NewStats: 3,263,108 , 8,179,127 topics. Date: Wednesday, 04 June 2025 at 05:48 PM l6149

elipheleh:


You're welcome. Don't mention.
I am that kind to my baby nannies. If I can pay a nanny to take care of my children and they live their life too. Why can't I pay an upgraded nanny who I sleep with to birth and take care of my kids while I flex abroad?

It's win win for every body

This your warped philosophy will make you regret at old age. You better take your marriage very very seriously.

abobote:
Me that brought my wife and kids after some years, I'm regretting it now.
That is the worst decision I ever taken

Tell us more

MufasaLion:
This long distance of a thing is rubbish though. Also, I don't anyone that has left Nigeria to go back and marry. It's stupidity.

It's not.

Humans are tribal and the majority prefer to marry those who think, look and speak like them. This belief that Nigerian men who were born and bred in Nigeria for at least 25 years and later move abroad will be so liberal regarding marriage is misplaced. Even Nigerian ladies who were born and bred in the abroad are moving to Nigeria to search for husbands. How much more those born and bred in Nigeria? What about a situation where there are few Black people, especially women in the country of residence?

I don't know if you have lived in the abroad, but most legal migrants will marry themselves especially those with similar cultural and linguistic leanings.

GboyegaD:
I don't have any friends or know anyone who has the right papers and left his wife back home. You could say my circle of influence is not much nonetheless, I know over 70 married Nigerian men who are here with their spouses.

Why would you want to leave your wife in Nigeria? Is she some piece of furniture or artefact meant for decorating your house?

How many countries today allow Masters students bring their spouses along? Except for UK which a lot of people exploited and which is shut down already.

Masters is the most popular student route to japa as PhDs are too competitive. Besides how many people have the resources to carry wife and children together as they travel for the first time.

Let's be realistic on this platform please.

Gerrard59:

It's not.

Humans are tribal and the majority prefer to marry those who think, look and speak like them. This belief that Nigerian men who were born and bred in Nigeria for at least 25 years and later move abroad will be so liberal regarding marriage is misplaced. Even Nigerian ladies who were born and bred in the abroad are moving to Nigeria to search for husbands. How much more those born and bred in Nigeria? What about a situation where there are few Black people, especially women in the country of residence?

I don't know if you have lived in the abroad, but most legal migrants will marry themselves especially those with similar cultural and linguistic leanings.

Well, you have a point.

Temitunz:
There’s a growing trend among Nigerian men relocating abroad while leaving their wives behind, sending only money home as if that’s enough to sustain a marriage. Financial is important, but is it really a substitute for presence, partnership, and emotional connection?

Many of these women bear the weight of running the household alone, raising children without a father figure, and dealing with the loneliness of a distant marriage. Some endure years of waiting, hoping their husbands will return or send for them, only to face broken promises and fading love.

Marriage is more than just financial responsibility. If you're leaving your wife behind, are you also leaving behind your role as a husband and father?

Let’s talk what are your thoughts on this trend? Is money enough to sustain a marriage? #MarriageMatters #Relationships #NigerianMen #LongDistanceMarriage

Before getting to the end I knew that this was written by a woman.

It is only fuulish men that consider all the things listed here. Take it from me, the only reason your wife still respects you is because you're providing for her. If you lose the ability to provide for the family, she no longer has any need of you. To her, you're useless. Women can argue all they want on this, but that's their genetic makeup, I mean Nigerian woman.

If you ever stay at home all day for 3 months without going out to hustle, you will know that your loving wife has another side that you never knew. They're all like that, including the OP.

When they have all the good things of life dropped on their laps, they start talking about quality time and connection and that marriage is not all about money. If you then stop bringing those things and try to feed them with pure love, they see you as a burden.

All men should do everything legit and go everywhere legit to keep providing for the ones they love because the day you lose the ability to provide, you lose your place in the ecosystem and the food chain. While at it, make yourself happy because the last time I checked, there were more widows than widowers. Whenever your wife complains about certain things that have to do with your absence because of work or hustle, tell her that you rather be an unavailable husband than a useless husband. What if she cheats? They will eventually cheat and to your face when you're unable to provide for your family. You'll be worse than an infidel


Go to wherever you want and do whatever it takes to be a responsible man. Forget Abt their tantrums because most women don't know what they want.

Samantha125:
Hallelujah, Amen...

Samantha is a man

Infact the reason of sending money home is because of the children that's if you've confirmed them as yours ... I don't blame anyone not taking along wife .. A woman who's not industrious, no partnership connection, cannot turn 1 to 2 , who's got no financial and business intelligence , no , but number one when it comes to frivolities and unreasonable things . my brothers, i can't take her along if I change location within Nigeria not to talk off Abroad ..

