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We all know it is the normal affair for a woman to officially change her surname to her husband’s name after the wedding. In some cases, the woman goes as far as changing her state of origin to her husband’s. So you hear things like, “I am Delta by blood, Yoruba by marriage.”

However, with the rapid change in our social stances and the cry of gender equality getting stronger by the day, a lot of married women do not change their surnames these days and some single ladies have expressed their stance not to change their surnames after marriage.

This may be seen as rebellion of some sort, chaos to a perfect order of living or simply unnecessary but the reasons behind this is perfectly logical.

Before I delve into these reasons, let me ask: did you know that there are countries where the wife does not change her surname and the child bears both father and mother surnames?

Are you doubtful? Alright, take a look at the Wikipedia profiles of these two thespians, Daniel Padilla and Silvia Navarro. See?

The reasons for women choosing not to change their surnames vary:
1. Identity: Some women feel it is not worth the stress. One married woman said, “Everyone knows me as Ms. T. Y. Changing my name and having all my documents bear Mrs T. Z. is totally unnecessary to me. What if an old wants to reach out to me and can’t find me by my original name? Abeg, I cannot jare. Besides, if it is not an issue in my home. My husband and the kids bear his surname. I bear my own. Everybody is fine.”

2. Equality: A woman changing her surname after marriage is one of the manifestations of gender superiority. It shows that the man’s identity is far more important than the woman’s and this should not be as man and woman both need each other to coexist.

3. Culture: History has shown us that in most African cultures in precolonial times, the woman always retained her family identity.

Complete Article Here: https://9jababa.com/i-will-not-bear-my-husbands-surname/

What if old s want to you? smh.

You no suppose marry in d first place

Two people wey their matter Don tire me na women and aboki





When I am about to marry, I will make it beautifully clear to her that she would keep her past behind her and if there is anything she wants me to drop too....



We will talk about that....



Las Las make money...



Na poverty go make lady tell u all these.....

When u make money....


... If u propose to her she will roll on the floor and serve u like a God

Hmmm... Lemme sit and watch

Just bear me children...keep on with ur maiden's name.

Oluromantic:
You no suppose marry in d first place

dont mind that feminist in need of marriage.

My sister didnt chage her name, she isnt a celebrity or something like that. Shes been married for 7 years now nothing do her.
Her kids doesnt bear her husband's original surname too, his Christian name is their surname.
I believe the process of having to change name on all your vital documents too wouldn't be easy.
And if you're not dangote or otedola, what value will your surname add to your wife? There are women that cannot afford to cut their fathers name off because they have done a great deal for themselves with that name.

1. You change some (NOT ALL) of your documents

2. Equality . You bear your father's surname which is already unequal to your mom. Besides, you and your husband gain new identities after marriage with his surname. Besides, you are automatically Mrs. Y if you marry Mr. Y.

3. If all a woman would be known as is 'Mummy Lagbaja', what does she need a surname for?

Impatient to go to your blog and copy out the text here.

The consequences? If you and your husband-to-be agree you don't change your surname, whose business is it?

Do you think you are doing something novel if you don't change your name?

Biko, wake up and smell the coffee.

What matters most is peace, happiness and unity between you guys. And all that can be achieved if you find someone who sees things the way you do.


So if you change name or not, there will be zero consequences as long as the above is met. If not keeping name won’t help you guys.

Was looking for “the consequences”.

cococandy:
What matters most is peace, happiness and unity between you guys. And all that can be achieved if you find someone who sees things the way you do.


So if you change name or not, there will be zero consequences as long as the above is met. If not keeping name won’t help you guys.

All that can also be achieved by using her ex boyfriend's name.

Oluromantic:
You no suppose marry in d first place

What is the significance of changing to husband's name? Give a valid reason.

rockstarB:
My sister didnt chage her name, she isnt a celebrity or something like that. Shes been married for 7 years now nothing do her.
Her kids doesnt bear her husband's original surname too, his Christian name is their surname.
I believe the process of having to change name on all your vital documents too wouldn't be easy.
And if you're not dangote or otedola, what value will your surname add to your wife? There are women that cannot afford to cut their fathers name off because they have done a great deal for themselves with that name.

