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I created this lately to search for something here so I figured I'd just throw this out and maintain my anonymity.
I am 30years old and I'm the first born of my family I've got 2 siblings, one male and female.
My sister just finished her education in Ukraine and she is working in am hospital in lagos she's a medical doctor and she's just 25.
My sister is a very attractive girl and she has always had tons of male irers ,some guys even go to the extent of befriending me just to get in touch with my sister,but the problem is she just doesn't like to mingle or even hangout with guys except they are just her friends.
Growing up I thought it was because of the brotherly advice I gave her about men so I wasn't worried, at 16 she went to Ukraine and came back 7 years later.
When she came back I notice there is always this Ukrainian girl that calls her like everytime daily and they talk for hours, I thought they were just bffs until I used her laptop when data ran out of mine one day and just happen to see her chats and what I saw was suprising, their chat dated for years and i saw pictures of them together on dates, vacations, bed,kissing, cuddling ,heck I even found some explicit picture the girl sent her ,but for the sake of privacy I didn't check it out.
The problem now Is that our parents are disciplinarian and I don't ever want them to find out because it will lead to a big trouble between them.
Some days ago I showed at my sister's apartment and I sat her down and asked her if she's gay or not,she replied without even hesitating that she is truly gay and she wouldn't live her life otherwise, hearing this I just left without saying anything and went to my house,she even called me a couple times to explain but I didn't pick up.
After pondering about this issue I decided to speak to her because I love her so much as she is our last born,i called her to come and meet me at home,she came and i spoke to her at length about the situation on ground and I made her understand that Nigeria doesn't those kind of things,my sister replied me that she's engaged to that ukranian and she is going to marry her irrespective of what it'll cost her.
Knowing my little sister she's an extremely determined human being, anything she says she'll do, she'll do it even if she'll suffer though it.i don't want to lose her so I've given her my and told her I'll find a way to solve this issue.
The problem now is that a friend of mine advised me to tell our parents so that everything will scatter and she won't have a choice,to tell the truth that was what I planned on doing before, or she goes back to Ukraine this year and marry that girl then they'll do artificial insemination to bear a child that way we'll have something to show to our parents that'll signify she's married and later on we'll let the cat out of the bag.
Please mature people should help me chip in and give me some advice abeg.

gays ke

Prechgold1180:
Unah family problem many , even u self nah problem to d family. At 30 u don't know d difference between gay n lesbian well dey said a fool at 40 is a fool forever and now u are 30 day means u have 10 years to escape

You're a very stupid individual, get out of my thread,I don't need stupid people here.

If I was her brother, I would her full time.

I have absolutely nothing against same sex relationships as long as it does not affect me personally.

Prechgold1180:
Unah family problem many , even u self nah problem to d family. At 30 u don't know d difference between gay n lesbian well dey said a fool at 40 is a fool forever and now u are 30 day means u have 10 years to escape

Gay is the general term used for all homosexuals but to be more specific, the op would have used lesbian.

Prechgold1180:
Unah family problem many , even u self nah problem to d family. At 30 u don't know d difference between gay n lesbian well dey said a fool at 40 is a fool forever and now u are 30 day means u have 10 years to escape

Why are you people just this stupid,don't you elders at home

Prechgold1180:
Unah family problem many , even u self nah problem to d family. At 30 u don't know d difference between gay n lesbian well dey said a fool at 40 is a fool forever and now u are 30 day means u have 10 years to escape

Stupid mumu...

To the op, a very dicey situation i must tell you but if i may advise, if she believes she's serious with her gf, she should just tell her parents, it's not your secret to tell but her's

Some days ago I showed at my sister's apartment and I sat her down and asked her if she's gay or not,she replied without even hesitating that she is truly gay and she wouldn't live her life otherwise,

A queen I Stan.

That Ukraine girl is her happiness. You've lived your life at 30 let her live hers and be happy. If she commits suicide based on the stupid decision you're about to make I hope you feel better about it.

What's wrong with being gay?
Live and let people live.

Nobody should quote me telling me shit. I'm an LGBT Ally and don't even bring religion to this talk.

OP my advice is for you to your baby sister, she's already like ukranian so let her live her life with whoever she loves,your parents will come to with her eventually

All the best oo..

Bring her to my house.

My gbola will reset her brain with hard knacks back to back with my 9 inch rod

Being gay is an idea people tend to get, not a gender. The world she lived in there presented gayism to her as a discovered gender; such myopic world. Don't subscribe to the 'live and let live' mantra of useless people. She's your sister! Tell her off! Tell her she isn't going to be gay whether or not she likes it. Many reasons I like my religion; it's just a cannot.

Ekwutox:


Gay is the general term used for all homosexuals but to be more specific, the op would have used lesbian.

maybe d o p thinks he is dealing with turkey people
In naija u have to be specific

TrollKiller:
Bring her to my house.

