NewStats: 3,259,573 , 8,170,543 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 03:54 PM h632q

I am almost certain to draw the ire of certain class of girls with this thread, however truth is one gift of Nature sorely underutilized, but that eventually vindicates, if applied.

If you are like me, you would have wondered about the factors responsible for getting a man committed to a woman. While it is not one thing, or one theory, or one factor, there is, to a universal acceptance level, a minimum impression needed by a man. And to be honest, it is not your curves, or your face, neither is it your HEAVILY APPLIED MAKE-UP.

In the few years I've lived, as a young man, I've come around lots of Ladies, and to be honest, it is different stroke for different damsels. While I might, at one time or the other, played the role of a counselor, it is quite confusing to state that having a one-theory-fit-all for relationships is a mirage.

Why are men shying away from Marriage, even when they yawn to settle down in the deep of their hearts? Why would a man date a girl for 10 years and still never propose marriage? This question opens one's eyes to a depressing reality of our time.and here's is the joker: A man can stay committed to you for his own purpose and needs, and not your own purpose and needs.

Confused?

Let me break it down:

Commitment is relative, it is not absolute. If a man sees you as a sex object, or a bed companion, he can stay committed to you for that purpose, for years. It depends on what impression he garners from your lifestyle, your words, your desires and your thirst. If a man think you're only good for sex, he can stay with you for years, so long you serve to solve his sexual needs, but when you think of taking it to next level, he'll change it and let you go.

So I've seen girls taken from one eatery to another, from one shopping mall to the other, and with cash-loaded s but that are only sex objects. Not because they want to, but because the impression deciphered from their lifestyle, and look is that of a sex object.

When some girls want to condemn men, they say things like "after having sex with me, he left me". Wake up girl, you know sex is involved before you went into the relationship, so stop bringing that up. Your virtue doesn't lie between your legs, or on your chest, it's whom you are. If all you can give is your virginity or sex or curves, believe me, you have nothing to give

So what do most men want?

Did I hear a girl, someone shout SEX!?

If you say so, YOU'RE VERY CORRECT. all men want sex. But mind what I said, "WANT".

Now to next question;

What does a man NEED?

So, here we are, the point of truth. Where you need to listen and listen goodly. Men look out for two things; their WANTS, and their NEEDS. Are you good enough to be your man's WANT, or his NEEDS. do you satisfy him with what any other girl can give him, or bring into his life what he can't find anywhere else, and would regret if he lost it?

This is the reason ugly girls are getting married, and the queens and princesses of this world remain bed-mates and fun buddies. Your look, your curves and everything you see in the mirror fall totally into the category of WANT. But those virtues, those qualities and Values that his physical hands cannot grab and caress are his NEEDS.

, to hold him forever, you need to have both his WANTS and his NEEDS, but when there is only one option, a man can let go of his wants, in order to keep his needs. You dont want to be the dispensable one.

So you asked, how about all the sacrifices I've been making? And I'll ask you wether your sacrifices include giving him a good show on bed. Girl, that is no sacrifice! Period!
Sex is everywhere but real woman are so scarce. So scarce that men are scared to even approach girls, even when they know they'll get lot of sex.


Take this piece of counsel from me; Be a need, and not a want. Any woman can give a good sex, with the advent of make-up, any girl can look as stunning as possible. It is no more about that. Make yourself a value, a need that is irreplaceable.

I am Temidayo Kingheart.
Follow me,
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Marriage is the only achievement in Nigeria

CaroLyner:
Marriage is the only achievement in Nigeria

what would u consider an achievement?

CaroLyner:
Marriage is the only achievement in Nigeria

Sisi Caro, marriage is not the only achievement, am sure you're in Romance section, and you're not supposed to read about Engineering or business success here. So we are talking about the essence of values in relationship, not career success. If you want to read about That consult business section.