Lemme get this straight. Her kids bear their daddy's first name, their daddy bears his family surname, while their mom bears her maiden name. 3 different last names?

Vyzz:
Two people wey their matter Don tire me na women and aboki





When I am about to marry, I will make it beautifully clear to her that she would keep her past behind her and if there is anything she wants me to drop too....



We will talk about that....



Las Las make money...



Na poverty go make lady tell u all these.....

When u make money....


... If u propose to her she will roll on the floor and serve u like a God

With all your ranting like a kid, you still went off topic, what has poverty got to do with change of name?

Fountainofyouth:



With all your ranting like a kid, you still went off topic, what has poverty got to do with change of name?

Everything sister



No woman would refuse to pick up the name of a wealthy man




The thought of answering Mrs Zuckerberg or Bezos or gate only will make any woman cum

Omoluabi16:
Lemme get this straight. Her kids bear their daddy's first name, their daddy bears his family surname, while their mom bears her maiden name. 3 different last names?

If you are addressing the family, you are still referring to them as the family of 'husband's surname'.

If you are not involved in any paper work with them, how would you know what their surname is?

Vyzz:






Everything sister



No woman would refuse to pick up the name of a wealthy man




The thought of answer Mrs Zuckerberg or Bezos or gate only will make any woman cum

Leverage! Leverage!! Leverage!!!

Every one needs to know their leverage and understand how to maximize them.

bukatyne:


If you are addressing the family, you are still referring to them as the family of 'husband's surname'.

If you are not involved in any paper work with them, how would you know what their surname is?

The multiple last names shock me too.
When serious paperwork needs to be done, complications might arise. Marriage is like he sart of something new, I see no reason why a woman should cling to her family name. They started with the hyphen..and now this. Na wa

Vyzz:






Everything sister



No woman would refuse to pick up the name of a wealthy man




The thought of answering Mrs Zuckerberg or Bezos or gate only will make any woman cum

Lol.

It all boils down to money and power. Whenever you hear this kind of talk just know that the woman's family is wealthier than the man. If the man is richer, she won't even think about it... Infact she ll quarrel with anybody who is telling her not to adopt his name.

My People,

My wife never dropped her maiden name for mine.

It was our collective decision considering the stress attached to it as Africans and Diasporan's.

But what I don't understand here is "Are women trying to impose it on men in this age"?

Listen, we are Africans at last.

I once told a frustrated African Feminist that if she doesn't want to bear her husbands name or Kneel for him on the day of their traditional Marriage as she has decided, then she should tell her parents not to demand for a bride price on her wedding day.

And she should live up to her decisions of being a feminist by splitting the marriage bill, living expenses and mortgages into 2 equal parts. Because that's the reality of true Feminism.

Guess what? She couldn't speak any further.

Cheers!

Fountainofyouth:



What is the significance of changing to husband's name? Give a valid reason.

Really...so what's the significance of paying the bride price..? Give a valid reason lady.

addictiv:
It all boils down to money and power. Whenever you hear this kind of talk just know that the woman's family is wealthier than the man. If the man is richer, she won't even think about it... Infact she ll quarrel with anybody who is telling her not to adopt his name

Bella Adenuga actually 'fought' her father to pick up her husband's name (Disu).

KingSatan:
My People,

My wife never dropped her maiden name for mine.

It was our collective decision considering the stress attached to it as Africans and Diasporan's.

But what I don't understand here is "Are the women trying to impose it on men in this age"?

Listen, we are Africans at last.

I once told a frustrated African Feminist that if she doesn't want to bear her husbands name or Kneel for him on the day of their traditional Marriage as she has decided, then she should tell her parents not to demand for a bride price on her wedding day.

