go cart the wealth go marry another man.

flyingpig:
so if anything happen to am now you don claim all em wealth , carry go marry another man
He no get brother or sister or mother? This is akin to making your girlfriend your next of kin. Well his decision. Explain to him the importance of why you need that money, may be he needs real convincing of the utmost importance of that venture.

In the end, my father will always advise and say, nke gi bu nke gi, nke anyi bu nke anyi.

Meaning "what is yours is yours, what is ours is ours". Stop having entitled mentality for what you didn't labour with him ( if he refuses to give ). Stop having entitled mentality for what is not yours. I'm sure he had plans for the money when he was labouring for it.

I pray he never die young cause I love him.
Thanks so much for the advice,I really appreciate

AdesewaAde:
I pray he never die young cause I love him.
Thanks so much for the advice,I really appreciate

so what have you learnt? let's be sure

Are you really expecting readers to use rude words on you or should I mind my business?

flyingpig:

This your moniker just dey make me laugh
What inspired you to use this kind name?
Where did you buy the Weed?

donbachi:
"next of kin"...the baba wey do am for u,do am well.

No Baba did anything for me,what I guess that made him did that was that I’m always the one who do run some things for him cause he is always busy,for example all the accessories in his house has my signature,he only transferred money in my to set the house up

AdesewaAde:
Nope
It isn’t a joke

flyingpig:
so what have you learnt? let's be sure

Loll

chatinent:
Are you really expecting readers to use rude words on you or should I mind my business?

Go ahead,you may actually want to tell me a bitter truth

Zabiboy:
This your moniker just dey make me laugh What inspired you to use this kind name? Where did you buy the Weed?

I wonder oh.

You don't spend on him yourself.
So why should he spend on you??

Don't be an entitled leech.
It's his money. And you should be okay how he decides to spend it. You are not married to him.

AdesewaAde:

My fiancé and I have been...
What I don’t understand now is that am I not worth investing on or he is using that to test me?
Please help a sister.

The fact that the guy was foolish enough to use you as his next-of-kin despite not been married to you yet means he wants you in his life.

The major issue here is that it appears you're a very greedy person!

He is not your father and does not owe you any obligation yet!

Ningen:
You don't spend on him yourself.
So why should he spend on you??

Don't be an entitled leech.
It's his money. And you should be okay how he decides to spend it. You are not married to him.

noted