NewStats: 3,259,703 , 8,170,702 topics. Date: Sunday, 25 May 2025 at 07:19 PM 636q2d

So apparently my age has gotten quite serious yeah, and I'm kinda wanting to settle down at least have a child or something but these Nigerian women , majority of them have nothing in their head. All they care about is their feelings , they never care about yours. Very selfish set of beings. Its Always about them , always about what they want , always about their selfish entitled stupid feelings , all they care about is you validating their selfish feelings while they invalidate yours.


For example, there's this girl I've been talking with ( talking stage ) , she came over to my place this weekend, I was trynna get to talk to her and vibe , she was just on her phone , so i left her alone and then luckily one of my guys came visiting and we started playing PS 4 , this girl starts dey vex say I just ignore her they play with my friend , mhen I be wan craze cus like dis na persin wey I bin dey try follow vibe oh , she just dey on her phone , acting uninterested omo

I pray I find a loyal one soon sha cause time isn't on a man's side anymore , I don't like the idea of babymama. I for don born like two at least. It is well.

Learn to be patient with women
Learn to understand what goes on in her head so that u can understand her behavior...
U don't expect a woman to be 100 percent open to you.
You create the atmosphere
U pet them
U create the illusion that, u are the one pulling her out of her shell, cos they don't want to bear that responsibility in case it bleeps up...
She actually wsnt you to take charge and go for what you want... But u are waiting for her verbal go ahead.... No... Work with her body language... Be more direct and funny at it... Everything is clear.. Na you no sabi enter their frame

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That's disrespectful bro,she needs to pay attention to you as a man with dream but most of these girls have no ambition their own is to lay egg like foul

FreeSpirited:
Learn to be patient with women
Learn to understand what goes on in her head so that u can understand her behavior...
U don't expect a woman to be 100 percent open to you.
You create the atmosphere
U pet them
U create the illusion that, u are the one pulling her out of her shell, cos they don't want to bear that responsibility in case it bleeps up...
She actually wsnt you to take charge and go for what you want... But u are waiting for her verbal go ahead.... No... Work with her body language... Be more direct and funny at it... Everything is clear.. Na you no sabi enter their frame

Patient?? I fear that even if I get patient with them I might still regret it.

MikeofKd:
So apparently my age has gotten quite serious yeah, and I'm kinda wanting to settle down at least have a child or something but these Nigerian women , majority of them have nothing in their head. All they care about is their feelings , they never care about yours. Very selfish set of beings. Its Always about them , always about what they want , always about their selfish entitled stupid feelings , all they care about is you validating their selfish feelings while they invalidate yours.


For example, there's this girl I've been talking with ( talking stage ) , she came over to my place this weekend, I was trynna get to talk to her and vibe , she was just on her phone , so i left her alone and then luckily one of my guys came visiting and we started playing PS 4 , this girl starts dey vex say I just ignore her they play with my friend , mhen I be wan craze cus like dis na persin wey I bin dey try follow vibe oh , she just dey on her phone , acting uninterested omo

I pray I find a loyal one soon sha cause time isn't on a man's side anymore , I don't like the idea of babymama. I for don born like two at least. It is well.

You are the one in a hurry to get married, not her!
"Time isn't on a man's side anymore". You two are not equal. I'm sure you did your own Shakara when time was on your side!

MikeofKd:
So apparently my age has gotten quite serious yeah, and I'm kinda wanting to settle down at least have a child or something but these Nigerian women , majority of them have nothing in their head. All they care about is their feelings , they never care about yours. Very selfish set of beings. Its Always about them , always about what they want , always about their selfish entitled stupid feelings , all they care about is you validating their selfish feelings while they invalidate yours.


For example, there's this girl I've been talking with ( talking stage ) , she came over to my place this weekend, I was trynna get to talk to her and vibe , she was just on her phone , so i left her alone and then luckily one of my guys came visiting and we started playing PS 4 , this girl starts dey vex say I just ignore her they play with my friend , mhen I be wan craze cus like dis na persin wey I bin dey try follow vibe oh , she just dey on her phone , acting uninterested omo

I pray I find a loyal one soon sha cause time isn't on a man's side anymore , I don't like the idea of babymama. I for don born like two at least. It is well.

shey na naija girl you wan understand? Dey play my brother, dem be confusing kind

Why couldn't you take her out and get to know her in a public space, or is this how people date these days?

