NewStats: 3,261,643 , 8,174,640 topics. Date: Thursday, 29 May 2025 at 10:41 PM 171as

OGwales:
Asking me for transport fare...

are u not supposed to give transport fare?

lovat:
So I made you laugh hard this morning

Very hard...

therajah:
I inviting a lady for a date. I was in my car waiting patiently for her. She kept me waiting for like an hour! Then i saw
3 bikes! 4 ladies on 3 bikes.. i was so angry! (So the idiot was busy inviting her frnds for lunch). I just told her I had to go back to office that my break time was over. I started the car and she just qkly begged me for 200naira for transport back to thier homes.. gave her the 200naira and zoomed off. I regreted giving her the 200naira though! Oh my goodness

Fisher007:
Lol, People still go on dates

I never knew cause with dating apps everywhere. We know where the main dates venue is

I guess some people will complain about spending or eating too.much or people sizing them.up. or people.asking stupid questions like ' how much you earn' Lmao

Well you choose the wrong venue. Everybody knows what they want immediately you ve seen each other photos and chatted over the phone for few times . Dont let them fool you about getting to know each other. Please go straight to the point.

The more time you.waist the more you loose. The more time you loose the more validation you give. The more validation you give the more it cost you. The more it cost you, the more you.feel.like making it a relationship that might lead to.marriage. when the relationship or marriage fails you feel pained. At the end, you either accept and die with the pain or you come on nairaland after few years of investing in a place that brings more investment and you will still be blamed.

That why I go straight to the point meet me at my place simple. Either you are in or you are out. It cost nothing and doesnt waste my.time cause whatever the case is am at my place. Lol

What.do I know self. Let wait for the elders or white Knight who have been burned to.come and.give us more knowledge on what they dislike or hate about dating. Hmmm

Truth is that people don't understand what a date is, the Official let's meet here and there is nothing but scam... everyone pretends but true date is when you meet people in a way that doesn't seem official... it your date isn't casual then you may not know a lot of things about who you need to marry.

On the other end, your own kind of strategy might put you in trouble, don't go straight in to marriage with someone that you know over a phone... I just dey laugh you.. except your philosophy is divorce after marriage. Physical interactions has it benefits that nothing can replace.
There is not substitute, bad experience on date is a good thing. It means you dodged a bullet that could have stuck in your belly, all in the name of marriage.

Date is not necessary if you're not interested in marriage..... It is #Sense 101 that most guys don't understand. you use it a strategy though especially those girls that needs Marriage but I don't advise such

stanliwise:
Those aren't too much of a bad attribute especially when thr person hasn't been doing it often before first date. Sometimes many people are misguided, they feel if they tell you all those things, you may like them more. You on your end can help them by asking the question you care about.

Divay22:

You're smiling, ladies like you will go on a date and magically want a guy to tell you what you want to hear as if they are magicians. It ain't cool though, I have been in situations like that, she seem bored by the conversation but didn't care to lead it at all. Until I kept the silence like a graveyard before she started saying something.

Ojady:
It can go both ways:
FOR HER:
1. She brings a friend. (Gurl, He is not running a charity for hungry friends)
2. She is on her phone. (Very unladylike)
3. She orders the most expensive, never tried item on the menu. (It shows just how cheap you are and sets you up to be asked for a payback - kiss/smooch/sex/rape)
4. She slurps and acts gluttonous on the meal (He is a prospect not your father)
5. She insists on takeaways (Gurl are you really that poor)
6. She has nothing valuable to talk about (past accomplishments, future goals, current objectives etc) rather, she knows how much that phone is, that lace wig, etc
7. She is known and greets or greeted by more than 2 different men while on the date with you (actually leaving you to speak with them without an awareness of brevity)
8. She wants to come home with me
9. She wants to be noticed and claiming Girlfriend rather than date status

FOR HIM:
1. He expects affectionate display on a first date.
2. He expects to pay for everything and get a hug/kiss/sex at the end of the date.
3. He shows off his material and intellectual level instead of being himself.
4. He is rude to the conductor, waiter etc (to impress me)
5. He is Ogling other gals while with me
6. He talks too much about himself ( the line in Big Poppa where Biggie says "... I just creep up from behind And ask what your interests are, who you be with Things to make you smile, what numbers to dial...You gon' be here for a while...)
7. He is late, does not apologize, acts like "Its no big deal".
8. He is disrespectful by hugging and talking to other women while on our date.
9.) He does not allow me, at least, pay for something (the water, 20percent of the meal, something)
10.) He does not ensure I get home safe.

