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pansophist:
The best way to get a wife is through referral (AKA arranged marriage).

Let someone you know, that you trust, and have your best interest at heart help you search for a wife. If you choose a wife yourself, you are more likely to choose base on wrong reasons.

A woman that you find attractive can easily as a good wife. Especially when she knows you want a wife, and she may act as a camouflage of a good wife-to-be.

With referral, there is something called ''third-party ability''.The referral has a sense of ability to the outcome of your union, and it is in his best interest for the the relationship to work.

Also, referrers can see things objectively, they know you, and your potential wife, and can vouch for the suitability of both parties. A referrers will not look for a wife through social media for you.

It most likely will be a girl they have known for long, and everyone knows who she is. So you will have no fear if you are marrying a repentant public property. Referral by design will filter the rubbishes out.

The area that you might have to compromise on is on attraction, because a referred wife might not make your preek stand

But in the end, we will all settle. It is up to you if you want a beautiful marriage, or a warzone because you married a lady with a big behind.

Instead of me to trust woman make I trust arteta to win champions league for arsenal 😂😂

You nailed it. These days, many are chasing applause, not alignment. They curate personas, not principles. The pencil skirt might fool the eye, but character always tells on itself in time.

The friendly setup has become a polite trapwrapped in compliments, laced with chaos. If she’s such a treasure, why hasn’t the one recommending her claimed the prize? Truth is, sometimes you’re being volunteered to clean up what others walked away from.

Wanting a wife doesn’t make you old-fashioned it makes you focused. But royalty isn’t found in carnivals of chaos. A queen doesn’t she anchors. She’s not defined by what she shows, but by what she shields, what she builds, and what she endures without needing an audience.

Keep looking but with eyes that see beyond the surface. The right one won't compete for your attention. She will command your respect.

uchkochi:


https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1M2CnrXY9W/

The only prayer while searching is that God should give you your own partner regardless of where you meet.

richmond500:
I disagree with ur number one point
Church is one of the best place to find decent ladies.

I also disagree with schools and professional event, these are the places to find a career driven woman that will help u soar. Events are the easiest place to find connections and a lady who attends professional events already has connections.

Also friends suggestions is not bad, my brother's wife was suggested to him by a friend and he married her as a virgin, very beautiful and well behaved

Olosbo full Church on Sunday, I know many of them in my area that don't joke with Sunday service.

Though, he got it wrong with school and professional events and friends suggestion. Friends suggestions are always the best.

Social media and match making are the worse of them all. That is where retire hookup girls look for husband.

Nemesis0147:
So which place remain again

Bush still remain.

No allow village girls deceive you oh. Those ones are the main sheep hiding in wolf clothings!

Kaczynski:
Go back to the village there are a lots of babes there , sweet plum and still fresh





find one mould am to your taste



or enter any of northern states christians full there , date any girl from the north . most of them never corrupt parse southern girls and they're very yummy


speaking from xp

Okay
Na where them go see their wife

Its not about being a good husband. Whether good or bad, the man must provide for the family. Is now for the woman to manage the home's finances well. Thats is where problem start to unveil!

Kobojunkie:
Focus on ensuring you are first a good husband material in order to better your odds.

pansophist:
The best way to get a wife is through referral (AKA arranged marriage).

Let someone you know, that you trust, and have your best interest at heart help you search for a wife. If you choose a wife yourself, you are more likely to choose base on wrong reasons.

A woman that you find attractive can easily as a good wife. Especially when she knows you want a wife, and she may act as a camouflage of a good wife-to-be.

With referral, there is something called ''third-party ability''.The referral has a sense of ability to the outcome of your union, and it is in his best interest for the the relationship to work.

Also, referrers can see things objectively, they know you, and your potential wife, and can vouch for the suitability of both parties. A referrers will not look for a wife through social media for you.

It most likely will be a girl they have known for long, and everyone knows who she is. So you will have no fear if you are marrying a repentant public property. Referral by design will filter the rubbishes out.

The area that you might have to compromise on is on attraction, because a referred wife might not make your preek stand

But in the end, we will all settle. It is up to you if you want a beautiful marriage, or a warzone because you married a lady with a big behind.

That is why the marriage of our parents and forefathers last through the ages. In those days, it was a responsibility of parents, relatives or family friends to find partners for their children from reputable families.

pansophist:


Yes, arranged marriage is good for men that work offshores, or men that lives abroad.

Of all the broken marriages that I knew of with Diasporeans who imported their spouse, their relationship either started online, or they met somewhere and just kicked it off.

There was no thorough background checks from those who knew her from when she was little. This is how lots of men marry problems without knowing.

A woman once said she married her childhood friend, they knew she each other in and out but still they were having issues when they got married and they later divorced. What if the woman comes from a background the man is desiring but the woman's behavior is out of it. She might be of good character when little till growing up but upon entering her husbands house, another story.

This comment is golden. I don't know whether i agree with it, but you made alot of sense!

I appreciate.

pansophist:
The best way to get a wife is through referral (AKA arranged marriage).

Let someone you know, that you trust, and have your best interest at heart help you search for a wife. If you choose a wife yourself, you are more likely to choose base on wrong reasons.

A woman that you find attractive can easily as a good wife. Especially when she knows you want a wife, and she may act as a camouflage of a good wife-to-be.

With referral, there is something called ''third-party ability''.The referral has a sense of ability to the outcome of your union, and it is in his best interest for the the relationship to work.

Also, referrers can see things objectively, they know you, and your potential wife, and can vouch for the suitability of both parties. A referrers will not look for a wife through social media for you.

It most likely will be a girl they have known for long, and everyone knows who she is. So you will have no fear if you are marrying a repentant public property. Referral by design will filter the rubbishes out.

