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OnyeEgo1(m): 8:01pm On Dec 12, 2014
sukkot:
poverty is a mindset. if you have clothing food and shelter, you are not poor. there are not too many homeless people in nigeria. i suggest you take a trip to los angeles skid row to see what real poverty is

u talk about homeless i av u travelled on road to up north in d recent tyms.

I put it to YOU, if u Live only FOR YOURSELF you are still POOR, pple need ur help in dis life weda u like it or not....

Responsibility is maturity, but how can u achieve dat without working it out?
damselabi(f): 8:01pm On Dec 12, 2014
QMark:
She waited for me for 10 years. Now we are married. Very comfortable, but she is still waiting for me,..I am not Dangote yet. And when I become Dangote, she'll still be waiting till I became Bill.
U got up n achieved ur own dreams, he is nt getting up at all...hw ll he bcome som1 let alone dangote.
iamDepeju(f): 8:02pm On Dec 12, 2014
[quote author=FlirtyKaren post=28820760]Everyone has dreams, goals, aspiration. But what do you do, guys, when the person you are dating has desire but never really does anything about it?

Let's say you've been dating a guy, ladies. He's perfect. He looks great, the sex is great, you get along perfectly but there's only one problem, he isn't doing much with his life. He has tons of aspirations and dreams but when it comes to getting up and achieving them dreams, it's a different story. He believes that one day he's going to make it,but it's clear to see that the drive isn't there. How long do you stay before you give up on him? Do you immediately assume that he's never going to amount to anything and cut him off immediately? Or would you stick with him and hope that he gets his act together? Would you help him get his act together? Should you help him get his act together?

http://www.lailasblog.com/2014/12/how-long-should-woman-wait-for-man-to.html#sthash....the lady can help d guy get his act together by praying for him, communicate with him and encourage him regularly.....and if the guy doesn't show any sign of seriousness with is life, then she can "walk away".

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franksunny(m): 8:08pm On Dec 12, 2014
the issue here is that you are not seeing all he is doing to achieving his goal. nigeria is a rugged place where many are struggling and few are getting good result therefore making it look like some are not doing anything. so if you want to go, you can go ahead and leave him. he will definitely arrive unless he is a lazy a$$

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sukkot: 8:10pm On Dec 12, 2014
OnyeEgo1:


u talk about homeless i av u travelled on road to up north in d recent tyms.

I put it to YOU, if u Live only FOR YOURSELF you are still POOR, pple need ur help in dis life weda u like it or not....

Responsibility is maturity, but how can u achieve dat without working it out?
help comes in all forms. you have a one track brain. and responsibility has nothing to do with money. BEING RESPONSIBLE IS not stealing, not cheating, not committing adultery, treating others how you want to be treated. thats what responsibility is. take a look at buhari ? he has no money but he is the epitome of responsibility. take a look at jonathan ? he has all the money in the world but is as irresponsible as they come. OPEN YOUR EYES CUZ YOU ARE BLIND

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peekeeks(m): 8:11pm On Dec 12, 2014
I guess forever is a perfect timing for dat huh..
Abbey2sam(m): 8:13pm On Dec 12, 2014
Nobleval:
did you read the post?

i did...The question is meant for both party
Hemanwel(m): 8:16pm On Dec 12, 2014
Babymama1:


Not only get envious,he may end up killing her
Go and check it
Most wife killers are under achieving men who feel threatened by their successful wives
No woman should even answer a greeting from such a man
There are women stuck in marriages with 5 kids being the sole provider,working their fingers to the bone while the man is at home watching African magic.wishing they could turn back the clock and stepped when he toasted them.
Why you carry this matter for head like Gala??Only you have dropped about 5 comments or more in the first two pages.You really sound bitter.Perhaps the topic perfectly describes your past relationship?Anyways...it's quite an interesting and vital topic.

