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Phabulous4 and apprentist,

Let me give you small gist.

Like 7/8 years ago, my husband and I lived in a 3 brdm very small apartment. Very messy (because I'm not a Domestic Goddess) and we had 2 kids under the age of 4 (nightmare).

And then our Nanny's uncle's father's grandmother died (translation: she had found a higher paying job) so she quit abruptly.

Leaving hubby and I. That man rolled up his sleeves and became a house-husband after office hours were done.

That particular day, he swept, I cooked, he mopped, I bathed the babies. After that, I looked at this man in his faded tshirt and boxers and he was suddenly looking sexier than Rege Jean Page. And that's how we had unbelievably hot fok, in the corridor of that small flat, no fan, no mattress, nothing. Do you know how hard floor tiles are on your knees when you're blowing off a man Do you know how hard a concrete wall is on your back?? I fokked that man's brains out that night and I would have kept going, if he could do upto 3 rounds before midnight. Even ing that night still makes me Hot.

Now, why did my man get himself a Por.nstar that night?

Well,because of this really old Christian book "Se.x Starts In The Kitchen".

That book said that when you're married, romance is one thing that ignites ion but security and is what keeps it alive.

A woman turns from a Wife to a Mother and everything about her changes.

Mentally, she shifts into Mama Bear and Protective mode for her kids, her entire existence becomes keeping them alive. Especially when they're young (once they hit 8, 10, she couldn't care less if they burn down the house ).

Nothing else matters, because most women are wired like that so that the human species survives. In Nature, the human child is one of the weakest young out there. Antelope are born running, tadpoles swim at birth, but human babies are helpless for 5 years. They require the most protection.

And then add the stresses of work and society and social media being overwhelming.

Your wives are basket cases right now, running on vibes alone. She herself doesn't even know it.

And that's where you come in.

Brothers, your job, your mission (should you choose to accept it ) is to be her PROTECTOR AND SECURITY DURING THIS PERIOD, SO SHE CAN DO WHAT NATURE INTENDED HER TO DO, FOR YOUR CHILDREN.

Which is why sexx starts in the kitchen, which is why I rushed my hubby: because he was ing me so I could be a better Mum.

And that made him so, so sexy in my eyes.

And I am not the only woman like that.

So that's my explanation for what's going on, my next post will be "here's what you're gonna do".

Ok, give her an impression there's another woman.(or get one sef ).her brain go reset. No woman likes rival. Stop tormenting yourself.

Phabulous4:
Christian brothers, let’s better open a WhatsApp group to address this issue once and for all, cause we are many in this predicament, more than you think.

Funny thing is, mine is not even working currently. We moved back to Lagos last year October when I secured a job with a multinational and had to close down her shop. I foot the bills 100%, including tips.

I do my office wears laundry outside, but my laundry man traveled to the village in December and never returned. The other laundry woman on my street was a mess and almost ruined all my whites. So, my wife bided for the contract, and I gladly gave it to her, paying her the same rate! Even though the detergent and starch come from the monthly upkeep I give. At least just so she could have a her own money!

I’m planning a ₦ million setup fund for her by January so she can kick-start her business. She want to do the laundry business on a commercial scale. I have no problem with that.

One thing I’ve come to realize is: we didn’t get married just to have sex as often as we wanted. Christian brothers, guided by moral values, are mostly at the receiving end of this shortcoming. Mine was no sex before marriage, but out first year of marriage was a bliss. The fire dwindled as soon as we had our child.

If we can accept this fact and relieve ourselves from the resentment and frustration of being constantly denied, we’d live longer.

I don’t even ask very often anymore, my appetite has greatly reduced, and the drive declined.

Like you, we got married in August 2020 and we’ve only had one child, who is about 2 years plus now. I’m not planning for another, anytime soon. We are all happy! lols

Help your wife to stop that work she’s currently doing. Or doesn’t she also want to stop and why? Because unlike you what I enjoy is my wife undivided attention and devotion. she keep the home front tight and I'm happy and grateful for that. The sex!!! God will help us with that. lols!

I wish you well bro, Also wish we could connect thou!

Thank you very much. I truly appreciate the comment. One thing I would like to point out is that I also have started having a decline is s*x drive. Ordinarily I would want it like twice a week but now, whenever the urge comes, I'll just push it away and my third arm down between my legs is also playing along. Even though this isn't healthy for us men, it appears it's a safe way out.

