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It's all shades of wrong to offer help or aid to a lady that's already uninterested in it. You verbally appealed to her to get some rest, and she doesn't. Then wetin carry you go form touching.
I believe you've not told us what transpired before you're attempt to touch.

virgoquin:
If you had stayed on your own and minded your business you will not be in this mess now.

It is not everyone you see that you will try to strike a conversation with. Sometimes you just have to watch some people from afar.

She wasn't interested in what you were saying but you kept forcing the conversation to take place.

But the two of you do not have any personal relationship before so what pushed you to put your hands on her shoulder, na from clap dance dey take start

i know, dats why i said i made a stupid mistake,
but my intent was to cajole her to eat or rest, cos she has been working since morning

ambassadorgozie:


dat was my ist time of seeing her

It's still difficult to decide the truths in situations like this. If you're sure that you're telling the truth just consule yourself in the historical fact that Joseph had it worse. this is just one of the injustice of life.

Karma would make a visitation

But, if you're on the wrong, learn from your mistake seek forgiveness even if it's in your heart, and promise yourself not to do it again.

amaham:
It's all shades of wrong to offer help or aid to a lady that's already uninterested in it. You verbally appealed to her to get some rest, and she doesn't. Then wetin carry you go form touching.
I believe you've not told us what transpired before you're attempt to touch.

i was trying to show concern, nd nothing transpired btw us b4 d touch, we were having a bit of general discussion

blackjack21:


It's still difficult to decide the truths in situations like this. If you're sure that you're telling the truth just consule yourself in the historical fact that Joseph had it worse. this is just one of the injustice of life.

Karma would make a visitation

But, if you're on the wrong, learn from your mistake seek forgiveness even if it's in your heart, and promise yourself not to do it again.

tanx

ambassadorgozie:


i know, dats why i said i made a stupid mistake,
but my intent was to cajole her to eat or rest, cos she has been working since morning

The lady took it too far though, why lie that he was trying to rape you when it is not true.

An office is a place for serious business . Your hands on her shoulder is a big red flag ,you don't know her before why not mind your business?. We learn from our mistakes every day ,God will provide you another job

some maids are so evil, one stupidly accused my friend of rape, thanks to CCTV, boom her nysh blown open, she couldn't stand the embarrassment, she disappeared before day break, funny enough that maid was fucking ugly and unattractive. some girls sha don't know how unappealing they are before men

samtol4:
An office is a place for serious business . Your hands on her shoulder is a big red flag ,you don't know her before why not mind your business?. We learn from our mistakes every day ,God will provide you another job

tanx 4 d advice

Chai guy. Nawaooo

revenge001:
some maids are so evil, one stupidly accused my friend of rape, thanks to CCTV, boom her nysh blown open, she couldn't stand the embarrassment, she disappeared before day break, funny enough that maid was fucking ugly and unattractive. some girls sha don't know how unappealing they are before men

nawao,
i found d maid unappealing to even tink of such

virgoquin:

The lady took it too far though, why lie that he was trying to rape you when it is not true.

dear am still surprise, but i got to move on,
tanx

It's either you're a bloody liar who won't own up to being a rapist or just another senseless young man who allows the thing inbetween his legs to control him. You claim you didn't do the act, but was pleading, even pleaded you'll never do it again and should be given a second chance. What kind of a person are you if you are actually telling the truth?

According to you, you begged her to stop and eat but she refuse and went on to place your hand on her shoulder, for what exactly? You better get sense before getting another job else, something bigger may fall on you.

Let’s do a poll.

How did you know the OP didn’t do it?

How did you know he did it?

None of us know this Nigga

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as personal assistant/ secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician. My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon. We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continue the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest. My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.
I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.
Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

@lalasticlala

OP, I'd like to give you the benefit of the doubt, but you goofed when you made an attempt to touch her. Some men do that all the time to watch a lady's reactions, and if it is friendly, they take it further by touching her boobs.

But if you said it was a friendly touch, then I wonder why she would react so aggressively.

Have you considered the fact that it could have been a plan between your boss and the maid?Your boss was probably looking for a reason to sack you and found none, then she connived with her maid to set you up. You know what they say:"Give a dog a bad name just to hang it".

And please, stop making yourself guilty by apologizing for what you didn't do, or had no intention of doing.

You're a bad guy, Mr act too nice to get the pussy

We4all:


OP, I'd like to give you the benefit of the doubt, but you goofed when you made an attempt to touch her. Some men do that all the time to watch a lady's reactions, and if it is friendly, they take it further by touching her boobs.

But if you said it was a friendly touch, then I wonder why she would react so aggressively.

[b]Have you considered the fact that it could have been a plan between your boss and the maid?[/b]Your boss was probably looking for a reason to sack you and found none, then she connived with her maid to set you up. You know what they say:"Give a dog a bad name just to hang it".