On the flip side:

APC has been accusing the incumbent President,GEJ (in his 50s),of being a clueless and WEAK leader and therefore calls for change.Yet,the not-too-ready-for-change APC is fielding a 71-year old (WEAKER retired General) as its Presidential candidate.
Are these people ready for this change they are clamouring for??Time shall tell!
Tex42(m): 8:37pm On Dec 12, 2014
Did they not say that google is ur friend?
OnyeEgo1(m): 8:40pm On Dec 12, 2014
sukkot:
help comes in all forms. you have a one track brain. and responsibility has nothing to do with money. BEING RESPONSIBLE IS not stealing, not cheating, not committing adultery, treating others how you want to be treated. thats what responsibility is. take a look at buhari ? he has no money but he is the epitome of responsibility. take a look at jonathan ? he has all the money in the world but is as irresponsible as they come. OPEN YOUR EYES CUZ YOU ARE BLIND

i wud treat dis post as though it is from a damaged brain which rilly it is, how come u ended up with politics? N insulting a man ur father wouldn't hesitate to bow for when he sees him from afar.

Respect is reciprocal boy, it is obvious u don't understand responsibility, u av Google.com to get help on dat.

When u wanna quote me next tym, try using some form of sanity while typing, it wud b greatly appreciated #Adios
sukkot: 8:45pm On Dec 12, 2014
OnyeEgo1:


i wud treat dis post as though it is from a damaged brain which rilly it is, how come u ended up with politics? N insulting a man ur father wouldn't hesitate to bow for when he sees him from afar.

Respect is reciprocal boy, it is obvious u don't understand responsibility, u av Google.com to get help on dat.

When u wanna quote me next tym, try using some form of sanity while typing, it wud b greatly appreciated #Adios
SEE you are the typical empty barrel nigerian who worships men. its all starting to come out now. you are slowly revealing who you are. i have seen your type before, when you see a politician a whole bunch of you lie on the floor prostrating for fellow human beings, fellow mortals such as yourself. you are a born man worshipping loser and nigeria needs to get rid of people like you for us to rise as a nation. a-s-s kissers and brown-nosers like you need to be eliminated. you are the problem of nigeria.
TPIA3: 8:47pm On Dec 12, 2014
Tex42:
Did they not say that google is ur friend?
ocelot2006(m): 8:52pm On Dec 12, 2014
He has the vision but lacks the drive, yet she's still waiting....here's an idea, how abt you equally help motivate him to reach his full potential rather than just wait moping?
Re: How Long Should A Woman Wait For A Man To Get His Act Together? by Nobody: 8:54pm On Dec 12, 2014
Hemanwel:

Why you carry this matter for head like Gala??Only you have dropped about 5 comments or more in the first two pages.You really sound bitter.Perhaps the topic perfectly describes your past relationship?Anyways...it's quite an interesting and vital topic.

On the flip side:

APC has been accusing the incumbent President,GEJ (in his 50s),of being a clueless and WEAK leader and therefore calls for change.Yet,the not-too-ready-for-change APC is fielding a 71-year old (WEAKER retired General) as its Presidential candidate.
Are these people ready for this change they are clamouring for??Time shall tell!

I have noticed you
Happy now?
Next?
kayalla(f): 8:59pm On Dec 12, 2014
till all the hair on her head is grey!
misreal(m): 9:05pm On Dec 12, 2014
Babymama1:


Unfortunately spirituality and higher self imagine cannot turn to rice and beans
Neither will it pay baba MIchael his house rent,let's be practical
u lie bros..
sukkot: 9:17pm On Dec 12, 2014
OnyeEgo1:


i wud treat dis post as though it is from a damaged brain which rilly it is, how come u ended up with politics? N insulting a man ur father wouldn't hesitate to bow for when he sees him from afar.

Respect is reciprocal boy, it is obvious u don't understand responsibility, u av Google.com to get help on dat.

