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"He Left Me, So He Must Pay spousal !" Read This Before You Go to Court.

Maintenance (spousal ) is money the court may order one spouse to pay the other after separation or divorce. It helps the spouse who needs financial .

Too many people, men and women alike, think that once you ask, the court will just award maintenance.

They believe it’s automatic.
They assume it favours women.
They assume it’s about who cried the most or looked more pitiful in court.

They are wrong.

Under Section 70(1) of the Matrimonial Causes Act, the court is required to consider:

Your income and the income of your spouse

Your conduct and that of your spouse

Your ability to earn and every other relevant circumstance must be considered by court before deciding whether you are deserving of spousal and the amount to be paid.

Maintenance or spousal is not emotional compensation. It’s a legal decision based on facts and fairness.

So before you walk into court saying:
“He must take care of me!”
“She must pay spousal !”

Ask yourself:

Can you prove their earning power and means?

Can you show your own need?

Are your hands clean?

Imagine claiming for your spouse to pay you the sum of two hundred thousand as spousal maintenance per month. To be successful you have to led credible evidence to establish the means, earning capacity, conducts and other circumstances like inflation, the standard of living before things fell apart to the satisfaction of the court.

Why? Because maintenance/spousal is not a favour. It’s not gender-sensitive.It’s not automatic.

It is measured justice based on means, earning capacity, conduct, and other relevant evidence.

Meanwhile, spousal is for those that contracted statutory marriage.

Friends, ignorance is expensive. But wisdom? That one pays.

So, do you think Nigerian courts should set clear limits on how long maintenance should last, or should it depend on each case? Let’s hear your thoughts

I am Ebelechukwu Aroh-Nwoka, your family and property lawyer.

LawWithEbele:
"He Left Me, So He Must Pay spousal !" Read This Before You Go to

Good one Ebele. How about non-court marriage?
And how about the other person has plenty assets and money but no visible or provable means of income?

DeepSight:
Forget it, these things are not serious in Nigeria.

Abroad that's where it's fire.

U right. In Nigeria they'll award like 5K per month , the same amount it's been since long - as if they don't know Naira has lost a lot of value!

What about baby mama

Forget it, these things are not serious in Nigeria.

Abroad that's where it's fire.

Hmmmmn. One of my egbon adugbo had issues with his temperamental wife and she left and abandoned 2 kids with him. She came back the following month seeking a divorce, my smart bro only wedded her traditionally. He has custody of the kids now and enjoys the single life with many side chicks.

The woman dey suffer like this. She go bite finger wey dey feed her.

Lol.

Nothing stops the spouse from being productive instead of waiting on stipends from her ex-husband while lashing other men.

🤷

I will create a topic on this and I want straightforward answers

My cousin bro got married to a woman that secret lured him into Court marriage and this is a girl that brought absolutely nothing it was my bro that trained her in university and ever since the court wedding this lady has been misbehaving and I got a clue from a closer friend of hers about her reasons for the court marriage and my cousin brother is very naive and stubborn type sometimes I used to tell him that no be to get money you get sense that's what he refuses to understand and he act to be on top the situation not knowing that the situation is on top him ,now the lady is kind of doing anything she wants to do kwatakwata if Dem divorce she will get a share from my cousin brother properties, she contributed absolutely nothing to the wealth of this my brother. now what does the Nigerian laws says about this should Incase divorce comes can she lay claim of any of my Brothers properties that she never contributed into and all this properties has been there before she came in as wife...

This thing don't work in Nigeria. If the woman tìrẹ, she go return the kids to her husband...

You say watin 😁😁🤣🤣

Well done the law. I look forward to learning from you

LawWithEbele:
"He Left Me, So He Must Pay spousal !" Read This Before You Go to Court.

Maintenance (spousal ) is money the court may order one spouse to pay the other after separation or divorce. It helps the spouse who needs financial .

Too many people, men and women alike, think that once you ask, the court will just award maintenance.

They believe it’s automatic.
They assume it favours women.
They assume it’s about who cried the most or looked more pitiful in court.

They are wrong.

Under Section 70(1) of the Matrimonial Causes Act, the court is required to consider:

Your income and the income of your spouse

Your conduct and that of your spouse

Your ability to earn and every other relevant circumstance must be considered by court before deciding whether you are deserving of spousal and the amount to be paid.

Maintenance or spousal is not emotional compensation. It’s a legal decision based on facts and fairness.

So before you walk into court saying:
“He must take care of me!”
“She must pay spousal !”

Ask yourself:

Can you prove their earning power and means?

Can you show your own need?

Are your hands clean?

Imagine claiming for your spouse to pay you the sum of two hundred thousand as spousal maintenance per month. To be successful you have to led credible evidence to establish the means, earning capacity, conducts and other circumstances like inflation, the standard of living before things fell apart to the satisfaction of the court.

Why? Because maintenance/spousal is not a favour. It’s not gender-sensitive.It’s not automatic.

It is measured justice based on means, earning capacity, conduct, and other relevant evidence.

Meanwhile, spousal is for those that contracted statutory marriage.

Friends, ignorance is expensive. But wisdom? That one pays.

So, do you think Nigerian courts should set clear limits on how long maintenance should last, or should it depend on each case? Let’s hear your thoughts

I am Ebelechukwu Aroh-Nwoka, your family and property lawyer.

team independent women in tears 😁😁🤣🤣

DeepSight:
Forget it, these things are not serious in Nigeria.

Abroad that's where it's fire.

What is actually the meaning of this comment? Abroad or Nigeria she just explained to you the rules! Shoooo!

Thunderfayamods:

What is actually the meaning of this comment? Abroad or Nigeria she just explained to you the rules! Shoooo!

And I just explained where it counts.

I hope u know bigamy is a crime in Nigeria.

