NewStats: 3,259,723 , 8,170,724 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 07:48 PM 4yq6m

We forgot tradition that's why we are facing this mess. Why can't we marry into our family's house? Why can't we allow our families to fix our marriage? Why can't we stay in our parent's house till we make it? Why can't we marry before we finish school? Why can't men marry 2 and above women? No love? All these just needs adjustments not total eradication for western culture for all I know.
It's the eradication of these customs and traditions that is causing some good fine girls not to see husbands even after 35years. Those girls in the name of peer pressure will get themselves disvigined expose themselves to STI, start changing boyfriends, start finding rich guys to pay their bills while time is ticking. Imagine a single guy disvirgining 10 girls and dropping them after defiling them. How can you have sex with 14 men before marriage and expect your child to behave well for your husband? 14 men don climb u and an innocent child will use head through that vaults its wrong. May God help us all.

Evercurious:
Op keep looking for money or who to dash you money.. Trust me you go wait old.. Trust our policies that keep changing every now and then .. Dont go look for a lady twith like mind ready to work with you in converting your visions and ideas to cash ..

Stay here dey look for money from people wey never got help themselves

coming from a probable gold digging broad

Oluromantic:

Wise guy

You are trouble maker! You still insist he's playing game.

AlhajaChinyere:


Anuofia, get lost!

lol
E pain am
Truth hurts brah. No be me talk am first

Nooil:
Geez... I love this thread. So men can think like this? Wow! There is still hope.

dont be a liability 2 ur man. Always bring sumtin 2 d table

My personal school of taught. This days I discovered marriages brakes up easily, the country economy has turn men to financial handicap. If you are graduate and you don't have hand work with that certificate you are in big mess. And finally, with existing gays and lesbians getting a sincere wife and husband is like going after a golden flee. Only God will deliver us from this end time palava.

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ogechchukwu:
Please don't blame guys for women problem..
Is theirs .

Most of the women are looking for already made men ,,rich... to merry ...looking for cooked food not uncooked.


And with the Late of poverty in our country now ..

Is only few made ones are available..

Moreover..marriage is not meant for everyone...


Alot will remain unmarried..

Hence looking for rich


Dont want look for what to do on thrre own ..
Nigeria women are lazy idiots..

Lately,most guys will refuse to marry a girl that even suggested to start small with them. They want to be really made before they settle down. unlike in the olden days

Oluromantic:
This guy is a strategist. Stylishly seeking working class or connected ladies who would say ...oh he's a good handwork and a bright future, he just need ... It's good but such ladies don't exist on NL

Lol

ogechchukwu:
Please don't blame guys for women problem..
Is theirs .

Most of the women are looking for already made men ,,rich... to merry ...looking for cooked food not uncooked.


And with the Late of poverty in our country now ..

Is only few made ones are available..

Moreover..marriage is not meant for everyone...


Alot will remain unmarried..

Hence looking for rich


Dont want look for what to do on thrre own ..
Nigeria women are lazy idiots..

Hmmm!
Does that include the ones close to you
Ogbeni be specific

This op is senseless

larryking540:


That's is why you have to learn how to be patient with a guy who u kw is trying his best to make sure u are alright,,,I kw of countless girls dat turn guys down because e pocket no heavy or he no touchhhhh reach davido ,,

I kw of a girl who lost a 4 years relationship just because say the guy no day package well ,dress well ,,,

You ladies have to learn wat patient is and also teach your daughter the spirit of patient

@ Mr Larryking540, don't push blames to ladies alone. i know of a very good and loyal girl, infact, she was faithful to the core but was used and dump by her so called boyfriend cos the guy told her face to face that she shouldn't wait for him that there are other guys out there. This same guy was the one that dis-virgin the girl. Most men really don't know what they want!

Is it by force to get married? If u don't have money to plan your marriage, then remain a bachelor and die a bachelor. You're obviously not mature enough to marry with this your reasoning

Liposure:
coming from a probable gold digging broad

Ooh dear.. It isn't my fault that you are this MYOPIC. Accept my sympathy for your FOOLISHNESS

Xclusiveme:
Is it by force to get married? If u don't have money to plan your marriage, then remain a bachelor and die a bachelor. You're obviously not mature enough to marry with this your reasoning

Thank you . and thats why I advised that Op looked for a lady with like mind to assist him convert his vision and ideas to cash. Well thats if he has got any and doesnt know what to .

Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

At least you are being honest. It is a terrible country we are living in. Can you try your best to migrate out of this country? I advice young people to legitimately migrate out and seek a better life for themselves and their families. God bless

Liposure:
dont be a liability 2 ur man. Always bring sumtin 2 d table

It's like you're on the wrong thread. Perhaps you have memory loss, I'll advise you to go back to the beginning of the thread to refresh your memory.

