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HaneefahRN:

Then don't go and marry an actress or one that acts the kind of roles your dislike. Simple

One would think it is that simple

linearity:


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People marry as late as 75, even 80 nowadays. No regret there. Birthing children is easy. Marriage is optional.

tunapawizzy:
I see some young ladies using this advice to console themselves-shouting good advice
-U no collect advice from omotola jalade
-U no collect advice from Omoni oboĺi
-U no collect advice from mercy Johnson
-u no collect advice from chioma chukwuka
-u no collect advice from Dakore egbuson
-U no collect advice from adesuwa etomi
-U no collect advice from Linda ejiofor

Na Tina Mba single mother of 2 advice dey enter your head. The ground you choose is the ground you must sleep on. The calabash you shape holds the water you drink

If you put in a little critical thinking,

You will realize that all these actresses DID NOT stop acting because they got married.

So they are actually following her advise.

haybhi1:
come and marry me and stop working, baby

If you had a well paying job or hustle, you won't be on Nairaland.

redcliff:



Okay.. actions have consequences. When you resch your own consequence, dont expect pity.

Zero actions have been made.

Nature forced me to depend on my parents, who taught me to become independent.

lexy2014:


How is marriage going to hold "somebody"?

Who is the "somebody"?

Who are the "we"?

If you were raised to be independent, have you never depended on anyone for anything?

Did you get to where you are today without depending on anybody?

Fristly, Chioma Chukwuka is single—separated or divorced. Secondly, what gives you the impression that a single mum cannot advise anyone if she is genuinely happy living her purpose?

There are people that will get both right but there also some whom giving up their career would live to eternal regrets. No marriage can wipe that feeing in old age of not living your dream.

Her advice is for those in a cross road— not to choose one over the other. Those who give up their dream always live to regret it.

And her advice is to have fulfillment, to for someone who respects what you do.

But if push comes to shove, choose your happiness. Cause regret is also detrimental.

So why bash her if she is happy with her choices?

Lastly, if someone truly meets her mate, you won’t have to choose between him and her career. He would instead make it a duty to make her happy knowing she finds fulfillment in her career. And according to her, you will always see the signs of a man who won’t be ive of what you do.



quote author=tunapawizzy post=135390626] I see some young ladies using this advice to console themselves-shouting good advice
-U no collect advice from omotola jalade
-U no collect advice from Omoni oboĺi
-U no collect advice from mercy Johnson
-u no collect advice from chioma chukwuka
-u no collect advice from Dakore egbuson
-U no collect advice from adesuwa etomi
-U no collect advice from Linda ejiofor

Na Tina Mba single mother of 2 advice dey enter your head. The ground you choose is the ground you must sleep on. The calabash you shape holds the water you drink [/quote]

The article talks about how people enter marriages with set standards only to change later and try to effect changes. Humans change with time, most times for the worst. Nobody marries bad partners, they became bad with time.

tunapawizzy:

Marriage doesn't have to hold somebody back, it's people's choice of partner that hold them back. If a woman wants her career to be primary and marriage secondary-there are men that will work with that. If it's the other way, there are men too. If it's also to create balance and give both equal attention, there are men.
- And we were not raised to be independent, if you look at it critically, we we created and raised to be collaborative(I no wan call am dependent). The idea of independence in life, marriage, even in career and business, does not exist.

MIKOLOWISKA:
nobody of worth will want you after you are old and used up by the industry. Ask Tonto, Genevieve, henshaw and Co. Make sure you're ready to be a sugar mummy

Old people marry old people. All the years people spend in this forum and they refuse to learn new concepts.

Coder2Client:


If age is on your side go for your dream.

It is.

meobizy:
Marriage is always going to hold somebody back. We were raised to be independent. All of a sudden, we're forced to depend on another while trying to chase our dreams. Ko le werk. I will achieve my dreams first before giving this marriage thing a go.

how much be d price of clītō now?

Why choose one over the other when you can simply choose a mate that can your fulfilling purpose?