Its funny how men preach about women looking simple yet they go about chasing women with caked face and seemingly flawless skin from bleaching, though I like ma woman looking simple but the truth is all those make up and other beauty enhancers help stimulates physical attraction

sEGXY2:
Its funny how men preach about women looking simple yet they go about chasing women with caked face and seemingly flawless skin from bleaching, though I like ma woman looking simple but the truth is all those make up and other beauty enhancers help stimulates physical attraction

Thank God you said physical attraction, after that then what? Read the post again. You said the truth but to what extent do the caked faces matter to most men? Am sure you know the answers.

PatriotTemidayo:


Thank God you said physical attraction, after that then what? Read the post again. You said the truth but to what extent do the caked faces matter to most men? Am sure you know the answers.

I think that's where virtues and compatibility comes in

sEGXY2:
I think that's where virtues and compatibility comes in

Exactly! After a night or two, caked faces or bleached skin wouldn't matter anymore........

Why should a caked face and bleached skin matter in the first place? If women are bringing only these "artificials" to the table, doesn't that imply that's what's in demand?

Why supply what's not demanded? That would mean running life at a loss You think women are not smart?

Everyone in this world is a marketer. And a good marketer must first study the market, identify what is desired and how to meet it. If 98% want product A, it's only rational to ditch the remaining small percentage and focus on the 98, that is if you want to succeed.

You don't show you want products A and expect marketers to know you need product B. If you need product B, you must show it from the go, after all that's what's most important to you.

I don't go gaga over a woman's looks or act like that's the all and be all cos I don't want to send the wrong message. I throw compliments at decent women, like their photos and appreciate their virtues. Why can't other guys do same? Why over glorify slay queens and then turn around to say that's not what you will settle for. I laugh, you better prepare yourself cos that's all that's going to be left if you continue in your stupidity.

If you want decent women, better start appreciating them from the go. You don't expect a plant you don't water to remain alive. It's going to die. Good women are going extinct because they are not encouraged to continue . It's very simple.

If you can't bring yourself to love the virtuous women, then get yourself ready for the repercussions of fawning over curvy queens.

And now and in future, when you meet your waterloo please spare us all the epistles of how all women have gone bad and your irritating self righteousness. And how no man is getting married again bla bla (women are not getting married too again. Many women are beginning to embrace their single lives.) It's all fair and unfair.

{FYI, beautiful and ugly women have been getting married from time immemorial except you have research based statistics to dole out.}

My few cents.

Backinfront:
Why should a caked face and bleached skin matter in the first place? If women are bringing only these "artificials" to the table, doesn't that imply that's what's in demand?

Why supply what's not demanded? That would mean running life at a loss You think women are not smart?

Everyone in this world is a marketer. And a good marketer must first study the market, identify what is desired and how to meet it. If 98% want product A, it's only rational to ditch the remaining small percentage and focus on the 98, that is if you want to succeed.

You don't show you want products A and expect marketers to know you need product B. If you need product B, you must show it from the go, after all that's what's most important to you.

I don't go gaga over a woman's looks or act like that's the all and be all cos I don't want to send the wrong message. I throw compliments at decent women, like their photos and appreciate their virtues. Why can't other guys do same? Why over glorify slay queens and then turn around to say that's not what you will settle for. I laugh, you better prepare yourself cos that's all that's going to be left if you continue in your stupidity.

If you want decent women, better start appreciating them from the go. You don't expect a plant you don't water to remain alive. It's going to die. Good women are going extinct because they are not encouraged to continue . It's very simple.

If you can't bring yourself to love the virtuous women, then get yourself ready for the repercussions of fawning over curvy queens.

And now and in future, when you meet your waterloo please spare us all the epistles of how all women have gone bad and your irritating self righteousness. And how no man is getting married again bla bla (women are not getting married too again. Many women are beginning to embrace their single lives.) It's all fair and unfair.

{FYI, beautiful and ugly women have been getting married from time immemorial except you have research based statistics to dole out.}

My few cents.

a thousand and two kissez for you; kind sir.

Backinfront:
Why should a caked face and bleached skin matter in the first place? If women are bringing only these "artificials" to the table, doesn't that imply that's what's in demand?

