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There's this lady I've had eyes on since secondary school days. I only made my intentions known to her some months ago which I thought was a waste of time but to my greatest amazement she agreed to be mine.
Things were going on fine between us until today, when I gathered my courage to tell her about my disbelief in religion, and since then she refused picking my calls and I'm very afraid I might lose her

I'm in pain and I need serious help from you guys, Seun, pidgin2, frank317 and host of others, what do you think I should do?

daremiarchs:
There's this lady I've eyes on since secondary school days. I only made my intentions known to her some months ago which I thought was a waste of time but to my greatest amazement she agreed to be mine.
Things were going on fine between us until today, when I gathered my courage to tell her about my disbelief in religion, and since then she refused picking my calls and I'm very afraid I might lose her

I'm in pain and I need serious help from you guys, Seun, pidgin2, frank317 and host of others, what do you think I should do?

You say you need help from theists and yet you're calling Seun, the chief atheist on nairaland.
Well, on behalf of the girl, let me inform you that our Bible prohibits us from being unequally yoked with unbelievers.

thesicilian:

You say you need help from theists and yet you're calling Seun, the chief atheist on nairaland.
Well, on behalf of the girl, let me inform you that our Bible prohibits us from being unequally yoked with unbelievers.

I'm not asking for comments from dudes like you, sorry for the mistake I made earlier

daremiarchs:
There's this lady I've eyes on since secondary school days. I only made my intentions known to her some months ago which I thought was a waste of time but to my greatest amazement she agreed to be mine.
Things were going on fine between us until today, when I gathered my courage to tell her about my disbelief in religion, and since then she refused picking my calls and I'm very afraid I might lose her

I'm in pain and I need serious help from you guys, Seun, pidgin2, frank317 and host of others, what do you think I should do?

Why are you an atheist, what is in it for you? Nothing whatsoever, there is no gain in being an atheist

To me, ur relationship is ur relationship and ur belief is ur belief... I have learnt over the years not to allow them cross lines.

Relationship is all about sacrifice, while belief is all about being foolish... I don't let foolish things destroy what I have sacrificed for...

I am currently dating a Catholic Christian even after I lost a Catholic sweetheart to death... We will hit the alter by august... Did u hear me say alter?

Yes u did... If u give in ur best in a relationship, trust me, belief will be a very trivial thing... U must be wise about it.

I start by understanding how deeply religious she is, then I make her help my doubt in religion just to play along, I don't come on strong, but I ensure I am loving. Its a whole lot of mind game. By the time she knows I am an atheist, she cannot do without me, but I will allow her to enjoy her theism.

If u love her, tell her u are willing to work out ur belief, since u have made the mistake of telling her earlier about ur belief. Follow her to church, pretend, it's just belief, u are not hurting her by pretending to belief, infact u are making her happy and also making urself happy. Concentrate on making her love for a whole other reasons and at the end of the day, make belief a secondary issue in ur relationship.

If u try ur best it does not work... Move on. There are many fishes in the river.

Pidgin2:


Why are you an atheist, what is in it for you? Nothing whatsoever, there is no gain in being an atheist

There is no gain in believing anything (religious wise) but do u ACCEPT there is gain in being smart...

frank317:



There is no gain in believing anything (religious wise) but do u ACCEPT there is gain in being smart...

Not when you end up only as decayed matter after all your display of smartness, what's the point of being smart when you only get to use it in this short life? The only thing that makes sense to me us eternity

Pidgin2:


Why are you an atheist, what is in it for you? Nothing whatsoever, there is no gain in being an atheist

What good has religion done for you?
In what area and aspect of your life has it done a positive work?

daremiarchs:

What good has religion done for you?
In what area and aspect of your life has it done a positive work?

I am a better person because I know God.

frank317:
To me, ur relationship is ur relationship and ur belief is ur belief... I have learnt over the years not to allow them cross lines.

Relationship is all about sacrifice, while belief is all about being foolish... I don't let foolish things destroy what I have sacrificed for...

I am currently dating a Catholic Christian even after I lost a Catholic sweetheart to death... We will hit the alter by august... Did u hear me say alter?

Yes u did... If u give in ur best in a relationship, trust me, belief will be a very trivial thing... U must be wise about it.