I mean the things to dislike (red flags) on a first date are many (if you re not looking for free food if you are a girl) or (sex if you re a guy)

A smart bad girl or guy would this test easily. I usually see official date as homework. That is why I don't really like official dates.

Lawrentta16:
are u not supposed to give transport fare?

Where was it written?

Brightgem:
That sound can bring out the devil in you.

I swear sis.

optimus106:


So, I should be looking at the sky when
an older person is talking to me?

Na big lie...

Well, that is left to you, If you are a millennial, then you are a product of the generation who want to the norm. People born in the 80s, 70s can testify to it. You do not look directly into your parents eyes or elders when spoken to. Kapish.

mirexxx:
Reaching out for kisses n hugs so annoying...I came to talk and know you better but you already sexualizing the whole damn thing! Nonsense!
Talking too much and off key, not carefully listening to the important things I say. Omo its plenty o. I'll reserve others.

libido is on the high

willy2000:


Well, that is left to you, If you are a millennial, then you are a product of the generation who want to the norm. People born in the 80s, 70s can testify to it. You do not look directly into your parents eyes or elders when spoken to. Kapish.

That philosophy was born on misguided and inherited principles from our fore fathers.
I don't hold those beliefs anymore.

SteveOfu:
what's wrong in asking how much your earn?

what is your business with knowing how much a man earns on a first date Are you opening a bank

Lexusgs430:



Best to draw the lines, make fight no enter...... Imagine asking him for credit, and he sends her 200 naira voucher (and he expects her to call and chat with him everyday)...... Or she requires 25K for essentials, and he starts to quote minimum wage...........

Lol...that one will come later na..."negotiation" tins....

pocohantas:
Not keeping to time.

If you want to see me angry, do that African time thing with me. Makes me want to kill something!

Why are Nigerians not time conscious?
Jeeez!!

coz we consider traffic, agbero, lazy drivers, possible hit-and-block-road-to-argue...so many possibilities for being late.

happinezz110:
Unreasonable talk just like when I went on a date with one foolish guy, he told me I would live with his mom when we get married and she wld help me to chose the hospital for my Ante Natal wen I'm pregnant. All he could talk about was his mom, grandmom and sister. Since then, I hate dating only boy of d family especially those with 4sis

Dammmmmmmnnn girl. You're endowed

ericmor:
Na by force to eat

mercytripletz:


Lol. You must be kidding. What if she is allergic to or dislikes what you order her?
My sister hates jollof rice with ion and is a very strict vegetarian.
You go order Jollof rice and Chicken and still complain say she waste your money as she no eat am.
Be sensible jare. I know you are joking sha

Thank you...I wanted to ask, what if she doesnt even like what you order You will still call her an ingrate smh

2shure:
Acting shy and forming porsh outdoors. But indoors use water to wash anus.

heeeeeyyy you stop that. Using water to wash anus is classic you can never go wrong with that.

mirexxx:
if its Amala you ordered, I must eat it with you? It doesn't work out that way cause I may want something different which isn't a bad thing.

If you'd wanted something else, you suggest the date.

LadyHeaven:


Very hard...

We will talk later in the day. Hope you have traveled back from ekeresimesi

lovat:
Eating like am the cause of poverty .


I ed back then in 2011 when a guy asked a lady out for a date and the girl brought her friend along. The guy ordered for AmstEl malt while the lady and her friend ordered for Smirnoff and cow tail pepper soup.
The guy was one of these Orile guys that was looking for just one round of sex for free and now these ladies were making expenses on his head not minding that the guy was as broke as their own parents.

The guy collected the BlackBerry phone of the friend of his date and was checking it out while at same time discussing with the ladies. He now stood up to go take a leak and voom my guy disappear.

The girls waited for the guy that went to take a leak but didn't come back, the friend of the date now became worried because of her phone was with the guy, she now started crying which attracted our attention in the bar.

