NewStats: 3,262,239 , 8,176,564 topics. Date: Sunday, 01 June 2025 at 02:02 PM 674m1p

Maeve7:


Are you a father?

Not yet.

Dexy4yah:

Not yet.

Thought so. I hope for your future children that you will change before you have them.

Maeve7:


Thought so. I hope for your future children that you will change before you have them.

Ok

PerfectStranger:
This generation of marriages are big scam.

Women don't really love men.

I bet you are not married and you haven't witness betrayal first hand, it's people like you that will still laugh him off when he decides to will his properties to charity and commit suicide afterwards..

Kobojunkie:
Stop ranting. You can equally file for full-custody of your children in court, too. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

The law allows anyone to file for full-custody of the children in a divorce case. During the proceedings, both may decide to negotiate and settle for shared custody instead. Stop making unnecessary noise for zero-value attention. If your case is in court, you are best to be on your best behavior and maybe leave social media until after the case is done.

Mr. Man, stop crying and go to court—present your case, show your reasons, and let the judge decide based on evidence and what’s best for the kids. That’s how civil disputes are resolved. People go to court every day to demand justice—it doesn’t mean they’ll automatically win. Even regular citizens defeat governments in court. So why all the fuss?

Also, let’s be honest—people need to take responsibility for their decisions. The person you marry is your choice. If the marriage turns out to be a mistake, own that fact. Maybe you didn’t see it coming or hoped they would change, but the decision was still yours. It’s like boarding a faulty plane without knowing—it might not be your fault, but the crash will still hurt.

At the end of the day, life happens. What matters is how you respond. Look at the situation, weigh your options, take the mature route, and move on quickly. Dragging the matter emotionally won’t solve anything—clarity, action, and responsibility will.

Go to court

A recent video was brought to Nairaland where a Jakpada lady who lives in Port Harcourt was lamenting the rapidly rising DESPERATION of Nigerians for financial uplift and the generally AMORAL character of the people there.

So this story and other similar cases should be a lesson for the future. No person living in a developed Western country should deign to marry a resident of Nigeria and then take them to live abroad. The rising political tides against immigration will increase the anything-goes mentality in Nigeria and thus exponentially raise the stakes.

If there are sound reasons for going through with such a union, both spouses should avail themselves of all legally allowed protections, most importantly an iron clad premarital agreement in which both spouses are represented by competent counsel.

The main disputes are usually over abuse, assets and children, all of which can be mitigated. Cameras can be installed in most areas of the homestead to record daily life. Household tasks can be legally enumerated and assigned.

All these can enforce equality except in the case of child bearing. Men don't have wombs. The good thing is that Nigeria has a thriving, safe and efficient SURROGATE PREGNANCY market. And it's very affordable for the average middle class Nigerian living in a developed Western nation. This has opened up many possibilities and transformations for family life. Marriage is no longer the only avenue for legally protected procreation.

Marriage in North America and Western Europe is now a dangerous proposition. Thankfully, Nigerian diasporans are waking up to the issue and have started applying a risk management mindset. This includes not getting married at all, becoming a single parent and/or living with a lover under a strict non-marital cohabitation agreement. Yes.

This is a clear matter. Don't be a Mugu.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

mrdharkchild:


Sorry to hear that. But marriage is not something you walk away from, it's something you have to make work.

No matter who or what we marry

Sometimes, The man who fight and runs lives to fight another day

Wande22:


Sometimes, The man who fight and runs lives to fight another day

Sorry bro!! That's not how it is in Canada.

Separation or divorce will get you broke very fast and frustrate you.

The court process would frustrate you and get you broke.
You'd be working for your wife and your kids and won't have enough for yourself.

By time you eventually come out of it, you'd realize you've wasted your life

IbeOkehie:
A recent video was brought to Nairaland where a Jakpada lady who lives in Port Harcourt was lamenting the rapidly rising DESPERATION of Nigerians for financial uplift and the generally AMORAL character of the people there.

So this story and other similar cases should be a lesson for the future. No person living in a developed Western country should deign to marry a resident of Nigeria and then take them to live abroad. The rising political tides against immigration will increase the anything-goes mentality in Nigeria and thus exponentially raise the stakes.

If there are sound reasons for going through with such a union, both spouses should avail themselves of all legally allowed protections, most importantly an iron clad premarital agreement in which both spouses are represented by competent counsel.

The main disputes are usually over abuse, assets and children, all of which can be mitigated. Cameras can be installed in most areas of the homestead to record daily life. Household tasks can be legally enumerated and assigned.

All these can enforce equality except in the case of child bearing. Men don't have wombs. The good thing is that Nigeria has a thriving, safe and efficient SURROGATE PREGNANCY market. And it's very affordable for the average middle class Nigerian living in a developed Western nation. This has opened up many possibilities and transformations for family life. Marriage is no longer the only avenue for legally protected procreation.

