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When ever disobedience begins to navigate into any relationship be ready for a consistent fracas, this shows that the value and the importance of either of the partners has been down trodden, therefore a high frequency of distrust and suspicion arises. It becomes obvious that breakage is inevitable, why? One partner obviously is beginning to see someone they feel is better outside the box. So you did nothing bad, save the strength you would have used for querrel for some one and some thing better. Mean while ftc.

Op, you started the relationship on the wrong foot, in every relationship, the party that SENDLESS holds the advantage and controls the other party....you have handed your balls to her, you have given her the impression that you can't live without her....so what do you do? blank her for some days as if she doesn't exist and use those days to work on yourself.....as Harddon will always say, it doesn't matter how far you have travelled the wrong path, as long as you are still on that wrong path, you will not get to your destination.....you need to become an alpha male and watch her start treating you like a god....search out these names and follow their posts with your brain intact.... Harddon and his dating drills, Ubunja and his mis-educations, Martinez36.....read their topics and posts, you will see all you are doing wrong and watch how that babe would start running after you with her life.....

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The fact that she goes out without telling you means there are lots of things you guys are yet to sort out. This relationship clearly lacks effective communication. You guys are in a toxic union.

Walk away from that trash you call relationship.

Comot from hia

themaestro08:
The fact that she goes out without telling you means there are lots

And it just started. Although she went with her friends I knew and it has not happened much, why not tell me. Then after talking to her about it, she decided to even do more.

I might be paranoid about the whole thing but I never go anywhere without letting her know. It is impossible for me to plan to stay out without giving her the full details,
call her regularly about my movements.

kestolove95:
Comot from hia

I honestly will prefer an opinion. Abuse will not help at all.

@OP
You were neither wrong nor harsh. The fact remains that there is no romance without finance. Good luck in your subsequent endeavours!

Meanwhile,

Lionpikin:
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maynation:
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Noblemarce:
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una cups go full one day

TheGoodJoe:
I just broke up with my Girlfriend unexpectedly. We had dinner at her place together and everything was going well until she was working me home and told me she was spending a night at one of her girlfriend's place and I just flipped.

History:

I honestly thought she was the one and I felt I have known her long enough to march her to the alter. We have been together for over a year and I have made my intentions known to her.

Well, I hit a brick wall financially and things have not been easy going as before. In the course of my challenges, I always do my best to meet up with her up keep. She is the kind that can manage things.

However, a change in attitude came recently and she stopped doing things she used to do. Most especially making decisions or going out without informing me. She had done it three times recently and yesterday, I begged her that for the sake of our relationship which means a lot to me, she should talk to me before making some decisions or going out.

Climax:
We settled and she had planned to spend a night outside without telling me. I knew because I told her I was coming to see her tomorrow evening. She said no that she is spending a night with her girlfriend.

I just ended the relationship because I am tired of fighting.

So was I wrong or too harsh?

This is all about you. She didn't fit in so boom off she goes. You are on the right track. It is all about you and your peace.

Na you start am, na you end am.

Baba fall on hard times financially,
Babe dey go collect diiiicc,,,kkk secretly,

Baba is hurting emotionally,
Babe is being serviced Otherwise and financially by another man.

A woman who is ready to settle down stops doing some things and sleep out is on the list.

hian!

TheGoodJoe:
I just broke up with my Girlfriend unexpectedly. We had dinner at her place together and everything was going well until she was working me home and told me she was spending a night at one of her girlfriend's place and I just flipped.

History:

I honestly thought she was the one and I felt I have known her long enough to march her to the altar. We have been together for over a year and I have made my intentions known to her.

Well, I hit a brick wall financially and things have not been easy going as before. In the course of my challenges, I always do my best to meet up with her upkeep. She is the kind that can manage things.

However, a change in attitude came recently and she stopped doing things she used to do. Most especially making decisions or going out without informing me. She had done it three times recently and yesterday, I begged her that for the sake of our relationship which means a lot to me, she should talk to me before making some decisions or going out.

Climax:
We settled but she had planned to spend a night outside without telling me. I knew because I told her I was coming to see her tomorrow evening. She said no that she is spending a night with her girlfriend.

I just ended the relationship because I am tired of fighting.

So was I wrong or too harsh?

You are too harsh I think you over reacted next time try to punish her in other ways like making her jealous or something to anger her before u breakup she might change

She's a coded olosho and was only in the relationship for the money
and now that the money is no more, she vamoose.

Lionpikin:
Op, you started the relationship on the wrong foot, in every relationship, the party that SENDLESS holds the advantage and controls the other party....you have handed your balls to her, you have given her the impression that you can't live without her....so what do you do? blank her for some days as if she doesn't exist and use those days to work on yourself.....as Harddon will always say, it doesn't matter how far you have travelled the wrong path, as long as you are still on that wrong path, you will not get to your destination.....you need to become an alpha male and watch her start treating you like a god....search out these names and follow their posts with your brain intact.... Harddon and his dating drills, Ubunja and his mis-educations, Martinez36.....read their topics and posts, you will see all you are doing wrong and watch how that babe would start running after you with her life.....

Nice advice but I will like a tip from you of something you feel I did wrong.

An excerpt from the write up will be preferable.

All these guys in formal relationships what special thing do you gain?

TheGoodJoe:
I just broke up with my Girlfriend unexpectedly. We had dinner at her place together and everything was going well until she was walking me home and told me she was spending a night at one of her girlfriend's place and I just flipped.

History:

I honestly thought she was the one and I felt I have known her long enough to march her to the altar. We have been together for over a year and I have made my intentions known to her.

Well, I hit a brick wall financially and things have not been easy going as before. In the course of my challenges, I always do my best to meet up with her upkeep. She is the kind that can manage things.

