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I have been married to my wife for close to 20 years now.
My wife is a very faithful woman. But I can describe her as frigid. As sex/romance/love making is her weakest point. Since she scores very high on almost every other indices except intimacy I thought I could manage.

Anyway 8 years ago I traveled outside the country for 2 years and came back as I used to do. But this time around I noticed that I could no longer get an erection when I want to do the do with my wife. Since then I/we have done everything to look for solution, but curiously till now non has been found. If I go in with another lady everything works out very fine. If I even use an artificial V.G everything works fine. But once I near my wife my John Thomas will not stand. If it makes a mistake and stands a little and enters the honey pot then it will ejaculate within 10 to 30 seconds. It is extremely frustrating.

I have tried medical solutions severally. It didn't help. After several studies I have come to the realization that someone must have placed a charm on me or my wife for the sole sake of giving me temporary impotence only when am with my wife. Something like "Tesho" a charm placed on mostly Yoruba girls to prevent them from having intimacy before marriage. Anyone that wants to have intimacy with them will temporarily become impotent. And if such charm is not removed on her that scenario shall continue throughout her lifetime. That is the scary part. Such charm has no expiry date.

As a matter of principle I do not and have never patronized native doctors. So I have restricted my solution finding to Churches/pastors/prophets etc. Unfortunately after 8 year, till date I have found no single solution.
Right now I am open to getting the solution wherever I can get it.

The answers I seek are:
1) Who placed this charm
2) Is it placed on me or my wife
3) Most important: How to end this charm

I reside at Aba, Abia state.
a) If you know a good church/ministry or man of God that can solve it please inform me.
b) Otherwise if you know a herbal home/ native doctor that can only solve it and not make me enter into some other fetish/complicating things please inform me.
Please help a brother out of this frustrating situation. Thank you all.

Pls I don't have the answers or solutions you seek...

But I am curious your wife's position and reaction to this issue.

Does she also believe a curse has been placed?

8 years facing such a situation no be play!

brain54:
Pls I don't have the answers or solutions you seek...

But I am curious your wife's position and reaction to this issue.

Does she also believe a curse has been placed?

8 years facing such a situation no be play!

Yes my wife thinks it's certainly a charm. But she thinks the charm is placed on me by a desperate side chic. Curiously this whole scenario started once we are done with having our 4 kids. Worryingly for me, my wife is not as bothered as I think she should be. In fact I could say that she secretly wishes it continues so that I will never "disturb" her for sex. If a solution is proffered that needs two of us to come, to convince her to me would be a herculean task ..

Greatmec:
I have been married to my wife for close to 20 years now.
My wife is a very faithful woman. But I can describe her as frigid. As sex/romance/love making is her weakest point. Since she scores very high on almost every other indices except intimacy I thought I could manage.

Anyway 8 years ago I traveled outside the country for 2 years and came back as I used to do. But this time around I noticed that I could no longer get an erection when I want to do the do with my wife. Since then I/we have done everything to look for solution, but curiously till now non has been found. If I go in with another lady everything works out very fine. If I even use an artificial V.G everything works fine. But once I near my wife my John Thomas will not stand. If it makes a mistake and stands a little and enters the honey pot then it will ejaculate within 10 to 30 seconds. It is extremely frustrating.

I have tried medical solutions severally. It didn't help. After several studies I have come to the realization that someone must have placed a charm on me or my wife for the sole sake of giving me temporary impotence only when am with my wife. Something like "Tesho" a charm placed on mostly Yoruba girls to prevent them from having intimacy before marriage. Anyone that wants to have intimacy with them will temporarily become impotent. And if such charm is not removed on her that scenario shall continue throughout her lifetime. That is the scary part. Such charm has no expiry date.

As a matter of principle I do not and have never patronized native doctors. So I have restricted my solution finding to Churches/pastors/prophets etc. Unfortunately after 8 year, till date I have found no single solution.
Right now I am open to getting the solution wherever I can get it.

The answers I seek are:
1) Who placed this charm
2) Is it placed on me or my wife
3) Most important: How to end this charm

I reside at Aba, Abia state.
a) If you know a good church/ministry or man of God that can solve it please inform me.
b) Otherwise if you know a herbal home/ native doctor that can only solve it and not make me enter into some other fetish/complicating things please inform me.
Please help a brother out of this frustrating situation. Thank you all.