I guess that’s the lady’s message.

None has to suffer if you pick the right mate.

bentenny:
If as a lady your priority is career driven,then continue as you wish!
It's a free world!
However,if you decide to marry,you will have to choose between your career path or marriage as both can be quite demanding!

Any attempt to combine both will most likely be counterproductive as you will have to prioritize one over the other!
Both are also be unforgiving if neglected....

Before deciding which one to prioritize,ask yourself which one will offer you long term benefits.....

MIKOLOWISKA:

Define misogynist
Smooth brain
It is women who cry they cannot get married o

them don come o.just 1 sentence them don dey shout for my mention

meobizy:
If you had a well paying job or hustle, you won't be on Nairaland.

Loooooool... I swear to God almighty that's a lie... that's a very hilarious logic, Meobizy...

What's up, what's the meaning of Meobizy?

Rugal:


He is in the entertainment industry. Writer, director and producer. So he is a lost cause 😊

i see

haybhi1:
Loooooool... I swear to God almighty that's a lie... that's a very hilarious logic, Meobizy...

What's up, what's the meaning of Meobizy?

Dey play.

meobizy:
Dey play.

Lol.... why pezin go give herself dey play as meaning of name na... oya talk true meaning of your name... let's at least carry on from there

meobizy:
People marry as late as 75, even 80 nowadays. No regret there. Birthing children is easy. Marriage is optional.

My comment was not ill conceived, I just pointed out a natural next step that we have witnessed very often in society.

Everything in life is optional, even to live, and to breath air are optional; I wish you the very best.

meobizy:
Nature forced me to depend on my parents, who taught me to become independent.

that is not what I asked you.

How is marriage going to hold "somebody" back?

Who is the "somebody"?

Who are the "we"?

If you were raised to be independent, have you never depended on anyone for anything?

Did you get to where you are today without depending on anybody?

meobizy:
The article talks about how people enter marriages with set standards only to change later and try to effect changes. Humans change with time, most times for the worst. Nobody marries bad partners, they became bad with time.

Even the Tina Mba in her advice still said “See, the signs are always there. Don’t ignore it. Watch him, watch her.
And that is true, most times people are not paying attention to the most important things. ( i said most times, not always)

A man that will tell u to stop doing your craft, would have lovingly told you while dating, i dont like the stress you're going through, I want you to rest and enjoy my money and make me pamper you. He is all about you enjoying enjoying enjoying, not so much about your career- nothing along the lines of "i cant wait till you become a Director at your company, I cant wait till you become Best Actress in Nigeria- Most babes will see that as, woow he is intentional, he adores me -and Yes that is true, that sounds like it, but if u listen deeply, there is an undertone of what may come down the road. Is he using his money to pay for your 20m vacation instead of paying for your professional exams, or sponsoring your movie as an actress.
Marriage is sacrifice, Love is sacrifice yet people dont want to have the hard talk with soemone they want to go into marriage with. In my opinion people dont really change.

janeedema:
Fristly, Chioma Chukwuka is single—separated or divorced. Secondly, what gives you the impression that a single mum cannot advise anyone if she is genuinely happy living her purpose?
In that case they can get their advice from others-not chioma. In my opinion, a single mum may be in the position to advice on how to escape abusive marriage(if hers was abusive), but if the advice you are looking for is to balance marriage and career-common, u sef think am now

There are people that will get both right but there also some whom giving up their career would live to eternal regrets. No marriage can wipe that feeing in old age of not living your dream.
I am glad you said some. There are also some(documented), who are now saying, if they have to do it again, they would trade a big part of their flourishing career to make marriage work

Her advice is for those in a cross road— not to choose one over the other. Those who give up their dream always live to regret it.
Most of the others I mentioned have said that they were at crossroads too, and some of them talked about sacrifices made here and there(by both parties), and all of them are still acting till today. And yes, no one should give up their dreams

And her advice is to have fulfillment, to for someone who respects what you do.

