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There’s a growing trend among Nigerian men relocating abroad while leaving their wives behind, sending only money home as if that’s enough to sustain a marriage. Financial is important, but is it really a substitute for presence, partnership, and emotional connection?

Many of these women bear the weight of running the household alone, raising children without a father figure, and dealing with the loneliness of a distant marriage. Some endure years of waiting, hoping their husbands will return or send for them, only to face broken promises and fading love.

Marriage is more than just financial responsibility. If you're leaving your wife behind, are you also leaving behind your role as a husband and father?

Let’s talk what are your thoughts on this trend? Is money enough to sustain a marriage? #MarriageMatters #Relationships #NigerianMen #LongDistanceMarriage

Lol....

This generalization is an error

Is this really a question?

In Nigeria, there are 5 grievous mistakes that a man can ever make, here are the list:
1. Marrying a non-virgin aka borehole and not going for a DNA test.
2. Taking your wife abroad. Oga, the chances of you crying is higher than a Nigerian politician to deliver on their promise.
3. Believing in a politician.
4. Thinking that a woman's past is past after her olosho phase. Why do you think your preeq is the sweetest she has ever had? One day, she will always crave for the sweetest
5. Training a woman through school or setting up a business for a woman. Oga, between you and a man wey plant corn by the roadside, no difference atall.
What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooooo because non-virgins aka boreholes can't be trusted atall atall oooo

Lol

Me I feel some do it as a form of punishment to their wives. If a girl I’m to marry cheats on me and she has good genes. I can forgive her birth all my kids with her and then travel abroad keep sending her money and look for another wife over there.

Why wait when you can get yourselves a side dudes to keep you well fed? It's not like the husbands are faithful wherever they are...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

Who wants to carry a greedy mgbeke abroad?

In this generation, only a foolish man takes a woman abroad.
Most Nigerian girls don't deserve to be taken abroad. They will betray you.

Samantha125:
Why wait when you can get yourselves a side dudes to keep you well fed? It's not like the husbands are faithful wherever they are...🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️

She can service herself with anyone she wants. But she can't birth their child. Lol because I will always do DNA test on all my children.

Done DNA for the 1st and 2nd already. Waiting for the unborn child for his own DNA too.

Plus any time I catch her, or another friend catches her, she's gone.

That fair enough... She'll make sure to keep it discreet.

elipheleh:


She can service herself with anyone she wants. But she can't birth their child. Lol because I will always do DNA test on all my children.

Done DNA for the 1st and 2nd already. Waiting for the unborn child for his own DNA too.

Plus any time I catch her, or another friend catches her, she's gone.

Samantha125:
That fair enough... She'll make sure to keep it discreet.

You're welcome. Don't mention.
I am that kind to my baby nannies. If I can pay a nanny to take care of my children and they live their life too. Why can't I pay an upgraded nanny who I sleep with to birth and take care of my kids while I flex abroad?

It's win win for every body

I don't get you...🤔🤔🤔

elipheleh:


You're welcome. Don't mention.
I am that kind to my baby nannies. If I can pay a nanny to take care of my children and they live their life too. Why can't I pay an upgraded nanny who I sleep with to birth and take care of my kids while I flex abroad?

It's win win for every body

They are wise men who doesn't want to become destitute after labouring hard to build their lives.

I do no want to get kicked out from my home that I bought/paying for.

I do not want to get hit everytime, and when I hit back, I get jailed.

I did not want to loose my home and still end up paying child to a woman I got married to in my own country.

Infact I do not want any negative things to start happening to me the moment I bring her to the western world, where the female have more power and privilege more than the male.

No be every woman them dy carry along.

Wow.. nice comments so far, everyone with their opinions

elipheleh:


She can service herself with anyone she wants. But she can't birth their child. Lol because I will always do DNA test on all my children.

Done DNA for the 1st and 2nd already. Waiting for the unborn child for his own DNA too.

Plus any time I catch her, or another friend catches her, she's gone.

this is just me, i dont care if my wife cheats on me, as long as she keeps it secret and doesnt get pregnant, am ok

In the name of Jesus, Allah, Ifa, Buddha, and Lord Shiva, may you live long...

Toast to you...🥂🥂🥂

No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
now can somebody shout AMEN?🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

henndukwe18:
this is just me, i dont care if my wife cheats on me, as long as she keeps it secret and doesnt get pregnant, am ok

Temitunz:
There’s a growing trend among Nigerian men relocating abroad while leaving their wives behind, sending only money home as if that’s enough to sustain a marriage. Financial is important, but is it really a substitute for presence, partnership, and emotional connection?