I'll create the WhatsApp group here. Strictly for males only and Christians with similar beliefs.

https:///EOZKf22Y17IFWSdfzctgso

"I got tired and in December 2025"

I can see that you two and going too fast. You already saw Dec 2025 while most of us are yet to see it

apprentist:
Hello Guys, let me first of all say the cliché "It is well".

Now let we start.
I met my wife years back just before the COVID-19 year during which we dated for almost a year and then eventually got married just when the lock down was reducing. I started this story this way because I wanted to emphasis that during that period, we had so much time to bond and she was mostly available to me as she only worked on shifts 2 to 3 days per week.
We could sit and talk for long, go out at late nights and have great s*x as frequently as we needed.

This I think gave me a mirage of an anticipated marriage life so I didn't hesitate to take it a step further ones the lockdown was relaxed.
I also made it clear to her that her job would have to give way when their kids start coming as I had plans to assist her further her edu and also put up a biz for her.

Speed up to after COVID-19, she resumed work which till this day demands 5 days a week and 2 to 3 Saturdays per month all from 7:45am till 5pm. Often times she'd return home tired and would manage to make dinner and off to bed till the next day circle continues.
It became worse when we started having children. I drive them to school as early as 7:40am before dropping her off at her job. And then I'll pick them up by 5:30pm or 6pm when she's done with her job for the day (let me mention that this extends to public holidays and school holidays or breaks).

I got tired and in December 2025 I told her she has to quit the job. My plan was to enroll her back into a private school after my kids are Upto 4 years as one of them still depends on breast milk. I also gave her the option of starting a business which I understand is a dynamic move and might not be successful, but at this stage of my life it's something I could afford to risk and so I didn't mind.

I must also mention that out of a 100% sex, 50% is not mutual as I could sense she isn't interested and 40% is a denial as she would rather deny me of s*x with the excuse that she is tired.

Simply put, I'm tired.
I'm a Christian and divorce isn't an option. Also I can't cheat, but I am starved of s*x and my kids are not given the attention they deserve.
Pls advice me

Phabulous4 and apprentist (and every other man who is in this situation),

Here's what to do!

Firstly, you're going to ignore almost all the men on this thread. Why? Because I've noticed that in general, Nigerian men give advice like Thanos:

You know, "everyone is starving on this planet so rather than try and help them develop their economy, I'll just kill half of them. Problem solved!"

Nigerian men don't start giving advice with sense until their 50s (and that's only half), they fully come into maturity by their 60s. So they're here telling you to cheat or become polygamous. And if you follow that, I will tell you this confidently, you will need N2-N6mil to file for divorce at Lagos High Court and it will take you 4 years minimum (Separation and Divorce), you will be paying 2 sets of rent and having 2 household expenses.

Meanwhile, "Power Of A Praying Husband" is N3500 per copy.

Which idea is smarter to do?

Now, let's get serious.

Yes, get a Nanny.

Yes, upgrade every appliance you need to get.

Absolutely drop all expectations of her and tell her to do the same for you. What is required is a neat house, hot meals and children who are alive (not even well-behaved, just be alive ).

Tell your wife: "babe I am THE HEAD OF THIS HOUSEHOLD!" If you need me to back thr baby so you can go and make your hair, bring that wrapper! If you need me to be the one fueling the cars so you don't have to worry about that chore, let me have the keys! If you need me to listen to you after you have been stressed at work and be nodding my head and saying "eyahhh!" I go do am!"

Your wife needs time and space to adjust and grow into her new position. You gotta be ive of that, that is an Ephesians 5 husband: loving her like Christ loved an (unwilling, struggling, not even-existing) church.

You have to step up.

Omo. Una sure say I go marry again ?

Phabulous4 and apprentist,

Please don't let her quit her job with pressure from you.

In Life, once you have kids, your expenses balloon up until they're at least 18-21 ( you were both young and students). Plus, Nigeria, inflation is always going up, not coming down.

So money is going to be tight and you don't want to be the sole provider because it is exhausting, you'll get resentful and the Enemy will play on you mentally and you'll hate her and find yourself looking at girls on Facebook (who will start looking like "Angels" and then blow up your marriage.

Even if your wives start a business, make sure you see her paying some bills (could be NEPA o, even if na Netflix subscription and buying gas monthly). My friend said something to me: "I like knowing that my wife can handle some things around the house, by herself".

Financial independence is important.

So why not ask her "what do you wanna do, do you need another job in the same field? Or you wanna quit and build something that will give you fulfillment and a source of income, because I do want you being an adult who is independent".

Again, can you see how that's you being a ive husband?