When u wanna quote me next tym, try using some form of sanity while typing, it wud b greatly appreciated #Adios
this is you right here. you and your kind

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Icerex(m): 9:41pm On Dec 12, 2014
Babymama1:



Such a man won't even appeal to me in the first instance
I have nothing in common with such a fellow
I am allergic to lazy ,efulefu men
Not my portion
Hmmm. You sound like an Igala girl. Are You one?
OnyeEgo1(m): 9:43pm On Dec 12, 2014
sukkot:
SEE you are the typical empty barrel nigerian who worships men. its all starting to come out now. you are slowly revealing who you are. i have seen your type before, when you see a politician a whole bunch of you lie on the floor prostrating for fellow human beings, fellow mortals such as yourself. you are a born man worshipping loser and nigeria needs to get rid of people like you for us to rise as a nation. a-s-s kissers and brown-nosers like you need to be eliminated. you are the problem of nigeria.

goto sky bank n donate ur aggression it wud yield u profit trust me, why go gaga??.

I am a big ed or buhari come 2015, but resorting to abuses to prove ur point goes to show how little ur mindset...

Show some courtesy by honoring those who are meant to b honored n stop Being arrogant in misery...

Gej failed Nigeria but dat does not mean we shud disrespect him hence he is still a president...

U know what, u can choose to learn from dis short post, but unfortunately u may choose not to..
sukkot: 10:08pm On Dec 12, 2014
OnyeEgo1:


goto sky bank n donate ur aggression it wud yield u profit trust me, why go gaga??.

I am a big ed or buhari come 2015, but resorting to abuses to prove ur point goes to show how little ur mindset...

Show some courtesy by honoring those who are meant to b honored n stop Being arrogant in misery...

Gej failed Nigeria but dat does not mean we shud disrespect him hence he is still a president...

U know what, u can choose to learn from dis short post, but unfortunately u may choose not to..
nigga take your illiterate a-s-s back to school. learn how to write legible english first before you quote my post cheesy

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Re: How Long Should A Woman Wait For A Man To Get His Act Together? by Nobody: 12:10am On Dec 13, 2014
There is no such thing as waiting for anybody except u had odd intentions or no valid intentions from the begining. Equally I can tell u that the majority of men want sm1 who can endure the odd times with dem. So ladies it never will be a smooth ride, stick with him and help him become more cordinated. God bless
Toks2008(m): 12:27am On Dec 13, 2014
freecocoa:
I'll stay and try to help motivate him but if he's unwilling, goodbye will be the sweetest word.

Wait! i dont seem to get it.

When does loving a man or staying with a man based on what he is or his future status?

SO its now impossible for a lady to stay in love with a man even if he remains poor for as long as he lives.

What a crazy world

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Re: How Long Should A Woman Wait For A Man To Get His Act Together? by Nobody: 4:00am On Dec 13, 2014
No time for talkers.
If it's just him, he can take his sweet arse time. But if he is trying to create something while with another, he better not be wasting time.
A good woman is a cheer leader. She will provide the energy of encouragement. It is left to him to take that energy and convert it to one of actual DOING and WINNING.

At a certain age, a man shouldn't still be talking, he should be DOING.
He may not have achieved yet, but he CANNOT be that guy who comfortably spends his free time doing jack squat and not devoting a good chunk of his waking hours to whatever he claims to be working on. Especially when he now has someone rooting for him.

For example, it got to a point early in my life where just going to a party or club felt like such a brutal abuse of my time. Because I would have rather been building my "thing". In fact, if I make arrangements with someone to meet up casually and they cancel, I actually always FELT HAPPY, because now I didn't have to waste my time with activities that don't really lead anywhere definite.

Mediocrity is something anyone with a dream must reject in Jesus name.
Relationship is not a contract. That shit begins and ends everyday.

"Hunny, we aren't compatible and we don't seem to be going the same way in life. Thanks for the journey, it was fun, but we'll need go our separate ways"

"We aren't going to work. You have to go out there and find him/her, cuz it's not me"

"Good news! I've decided to loose some weight...starting with YOU smiley "


Use any of these patented lines to your heart's content, royalty-free. Good luck cool
itstpia8: 4:06am On Dec 13, 2014
Toks2008:


Wait! i dont seem to get it.