Why supply what's not demanded? That would mean running life at a loss You think women are not smart?

Everyone in this world is a marketer. And a good marketer must first study the market, identify what is desired and how to meet it. If 98% want product A, it's only rational to ditch the remaining small percentage and focus on the 98, that is if you want to succeed.

You don't show you want products A and expect marketers to know you need product B. If you need product B, you must show it from the go, after all that's what's most important to you.

I don't go gaga over a woman's looks or act like that's the all and be all cos I don't want to send the wrong message. I throw compliments at decent women, like their photos and appreciate their virtues. Why can't other guys do same? Why over glorify slay queens and then turn around to say that's not what you will settle for. I laugh, you better prepare yourself cos that's all that's going to be left if you continue in your stupidity.

If you want decent women, better start appreciating them from the go. You don't expect a plant you don't water to remain alive. It's going to die. Good women are going extinct because they are not encouraged to continue . It's very simple.

If you can't bring yourself to love the virtuous women, then get yourself ready for the repercussions of fawning over curvy queens.

And now and in future, when you meet your waterloo please spare us all the epistles of how all women have gone bad and your irritating self righteousness. And how no man is getting married again bla bla (women are not getting married too again. Many women are beginning to embrace their single lives.) It's all fair and unfair.

{FYI, beautiful and ugly women have been getting married from time immemorial except you have research based statistics to dole out.}

My few cents.

You've said it all! It's men who are responsible for the rise in shallow artificial women since the beginning of time. If a woman's mind was as important as her body then why is it we are still fighting for the right of girls to be educated?

Men body shame women by complaining about something as natural as body shape, body hair and cellulite then have the nerve to demand for virtues. When I spend my days in the gym or in front of a mirror to meet society's demand that I look flawless when will I have time to work on my inner beauty?

Like you said if you're needs are more important than your wants then you men need to embrace and pay more attention to those women. You see men married to intelligent, virtuous women cheat on them with bimbos who look better but are half the women their wives are.

Backinfront:
Why should a caked face and bleached skin matter in the first place? If women are bringing only these "artificials" to the table, doesn't that imply that's what's in demand?

Why supply what's not demanded? That would mean running life at a loss You think women are not smart?

Everyone in this world is a marketer. And a good marketer must first study the market, identify what is desired and how to meet it. If 98% want product A, it's only rational to ditch the remaining small percentage and focus on the 98, that is if you want to succeed.

You don't show you want products A and expect marketers to know you need product B. If you need product B, you must show it from the go, after all that's what's most important to you.

I don't go gaga over a woman's looks or act like that's the all and be all cos I don't want to send the wrong message. I throw compliments at decent women, like their photos and appreciate their virtues. Why can't other guys do same? Why over glorify slay queens and then turn around to say that's not what you will settle for. I laugh, you better prepare yourself cos that's all that's going to be left if you continue in your stupidity.

If you want decent women, better start appreciating them from the go. You don't expect a plant you don't water to remain alive. It's going to die. Good women are going extinct because they are not encouraged to continue . It's very simple.

If you can't bring yourself to love the virtuous women, then get yourself ready for the repercussions of fawning over curvy queens.

And now and in future, when you meet your waterloo please spare us all the epistles of how all women have gone bad and your irritating self righteousness. And how no man is getting married again bla bla (women are not getting married too again. Many women are beginning to embrace their single lives.) It's all fair and unfair.

{FYI, beautiful and ugly women have been getting married from time immemorial except you have research based statistics to dole out.}

My few cents.

My guy u too much. Na we the guys if change all this things

PatriotTemidayo:
I am almost certain to draw the ire of certain class of girls with this thread, however truth is one gift of Nature sorely underutilized, but that eventually vindicates, if applied.

If you are like me, you would have wondered about the factors responsible for getting a man committed to a woman. While it is not one thing, or one theory, or one factor, there is, to a universal acceptance level, a minimum impression needed by a man. And to be honest, it is not your curves, or your face, neither is it your HEAVILY APPLIED MAKE-UP.