My dickk will reset her brain with hard knacks back to back with my 9 inch rod

STOP THAT

I suggest she opens up to your parents

makydebbie:


A queen I Stan.

That Ukraine girl is her happiness. You've lived your life at 30 let her live hers and be happy. If she commits suicide based on the stupid decision you're about to make I hope you feel better about it.

What's wrong with being gay?
Live and let people live.

Nobody should quote me telling me shit. I'm an LGBT Ally and don't even bring religion to this talk.

You can make your point without being rude,didn't you read the part that said he's ing his sister, he obviously just need a second opinion.
Y'all should try to be mature about things,people that brings sensitive issue here don't ask for bashing, they ask for mature responses

shogsmania:
OP my advice is for you to your baby sister, she's already like ukranian so let her live her life with whoever she loves,your parents will come to with her eventually

Thanks bro

Denovan:
I suggest she opens up to your parents, to avoid future heartbreaks

Future heartbreaks how?

Prechgold1180:
Unah family problem many , even u self nah problem to d family. At 30 u don't know d difference between gay n lesbian well dey said a fool at 40 is a fool forever and now u are 30 day means u have 10 years to escape

A gay person can be male or female. Stop correcting people, if you are ignorant.

It's NEVER in your place to out someone.
You can encourage her to come out though.

But that should be HER decision alone.

What's wrong with been gay?

Let her be jhoor..

She is human and deserves all her happiness

One thing we must know is that some of our children that finished their secondary school and travel abroad to further their education are always expose to this strange western culture especially if they were not properly brought up in the way of the lord.Your sister has made up her mind even if she will regret it. The only solution now is serious prayer. God can change her mind in a twinkling of an eye. Selah

Ningen:


It's NEVER in your place to out someone.
You can encourage her to come out though.

But that should be HER decision alone.

She's not someone, she is my blood that I've looked after all my life,If I see something that is going to lead her astray I have the right to do anything that will keep it from happening. However this situation is not a grave one that is why I decided to her.

Nawa ooh. Op this matter tire me.

One woman here advised us that if we have children, at 14years that we should ask them who their boyfriends or girlfriends are. If they are gay, we should send them to naija as minors and then use African hands and methods to reset their brains or correct it before they turn 18 because by then we can’t do anything as the government of this place legalized it. That auntie that told us this is regretting because her only son is gay, one of her daughters is gay as well.

I believe that some of them can be changed. I changed one as a corper that year, I don’t know if she is still straight at the moment, but she told me that she hasn’t been with a lady ever since( 4years ago).one sweet beautiful girl.

Prechgold1180:
Unah family problem many , even u self nah problem to d family. At 30 u don't know d difference between gay n lesbian well dey said a fool at 40 is a fool forever and now u are 30 day means u have 10 years to escape

gay can be a man or a woman. Read oga

chatinent:
Being gay is an idea people tend to get, not a gender. The world she lived in there presented gayism to her as a discovered gender; such myopic world. Don't subscribe to the 'live and let live' mantra of useless people. She's your sister! Tell her off! Tell her she isn't going to be gay whether or not she likes it. Many reasons I like my religion; it's just a cannot.

;Dsorry o but I cant help but laugh at your ignorance,someone is engaged in a relationship that has been on for years and you're saying crap about telling her off like it's a habit.
Moreover I take it that you're a Muslim, only you extremists take everything with religion, there is nothing wrong with being gay or different

Smarttravels:
A gay person can be male or female. Stop correcting people, if you are ignorant.

oga in naija u v to b specific

chigoizie7:
Nawa ooh. Op this matter tire me.

One woman here advised us that if we have children, at 14years that we should ask them who their boyfriends or girlfriends are. If they are gay, we should send them to naija as minors and then use African hands and methods to correct it before they turn 18 because by then we can’t do anything as the government of this place legalized it. That auntie that told us this is regretting because her only son is gay, one of her daughters is gay as well.

I believe that some of them can be changed. I changed one as a corper that year, I don’t know if she is still straight at the moment, but she told me that she hasn’t been with a lady ever since( 4years ago).one sweet beautiful girl.

Bro she is already and she has been dating this girl for almost 7years sef even the girl's parents call her time to time ,if this was just an exploration for her I would have done something about it ,but she's an independent adult,she'll do whatever she wants to do with or without anybody,it's just because she respects me a lot that is why she sought for my approval.

OP, the problem started with your thread title...

Prechgold1180:
oga in naija u v to b specific

You made a fool of yourself, some good people are trying to correct you and you're still behaving stupidly, who doesn't know that Gay can be used for both male and female,even if you never commot your town abi country before,u no dey watch tv

callmeRichie:
OP, the problem started with your thread title...

What's the problem with the tittle oga