And she should live up to her decisions of being a feminist by splitting the marriage bill, living expenses and mortgages into 2 equal parts. Because that's the reality of true Feminism.

Guess what? She couldn't speak any further.

Cheers!

Hmm

KingSatan:
My People,

My wife never dropped her maiden name for mine.

It was our collective decision considering the stress attached to it as Africans and Diasporan's.

But what I don't understand here is "Are women trying to impose it on men in this age"?

Listen, we are Africans at last.

I once told a frustrated African Feminist that if she doesn't want to bear her husbands name or Kneel for him on the day of their traditional Marriage as she has decided, then she should tell her parents not to demand for a bride price on her wedding day.

And she should live up to her decisions of being a feminist by splitting the marriage bill, living expenses and mortgages into 2 equal parts. Because that's the reality of true Feminism.

Guess what? She couldn't speak any further.

Cheers!

Women that bears their husbands name do spilt bills too. I dont think this has anything to do with bearing his surname or not.

rockstarB:

Women that bears their husbands name do spilt bills too. I dont think this has anything to do with bearing his surname or not.

The ability to read and comprehend is truly divine.

Cheers!

bukatyne:
1. You change some (NOT ALL) of your documents

2. Equality . You bear your father's surname which is already unequal to your mom. Besides, you and your husband gain new identities after marriage with his surname. Besides, you are automatically Mrs. Y if you marry Mr. Y.

3. If all a woman would be known as is 'Mummy Lagbaja', what does she need a surname for?

Impatient to go to your blog and copy out the text here.

The consequences? If you and your husband-to-be agree you don't change your surname, whose business is it?

Do you think you are doing something novel if you don't change your name?

Biko, wake up and smell the coffee.

Your point 2 makes me Yvonne jegede. In her bid to appear like a woke modern woman, she made her son bear her ex husband's surname and also her dad's surname in her mind, the boy is also bearing her name, she has forgotten the name 'jegede' is her fathers name and not her own.
She could have just named him Xavier Yvonne fawole

rockstarB:

Your point 2 makes me Yvonne jegede. In her bid to appear like a woke modern woman, she made her son bear her ex husband's surname and also her dad's surname in her mind, the boy is also bearing her name, she has forgotten the name 'jegede' is her fathers name and not her own.
She could have just named him Xavier Yvonne fawole

Wisdom and understanding is key.

Xavier Jegede-Fawole.

KingSatan:
My People,

My wife never dropped her maiden name for mine.

It was our collective decision considering the stress attached to it as Africans and Diasporan's.

But what I don't understand here is "Are women trying to impose it on men in this age"?

Listen, we are Africans at last.

I once told a frustrated African Feminist that if she doesn't want to bear her husbands name or Kneel for him on the day of their traditional Marriage as she has decided, then she should tell her parents not to demand for a bride price on her wedding day.

And she should live up to her decisions of being a feminist by splitting the marriage bill, living expenses and mortgages into 2 equal parts. Because that's the reality of true Feminism.

Guess what? She couldn't speak any further.

Cheers!

MAN DOESN'T CHANGE TO WIFE'S NAME. WOMAN DOESN'T CHANGE TO HUSBAND'S NAME. WHOSE NAME WILL THE CHILDREN BEAR AFTER MR. MAN HAS SUBMITTED BRIDE PRICE?
EVEN IN THE WEST WOMEN STILL TAKE UP THEIR HUSBANDS' NAMES. A WOMAN WILL GET MARRIED 3 TIMES AND CHANGE HER LAST NAME 3 TIMES.
SEE THE NONSENSE WE'RE DEBATING HERE.

donbachi:
Just bear me children...keep on with ur maiden's name.

Ditto

KingSatan:



The ability to read and comprehend is truly divine.

Cheers!

It is you that needs to have a inept understanding of what you wrote. You said a woman that isnt ready to take up surname should be ready to share bills, since according to you and the conversation you had with your friend already made such woman a feminist. And feminist should live up to their names.
Does that mean women that do take up their husbands name are free from sharing bills?