However, a change in attitude came recently and she stopped doing things she used to do. Most especially making decisions or going out without informing me. She had done it three times recently and yesterday, I begged her that for the sake of our relationship which means a lot to me, she should talk to me before making some decisions or going out.

Climax:
We settled but she had planned to spend a night outside without telling me. I knew because I told her I was coming to see her tomorrow evening. She said no that she is spending a night with her girlfriend.

I just ended the relationship because I am tired of fighting.

So was I wrong or too harsh?

see if it wld gv you peace of mind, its fine

No money no romance... you didn’t overreact my man, no woman wants to be in a relationship with a struggling man, it’s the bitter truth. Pls leave her and hustle to make it financially in life.
Na money be fine bobo o

This is the only senseless comment here for now, ignore it.

samdavjustin:

You are too harsh I think you over reacted next time try to punish her in other ways like making her jealous or something to anger her before u breakup she might change

U did well op

You broke up with a gf of over a year on a simple excuse as her sleeping in her gfs house, ok. Continue to break up with ladies over little issues, you ain't really serious for a commitment. Tolerance is needed in relationships. You should have just left her, and stop calling, she would apologize. Then you both sort things out.

[quote author=TheGoodJoe post=84454173][color=#000099]I just broke up with my Girlfriend unexpectedly. We had dinner at her place together and everything was going well until she was walking me home and told me she was spending a night at one of her girlfriend's place and I just flipped.

History:

I honestly thought she was the one and I felt I have known her long enough to march her to the altar. We have been together for over a year and I have made my intentions known to her.

Well, I hit a brick wall financially and things have not been easy going as before. In the course of my challenges, I always do my best to meet up with her upkeep. She is the kind that can manage things.

However, a change in attitude came recently and she stopped doing things she used to do. Most especially making decisions or going out without informing me. She had done it three times recently and yesterday, I begged her that for the sake of our relationship which means a lot to me, she should talk to me before making some decisions or going out.

Climax:
We settled but she had planned to spend a night outside without telling me. I knew because I told her I was coming to see her tomorrow evening. She said no that she is spending a night with her girlfriend.

I just ended the relationship because I am tired of fighting.

So was I wrong or too harsh?

It's been addressed but I'll say it again this all started after you lost financial balance,something's are blessings in disguise, Las las hussle, like someone said above na money be fine bobo

LilMissFavvy:
You broke up with a gf of over a year on a simple excuse as her sleeping in her gfs house, ok. Continue to break up with ladies over little issues, you ain't really serious for a commitment. Tolerance is needed in relationships. You should have just left her, and stop calling, she would apologize. Then you both sort things out.

OP, you needed to know that wrong you did.

This is!

Why is it a requirement for your girlfriend to seek permission from you before going out? She is an adult, with her own life and her own circle of friends.

Why does she have to justify going anyway with you first? If she isn't your type , that is one who spends her time at home, then leave her

You have taken a decision that you deem appropriate. You don't need validation from strangers except you aren't man enough to decide what you want.

What's with all the name calling all the time? You guys really have issues. Everytime a girl acts in a way, it's always about another guy in the picture. Op it's obvious you guys don't complement each other. And why does a grown adult who isn't your wife yet, seek permission from you before going out? And then you broke up with her. Na so them dey break up?

Do you seek permission from her before going anywhere too? The change you're looking for should start with you.

Gee001:
What's with all the name calling all the time? You guys really have issues. Everytime a girl acts in a way, it's always about another guy in the picture. Op it's obvious you guys don't complement each other. And why does a grown adult who isn't your wife yet, seek permission from you before going out? And then you broke up with her. Na so them dey break up?

Do you seek permission from her before going anywhere too? The change you're looking for should start with you.

Thank you for the point.

I do tell her every where I go to. Before I go out and when I arrive the place. I call when I am there and let her know when I am leaving.

I do this to ease her mind at all time and build trust in our relationship. She also used to do this always. Lately, she stopped. To the point of going to an occasion and lying about it when I asked her.

So the change can not start with me. This is about the change in her attitude.

Then not telling me that she is planning to spend a night with her friend? Haba, that is far from the foundation we built in our relationship.

TheGoodJoe:


Thank you for the point.

I do tell her every where I go to. Before I go out and when I arrive the place. I call when I am there and let her know when I am leaving.

I do this to ease her mind at all time and build trust in our relationship. She also used to do this always. Lately, she stopped. To the point of going for an occasion and lying about it when I asked her.

So the change can not start with me. This is about the change in her attitude.

Then not telling me that she is planning to spend a night with her friend? Haba, that is far from the foundation we built in our relationship.

Ok sir. All the best

TonyeBarcanista:
You have taken a decision that you deems appropriate. You don't need validation from strangers except you aren't man enough to decide what you want.

Bro. longest time.

I do not need validation from others but for next time sake, I wanted to see if people will think I took it too far. It is in the past but I would like to know if I am taking it too far with my expectation.

TheGoodJoe:


And it just started. Although she went with her friends I knew and it has not happened much, why not tell me. Then after talking to her about it, she decided to even do more.

I might be paranoid about the whole thing but I never go anywhere without letting her know. It is impossible for me to plan to stay out without giving her the full details,
call her regularly about my movements.

its time to call it a day.

TheGoodJoe:


Bro. longest time.

I do not need validation from others but for next time sake, I wanted to see if people will think I took it too far. It is in the past but I would like to know if I am taking it too far with my expectation.

Long time my man!

Well, you don't need to know what people "think" as it is of zero relevance to what you think and what you want.

Meanwhile, no expectation is too far as long as it is what you want except you decide to lower your expectations yourself - but that could be counterproductive on the long run