Person wey no dey do excersise too dey complain . Omor people get mind.
I can help you if you don't believe it's charm .
All these kind charm no dey work for me and my kegel guys

Greatmec:


Yes my wife thinks it's certainly a charm. But she thinks the charm is placed on me by a desperate side chic. Curiously this whole scenario started once we are done with having our 4 kids. Worryingly for me, my wife is not as bothered as I think she should be. In fact I could say that she secretly wishes it continues so that I will never "disturb" her for sex. If a solution is proffered that needs two of us to come, to convince her to me would be a herculean task ..

Have you ever suspected she might have a hand in the predicament...

8 years is too much for a wife to feel unbothered about a situation like this. I don't want to put ideas in your head o. So I will stop here for now.

I dating this particular girl years back and she would always brag and boast that I wouldn't be able to make love to her. And really whenever we were together my you know what will never respond to stimuli. We never ever did the do. And this was someone I found really sexy and attractive.

I always wondered if pressure or what ever was the cause.

I can't tell now if I am the one making it up inside my head because it's a long time ago.

But I think maybe I have heard that word "tesho" before from her.

Even when you get a solution your wife will still be unwilling to participate!

Greatmec:


Yes my wife thinks it's certainly a charm. But she thinks the charm is placed on me by a desperate side chic. Curiously this whole scenario started once we are done with having our 4 kids. Worryingly for me, my wife is not as bothered as I think she should be. In fact I could say that she secretly wishes it continues so that I will never "disturb" her for sex. If a solution is proffered that needs two of us to come, to convince her to me would be a herculean task ..

four kids and you want to impregnate her again

Not charms tho but called family planning

brain54:


Have you ever suspected she might have a hand in the predicament...

8 years is too much for a wife to feel unbothered about a situation like this. I don't want to put ideas in your head o. So I will stop here for now.

I dating this particular girl years back and she would always brag and boast that I wouldn't be able to make love to her. And really whenever we were together my you know what will never respond to stimuli.

I always wondered if pressure or what ever was the cause.

I can't tell now if I am the one making it up inside my head because it's a long time ago.

But I think maybe I have heard that word "tesho" before.

Even when you get a solution your wife will still be unwilling to participate!

My brother, within these 8 years I have thought about everything and every possibility. My wife is a very good woman and a good christian, so I find it very hard to sustain a thought along that line. But certainly Yes, I have thought about it severally because her attitude towards this whole scenario leaves me with lots of questions.

My wife is frigid. If you don't touch her for 2 straight years, both of you can be lying on the same bed and there shall be no touching, no romance, no kissing, no nothing and incredibly she would be okay with that.

Though when I try to think deeper it suddenly doesn't add up. I mean how can a married woman place a charm on her own husband not to be able to get an erection for her? How long does she think she can get away with that? If the husband finds out someday (which is certain, even after 8 years) how can she explain that?

Lighterx:

Person wey no dey do excersise too dey complain . Omor people get mind.
I can help you if you don't believe it's charm .
All these kind charm no dey work for me and my kegel guys

Guy, if you have a solution for me please proffer it.
I never said I was 100% sure that this is a case of charm. Just that I am a very meticulous person. When something happens to me or around me I take my time to study it before drawing conclusions. And when I finally do I always end up being right in most of the cases. So I have come to the conclusion that this is a charm case. But I am not 100% sure.

So if you think otherwise and have a solution for me please inform me and I shall look into it. What I need is a solution to my predicament, not to be right or wrong.

Lighterx:

Person wey no dey do excersise too dey complain . Omor people get mind.
I can help you if you don't believe it's charm .
All these kind charm no dey work for me and my kegel guys

so na exercise dey make him thing work for outside but not inside?

Firebox123:
four kids and you want to impregnate her again

Not charms tho but called family planning

so every sexual encounter between man n woman is to make babies?

So u want to tell me u don't know people have sex for fun?

Greatmec:


My brother, within these 8 years I have thought about everything and every possibility. My wife is a very good woman and a good christian, so I find it very hard to sustain a thought along that line. But certainly Yes, I have thought about it severally because her attitude towards this whole scenario leaves me with lots of questions.

My wife is frigid. If you don't touch her for 2 straight years, both of you can be lying on the same bed and there shall be no touching, no romance, no kissing, no nothing and incredibly she would be okay with that.