And yes, once a week, do Date Night. Like I told someone on another thread, when your wife says "I want to eat grilled fish and sharwarm", what she's saying is "I want to get dressed, look pretty and go out". So do that.

Also know that her body is out of shape after childbirth, so many women lose themselves with kids. She's definitely not dressing like her hot self and she's not feeling like her hot baddie self. So you come in and rizz her from time to time.

Again, that's how a loving ive husband do.

You gotta love her like you love yourself.

And that's it from me, Phabulous4 and apprentis and every other husband with young kids and a dwindling sexx life out there.

It's not really her job, because even when she's at work, if Junior runs a temperature, it's Mummy the school will call, not Daddy. So her mind is never really there (women take a career hit when they have kids, globally).

So with kids, then work and life, you, her husband, will get neglected.

I'm sorry it happens but that is Life and we can't be selfish and choose our happiness and then destroy our marriage over pleasure that was just there in your house, if only you could have safeguarded your marriage.

Phabulous4, you even itted you're losing your libido small. That is so very common for men, same life and stresses are getting to you. Start planning where you will ditch those kids in August for 2 weeks and save up money for Netflix and Chill with your baddie wife. Get some "Me Time" with her and remind her you're still her boyfriend

I hope this helps and this is the start of a new, wonderful journey and season in your life.

Sorry for breaking my replies into several places. Not only were they long, the circumstances that led to the hot fok of 7-8 yrs ago with my spouse, were repeated (almost, he stepped up domestically) in August 2022 and now the Consequences Of My Actions is scribbling with red crayon on the floor, he just decided to start jumping onto the floor from a chair laughing hysterically and I'm hiding to type this. You don't wanna be me and be doing Primary School runs at age 50.

So my last advice to you is: Gold Circle, Kiss, Durex or Trojan. Very important.

Good luck, bros. You got this 👍🏽

Do the following you go run from sex.

1. Start helping with house chores,
2. Don't ask or suggest you need sex
3. Talk regularly to her on phone when she's at work, always add a naughty talk whenever you talk to her
4. Start telling her stories of girls that ire you and how you try to avoid them, this will make her protective and at the same time Hot
5. Start a project, it could be like planting a garden or taking care of a pet. It will drive up your positive energy.

she's your wife and you said you don't want divorce

the topic should be I WANT TO STOP MY WIFE FROM WORKING BECAUSE I WANT SEX ALL DAY

apprentist:


Thanks for taking out the time to comment. I wouldn't like to sound like I'm defending myself here.

1. I had tried to teach her to drive but no success and she doesn't have the time to go to driving school

2. I recently upgraded my washing machine to manual to fully auto so as to avoid the stress of rinsing and drying. And I do 100% of the laundry at home.

The only reason I can consider a housemaid would be to take care of my kids after school which to me is as same as them being in day care. Why do we underestimate the importance of parent care for children at their early stage in Africa? Anyways, your point is made. Thanks again

COVID time sweet lol
Had same experience as yours

But not exactly

Marriage was 2021

Fortunately wifee wasn't working

But here is the deal...except you make the marriage western( you will need to localise some areas

Do you have the capacity to take care of the family ,if she stops working ?

What are your ideas around her career and what plans do you have In moving her forward (build trust)

Bro, because I am a Christian too and tried avoiding the issues around early marriages especially for ladies who do not know the need of their man

You will need change the plan in getting sexaul satisfaction

Then you will need reduce the home stress which is multi demensional

If you are sure she is not lazy

Take her off the job through her father or family
And tell her you would be paying her salary monthly ( aside home keep money)

Tell her the new way you intend getting more funds to pay that salary consistently ( you need something believable)

This dosnt make sense..but lol
You need to bribe her, use all manner of tricks you know to gain trust and make her resign

Finally,get a maid... Get two if need be

In all...you need earn 2x of your present earnings to do things 2x of your current capacity

I left home yesterday to rest...as we have a child already...

If you are stressed as a man...you will need sex for real..

So I had to buy that time by making it available before I get home
By asking her of any pressing needs she had since she is home..I used the need as an access because she could still give me the excuse of been .busy with her work ( runs the business from home)

If you understand your wife enough, you should find a spot to always have access to the yash you need
It's the third time this week, while she told me only once per week because sex no be food
Well for her mind..that's ok
Na me know as he dey do me

Almost all married men with little income are going through this sex drama, ops the only solution to this drama is double your income make more money..

christejames:




NwaAmaikpe calmly gave some nice advice? 😲



That means Tinubu fit change for good anytime ooo 😂 😂 😂

I had to check the name again ooo,the great,bullish,blunt and uncouth NwaAmaikpe….discussions like this is currently beyond my reach,so I’ll just read and learn

case closed

Cubanaigwe:
I don't even know what to say

Simply say it is well.