And please, stop making yourself guilty by apologizing for what you didn't do, or had no intention of doing.

i am tinkin in dat direction too,
tanx boss

You told her to rest and eat twice, she declined yet u went close to touch only her shoulder and she started screaming.... Indeed...

I don't believe you but i pray you get your job back or a better one... Cheers... Next time no dey do touching body with Maids.

Candiesramah:
It's either you're a bloody liar who won't own up to being a rapist or just another senseless young man who allows the thing inbetween his legs to control him. [b]You claim you didn't do the act, but was pleading, even pleaded you'll never do it again and should be given a second chance. [/b]What kind of a person are you if you are actually telling the truth?

According to you, you begged her to stop and eat but she refuse and went on to place your hand on her shoulder, for what exactly? You better get sense before getting another job else, something bigger may fall on you.

i was pleading cos i went close to her,
guy chill, i can never tink of rape or sex, how can i do so in an office,
pls don't call me names,
tanx

You are a very foolish soul.
What part of the maid not eating is your problem ? If I was your boss I will ensure you rot in jail.

ambassadorgozie:

Happyfela:
You told her to rest and eat twice, she declined yet u went close to touch only her shoulder and she started screaming.... Indeed...

I don't believe you but i pray you get your job back or a better one... Cheers... Next time no dey do touching body with Maids.

guy u don't need to believe me, d office is not dat close for me to do rubbish, also knowing d fact dat d boss would com unannouce

Lamanii22:



I believe you Hun... Be strong Hun.. You don't need to apologize...

Fine girl. Beware! That dude wouldn't hesitate to rape you if he has a chance.

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as personal assistant/ secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician. My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon. We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continue the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest. My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.
I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.
Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

@lalasticlala

u 4k up o! I one day my hand mistakenly touch a girl breast and I told her sorry but she was shouting.i gave her a dirty slap and case closed.

In as much as I sympathize with you, the truth is your story doesn't add up.
Bro trust me, there is something you aren't telling us. Eben the text message you sent to your boss is implicating you....why were you just apologising over and over again?
The fault also came from your side. Someone said she's fine, thrice you are forcing her to eat...

Anyways ..its fine. If your hands are truly clean God will defend you.
PLEASE STOP SENDING TEXT MESSAGES OF APOLOGY TO YOUR BOSS, YOUR PUTTING YOURSELF IN A MORE MESS.
may God help you. Its gonna be fine. Just breath. Breath

Sorry bro. That’s women for you. They’d conclude without logical information, but based on how they feel at the moment. Next time don’t be too familiar with ladies who are not your close friends. Especially domestic workers.

Let them call you proud. It is better than being called a rapîst.

nnamdiosu:
In as much as I sympathize with you, the truth is your story doesn't add up.
Bro trust me, there is something you aren't telling us. Eben the text message you sent to your boss is implicating you....why were you just apologising over and over again?
The fault also came from your side. Someone said she's fine, thrice you are forcing her to eat...

Anyways ..its fine. If your hands are truly clean God will defend you.
PLEASE STOP SENDING TEXT MESSAGES OF APOLOGY TO YOUR BOSS, YOUR PUTTING YOURSELF IN A MORE MESS.
may God help you. Its gonna be fine. Just breath. Breath

according to her, nd which is true, i shouldnt hav gone close to her. dats why i apologized, i didnt text or apologize again

AfroKnight:
Sorry bro. That’s women for you. They’d conclude without logical information, but based on how they feel at the moment. Next time don’t be too familiar with ladies who are not your close friends. Especially domestic workers.

Let them call you proud. It is better than being called a rapîst.

tanx boss

According to you, the Maid was cleaning up the office till afternoon... What kind of office would you be cleaning for hours? Is your boss(ex) out of office for over a year? Is her office mansion that would take hours to clean? Other questions have been asked earlier above... Bro, your story is not adding up. I'm not blaming you but the deed has already been done and can't be undone. Sh*1t happens, get over it. I know it's not easy as it sounds, but you can't allow the past to hold you to ransom.

It is unfortunate that you lost your job through your stupid act. Whenever a female says "NO", take it as a capital "NO". The mistakes we make as young Nigerians is that we still want to cajole even when you have had a reasonable response. Stop crying over spilled milk and move on with you life. The error has been done already. All you need do is "move on". In saner climes, once a girl/lady says "NO" you will take it like no matter the condition you may be thinking surrounds your situation at that time.

I have no pity for you. Next time you learn how to mind your fvcking business. Oversabi!

U should not have deal with illiterate maid, she took that for rape.

ambassadorgozie:


according to her, nd which is true, i shouldnt hav went close to her. dats why i apologized, i didnt text or apologize again

For someone who claims to be the PA to a lawyer your grammar is terrible.

Geez! Stop using these annoying abbreviations like a teenager and learn to write like a professional!