Now tell me who you have seen being prosecuted for it?

Baronthecelebri:
What about baby mama

Yes the child can get . The man will be asked to pay certain amount per month. But the man income wilm be considered.

Maybe 20k per month etc.
the woman is expected to contribute to the child ware

Child school fees... And hospital. The father will pay but it must be government hospital n school

DeepSight:


And I just explained where it counts.

I hope u know bigamy is a crime in Nigeria.

Now tell me who you have seen being prosecuted for it?

Ask yourself if any Nigerian woman has ever taken their husbands to court for bigamy?

Negroid001:
Hmmmmn. One of my egbon adugbo had issues with his temperamental wife and she left and abandoned 2 kids with him. She came back the following month seeking a divorce, my smart bro only wedded her traditionally. He has custody of the kids now and enjoys the single life with many side chicks.

The woman dey suffer like this. She go bite finger wey dey feed her.

That area dude nor get joy o.

Na so, the wife of my bros change completely in our front. Even small issues, the family will escalate it. We didn't know all along they believe Nigeria Court will award them some properties the man acquired after they married traditionally. She was busy gathering evidence o.
It got to a point that it involved Police. They separated and they took the case to welfare.

Dem ask the girl, how much your oga dey send you, she said 40k. Dem ask her 40k no do you ? Wetin Child go need Wey 40k. Na so she started listing all the comfort the child was enjoying before, such as fuel everyday oif light no dey. All the TV and stuff they use to enjoy.
Dem tell am say, Nigeria welfare no be for mama. Na for child only. Eee clear her eyes
Na person wey dey receive 6k everyday plus other money on daily basis. Just pocket money.

Na there I became proud of Nigeria.

free2ryhme:


team independent women in tears 😁😁🤣🤣

Hakimi comes to mind.
Many shed tears on hearing the dude's masterstroke that year.

maxiuc:


I will create a topic on this and I want straightforward answers

My cousin bro got married to a woman that secret lured him into Court marriage and this is a girl that brought absolutely nothing it was my bro that trained her in university and ever since the court wedding this lady has been misbehaving and I got a clue from a closer friend of hers about her reasons for the court marriage and my cousin brother is very naive and stubborn type sometimes I used to tell him that no be to get money you get sense that's what he refuses to understand and he act to be on top the situation not knowing that the situation is on top him ,now the lady is kind of doing anything she wants to do kwatakwata if Dem divorce she will get a share from my cousin brother properties, she contributed absolutely nothing to the wealth of this my brother. now what does the Nigerian laws says about this should Incase divorce comes can she lay claim of any of my Brothers properties that she never contributed into and all this properties has been there before she came in as wife...

If there’s no proof she contributed anything , physically , financially, emotionally , na Oyo for her , probably she has receipts she’s assisted , hence her strong head. .

not child again but spousal .

what is all this kwanu ?

maxiuc:


I will create a topic on this and I want straightforward answers

My cousin bro got married to a woman that secret lured him into Court marriage and this is a girl that brought absolutely nothing it was my bro that trained her in university and ever since the court wedding this lady has been misbehaving and I got a clue from a closer friend of hers about her reasons for the court marriage and my cousin brother is very naive and stubborn type sometimes I used to tell him that no be to get money you get sense that's what he refuses to understand and he act to be on top the situation not knowing that the situation is on top him ,now the lady is kind of doing anything she wants to do kwatakwata if Dem divorce she will get a share from my cousin brother properties, she contributed absolutely nothing to the wealth of this my brother. now what does the Nigerian laws says about this should Incase divorce comes can she lay claim of any of my Brothers properties that she never contributed into and all this properties has been there before she came in as wife...

This your brother mumu oo.

Kasdat5:


If there’s no proof she contributed anything , physically , financially, emotionally , na Oyo for her , probably she has receipts she’s assisted , hence her strong head. .

she contributed absolutely nothing all those things she might lay claims on was there before she came in as wife

shortgun:

This your brother mumu oo.

no be small mumu

wow l think towards that side at all

LawWithEbele:
"He Left Me, So He Must Pay spousal !" Read This Before You Go to Court.

Maintenance (spousal ) is money the court may order one spouse to pay the other after separation or divorce. It helps the spouse who needs financial .

Too many people, men and women alike, think that once you ask, the court will just award maintenance.

They believe it’s automatic.
They assume it favours women.
They assume it’s about who cried the most or looked more pitiful in court.

They are wrong.

Under Section 70(1) of the Matrimonial Causes Act, the court is required to consider:

Your income and the income of your spouse

Your conduct and that of your spouse

Your ability to earn and every other relevant circumstance must be considered by court before deciding whether you are deserving of spousal and the amount to be paid.

Maintenance or spousal is not emotional compensation. It’s a legal decision based on facts and fairness.

So before you walk into court saying:
“He must take care of me!”
“She must pay spousal !”

Ask yourself:

Can you prove their earning power and means?

Can you show your own need?

Are your hands clean?

Imagine claiming for your spouse to pay you the sum of two hundred thousand as spousal maintenance per month. To be successful you have to led credible evidence to establish the means, earning capacity, conducts and other circumstances like inflation, the standard of living before things fell apart to the satisfaction of the court.

Why? Because maintenance/spousal is not a favour. It’s not gender-sensitive.It’s not automatic.

It is measured justice based on means, earning capacity, conduct, and other relevant evidence.

Meanwhile, spousal is for those that contracted statutory marriage.

Friends, ignorance is expensive. But wisdom? That one pays.

So, do you think Nigerian courts should set clear limits on how long maintenance should last, or should it depend on each case? Let’s hear your thoughts

I am Ebelechukwu Aroh-Nwoka, your family and property lawyer.

If the wife leaves the husband, will she pay as well or it's only applies to men?