Ahmed0336:
Oga lemme be honest with you, once your wife starts to notice you no longer beg for sex and you're always happy, that's when things will fall back in place.
I don't have to tell you what to do.

that is it, distract yourself with something creative that you enjoy before marriage. Take care of yourself, dress well and go out, drive for fun, watch movies, play games, write. Learn to be happy it yourself. My madam is schooling currently, she give all kind of excuses some years back. I changed my clothes, got nice shoes. I got to be alive once nobody will decide my faith not even the kids I didn't do DNA for lol. Na one life don't over sacrifice, what will be will be. Some weeks back she bought shoes and all stuffs for me I thanked her. Then overhead her on phone said, " this one I married na jaiye! jaiye!, na woman raise am, Ejika lo gbemi si(carried on my shoulder) I.e easy to offload. Who loves the most sacrifices the most.

Reading through the OP and several other comments, you would almost think these individuals were talking of some Stewpid child they were raising or accommodating for selfish benefits. A woman worked really hard to build her career then chose to get married afterwards but here is the man she married essentially stating she would need to abandon all of her hard work for the sake of his dick. 🤔

Phabulous4:
I see why you’re called on this matter. Not only are you knowledgeable, you also have first-hand, raw experience and a ion for young marriages. May God continue to bless and keep your home. My love to the little one (the fresh certificate you just acquired), lools!. Those kids are rockets, quite restless!

As for me, I’m very well domesticated. I do a lot in the house. I started bathing our child at 3 months, and I still do so even now, I back him when he needs to sleep, help to feed him, we did the potty training together, and even now, I still wake him up at nights to pee! I cook sometimes too, and all of that. I was out of the country for the past two weeks, and they could hardly cope without me around. That’s how connected we are, a perfect triangle. My wife can’t drive, so I handle the driving and school runs whenever I’m working from home.

My wife just categorically told me that we were not married primarily to have sex, i.e., sex is a secondary need. I’m trying to adjust to that reality, though it’s hard! Some things I won’t say on record!!

I'm not optimistic about any change, but might take few learning from you advise and try them out. The problem is if I even want to try at all despite all that I am doing now! l just want to leave things the way they are!

Thanks once again. You should have a channel where you do this and earn something on the side. Lols!

I'm glad you shared more.

Please read my posts on this thread.

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/8405652/why-want-separate-wife/7#135187294

I know it seems like I'm asking a lot but truly marriage takes work and you're willing to do it. And that work is not gendered.

If she's saying sexx is secondary in marriage, she's not really being truthful about what is going on. Whatever is wrong, she doesn't know how to communicate it yet.

I know for a fact that Married women actually love sexxx more than singles, so for your wife to be declaring that she no wan do, something is up.

I've seen someone say she was fasting and giving her life to Jesus rather than it that she felt unsexy and unattractive, to her husband.

Another story I heard, she was refusing sexx to her husband. It later came to light that "Prophet" told her to abstain from all worldly desires and "reap spiritual rewards". The wife had to be gently reminded that Esther didn't just pray and stop there, she wore perfume, did makeup and a skintight mesh lycra dress, with chunky gold accessories and 22" bone straight, then twerked and sat on his lap and played with his bear-bear, to ask the King to save her people.

A lot of times, what comes out of our mouths isn't what is in our hearts. We are all so scared of being vulnerable.

Please be optimistic. Once you believe it and set out with conviction, change will happen. I'm living testament.

And it's only Nairaland I have sense, I don't have sense in real life

apprentist:



Thank you so much for the advice. It means a lot to me.

I specially like the idea of house help. But with the way I am now, I'd have sex with the house help. And I can't even allow a young girl because it would be too risky.

You people are the ones encouraging child labour in this country. Must it be a young girl? Get a middled aged woman who can assist in the house

Sex in marriage is not something to be joked with.

What sort of work is she doing?

Have you ever been to her office to check out the environment and her male colleagues?

I was in a police station sometime ago and two officers were shamelessly shagging in one office like that and the moan was quite audible.

Adultery is merely second nature in such an environment and nearly everyone is involved.

Its either she's getting attention from a strange man and has most likely gone all the way, or she is currently fed up with you and probably has the upper hand in your relationship.

Find another job for her.
Teaching jobs are 7:30 to 2:00pm.
Auxillary nurses work in shifts.

