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This is a very sensitive and twisted issue that needs to be approached cautiously and intelligently.

I have read in many places where people have expressed contrary views on this all time important issue. I have seen where a lady have asked if she can move in with her husband after traditional wedding?,i have seen a case where a lady insists that until a man does the white or church wedding,they are not considered married before GOD.

I have even heard many people stating emphatically that as long as a lady's bride price have not been paid then the lady is not considered married to the man and so many other discrepancies too numerous to highlight.`

Now the big question is what exactly is the module for a wedding ceremony and what ceremony really is ordained by GOD? When can GOD acknowledge a man and woman as married?is there any part of the Quran or Bible that stipulates a direct guideline of how a marriage ceremony must be conducted to be legitimate in GOD's eyes?

I will quickly answer this from the Quran and Biblical angles.


1.From the Quran:Prophet Muhammad (S) considered simple weddings the best weddings:'The best wedding is that upon which the least trouble and expense is bestowed". (Mishkat)

The Quran wedding ceremony module is simply hinged on Mutual Agreement of Bride and Groom called Nikah.

Marriage (nikah) is a solemn and sacred social contract between bride and groom. This contract is a strong covenant (mithaqun ghalithun) as expressed in Quran 4:21. The marriage contract in Islam is not a sacrament. It is revocable.

Both parties mutually agree and enter into this contract. Both bride and groom have the liberty to define various and conditions of their liking and make them a part of this contract.


2.From the Bible:I am very sorry to disappoint those who live by "my pastor said" or "my parents say" to empty their heads of every man made philosophy and get this straight...[size=13pt]there is no place in the bible where white wedding,traditional wedding or even court-wedding was ever mentioned and infact there was never a place in the bible that gave any preferred wedding ceremony[/size] and the issue of bride price was never mentioned as a yardstick for marriage but a punishment for rape and infact you can pay the bride price and still not allowed to marry the lady because you only paid a fine for rape-exodus 22:16-17:

It is quite absurd that today,many people have the erroneous belief that until all the three forms of wedding is done then GOD has not ordained such and while some say until a church wedding is conducted,GOD will not bless their wedding and i just look at the myopic mindset of these ignorant people and wonder where on earth they got that wrong doctrine from.

There is one scripture that sums up the steps to follow in any form of wedding ceremony you desire to have and that be found in Genesis 2:24: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.


A.The first step is for the man to make up his mind to leave his parents to be with a woman and start a family together.

B.A couple can be considered ed when they are legally married. The scriptural typically given for this view is the biblical command to obey the government’s laws (Romans 13:1–7; 1 Peter 2:17). A couple can also be considered ed together in God’s eyes when they have completed some kind of formal wedding ceremony whether in the church or culturally.

C.The third and final stage is becoming one flesh which occurs when sexual act occurs and this is why many people are warned against indiscriminate sexual acts as any sexual act is actually fulfilling the third stage of marital union and many people have actually been married to so many people in their life time.

So whether you decide to have just one of the 3 mode of celebration or you want to do Religious,traditional and court,you are very free.But it is important to note that in GOD's eyes the only thing he recognizes as directed by him is for a man to leave his parents,be ed to his wife and lastly become one with her and which ever way both of you decide to go about the ceremony as long as its not against his ordinances,its perfectly ok.

I hope this makes sense.

Ok

Marriage is overrated. It is a cultural practice or traditional rite forced on all of us. Nothing god ordains in it.Humans are often not sincere when it comes to cultural issues.

Don't know... What I know is that I must do All of the Above!

Toks2008:

2.From the Bible[/size][/color]"there is no place in the bible where white wedding,traditional wedding or even court-wedding was ever mentioned and infact there was never a place in the bible that gave any preferred wedding ceremony and the issue of bride price was never mentioned as a yardstick for marriage but a punishment for rape

There's no place in the bible where Nairaland and its usage is written.

Why do you use Nairaland?

jnrbayano:


There's no place in the bible where Nairaland and its usage is written.

Why do you use Nairaland?

Omotayor123:
Don't know... What I know is that I must do All of the Above!

thought Muslims do just nikah merged with traditional.

Now I wonder how these stinky celebrities will go an explain there self with what they called Baby mama's.Hell is real.....Follow God

Toks2008:
thought Muslims do just nikah merged with traditional.

And Registry

As long as both parents bless the union of a man and woman at any location. Others are ceremonies jare...

all4naija:
Marriage is overrated. It is a cultural practice or traditional rite forced on all of us. Nothing god ordains in it.Humans are often not sincere when it comes to cultural issues.

You forgot to add that it's an institution that some government uses to tame and subdue men and financially albeit unjustly empower women. I don't know if they're pandering to feminism or just silly and would do anything to keep the 'weaker' sex contented. In the West, it is said that at least 6/10 women millionaires became rich either through inheritance or alimony defrayal.