Though when I try to think deeper it suddenly doesn't add up. I mean how can a married woman place a charm on her own husband not to be able to get an erection for her? How long does she think she can get away with that? If the husband finds out someday (which is certain, even after 8 years) how can she explain that?

na your wife run that level bro.

If some women can kill their own children, Wetin dem no fit do again?

Is your wife curcumcized?

If yes, then she doesn't enjoy sex for fun but for procreation alone.

If it wife is curcumcized believe u me she's d happiest on earth n she won't really want it to ever rise again.

Another thing is, hope she never reach menopause?

Cos many of them find sex to b an herculean task at that stage, check inward first before I tell u what to do

Sharpsharp00123:
na your wife run that level bro.

If some women can kill their own children, Wetin dem no fit do again?

Is your wife curcumcized?

If yes, then she doesn't enjoy sex for fun but for procreation alone.

If it wife is curcumcized believe u me she's d happiest on earth n she won't really want it to ever rise again.

Another thing is, hope she never reach menopause?

Cos many of them find sex to b an herculean task at that stage, check inward first before I tell u what to do

You might be right or wrong. But please I want the emphasis to be more on finding solution to this problem rather than to pin down my wife on it.

She is not circumcised and she has not yet reached menopause.

However even before I married her I knew she had a low sex drive. I thought I could work on that and improve it but unfortunately it has gone the other way round. Now she has close to zero sex drive.

However please am looking for solution to my temporary impotence only before my wife. Thank you.

Greatmec:


You might be right or wrong. But please I want the emphasis to be more on finding solution to this problem rather than to pin down my wife on it.

She is not circumcised and she has not yet reached menopause.

However even before I married her I knew she had a low sex drive. I thought I could work on that and improve it but unfortunately it has gone the other way round. Now she has close to zero sex drive.

However please am looking for solution to my temporary impotence only before my wife. Thank you.

lol

U go later know say na wife run am


But no yawa

Greatmec:
I have been married to my wife for close to 20 years now.
My wife is a very faithful woman. But I can describe her as frigid. As sex/romance/love making is her weakest point. Since she scores very high on almost every other indices except intimacy I thought I could manage.

Anyway 8 years ago I traveled outside the country for 2 years and came back as I used to do. But this time around I noticed that I could no longer get an erection when I want to do the do with my wife. Since then I/we have done everything to look for solution, but curiously till now non has been found. If I go in with another lady everything works out very fine. If I even use an artificial V.G everything works fine. But once I near my wife my John Thomas will not stand. If it makes a mistake and stands a little and enters the honey pot then it will ejaculate within 10 to 30 seconds. It is extremely frustrating.

I have tried medical solutions severally. It didn't help. After several studies I have come to the realization that someone must have placed a charm on me or my wife for the sole sake of giving me temporary impotence only when am with my wife. Something like "Tesho" a charm placed on mostly Yoruba girls to prevent them from having intimacy before marriage. Anyone that wants to have intimacy with them will temporarily become impotent. And if such charm is not removed on her that scenario shall continue throughout her lifetime. That is the scary part. Such charm has no expiry date.

As a matter of principle I do not and have never patronized native doctors. So I have restricted my solution finding to Churches/pastors/prophets etc. Unfortunately after 8 year, till date I have found no single solution.
Right now I am open to getting the solution wherever I can get it.

The answers I seek are:
1) Who placed this charm
2) Is it placed on me or my wife
3) Most important: How to end this charm

I reside at Aba, Abia state.
a) If you know a good church/ministry or man of God that can solve it please inform me.
b) Otherwise if you know a herbal home/ native doctor that can only solve it and not make me enter into some other fetish/complicating things please inform me.
Please help a brother out of this frustrating situation. Thank you all.

you are no longer sexually attracted to your wife, she was also not sexually attracted to you or might be asexual,simple as ABC.

No juju, nothing. It's a pity.

Try seeing a psychologist and sex therapist.

DrFunmisticGlow:
you are no longer sexually attracted to your wife, she was also not sexually attracted to you or might be asexual,simple as ABC.

No juju, nothing. It's a pity.

Try seeing a psychologist and sex therapist.

Sorry, but this is so not true. I am so much sexually attracted to my wife. Even with her low sex drive and no sex techniques all I need is for her to UnCloth and even lie like a log of wood and I would have enough erection to last me up to 30 to 45 minutes a round. She has never been good in initiating anything sexual yet I have always been super attracted to her as I have always loved her. Nothing else but charm (I think) explains the complete impotence once am beside her which started suddenly 8 years ago.