Opening a business for her won't help as her soul might not be in it and she'll still stay there from morning to evening.

Upgrade your game.
Fix your physique.
Be irresistible and stop initiating sex.

Create such a sexually tense environment that would keep her on her toes and eventually make her the initiator.

In extreme cases, let her move to another bedroom while you up your physique, Game fashion sense and more time out with friends until she gets sense.

Begging her all the time gives the subconscious impression that she's all you could get, that you're not attractive enough to be distracted by other women.
And women hate losers, brutally.


I'll advise every unmarried man here for free.
From the first day of your marriage, don't be the one to initiate sex.
Forget about the first night ish.
Be managing yourself until your wife opens her mouth to initiate that discussion.

And for crying out loud, marry a woman who chooses you.

The deep affection and unrestrained wildness of a woman in love is an experience every innocent man should have.

Na you go dey run from smooches, touches, cuddles and the raw fire of the tigress that could be any woman.

apprentist:


See eh... I had to type this here cus I've run out of ideas. Don't know who to talk to or even next step to take.
Back then I used to blame men for cheating or fighting with their wife. But now, I'm pushed to do either.

Have you speak to surehome ?? . They can give you the best advice

apprentist:
Hello Guys, let me first of all say the cliché "It is well".

Now let we start.
I met my wife years back just before the COVID-19 year during which we dated for almost a year and then eventually got married just when the lock down was reducing. I started this story this way because I wanted to emphasis that during that period, we had so much time to bond and she was mostly available to me as she only worked on shifts 2 to 3 days per week.
We could sit and talk for long, go out at late nights and have great s*x as frequently as we needed.

This I think gave me a mirage of an anticipated marriage life so I didn't hesitate to take it a step further ones the lockdown was relaxed.
I also made it clear to her that her job would have to give way when their kids start coming as I had plans to assist her further her edu and also put up a biz for her.

Speed up to after COVID-19, she resumed work which till this day demands 5 days a week and 2 to 3 Saturdays per month all from 7:45am till 5pm. Often times she'd return home tired and would manage to make dinner and off to bed till the next day circle continues.
It became worse when we started having children. I drive them to school as early as 7:40am before dropping her off at her job. And then I'll pick them up by 5:30pm or 6pm when she's done with her job for the day (let me mention that this extends to public holidays and school holidays or breaks).

I got tired and in December 2025 I told her she has to quit the job. My plan was to enroll her back into a private school after my kids are Upto 4 years as one of them still depends on breast milk. I also gave her the option of starting a business which I understand is a dynamic move and might not be successful, but at this stage of my life it's something I could afford to risk and so I didn't mind.

I must also mention that out of a 100% sex, 50% is not mutual as I could sense she isn't interested and 40% is a denial as she would rather deny me of s*x with the excuse that she is tired.

Simply put, I'm tired.
I'm a Christian and divorce isn't an option. Also I can't cheat, but I am starved of s*x and my kids are not given the attention they deserve.
Pls advice me

So many sexless marriages these days...I rather be single than be in one.

dawnomike:
Sorry about what you're going through... I can understand how frustrating it can be.

Please, don't get pissed off just yet... If it's an option, get her a housemaid to help out at home.

Secondly, any weekend she is not working... you guys should hang out like the old good days. If possible, leave the kids with your parents and go lodge in a good hotel.

Also, sit down with her to have an open discussion on the need to save your marriage...

I believe she starting a business is a good opinion... But , it is not everyone that is cut out for that.

I wish you the best in your marriage... Please, try to safe it!!!

this advice no go work when prick dey stand always, house help you you say? Better second wife

Offer to pay her the salary she is being paid. Pay her 80% then she can start working at home.

apprentist:
Hello Guys, let me first of all say the cliché "It is well".

Now let we start.
I met my wife years back just before the COVID-19 year during which we dated for almost a year and then eventually got married just when the lock down was reducing. I started this story this way because I wanted to emphasis that during that period, we had so much time to bond and she was mostly available to me as she only worked on shifts 2 to 3 days per week.
We could sit and talk for long, go out at late nights and have great s*x as frequently as we needed.

This I think gave me a mirage of an anticipated marriage life so I didn't hesitate to take it a step further ones the lockdown was relaxed.
I also made it clear to her that her job would have to give way when their kids start coming as I had plans to assist her further her edu and also put up a biz for her.