Marriage in North America and Western Europe is now a dangerous proposition. Thankfully, Nigerian diasporans are waking up to the issue and have started applying a risk management mindset. This includes not getting married at all, becoming a single parent and/or living with a lover under a strict non-marital cohabitation agreement. Yes.

This is a clear matter. Don't be a Mugu.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

Hmmmmmmm, Muchecheche, it is called, cunny man die and cunny woman bury am, my Kenyan friend in Toronto had a nasty experience around 2007/2008, l met him around that period, he brought or sponsored his Kenya lady from East Africa to Canada, to cut my narrative short, before arrival, the girl was humble but after arriving and mingled with other African women, Dem change her mindset, she called police on my friend, my friend was detained and kicked out of the house with a RESTRAINING ORDER, the matter long jare, my friend was a complete shadow of himself, and to worsen the matter, the child The lady had for my friend was not actually his, the lady say na one lawyer for Toronto get the pikin, that means, she was Fuc..king the lawyer but hanged the Baby to be catered for by my friend, nawao, and several other guys l met in Canada will all kinds of terrible marriage wahala

AngelicBeing:
Hmmmmmmm, Muchecheche, it is called, cunny man die and cunny woman bury am, my Kenyan friend in Toronto had a nasty experience around 2007/2008, l met him around that period, he brought or sponsored his Kenya lady from East Africa to Canada, to cut my narrative short, before arrival, the girl was humble but after arriving and mingled with other African women, Dem change her mindset, she called police on my friend, my friend was detained and kicked out of the house with a RESTRAINING ORDER, the matter long jare, my friend was a complete shadow of himself, and to worsen the matter, the child The lady had for my friend was not actually his, the lady say na one lawyer for Toronto get the pikin, that means, she was Fuc..king the lawyer but hanged the Baby to be catered for by my friend, nawao, and several other guys l met in Canada will all kinds of terrible marriage wahala

I've seen so many terrible marriage disputes. What makes me happy now is that Nigerians are learning and adjusting. Many, many Igbo diaspora husbands don't bring their wives abroad from Nigeria anymore.

I hope this 🙏 isn't indiscreet, but I'll mention it for hope. A male unmarried friend of mine is now a single parent via surrogacy. And he's been in a serious relationship with a Nigerian woman for a while.

And of course I know a few single Nigerian mothers who had their kids through surrogacy and also several couples. One notable thing...almost all these people are in healthcare professions....nurses, doctors, pharmacists and such.

It's all good.

Such is life.

Good Luck to Nigerians

IbeOkehie:


I've seen so many terrible marriage disputes. What makes me happy now is that Nigerians are learning and adjusting. Many, many Igbo diaspora husbands don't bring their wives abroad from Nigeria anymore.

I hope this 🙏 isn't indiscreet, but I'll mention it for hope. A male unmarried friend of mine is now a single parent via surrogacy. And he's been in a serious relationship with a Nigerian woman for a while.

And of course I know a few single Nigerian mothers who had their kids through surrogacy and also several couples. One notable thing...almost all these people are in healthcare professions....nurses, doctors, pharmacists and such.

It's all good.

Such is life.

Good Luck to Nigerians

so many men have been grounded by some greedy & wicked women in the Diaspora via marriage , so people are learning daily from the mistakes of others, Dem say ,No your way no be curse

Olumaeme:
Mr. Man, stop crying and go to court—present your case, show your reasons, and let the judge decide based on evidence and what’s best for the kids. That’s how civil disputes are resolved. People go to court every day to demand justice—it doesn’t mean they’ll automatically win. Even regular citizens defeat governments in court. So why all the fuss?
Also, let’s be honest—people need to take responsibility for their decisions. The person you marry is your choice. If the marriage turns out to be a mistake, own that fact. Maybe you didn’t see it coming or hoped they would change, but the decision was still yours. It’s like boarding a faulty plane without knowing—it might not be your fault, but the crash will still hurt.
At the end of the day, life happens. What matters is how you respond. Look at the situation, weigh your options, take the mature route, and move on quickly. Dragging the matter emotionally won’t solve anything—clarity, action, and responsibility will.

Help me tell them abeg! Nigerians no dey like to learn at all to better adapt to the situation and condition. Many would rather complain and blame everyone else for their own mistakes.

mrdharkchild:


Sorry bro!! That's not how it is in Canada.

Separation or divorce will get you broke very fast and frustrate you.

The court process would frustrate you and get you broke.
You'd be working for your wife and your kids and won't have enough for yourself.

By time you eventually come out of it, you'd realize you've wasted your life

Naija nko

Child , etc

Just that over there, the system favours women up to 95-98% than men

Wande22:


Naija nko

Child , etc

Just that over there, the system favours women up to 95-98% than men

Not all the time if you've got a good lawyer and quit your job or bankruptcy. So when they view your finances they'd know your broke. But you'd need to fund an for the court cases, and various steps will stress ou out, the case can last years.

Money, time, mental state. Bro!!! Divorce here no be joke