In the few years I've lived, as a young man, I've come around lots of Ladies, and to be honest, it is different stroke for different damsels. While I might, at one time or the other, played the role of a counselor, it is quite confusing to state that having a one-theory-fit-all for relationships is a mirage.

Why are men shying away from Marriage, even when they yawn to settle down in the deep of their hearts? Why would a man date a girl for 10 years and still never propose marriage? This question opens one's eyes to a depressing reality of our time.and here's is the joker: A man can stay committed to you for his own purpose and needs, and not your own purpose and needs.

Confused?

Let me break it down:

Commitment is relative, it is not absolute. If a man sees you as a sex object, or a bed companion, he can stay committed to you for that purpose, for years. It depends on what impression he garners from your lifestyle, your words, your desires and your thirst. If a man think you're only good for sex, he can stay with you for years, so long you serve to solve his sexual needs, but when you think of taking it to next level, he'll change it and let you go.

So I've seen girls taken from one eatery to another, from one shopping mall to the other, and with cash-loaded s but that are only sex objects. Not because they want to, but because the impression deciphered from their lifestyle, and look is that of a sex object.

When some girls want to condemn men, they say things like "after having sex with me, he left me". Wake up girl, you know sex is involved before you went into the relationship, so stop bringing that up. Your virtue doesn't lie between your legs, or on your chest, it's whom you are. If all you can give is your virginity or sex or curves, believe me, you have nothing to give

So what do most men want?

Did I hear a girl, someone shout SEX!?

If you say so, YOU'RE VERY CORRECT. all men want sex. But mind what I said, "WANT".

Now to next question;

What does a man NEED?

So, here we are, the point of truth. Where you need to listen and listen goodly. Men look out for two things; their WANTS, and their NEEDS. Are you good enough to be your man's WANT, or his NEEDS. do you satisfy him with what any other girl can give him, or bring into his life what he can't find anywhere else, and would regret if he lost it?

This is the reason ugly girls are getting married, and the queens and princesses of this world remain bed-mates and fun buddies. Your look, your curves and everything you see in the mirror fall totally into the category of WANT. But those virtues, those qualities and Values that his physical hands cannot grab and caress are his NEEDS.

, to hold him forever, you need to have both his WANTS and his NEEDS, but when there is only one option, a man can let go of his wants, in order to keep his needs. You dont want to be the dispensable one.

So you asked, how about all the sacrifices I've been making? And I'll ask you wether your sacrifices include giving him a good show on bed. Girl, that is no sacrifice! Period!
Sex is everywhere but real woman are so scarce. So scarce that men are scared to even approach girls, even when they know they'll get lot of sex.


Take this piece of counsel from me; Be a need, and not a want. Any woman can give a good sex, with the advent of make-up, any girl can look as stunning as possible. It is no more about that. Make yourself a value, a need that is irreplaceable.

I am Temidayo Kingheart.
Follow me,
Relationshipisbusiness..com.ng
Temidayokingheart..com.ng

How old are you?

Cutehector:
what would u consider an achievement?

Your chat with misspicy on WhatsApp is an achievement to you. Isn't it?

sEGXY2:
Its funny how men preach about women looking simple yet they go about chasing women with caked face and seemingly flawless skin from bleaching, though I like ma woman looking simple but the truth is all those make up and other beauty enhancers help stimulates physical attraction

Caked face

CarolineOlawale:
How old are you?

Am a young adult, early thirties.

PatriotTemidayo:


Am a young adult, early thirties.

Why are u posting childish stuffs online?

Backinfront:
Why should a caked face and bleached skin matter in the first place? If women are bringing only these "artificials" to the table, doesn't that imply that's what's in demand?

Why supply what's not demanded? That would mean running life at a loss You think women are not smart?

Everyone in this world is a marketer. And a good marketer must first study the market, identify what is desired and how to meet it. If 98% want product A, it's only rational to ditch the remaining small percentage and focus on the 98, that is if you want to succeed.