Their bill was 1800 which the duo don't have so the owner of the bar seized their sandals and bags. They were crying and begging. The other girl was blaming her friend for her phone that was taken.

I felt pity for them that I had to ask the woman how much she will sell the ladies bags so that I can buy it and sell it as Akube. I'm a business person for crying out loud

This is damn funny

Ojady:
9. He does not allow me, at least, pay for something (the water, 20percent of the meal, something)

What is this

I was flowing with the post until you said that

If he doesnt allow you to pay for water then why worry...?

mirexxx:
A guy i met back then wanted me to drink bottle water instead of the drink I ordered to waiter to bring me. Saying water should be drank after eating not juice. imagine.

I think that one is a bit okay but was it just a suggestion or did he actually stop you from drinking what you wanted?

lovat:
Eating like am the cause of poverty .


I ed back then in 2011 when a guy asked a lady out for a date and the girl brought her friend along. The guy ordered for AmstEl malt while the lady and her friend ordered for Smirnoff and cow tail pepper soup.
The guy was one of these Orile guys that was looking for just one round of sex for free and now these ladies were making expenses on his head not minding that the guy was as broke as their own parents.

The guy collected the BlackBerry phone of the friend of his date and was checking it out while at same time discussing with the ladies. He now stood up to go take a leak and voom my guy disappear.

The girls waited for the guy that went to take a leak but didn't come back, the friend of the date now became worried because of her phone was with the guy, she now started crying which attracted our attention in the bar.

Their bill was 1800 which the duo don't have so the owner of the bar seized their sandals and bags. They were crying and begging. The other girl was blaming her friend for her phone that was taken.

I felt pity for them that I had to ask the woman how much she will sell the ladies bags so that I can buy it and sell it as Akube. I'm a business person for crying out loud

notin do u jare

midnighter:


Lol...that one will come later na..."negotiation" tins....

She engaged and conditions......... She either no ean suffer or she dey find meal ticket......... Just like Olamide babymama........

She saw and smelt money, but bobo go ghost mode...... So the best earning power, might not necessarily be the best person........

DivineGrace123:


Very true. Most African parents also did not give room for their children to be able to maintain eye . If you don't maintain eye when they are talking, they will see you as being "humble" "polite" and "respectful". The reverse is the case in developed countries such as Canada, the United States and Europe where being able to maintain eye is seen as being bold, confident and that you are 100% interested in what the person is saying. Sometimes, the society one finds him/herself is a contributing factor to one’s trait.

MrFly:
so Europe is now a country

Why you dey find Wahala?
follow the context now, she nor say Europe na country na. Haba!

DivineGrace123:


Very true. Most African parents also did not give room for their children to be able to maintain eye . If you don't maintain eye when they are talking, they will see you as being "humble" "polite" and "respectful". The reverse is the case in developed countries such as Canada, the United States and Europe where being able to maintain eye is seen as being bold, confident and that you are 100% interested in what the person is saying. Sometimes, the society one finds him/herself is a contributing factor to one’s trait.

this year, I haven`t heard or read anything that`s truer than the bolded!

What I hate most is where I’ll select a place for us and the next thing you’ll arrive, few minutes into our meeting you’ll start gisting me of how one other guy has brought you there before, how their sea food is better than bla bla how it’s better to seat next to the AC on the left cause the time you came, the AC on the right was leaking water... b!tch we know you’ve been here before just shut up and focus on the reason for the hangout.

goat22:


What is wrong with those sounds!?! Stop THAT!! The food is digested better when you make chewing sounds and open your mouth!!! Don't annoy me Debbie!

.. make that sound beside me and I'll punch your face.. it disturbs the hell out of me

franugo:
As for me tho...I don't like when you're on ur phone when I'm trying to have a decent conversation with you...also, when I ask what do u care for n u tell me anything... One of these days, I'll actually order water for you, after all its part of anything

what if she says henessey

Just be yourself, be humorous and responsive to conversation and we will be good...





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SteveOfu:
what's wrong in asking how much your earn?

Everything is wrong with it dear!
It's more like acting as a spy to kidnap him or maybe you are there for the mula