Many of these women bear the weight of running the household alone, raising children without a father figure, and dealing with the loneliness of a distant marriage. Some endure years of waiting, hoping their husbands will return or send for them, only to face broken promises and fading love.

Marriage is more than just financial responsibility. If you're leaving your wife behind, are you also leaving behind your role as a husband and father?

Let’s talk what are your thoughts on this trend? Is money enough to sustain a marriage? #MarriageMatters #Relationships #NigerianMen #LongDistanceMarriage

U want them to take u along so that u can wreck them and claim its because he once offended you back in the days when he was wooing you abi??

ONKR.

elipheleh:


She can service herself with anyone she wants. But she can't birth their child. Lol because I will always do DNA test on all my children.

Done DNA for the 1st and 2nd already. Waiting for the unborn child for his own DNA too.

Plus any time I catch her, or another friend catches her, she's gone.

This is my type of men

Those of you that left your wives behind in Nigeria should give me their s so I can go and be taking care of them for you

It's better for you that just 1 guy is oiling your wife's toto than for her to be jumping from bed to bed

Samantha125:
In the name of Jesus, Allah, Ifa, Buddha, and Lord Shiva, may you live long...

Toast to you...🥂🥂🥂

No weapon formed against you shall prosper,
now can somebody shout AMEN?🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

amen, i no sey that one don off u, repent from ur sinful livings

You deserve an award for husband of the year, in fact, for husband of a decade together with three side chicks, one from Europe, the other from Asia, and another from America.

You can even stay abroad for as long as you like, as long as you send money home to look after your children... ... Don't worry about me, I'll repent...

henndukwe18:
amen, i no sey that one don off u, repent from ur sinful livings

Native hen that will call the cop on you, never

Samantha125:
You deserve an award for husband of the year, in fact, for husband of a decade together with three side chicks, one from Europe, the other from Asia, and another from America.

You can even stay abroad for as long as you like, as long as you send money home to look after your children... ... Don't worry about me, I'll repent...

I pity your husband, you don't deserve to get married. Marriage needs commitment , you want to be jumping from bed to bed and still answer a married woman? You can't eat your cake and have it.

Hallelujah, Amen...

Ihebu4chelsea:
I pity your husband, you don't deserve to get married. Marriage needs commitment , you want to be jumping from bed to bed and still answer a married woman? You can't eat your cake and have it.

From the comments above, one wonders the kind of marriages people are into these days.

No love or respect for the mother of your children.

It’s not well abeg.

Samantha125:
Committed to a marriage is like a prison.
I feel like whoring around

Temitunz:
➜There’s a growing trend among Nigerian men relocating abroad while leaving their wives behind, sending only money home as if that’s enough to sustain a marriage. Financial is important, but is it really a substitute for presence, partnership, and emotional connection?
Many of these women bear the weight of running the household alone, raising children without a father figure, and dealing with the loneliness of a distant marriage. Some endure years of waiting, hoping their husbands will return or send for them, only to face broken promises and fading love.
Marriage is more than just financial responsibility. If you're leaving your wife behind, are you also leaving behind your role as a husband and father?
Let’s talk what are your thoughts on this trend? Is money enough to sustain a marriage? #MarriageMatters #Relationships #NigerianMen #LongDistanceMarriage

This long-distance marriage trend has been around for a long while now and has proven to be the recipe for bad marriages. But we are talking of Nigerians at the end of the day, a people who aren't capable of learning from the mistakes of others let alone their very own.

FitCorper:
➜Me I feel some do it as a form of punishment to their wives. If a girl I’m to marry cheats on me and she has good genes. I can forgive her birth all my kids with her and then travel abroad keep sending her money and look for another wife over there.

How is this punishment when the same woman — and many have been known to do this too— can easily pick up a side-dick for themselves which you end up sponsoring as well?

elipheleh:
➜Who wants to carry a greedy mgbeke abroad? In this generation, only a foolish man takes a woman abroad. Most Nigerian girls don't deserve to be taken abroad. They will betray you.

You don't want to carry her abroad where she will be forced to work alongside you to fend for the kids. Rather, you will leave her back in Nigeria, and work like slaves abroad so you can send money back to her so that she can continue to live her life as she pleases. And then you go about convincing yourselves that by living like a slave, you have somehow one-upped the mgbeke in that equation how?

I really don't understand how many of you reason at all. 🤐🤐🤐🤐🤐

elipheleh:
➜She can service herself with anyone she wants. But she can't birth their child. Lol because I will always do DNA test on all my children. Done DNA for the 1st and 2nd already. Waiting for the unborn child for his own DNA too. Plus any time I catch her, or another friend catches her, she's gone.

If she has had all of the kids she wants to have with you, she would not need to have any kids with the side-dick though. She would only need him for other things. So?

Think, think, think!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