Lighterx:

Person wey no dey do excersise too dey complain . Omor people get mind.
I can help you if you don't believe it's charm .
All these kind charm no dey work for me and my kegel guys

It's not just about exercise, his state of mind is not helping him solve the problem. If he continues to see his wife this way and he believes that thing, he won't rise his johnny

If you think it's juju simply fast for three days and take a ritual bath of purification, by praying inside water, you can add sugar or salt if you want. Then go to a new environment, not your home, maybe an Airbnb or a self let for 24hours , just ensure the environment is cozy.Some Nigeria men of God like to personalize God and start innovating, use your mouth and pray.

Greatmec:
I have been married to my wife for close to 20 years now.
My wife is a very faithful woman. But I can describe her as frigid. As sex/romance/love making is her weakest point. Since she scores very high on almost every other indices except intimacy I thought I could manage.

Anyway 8 years ago I traveled outside the country for 2 years and came back as I used to do. But this time around I noticed that I could no longer get an erection when I want to do the do with my wife. Since then I/we have done everything to look for solution, but curiously till now non has been found. If I go in with another lady everything works out very fine. If I even use an artificial V.G everything works fine. But once I near my wife my John Thomas will not stand. If it makes a mistake and stands a little and enters the honey pot then it will ejaculate within 10 to 30 seconds. It is extremely frustrating.

I have tried medical solutions severally. It didn't help. After several studies I have come to the realization that someone must have placed a charm on me or my wife for the sole sake of giving me temporary impotence only when am with my wife. Something like "Tesho" a charm placed on mostly Yoruba girls to prevent them from having intimacy before marriage. Anyone that wants to have intimacy with them will temporarily become impotent. And if such charm is not removed on her that scenario shall continue throughout her lifetime. That is the scary part. Such charm has no expiry date.

As a matter of principle I do not and have never patronized native doctors. So I have restricted my solution finding to Churches/pastors/prophets etc. Unfortunately after 8 year, till date I have found no single solution.
Right now I am open to getting the solution wherever I can get it.

The answers I seek are:
1) Who placed this charm
2) Is it placed on me or my wife
3) Most important: How to end this charm

I reside at Aba, Abia state.
a) If you know a good church/ministry or man of God that can solve it please inform me.
b) Otherwise if you know a herbal home/ native doctor that can only solve it and not make me enter into some other fetish/complicating things please inform me.
Please help a brother out of this frustrating situation. Thank you all.

Aba man, all churches in the street of aba, none gave you solution, I pity religious men.
Oga make your wife because as young as when you married her, you go start Dey feel her again

Greatmec:


Sorry, but this is so not true. I am so much sexually attracted to my wife. Even with her low sex drive and no sex techniques all I need is for her to UnCloth and even lie like a log of wood and I would have enough erection to last me up to 30 to 45 minutes a round. She has never been good in initiating anything sexual yet I have always been super attracted to her as I have always loved her. Nothing else but charm (I think) explains the complete impotence once am beside her which started suddenly 8 years ago.

hmm.

Have you tried true discussion?

Try a counselor or sex therapist

Greatmec:


Yes my wife thinks it's certainly a charm. But she thinks the charm is placed on me by a desperate side chic. Curiously this whole scenario started once we are done with having our 4 kids. Worryingly for me, my wife is not as bothered as I think she should be. In fact I could say that she secretly wishes it continues so that I will never "disturb" her for sex. If a solution is proffered that needs two of us to come, to convince her to me would be a herculean task ..

Tell your wife you want to get married to 2 more wives. One live in and one outside.

You will regain your erection.

Whiteshield:


Tell your wife you want to get married to 2 more wives. One live in and one outside.

You will regain your erection.

I am not too comfortable with the way this discussion is going. I have a problem and I need a solution. I never said my wife is the one that placed a charm on me. I have just been responding to everyone as honestly as I can.
So making it look likes it's a fact - that she did it, is not sitting well with me.
How about giving actual suggestions on what could be done and focus less on my wife, please..

DrFunmisticGlow:
hmm.

Have you tried true discussion?

Try a counselor or sex therapist

I have tried all these over the years. Non works on this particular case.
I have tried virtually every option to no avail before I zeroed in on this charm thingy..