When does loving a man or staying with a man based on what he is or his future status?

SO its now impossible for a lady to stay in love with a man even if he remains poor for as long as he lives.

What a crazy world


like i always say, 1 Cor 13 is my own definition of love.

but as per topic, she can wait as long as she likes.
onadana: 5:51am On Dec 13, 2014
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Edusouls:
shut up, such zombie women like you cant event have a boyfriend, talkless of dreaming to get married..thief girl, was ur father rich b4 marrying ur mother,am sure you poverty mentality girls comes from the most wretched and miserably poor homes..



See frustration in working form . Abeg na me say make poverty be your friend.Why can't people accept the fact they don't have.There is a big different between having prospect and pursuing your prospect.A man is the head and should act as such.Parasite and leeches like you are the type that look for women who will lift them out of poverty.Be a real man. cool
freecocoa(f): 6:28am On Dec 13, 2014
Toks2008:


Wait! i dont seem to get it.

When does loving a man or staying with a man based on what he is or his future status?

SO its now impossible for a lady to stay in love with a man even if he remains poor for as long as he lives.

What a crazy world
I don't know about you but I don't want to be poor so I can't stay with any man whom is willing to remain poor, it's one thing to be poor when we met and another to want to remain that way.

Have you seen what poverty can do?
OnyeEgo1(m): 8:09am On Dec 13, 2014
freecocoa:
I don't know about you but I don't want to be poor so I can't stay with any man whom is willing to remain poor, it's one thing to be poor when we met and another to want to remain that way.

Have you seen what poverty can do?

it can make u drink otapiapia, share beer with like 3 pple, mix alomo bitter with coke so it wud taste like wine, being broke ain't nice at all much more being poor
Wisegeek01(m): 10:00am On Dec 13, 2014
She can wait forever if she likes !
meniyke: 12:13pm On Dec 13, 2014
Ladies: The problem here is not on the 'WAITING' but on the 'MAN YOU LOVE.' Just change your mind-set. Men are designed right from the creation to LOVE you (wives). When he does, you are to assess him and when you found him worthy and became his wife, you then SUBMIT. Women are designed in the manna that when they are been loved or cared for, you will get their love back 100 folds except those that are... Ladies hear this: a man that LOVES you will care for you, when it is the other way round, the kind of BLOW you will see one day eeeeeh, it's only mike tyson can explain that. Ladies: change your mind-set.
Mclick(m): 12:43pm On Dec 13, 2014
ronald4lif:
If the lady is a career driven person and go getter she shouldn't even get involve in such relationship in the first place but if she' the type who lacks vision herself and one who wants to be a liability to the guy then she should manage him, they have things in common.

But generally a maximum a relationship should last is between 5-6 years, within 2years a woman should be able to determine where it's heading to
Aoch
Mclick(m): 12:46pm On Dec 13, 2014
FlirtyKaren:
Everyone has dreams, goals, aspiration. But what do you do, guys, when the person you are dating has desire but never really does anything about it?

Let's say you've been dating a guy, ladies. He's perfect. He looks great, the sex is great, you get along perfectly but there's only one problem, he isn't doing much with his life. He has tons of aspirations and dreams but when it comes to getting up and achieving them dreams, it's a different story. He believes that one day he's going to make it,but it's clear to see that the drive isn't there. How long do you stay before you give up on him? Do you immediately assume that he's never going to amount to anything and cut him off immediately? Or would you stick with him and hope that he gets his act together? Would you help him get his act together? Should you help him get his act together?

http://www.lailasblog.com/2014/12/how-long-should-woman-wait-for-man-to.html#sthash.dnrdtIQD.dpuf
Vision without drive and sacrifices is emptiness upon emptiness equal hoping against hope
1stola: 1:20pm On Dec 13, 2014
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