But then, any time you need assistance to pay the bride price of your future wife, please don't hesitate to ask.

Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

Nooil:


It's like you're on the wrong thread. Perhaps you have memory loss, I'll advise you to go back to the beginning of the thread to refresh your memory.

But then, any time you need assistance to pay the bride price of your future wife, please don't hesitate to ask.

i like your sense of humor

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Evercurious:


Ooh dear.. It isn't my fault that you are this MYOPIC. Accept my sympathy for your FOOLISHNESS

one luv

ogechchukwu:
Please don't blame guys for women problem..
Is theirs .

Most of the women are looking for already made men ,,rich... to merry ...looking for cooked food not uncooked.


And with the *Late* of poverty in our country now ..

Is only few made ones are available..

Moreover..marriage is not meant for everyone...


Alot will remain unmarried..

Hence looking for rich


Dont want look for what to do on thrre own ..
Nigeria women are lazy idiots..

Itiboribo.Taa shatap there.see his yeye English.that's why your frustration wouldn't allow you to know the difference between rate and late.a lot of women are the financial power house of their families in today's world.see his mouth like "Nigerian women are lazy idiots" nah you be the real lazy idiot,don't go and make money inugo.

Ndubuisipaul1:


The good girls are also single why because the most guys in this country are unemployed..

Beautiful!

Marriageable ages of men and women in traditional societies are not synchronised.

The woman's peak beauty (top-valued by most men) is in the prime of her youth between 20 -28

The man's peak happens much later as financial sustainability (top-valued by most women) most happens between 30 - 40 yrs.

Marriageable ages of men and women in traditional societies are not synchronised.

The woman's peak beauty (top-valued by most men) is in the prime of her youth between 20 -28

The man's peak happens much later as financial sustainability (top-valued by most women) happens between 30 - 40 yrs.

Nooil:



Some men are not even willing to take any step. They are so comfortable eating mama thank you. Tufiakwa!

..average guy in Nigeria is working overtime, OVERTIME!

Effort is not their problem
You just have a bad country with bad economy and greedy ladies

it's the poverty capital of the world with no jobs

not their fault.

theDEVILisHERE:


..average guy in Nigeria is working overtime, OVERTIME!

Effort is not their problem
You just have a bad country with bad economy and greedy ladies

it's the poverty capital of the world with no jobs

not their fault.

If Nnamdi Azikiwe, Anthony Enahoro, Herbert Macaulay, Sir Ahmadu Bello, and Obefemi Awolowo had given excuses, we would still be a dependent country.

Ndubuisipaul1:
At the age of 25 I was mocking a man that got married at the age of 33 I told him that he married too late. Now am 32 I don't even know when I will get married because of lack of money.

Many of our Nigerian girls are not married because ,we guys don't make money on time to marry them. Am 32 no girlfriend ( because I cannot sustain them ) and no plans of marriage , and you are blaming the ladies . Will tree marry them?

Meanwhile I am a professional photographer, and videographer.

The truth is as u make ur bed, u lie on it. Most have wishes and no concrete plan, myself inclusive. That only shows u don’t really desire it. If u wish for Smtn and really want to achieve it, MAKE A PLAN!

Risentouch:




I back in the days when I was 21years, I used to say I will be married latest at 28, but funny enough I will be 28 this December and not even a girlfriend to show for come talk of being financially stable to take care of one

Na d reason y most men no dae achieve anything 4 life b dis including marriage. U go make small money, instead make u use am better urself u dn dae think of girlfriend wey u wan take care of.

Evercurious:


Thank you . and thats why I advised that Op looked for a lady with like mind to assist him convert his vision and ideas to cash. Well thats if he has got any and doesnt know what to .

good suggestion

Reference:
I rather think it is a lack of vision rather than a lack of resources that hinders the establishment of new families tjrough the institution of marraiges.

Unions, marraiges are all about purpose. Two people coming together to accomplish something. It is in the coming together that resources are generated through the multiplication of wisdom and effort.

The woman is there to enable you 'make it'. I don't know from where this Nigerian concept of 'making it' before marraige came from but it is not presemt in any other society but one so monetised as ours in Nigeria. It is totally wrong. If you can make it on your own you probably donot need to marry.

We need a proper perspective on this thing. The provision of man in marraige is not limited to resources. His primary purpose in the marraige is the provision of leadership, the primary driver of vision and for Christians the primary link with God. Both are responsible to work and resource towards its success.

And ehen your partner is working and resourcing you will be comoelled to resoect that partner as an equal stakeholder in the marraige. That is why we constantly advocate that women create value within themselves in approaching marraige and men discard their traditional patriachial stand which is equally useless.

My brother thank you.. Misplace priorities all the time and tomorrow they complain of failed marriages..

Zoie:

Like your female family are, right?

shut up!