Greatmec:


I have tried all these over the years. Non works on this particular case.
I have tried virtually every option to no avail before I zeroed in on this charm thingy..

What did sex therapist(s) tell you?

Greatmec:


I have tried all these over the years. Non works on this particular case.
I have tried virtually every option to no avail before I zeroed in on this charm thingy..

OP, you might want to give this a try, take Viagra and get close to your wife and see if it'll magically fall. If it doesn't, then it may not be a spiritual issue at all. It could just be her attitude or emotional response that's affecting your reaction.
Sometimes, our environment and routines can influence our intimacy more than we realize. Why not plan a weekend getaway, just the two of you... Look for a cozy Airbnb or a short-term apartment, somewhere peaceful and away from the kids and daily responsibilities. Use that time to reconnect, have fun, and share meaningful moments together. You guys can even try some role-playing to keep things exciting and memorable. Don’t overthink it, focus on enjoying each other’s company. A new setting and relaxed atmosphere might be just what you need to refresh your bond and bring back the spark...

But if it magically falls after taking the Viagra.. MFM holds deliverance you guys can go there

brain54:
Pls I don't have the answers or solutions you seek...

But I am curious your wife's position and reaction to this issue.

Does she also believe a curse has been placed?

8 years facing such a situation no be play!

I understand the frustration. A colleague of mine had similar issue but I don't know how he went about the solution. I will him on your behalf.

indoorlove:


I understand the frustration. A colleague of mine had similar issue but I don't know how he went about the solution. I will him on your behalf.

It's a psychological thing my dear and it's coming from your thoughts.

I'm saying this because it has happened to me before too for years.

My advice is simple but you may think it's not possible;


Close your eyes whenever you are banging your wife and imagine that you are banging a woman you so much have sexual affection for and you will see what will happen.


It's common and funny but it has worked for many people ing through the same challenge like you.

Good luck.

Greatmec:


I have tried all these over the years. Non works on this particular case.
I have tried virtually every option to no avail before I zeroed in on this charm thingy..

Have you tried using drugs like viagra?

You say you have been married for 20 years and 8 years ago, you travelled and came back and noticed you didn't have an erection for your wife. So, for the 12 years in marriage, you always had an erection right?
The truth and nothing but the truth, you never loved her and still don't love her, nobody placed any charm on you against her and she too doesn't love you.
If you want to keep living in a loveless marriage and a lie then so be it because nobody would place charm on a married man for 8 good years for what? To eat his money? They would rather place a charm to get him to always spend his money than make him not have an erection for his wife for 8 years.

Stop lying.to yourself you never loved your wife and she too never loved you. Maybe a child was the reason for the marriage. If you want to keep running from the truth then you'll keep going in circles. Shalom.

ufy4success:
You say you have been married for 20 years and 8 years ago, you travelled and came back and noticed you didn't have an erection for your wife. So, for the 12 years in marriage, you always had an erection right?
The truth and nothing but the truth, you never loved her and still don't love her, nobody placed any charm on you against her and she too doesn't love you.
If you want to keep living in a loveless marriage and a lie then so be it because nobody would place charm on a married man for 8 good years for what? To eat his money? They would rather place a charm to get him to always spend his money than make him not have an erection for his wife for 8 years.

Stop lying.to yourself you never loved your wife and she too never loved you. Maybe a child was the reason for the marriage. If you want to keep running from the truth then you'll keep going in circles. Shalom.

lol 😂

From person way never marry or enter relationships

Fetula4u:
lol 😂

From person way never marry or enter relationships

🤣😂 make I follow you laugh.

Na so we see am🤣😂 but truth dey hard to accept🤣😂

No lady will comfortably do charm on any married man for 8 years so he won't have an erection for his wife..
No lady will do charm on a married man to not have an erection for his wife for 8 years...
And he says his wife is not even bothered about the situation.
My two cent; Op seek therapy, there is no charm here. Or did you cheat on your wife? I still stand that you and your wife don't love each other because your wife would have sought therapy knowing she is not someone that likes sex.
A married woman can not initiate for sex for 20 years and the husband has been the one doing it.
Can't you see something is wrong..
Go seek therapy...

indoorlove:


I understand the frustration. A colleague of mine had similar issue but I don't know how he went about the solution. I will him on your behalf.

Please your colleague and inform me how he found a solution to his own case.