TossTos:
➜Infact the reason of sending money home is because of the children that's if you've confirmed them as yours ... I don't blame anyone not taking along wife .. A woman who's not industrious, no partnership connection, cannot turn 1 to 2 , who's got no financial and business intelligence , no , but number one when it comes to frivolities and unreasonable things. my brothers, i can't take her along if I change location within Nigeria not to talk off Abroad ..

This makes no sense! You are telling us that your best solution is to keep this woman, along with your children, in Nigeria, where you will have to slave away to her frivolities and unreasonable lifestyle? Really?

henndukwe18:
this is just me, i dont care if my wife cheats on me, as long as she keeps it secret and doesnt get pregnant, am ok

Samantha125:
In the name of Jesus, Allah, Ifa, Buddha, and Lord Shiva, may you live long...

Toast to you...🥂🥂🥂

No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
now can somebody shout AMEN?🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

Wrong! He forgot to add "and doesn't catch a disease". No amen for you

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Those of you that left your wives behind in Nigeria should give me their s so I can go and be taking care of them for you

It's better for you that just 1 guy is oiling your wife's toto than for her to be jumping from bed to bed

Be warned, there are some places if you service any married woman from there "things" will start happening to you. Investigate in advance

Ihebu4chelsea:
I pity your husband, you don't deserve to get married. Marriage needs commitment , you want to be jumping from bed to bed and still answer a married woman? You can't eat your cake and have it.

The OP is an Open Shop. You come buy what you want without paying for the goods.

laivwire:

How many countries today allow Masters students bring their spouses along? Except for UK which a lot of people exploited and which is shut down already.

Masters is the most popular student route to japa as PhDs are too competitive. Besides how many people have the resources to carry wife and children together as they travel for the first time.

Let's be realistic on this platform please.

Canada and US also do. These are the ones I can talk about. What makes PhD so competitive?

Pain:


Samantha is a man

Are you sure? She/he was looking for husband at a point

Space booked

OlawaleBammie:
U want them to take u along so that u can wreck them and claim its because he once offended you back in the days when he was wooing you abi??

ONKR.

You have said it all!

abobote:
Me that brought my wife and kids after some years, I'm regretting it now.
That is the worst decision I ever taken

Are you Cyril by name.UK base
I have a case in hand almost similar to what you mentioned.The matter is unpleasant at the moment.
Cyril my friend regretted taking his wife along
If you are Cy my friend then we can continue but if you are not then no point to continue discussing the matter.cheers

Temitunz:
There’s a growing trend among Nigerian men relocating abroad while leaving their wives behind, sending only money home as if that’s enough to sustain a marriage. Financial is important, but is it really a substitute for presence, partnership, and emotional connection?

Many of these women bear the weight of running the household alone, raising children without a father figure, and dealing with the loneliness of a distant marriage. Some endure years of waiting, hoping their husbands will return or send for them, only to face broken promises and fading love.

Marriage is more than just financial responsibility. If you're leaving your wife behind, are you also leaving behind your role as a husband and father?

Let’s talk what are your thoughts on this trend? Is money enough to sustain a marriage? #MarriageMatters #Relationships #NigerianMen #LongDistanceMarriage

Do the said men have chances of taking them along and refuse? Forget about what people are saying here, in reality, no man would be happy to leave his lovely wife and children willingly, he took the biggest sacrifice because he want better future for his family.

Majority of those leaving their wives in Nigeria are doing so because they don't have choice . You can't be gambling with poverty or uncertain future in Nigeria and say you won't move because you don't want to leave your wife and children.

VaginaAcademic:
What about those women who "change it" for their husband when they get there. It's vice versa.

That's true and they will certainly change it for their spouse when they (women)know well that the odds favour them.That's the mentality of an average nigerian woman

GboyegaD:
I don't have any friends or know anyone who has the right papers and left his wife back home. You could say my circle of influence is not much nonetheless, I know over 70 married Nigerian men who are here with their spouses.

Why would you want to leave your wife in Nigeria? Is she some piece of furniture or artefact meant for decorating your house?

May God bless you.

No man will willingly leave his lovely family behind if he has the opportunity.

Those claiming they can't are mostly singles or are having bad relationships with their wives before the opportunity comes.