The area that you might have to compromise on is on attraction, because a referred wife might not make your preek stand

But in the end, we will all settle. It is up to you if you want a beautiful marriage, or a warzone because you married a lady with a big behind.

Na you wey start the process of seeking a wife , na you find trouble. You don’t seek a wife, you just mistakenly bump into them😁

To find good wife na very tough task for this our society.The bitter truth be say many men with all the thorough search go still end up with bad women cos na dem plenty .The society self no dey encourage people to dey good so why men no go struggle to find good women.

richmond500:
I disagree with ur number one point
Church is one of the best place to find decent ladies.

I also disagree with schools and professional event, these are the places to find a career driven woman that will help u soar. Events are the easiest place to find connections and a lady who attends professional events already has connections.

Also friends suggestions is not bad, my brother's wife was suggested to him by a friend and he married her as a virgin, very beautiful and well behaved

The problem with church is everybody tend to carry their self sanctimoniously. So much pretense in church.

papyjaypaul:
➜Be a good person. Stop all these. A poster above said it. A good man can marry a bad wife too so stop sermomizing us on the sexes as if it's only men that go bad. There are bad and good men and women. Just be a good person.

I see that contained message went straight over your head there.

Is match-making the same thing with arranged/referral marriage?

yemmit90:


Olosbo full Church on Sunday, I know many of them in my area that don't joke with Sunday service.

Though, he got it wrong with school and professional events and friends suggestion. Friends suggestions are always the best.

Social media and match making are the worse of them all. That is where retire hookup girls look for husband.

Just because it's wrong for you doesn't mean it's wrong for everyone else.

This one is not arranged marriage. You are talking a different thing. Yes, they know eachother right from birth, but dem still marry with their emotions, feelings, which can be deceiving!
Arranged marriage allows both of you to grow individually, making you guys independent in taking decisions. Its not out of emotions, but involving knowledge, skills, trust and responsibility to the growth of the marriage!

movid:
A woman once said she married her childhood friend, they knew she each other in and out but still they were having issues when they got married and they later divorced. What if the woman comes from a background the man is desiring but the woman's behavior is out of it. She might be of good character when little till growing up but upon entering her husbands house, another story.

The best is to avoid love.
Marry base on responsibility, whether the person dey church, club, event or social media!

Wife can come from anywhere... Be ready like a scout

😂

So men should look for wife for graveyard abi hospital?

School na one of the best place to see a good wife if you use your number 6 very well

Dating app? It depends on how we dey use am! No be onny desperados dey dating app/websites but yes we have empty ones on various Facebook group, highly filtered pictures with zero balance but excessive pride. Mind you, dating apps go help busy type like those wey their work is highly demanding

You can find good wife from church if you are not carried away by her holy holy life infact if you be holier than thou type, I no fit make friend with you as a guy sef (e get why)

Recommendation dey work too, infact you need strong connection to get good gal 😂

Avoid internet gals (those ones wey no dey into tech or any online job but insta, Facebook, TIKTOK etc na their shop)
What work for Mr A fit fail Mr B

Just be careful and fall in love with your head but not your heart

You speak long English finish, you no come tell us where to find wife.

Solution Zero, na to open your mouth you just want do .

Love800:
Is match-making the same thing with arranged/referral marriage?

Arranged marriage/Match-making/Referral marriage is how many Nigerians abroad got their brides. This is including the church crowd - Deeper life, RCCG, and co, utilize that arrangement well. 😂😂😂😂😂

I know one particular couple I happened to have gotten close with some years ago, and I can tell you that I would wish such a disconnected union on anyone I love. I would people fall in love and out of love Jejely!

Love800:
This one is not arranged marriage. You are talking a different thing. Yes, they know eachother right from birth, but dem still marry with their emotions, feelings, which can be deceiving!
Arranged marriage allows both of you to grow individually, making you guys independent in taking decisions. Its not out of emotions, but involving knowledge, skills, trust and responsibility to the growth of the marriage!

Bullsheet! 🙄🙄🙄

You forget there are records of many such arranged marriages to men abroad that ended in tragedy. 🙄🙄

Naa by luck.

Blitzking:
Looking for good wife na like playing 2 odds with your future..e fit enter and e fit cut.

uchkochi:


https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1M2CnrXY9W/

I met my wife through a friend and we have been happily married for 9 years. Everyone has their own story to tell, Marriage or dating isn't one cap fits all thing, people have their own unique experiences.

Rear cases Mountain of fire girls nagging, Winners girl flirts and materialistic, Deeper life pretenders, Christ Embassy flirts and materialistic, Catholic ladies family class, Redeem sisters egocentric and others get their own, in all we still good ones among them.

richmond500:
I disagree with ur number one point
Church is one of the best place to find decent ladies.

I also disagree with schools and professional event, these are the places to find a career driven woman that will help u soar. Events are the easiest place to find connections and a lady who attends professional events already has connections.

Also friends suggestions is not bad, my brother's wife was suggested to him by a friend and he married her as a virgin, very beautiful and well behaved

Love can be found anywhere tho.. May we find who love us irrespective of where we meet.

“She’s really nice.” “She just wants a God-fearing man.” “I think you two would click.”

Translation: “She’s a ticking time bomb and we need someone to absorb the blast.”

This part almost got me rolling on the floor with laughter!
🤣🤣🤣🤣

malaria:
..Dear poster one can get a good wife In a club and a bad wife in a church, Another may find a bad wife on sm and a good wife in market . Life has no rules live yours the way you want it . Its all about choice

I totally agree with you even though my cousin married from a night club about 13yrs ago yet no sign of pregnancy

Nemesis0147:
So which place remain again

Don't mind the OP, maybe na for bet9ja outlet he want unmarried men to find their love.