I start by understanding how deeply religious she is, then I make her help my doubt in religion just to play along, I don't come on strong, but I ensure I am loving. Its a whole lot of mind game. By the time she knows I am an atheist, she cannot do without me, but I will allow her to enjoy her theism.

If u love her, tell her u are willing to work out ur belief, since u have made the mistake of telling her earlier about ur belief. Follow her to church, pretend, it's just belief, u are not hurting her by pretending to belief, infact u are making her happy and also making urself happy. Concentrate on making her love for a whole other reasons and at the end of the day, make belief a secondary issue in ur relationship.

If u try ur best it does not work... Move on. There are many fishes in the river.

Hmm, this is wonderful.
I hope it does work, because I'm not ready to lose her at all.
Thanks a lot sir

Pidgin2:


I am a better person because I know God.

Bro, sorry let's take this to another thread.
Not here please

frank317:
To me, ur relationship is ur relationship and ur belief is ur belief... I have learnt over the years not to allow them cross lines.

Relationship is all about sacrifice, while belief is all about being foolish... I don't let foolish things destroy what I have sacrificed for...

I am currently dating a Catholic Christian even after I lost a Catholic sweetheart to death... We will hit the alter by august... Did u hear me say alter?

Yes u did... If u give in ur best in a relationship, trust me, belief will be a very trivial thing... U must be wise about it.

I start by understanding how deeply religious she is, then I make her help my doubt in religion just to play along, I don't come on strong, but I ensure I am loving. Its a whole lot of mind game. By the time she knows I am an atheist, she cannot do without me, but I will allow her to enjoy her theism.

If u love her, tell her u are willing to work out ur belief, since u have made the mistake of telling her earlier about ur belief. Follow her to church, pretend, it's just belief, u are not hurting her by pretending to belief, infact u are making her happy and also making urself happy. Concentrate on making her love for a whole other reasons and at the end of the day, make belief a secondary issue in ur relationship.

If u try ur best it does not work... Move on. There are many fishes in the river.

#FACTS,
Me and my Hai-Hai (bae) never get bored after I told her "I'm no believer",,, she's more logical since I gave her reasons why I renounced

@OP, whenever you get to talk to her, try to ask her to give you reasons why you should become a Christian and promise her you will become ONE if her reasons is worth it

Why did you tell her?

I did because she pestered me,

Ranchhoddas:
Why did you tell her?

frank317:
To me, ur relationship is ur relationship and ur belief is ur belief... I have learnt over the years not to allow them cross lines.

Relationship is all about sacrifice, while belief is all about being foolish... I don't let foolish things destroy what I have sacrificed for...

I am currently dating a Catholic Christian even after I lost a Catholic sweetheart to death... We will hit the alter by august... Did u hear me say alter?

Yes u did... If u give in ur best in a relationship, trust me, belief will be a very trivial thing... U must be wise about it.

I start by understanding how deeply religious she is, then I make her help my doubt in religion just to play along, I don't come on strong, but I ensure I am loving. Its a whole lot of mind game. By the time she knows I am an atheist, she cannot do without me, but I will allow her to enjoy her theism.

If u love her, tell her u are willing to work out ur belief, since u have made the mistake of telling her earlier about ur belief. Follow her to church, pretend, it's just belief, u are not hurting her by pretending to belief, infact u are making her happy and also making urself happy. Concentrate on making her love for a whole other reasons and at the end of the day, make belief a secondary issue in ur relationship.

If u try ur best it does not work... Move on. There are many fishes in the river.

A very apt advice.
I have been doing that to an extent...

Tonyosas101:

@OP, whenever you get to talk to her, try to ask her to give you reasons why you should become a Christian and promise her you will become ONE if her reasons is worth it

I have come to understand it takes a lot of study, logical reasoning, and correlation to undo your childhood belief/programming.

Asking her for reasons when most girls are not into logical reasoning of "my pastor said" is asking for trouble.

daremiarchs:

I'm not asking for comments from dudes like you, sorry for the mistake I made earlier

Apologies accepted. But your spelling is still wrong. FYI it is spelt ATHEISTS. Just learn to pick up the dictionary whenever you're unsure of any word instead of this grammatical stumbling-in-the-dark.

daremiarchs:
I did because she pestered me,

Damn!

thesicilian:

Apologies accepted. But your spelling is still wrong. FYI it is spelt ATHEISTS. Just learn to pick up the dictionary whenever you're unsure of any word instead of this grammatical stumbling-in-the-dark.