Omotayor123:

And Registry

I honestly see the registry as very vital then traditional but that white wedding thing na hog wash except they have enough cash to do that but should never be seen as a criterion for GOD to bless their wedding.

sunkoye:
As long as both parents bless the union of a man and woman at any location. Others are ceremonies jare...

It depends on the lady though..they are usually the ones who want blue,green,purple and lavender wedding.

Toks2008:


It depends on the lady though..they are usually the ones who want blue,green,purple and lavender wedding.

yes ohhh

The 3 forms of wedding are okay and if the couple can afford it, they should go ahead n do all 3.
Trad wedding were i come from is important. If a woman did not do her trad, her daughter cant, or else they go back n do that of d woman first. So why not do it and get it over with.
Court wedding for government and paperwork is also important as long as u live within a state.
White wedding, God institutionalized marriage. Therefore as a christain, a pastor has to bless n pray over my marriage.
But in everything consider your pockets, the wedding is just one day but the marriage is for the rest of your lives
Like my pastor would say ' dont borrow money to feed people that are not hungry on ur wedding day'

uchezzz:
The 3 forms of wedding are okay and if the couple can afford it, they should go ahead n do all 3.
Trad wedding were i come from is important. If a woman did not do her trad, her daughter cant, or else they go back n do that of d woman first. So why not do it and get it over with.
Court wedding for government and paperwork is also important as long as u live within a state.
White wedding, God institutionalized marriage. Therefore as a christain, a pastor has to bless n pray over my marriage.
But in everything consider your pockets, the wedding is just one day but the marriage is for the rest of your lives
Like my pastor would say ' dont borrow money to feed people that are not hungry on ur wedding day'

well said but God did not institutionalize white wedding tho

ronald4lif:


You forgot to add that it's an institution that some government uses to tame and subdue men and financially albeit unjustly empower women. I don't know if they're pandering to feminism or just silly and would do anything to keep the 'weaker' sex contented. In the West, it is said that at least 6/10 women millionaires became rich either through inheritance or alimony defrayal.

Hmmm interesting to know.

Saw this on lindaikeji blog and i just wonder.


http://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2015/10/it-is-sin-for-couple-who-is-only.html

Someone should ask the pastor to back it up from the bible that having sex after legal and traditional marriage without church wedding is a sin.

Unfortunately some people wil just believe her heresy.

while the whole extravaganza of the white wedding is totally unnecessary and extremely superficial......... I think as a religious person, the needed form of wedding is the one ordained by a leader of ur own religion.....

Everybody has to do the registry wedding now obviously, but that is just to uphold ur end of the deal as a legal citizen of ur country.....which I have no problem with.

I think traditional wedding is the odd one out here.... relatives of the bride using that as a means to siphon as much money as they can from the groom and his kinsmen

A lady becomes ur wife after! D bride price has bin paid! I see d white wedding as a celebration. D real wedding is wen d pride price is bin paid!

olamigbemi:
A lady becomes ur wife after! D bride price has bin paid! I see d white wedding as a celebration. D real wedding is wen d pride price is bin paid!

Ok sis but can i ask you a quick question.

If you had a legal wedding with someone and the bride price has not been paid will you say both of you are not yet married?

the law in nigeria recognises only two forms of marriage viz; statutory & traditional marriage. in some parts of the country, the marriage is only contracted when the bride price has been paid.

Biblically they aiint married! Let's just do it the way God wants!

Toks2008:



Ok sis but can i ask you a quick question.

If you had a legal wedding with someone and the bride price has not been paid will you say both of you are not yet married?

olamigbemi:
Biblically they aiint married! Let's just do it the way God wants!

Did you reead the original post?

pleease do cos thre was never a place in the bible where bride price was mentioned as a condition for marriage but rather a penalty for rape.

I suggest you back up your assertion from the bible.

thanks

Omotayor123:
Don't know... What I know is that I must do All of the Above!

Correct. . . because it is by choice.



OP. . .


Thanks for the coloured path.

you does well *in apostle Paul voice*

Once you pay a brideprice, wife na your own. Go and enjoy your wife, fucck pastors

SirJeffry:
Once you pay a brideprice, wife na your own. Go and enjoy your wife, fucck pastors

Traditionally its after a bride price is paid

Religiously it is when a pastor or imam pronounces the couple married

Legally it is when you sign the papers in the registry

From the Biblical angle. there is no laid down procedure.

As long as you do all or one of the first 3,you are married before GOD and man..shikena

Honourable lalasticlala please lets have more contributors.

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WiLdFLame:
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lol..so you are a member of Space bookers association of nairaland.

d way Nigerians dey take dey collect bride price eehh, especially in d east....

me: papa/mama good day sir/ma

INLAWS: my son how are you sit *offers him garden egg* you can eat as much as you want

me: thank you sir*eats alot of garden egg*

INLAWS: ooh eeem we forgot to tell you, One garden egg cost #1500

me: *FAINTS*