There can be a whole lot of reasons....but there are some popular ones .....to look for greener pasture for their family. The husband cannot afford to take his entire family...has just enough for himself to go ..hustle ..and make preparations for them to him later. A lot of times for various reasons ...the plan doesn't work. Now he's in a dilemma... should be remain and continue to struggle but at the same time can afford to maintain his family financially?...as in taking care of all expenses that he will be unable to do if he returns? Or should he return and they all struggle as a family? Then there are those who overstay their visa.... that's a bigger problem. With this Trump istration..... more wives and families will be abandoned..... many will not visit for fear of not being able to return. Ehmmm ...for the younger wives.... even with a child .... if you have no skill ... if you're lazy ... one who expects the husband to be the sole provider ... loves to spend but don't earn .... lives on SM showing off your latest outfit ...or outings.....it may be ok with your husband but when he gets abroad and see how women hustle for themselves and their husbands.... it will be a revelation to him and he will see you as a big liability.... and just like that... his interest in you will begin to fade ... he will begin to lose interest. Just saying .

Ladies hustling .... can you imagine ehmmm ....let me shut up.

Lalami3232:

In Nigeria, there are 5 grievous mistakes that a man can ever make, here are the list:
1. Marrying a non-virgin aka borehole and not going for a DNA test.
2. Taking your wife abroad. Oga, the chances of you crying is higher than a Nigerian politician to deliver on their promise.
3. Believing in a politician.
4. Thinking that a woman's past is past after her olosho phase. Why do you think your preeq is the sweetest she has ever had? One day, she will always crave for the sweetest
5. Training a woman through school or setting up a business for a woman. Oga, between you and a man wey plant corn by the roadside, no difference atall.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooooo because non-virgins aka boreholes can't be trusted atall atall oooo

A bottle of chilled Heineken for you

Ihebu4chelsea:
I pity your husband, you don't deserve to get married. Marriage needs commitment , you want to be jumping from bed to bed and still answer a married woman? You can't eat your cake and have it.

Don't mind her,
We've old enough to see the end of her like ...

An horrible life to live...

elipheleh:


She can service herself with anyone she wants. But she can't birth their child. Lol because I will always do DNA test on all my children.

Done DNA for the 1st and 2nd already. Waiting for the unborn child for his own DNA too.

Plus any time I catch her, or another friend catches her, she's gone.

How much does each one cost you please

elipheleh:


She can service herself with anyone she wants . But she can't birth their child. Lol because I will always do DNA test on all my children.

Done DNA for the 1st and 2nd already. Waiting for the unborn child for his own DNA too.

Plus any time I catch her, or another friend catches her, she's gone.

I'm glad you accepted the truth in good fate. The last statement is not necessary because you will never catch her.

Temitunz:
There’s a growing trend among Nigerian men relocating abroad while leaving their wives behind, sending only money home as if that’s enough to sustain a marriage. Financial is important, but is it really a substitute for presence, partnership, and emotional connection?

Many of these women bear the weight of running the household alone, raising children without a father figure, and dealing with the loneliness of a distant marriage. Some endure years of waiting, hoping their husbands will return or send for them, only to face broken promises and fading love.

Marriage is more than just financial responsibility. If you're leaving your wife behind, are you also leaving behind your role as a husband and father?

Let’s talk what are your thoughts on this trend? Is money enough to sustain a marriage? #MarriageMatters #Relationships #NigerianMen #LongDistanceMarriage

My brother Abroad husband nor be marriage again ooo because cheating wives are plenty out there just because of abroad husband but it doesn't make sense finally. I'm certainly against it.........

Freedom for the man and freedom for the woman lol.

TossTos:
Infact the reason of sending money home is because of the children that's if you've confirmed them as yours ... I don't blame anyone not taking along wife .. A woman who's not industrious, no partnership connection, cannot turn 1 to 2 , who's got no financial and business intelligence , no , but number one when it comes to frivolities and unreasonable things . my brothers, i can't take her along if I change location within Nigeria not to talk off Abroad ..

The problem is not her but you. You can't leave women that are opposite of what you just listed and go ahead to marry someone you described above and then afterwards complain.

ItisWell22:
From the comments above, one wonders the kind of marriages people are into these days.

No love or respect for the mother of your children.

It’s not well abeg.

95% of marriage this days are not based on real love…

Everyone just want to multiply by having kids
Partner that can the house
Sexual partner you can get instantly
And title Mr/Mrs

Nothing more

abobote:
Me that brought my wife and kids after some years, I'm regretting it now.
That is the worst decision I ever taken

Sorry boss… if u don’t mind kindly share ur story so others can learn…

God bless

Samantha125:
Why wait when you can get yourselves a side dudes to keep you well fed? It's not like the husbands are faithful wherever they are...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

Don't call me scum when he will send your sorry ass out of his house