What the hell is your problem?
Continue checking for mistakes like you've never made on yourself

ask her what her belief in gods have done for her

Karlovich:
ask her what her belief in gods have done for her

it's easier said than done bro

daremiarchs:

it's easier said than done bro

I thought u said u loved her, its something u have to explain to her and give her ur reasons for not believing In gods. that's the first step

Hmmm

Karlovich:
I thought u said u loved her, its something u have to explain to her and give her ur reasons for not believing In gods. that's the first step

thesicilian:

You say you need help from theists and yet you're calling Seun, the chief atheist on nairaland.
Well, on behalf of the girl, let me inform you that our Bible prohibits us from being unequally yoked with unbelievers.

Don't go too far, your buy-bull also primitively and savagerily ask you to hate your family, as long as they call the bluff of the nazarene.

daremiarchs:
Hmmm

follow frank317's advice if you're really interested in dating her..

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There's this lady I've had eyes on since secondary school days. I only made my intentions known to her some months ago which I thought was a waste of time but to my greatest amazement she agreed to be mine.

Things were going on fine between us until today, when I gathered my courage to tell her about my disbelief in religion, and since then she refused picking my calls and I'm very afraid I might lose her

I'm in pain and I need serious help from you guys, Seun, pidgin2, frank317 and host of others, what do you think I should do?

Why don't you want to lose her? Do you plan to marry her? That would be a bad idea. Deeply religious people and atheists shouldn't marry.

daremiarchs:
There's this lady I've had eyes on since secondary school days. I only made my intentions known to her some months ago which I thought was a waste of time but to my greatest amazement she agreed to be mine.
Things were going on fine between us until today, when I gathered my courage to tell her about my disbelief in religion, and since then she refused picking my calls and I'm very afraid I might lose her

I'm in pain and I need serious help from you guys, Seun, pidgin2, frank317 and host of others, what do you think I should do?

Find a fellow atheist to roll with, she doesnt love you in the first, she only tolerate you because she dont want to remain single.

Now that you show are the poo you are carrying, that she cannot tolerate.

And mind you relationship is not mono feeling, its not about you alone, so let her alone, because she cant be happy with you and that i the error code she is giving you

daremiarchs:
What the hell is your problem? Continue checking for mistakes like you've never made on yourself

Get yourself an atheist gf and quit asking irrelevant questions. Religion- God, gave you the life you have now.

daremiarchs:

What good has religion done for you?
In what area and aspect of your life has it done a positive work?

Spot on! Cuz light and darkness have nothing in common.

Seun:

Why don't you want to lose her? Do you plan to marry her? That would be a bad idea. Deeply religious people and atheists shouldn't marry.

thesicilian:

on to the next one maniac

frank317:
To me, ur relationship is ur relationship and ur belief is ur belief... I have learnt over the years not to allow them cross lines.

Relationship is all about sacrifice, while belief is all about being foolish... I don't let foolish things destroy what I have sacrificed for...

I am currently dating a Catholic Christian even after I lost a Catholic sweetheart to death... We will hit the alter by august... Did u hear me say alter?

Yes u did... If u give in ur best in a relationship, trust me, belief will be a very trivial thing... U must be wise about it.

I start by understanding how deeply religious she is, then I make her help my doubt in religion just to play along, I don't come on strong, but I ensure I am loving. Its a whole lot of mind game. By the time she knows I am an atheist, she cannot do without me, but I will allow her to enjoy her theism.

If u love her, tell her u are willing to work out ur belief, since u have made the mistake of telling her earlier about ur belief. Follow her to church, pretend, it's just belief, u are not hurting her by pretending to belief, infact u are making her happy and also making urself happy. Concentrate on making her love for a whole other reasons and at the end of the day, make belief a secondary issue in ur relationship.

If u try ur best it does not work... Move on. There are many fishes in the river.

You are not being smart but being deceptive, and selfish at same time. In Love affairs, it is not about what YOU want but WE want. at long run what if she cant handle it when both of you got married, she might develop psychological disorders, and murder you so as to correct her mistakes.

You must have being a wicked soul, I just wish........................

Or is Matrimonial life that important to free thinkers