Speed up to after COVID-19, she resumed work which till this day demands 5 days a week and 2 to 3 Saturdays per month all from 7:45am till 5pm. Often times she'd return home tired and would manage to make dinner and off to bed till the next day circle continues.
It became worse when we started having children. I drive them to school as early as 7:40am before dropping her off at her job. And then I'll pick them up by 5:30pm or 6pm when she's done with her job for the day (let me mention that this extends to public holidays and school holidays or breaks).

I got tired and in December 2025 I told her she has to quit the job. My plan was to enroll her back into a private school after my kids are Upto 4 years as one of them still depends on breast milk. I also gave her the option of starting a business which I understand is a dynamic move and might not be successful, but at this stage of my life it's something I could afford to risk and so I didn't mind.

I must also mention that out of a 100% sex, 50% is not mutual as I could sense she isn't interested and 40% is a denial as she would rather deny me of s*x with the excuse that she is tired.

Simply put, I'm tired.
I'm a Christian and divorce isn't an option. Also I can't cheat, but I am starved of s*x and my kids are not given the attention they deserve.
Pls advice me

Trust me it has nothing to do with job.

Two things are involved here

It's either she's getting it elsewhere or medically her libido is gone

apprentist:
Hello Guys, let me first of all say the cliché "It is well".

Now let we start.
I met my wife years back just before the COVID-19 year during which we dated for almost a year and then eventually got married just when the lock down was reducing. I started this story this way because I wanted to emphasis that during that period, we had so much time to bond and she was mostly available to me as she only worked on shifts 2 to 3 days per week.
We could sit and talk for long, go out at late nights and have great s*x as frequently as we needed.

This I think gave me a mirage of an anticipated marriage life so I didn't hesitate to take it a step further ones the lockdown was relaxed.
I also made it clear to her that her job would have to give way when their kids start coming as I had plans to assist her further her edu and also put up a biz for her.

Speed up to after COVID-19, she resumed work which till this day demands 5 days a week and 2 to 3 Saturdays per month all from 7:45am till 5pm. Often times she'd return home tired and would manage to make dinner and off to bed till the next day circle continues.
It became worse when we started having children. I drive them to school as early as 7:40am before dropping her off at her job. And then I'll pick them up by 5:30pm or 6pm when she's done with her job for the day (let me mention that this extends to public holidays and school holidays or breaks).

I got tired and in December 2025 I told her she has to quit the job. My plan was to enroll her back into a private school after my kids are Upto 4 years as one of them still depends on breast milk. I also gave her the option of starting a business which I understand is a dynamic move and might not be successful, but at this stage of my life it's something I could afford to risk and so I didn't mind.

I must also mention that out of a 100% sex, 50% is not mutual as I could sense she isn't interested and 40% is a denial as she would rather deny me of s*x with the excuse that she is tired.

Simply put, I'm tired.
I'm a Christian and divorce isn't an option. Also I can't cheat, but I am starved of s*x and my kids are not given the attention they deserve.
Pls advice me

I need the advice too cos this is not funny any more. For people like us, I hereby announce to others that the 23 time sex per money is not within our reach, make una help with explanation on how to manage it without side chick. Lol

apprentist:


It's not that easy. My kids are my priority. I dream of a home where they will grow with all the care they need. Remarrying comes with too much uncertainty.

The worse part of it is that madam doesn't even act like she cares about how I feel. I've tried all possible means. Talk, beg for s*x, give her suprise packages, even spoken to her parent about it.
Mtchew

Guy take your mind off it.... Don't beg or ask just act you don't care while still taking care of responsibilities.... Na she go notice am come back.... Women are emotional beings... You don't reason too much but rather take actions that are opposite to their expectations.... My wife doesn't do this Sha and I have 2 kids... Some women are just mentally lazy if you ask me, cuz they feel once they give birth that's it.

alizma:

I need the advice too cos this is not funny any more. For people like us, I hereby announce to others that the 23 time sex per money is not within our reach, make una help o

Please read my posts.

It's a challenge, not a problem.

apprentist:


See eh... I had to type this here cus I've run out of ideas. Don't know who to talk to or even next step to take.
Back then I used to blame men for cheating or fighting with their wife. But now, I'm pushed to do either.

Oga have a round table discussion with your wife, perhaps things might change and follow up with prayers.

Keep on with the marriage you have not yet receive enough pepper

You should never bring this online. You both should take your Spiritual life serious. Spend quality time to pray together and study God's word together. Everything will be alright, in Jesus' Name. Amen.

Divorce is always an option. Bible didn't make it compulsory for you to stay in a marriage you derive no joy and happiness in.