You don't show you want products A and expect marketers to know you need product B. If you need product B, you must show it from the go, after all that's what's most important to you.

I don't go gaga over a woman's looks or act like that's the all and be all cos I don't want to send the wrong message. I throw compliments at decent women, like their photos and appreciate their virtues. Why can't other guys do same? Why over glorify slay queens and then turn around to say that's not what you will settle for. I laugh, you better prepare yourself cos that's all that's going to be left if you continue in your stupidity.

If you want decent women, better start appreciating them from the go. You don't expect a plant you don't water to remain alive. It's going to die. Good women are going extinct because they are not encouraged to continue . It's very simple.

If you can't bring yourself to love the virtuous women, then get yourself ready for the repercussions of fawning over curvy queens.

And now and in future, when you meet your waterloo please spare us all the epistles of how all women have gone bad and your irritating self righteousness. And how no man is getting married again bla bla (women are not getting married too again. Many women are beginning to embrace their single lives.) It's all fair and unfair.

{FYI, beautiful and ugly women have been getting married from time immemorial except you have research based statistics to dole out.}

My few cents.

You said caked faces shouldn't matter, and then you said men should be the ones to lead the change. But let me ask you this, who forced you to have great dreams and aspirations in life? Or who made you believe in God? And If your friends do a thing, is there a law that says you must do the same?

Listen, you can either learn a lesson from posts like this, or pick up a fight (Cuz I saw something like stupidity in your response). I wouldn't believe you're against the points made in this post. Which was that, your value as a woman is not about your physical looks, it is who you're, inside. And if you had paid attention to points in the post, you'll see where I stated categorically that a man require his woman to be both the WANTS, and the NEEDS. which means, while you dont base your worth on your look or how good you can pump him, you should look good, while providing the values a man desire. But your value is not between your legs, on your chest or your face and curves. That is the point of this post, nothing else.

So, understand it or leave it. It is not by compulsion.

CarolineOlawale:


Why are u posting childish stuffs online?

Maybe you have an irredeemable childish mind. And that's how you see things. I guess the points made in this post speak to your person directly. Otherwise you wouldn't say what you just said.

Learning is difficult. Accepting truth is more difficult. And adapting a truth is a neck breaking adventure, people like you would rather bask in your overrated sense of things, than listen and learn.

How old are you again?

PatriotTemidayo:


Maybe you have an irredeemable childish mind. And that's how you see things. I guess the points made in this post speak to your person directly. Otherwise you wouldn't say what you just said.

Learning is difficult. Accepting truth is more difficult. And adapting a truth is a neck breaking adventure, people like you would rather bask in your overrated sense of things, than listen and learn.

How old are you again?

All these epistle? Boy its certain your brain is leaking! Do something about it before its too late!


All these teenage boys with mtn 10mb sef. Smh!

CarolineOlawale:


All these epistle? Boy its certain your brain is leaking! Do something about it before its too late!


All these teenage boys with mtn 10mb sef. Smh!

I know your type. Keep your ego. Peace!

PatriotTemidayo:


I know your type. Keep your ego. Peace!

Go and play with kids like you. We ain't on the same level.

Be it academically, financially, and apprance.

PatriotTemidayo:


You said caked faces shouldn't matter, and then you said men should be the ones to lead the change. But let me ask you this, who forced you to have great dreams and aspirations in life? Or who made you believe in God? And If your friends do a thing, is there a law that says you must do the same?

Listen, you can either learn a lesson from posts like this, or pick up a fight (Cuz I saw something like stupidity in your response). I wouldn't believe you're against the points made in this post. Which was that, your value as a woman is not about your physical looks, it is who you're, inside. And if you had paid attention to points in the post, you'll see where I stated categorically that a man require his woman to be both the WANTS, and the NEEDS. which means, while you dont base your worth on your look or how good you can pump him, you should look good, while providing the values a man desire. But your value is not between your legs, on your chest or your face and curves. That is the point of this post, nothing else.

So, understand it or leave it. It is not by compulsion.

I don't like light makeup sef