But if push comes to shove, choose your happiness. Cause regret is also detrimental.
Surely, choose your happiness.

So why bash her if she is happy with her choices?
I did not bash her, she is a single mother of 2(fact), and if i am looking for ways to navigate the challenge of career-marriage balance, i will take advice from someone who faced same challenge but still acting, still married. If your call is to create a balance and manage both career and bmarriage successfully, you take advice from people who are managing both successfully

Lastly, if someone truly meets her mate, you won’t have to choose between him and her career. He would instead make it a duty to make her happy knowing she finds fulfillment in her career. And according to her, you will always see the signs of a man who won’t be ive of what you do.
I agree with this too

janeedema:
Why choose one over the other when you can simply choose a mate that can your fulfilling purpose?

I guess that’s the lady’s message.

None has to suffer if you pick the right mate.

This has nothing to do with the right partner!
So what if there is a film production that could take more than 3 months in another state far away from where you reside,who takes care of the kids while you are away?

Your partner who may likely be working a 9-5 job or a house help whom you can't vouch for?

Unless you have a stay at home Dad which is no substitute for a mother!
Kids need their mothers always!

Life is no fairy tale or Disney!
Marriage is hard work and involves dedication and commitment just like career destination!

Career path must be sacrificed for marriage or vice versa!
Better still you can decide not to get married and face your career path!
All nah choice with long term consequences and benefits!

Mikeraj:
Marriage that almost everyone dey run From, how many people now sef dey marry?
You no notice say marriage no dey happen for area as e dey happen before?

Guy leave that talk. Na online una dey downplay marriage. Bro, every Saturday, weddings dey happen. 1/3 of every church is conducting weddings every Saturday. People are getting married.

meobizy:
Marriage is always going to hold somebody back. We were raised to be independent. All of a sudden, we're forced to depend on another while trying to chase our dreams. Ko le werk. I will achieve my dreams first before giving this marriage thing a go.

Make sure you hold a man down till you are ready. E get why

bestman09:
Advice from a failure. Must you act obscene scenes? Why not be like Chioma Chukwura Akpota or Omotola Ekeinde? These are first class actresses keeping their home and carrier.

Chioma Chukwuka is divorced over 10 years ago.

Spursy:
My wife can not try that.

You can't be my wife and be acting some of these Roles we see in Nollywood movies

She was acting before you met her. Now you want her to quit without pre-wedding information. Bro, that backward mentality.
Allow her shine as long as you met an actor, manage her so.
DON'T TRY TO CHANGE IN MARRIAGE WHAT YOU COULD NOT CHANGE IN COURTSHIP

Dogalmighty17:
I don't think a divorced mom of 2 is the best person to advise anyone on marriage.

please, where was it written that she is divorced?

tunapawizzy:

Even the Tina Mba in her advice still said “See, the signs are always there. Don’t ignore it. Watch him, watch her.
And that is true, most times people are not paying attention to the most important things. ( i said most times, not always)

A man that will tell u to stop doing your craft, would have [
lovingly told you while dating, i dont like the stress you're going through, I want you to rest and enjoy my money and make me pamper you. He is all about you enjoying enjoying enjoying, not so much about your career- nothing along the lines of "i cant wait till you become a Director at your company, I cant wait till you become Best Actress in Nigeria- Most babes will see that as, woow he is intentional, he adores me -and Yes that is true, that sounds like it, but if u listen deeply, there is an undertone of what may come down the road. Is he using his money to pay for your 20m vacation instead of paying for your professional exams, or sponsoring your movie as an actress.
Marriage is sacrifice, Love is sacrifice yet people dont want to have the hard talk with soemone they want to go into marriage with. In my opinion people dont really change.

@bold:

Hmmmmm!

meobizy:
Marriage is always going to hold somebody back. We were raised to be independent. All of a sudden, we're forced to depend on another while trying to chase our dreams. Ko le werk. I will achieve my dreams first before giving this marriage thing a go.

you don't need marriage my dear. Achieve everything but leave marriage it is not for you