MikeofKd:
So apparently my age has gotten quite serious yeah, and I'm kinda wanting to settle down at least have a child or something but these Nigerian women , majority of them have nothing in their head. All they care about is their feelings , they never care about yours. Very selfish set of beings. Its Always about them , always about what they want , always about their selfish entitled stupid feelings , all they care about is you validating their selfish feelings while they invalidate yours.


For example, there's this girl I've been talking with ( talking stage ) , she came over to my place this weekend, I was trynna get to talk to her and vibe , she was just on her phone , so i left her alone and then luckily one of my guys came visiting and we started playing PS 4 , this girl starts dey vex say I just ignore her they play with my friend , mhen I be wan craze cus like dis na persin wey I bin dey try follow vibe oh , she just dey on her phone , acting uninterested omo

I pray I find a loyal one soon sha cause time isn't on a man's side anymore , I don't like the idea of babymama. I for don born like two at least. It is well.

what you people don't understand is that, those small girls are not ready for serious relationships, been serious with them at your age is just a waste of time,why can't you find a working class lady who is mature and prepared mentally and be serious with her.

MikeofKd:
So apparently my age has gotten quite serious yeah, and I'm kinda wanting to settle down at least have a child or something but these Nigerian women , majority of them have nothing in their head. All they care about is their feelings , they never care about yours. Very selfish set of beings. Its Always about them , always about what they want , always about their selfish entitled stupid feelings , all they care about is you validating their selfish feelings while they invalidate yours.


For example, there's this girl I've been talking with ( talking stage ) , she came over to my place this weekend, I was trynna get to talk to her and vibe , she was just on her phone , so i left her alone and then luckily one of my guys came visiting and we started playing PS 4 , this girl starts dey vex say I just ignore her they play with my friend , mhen I be wan craze cus like dis na persin wey I bin dey try follow vibe oh , she just dey on her phone , acting uninterested omo

I pray I find a loyal one soon sha cause time isn't on a man's side anymore , I don't like the idea of babymama. I for don born like two at least. It is well.

You will surely end like (baba n dagbe) single father, because you aren't different from girls you narrated up thr, going by ur narration, you want wife that would be worshiping you, even Dangote not seeing that, maybe that's why he is a single father at 60+.

Just like someone advice you, learn how to understand people, (not only female), that's when you can leave peaceful with human beings.

You are still in talking state with a girl and not expected her to do shakara, is it wen you have fukkk her tired, she would do shakara? Meanwhile, any girl that doesn't do shakara at that stage, I think you should think twice before married such girl .

Why marriage of 1-6 months old won't be scattered everywhere? When every guy looking for a girl that must accept and fukk him immediately he asks her out, nobody ready to endure or patient for girl to gradually falling in love for him until she melts in love as it were in olden day.

NotOfThisWorld:
Why couldn't you take her out and get to know her in a public space, or is this how people date these days?

Honestly I'm burnt out from taking women on dates , seems like all they really care about is the food hence why I invited over to my place.

Fiscus105:



You will surely end like (baba n dagbe) single father, because you aren't different from girls you narrated up thr, going by ur narration, you want wife that would be worshiping you, even Dangote not seeing that, maybe that's why he too, is a single father at 60+.

Just like someone advice you, learn how to understand people, (not only female), that's when you can leave peaceful with human beings.

You are still in talking state with a girl and not expected her not to do shakara is it wen you have fukkk her tired, she would do shakara, meanwhile, any girl that doesn't do shakara at that stage, you too must think twice before married such girl .

Why won't be 1-6 months old marriages that scattered everywhere? When every guy looking for a girl that must accept him immediately he asks her out, nobody ready to endure with patience for girl to gradually falling in love for him until she melts in love as it were in olden day.

I'm not looking for a girl to worship me , who the Bleep am I ?
And I very much understand that we are all humans with flaws , nobody really perfect like dat. But at least I need a girl that would match my energy , a calm loving and gentle lady , someone that her eyes isn't outside. Am I asking for too much ??

Yuen1:
what you people don't understand is that, those small girls are not ready for serious relationships, been serious with them at your age is just a waste of time,why can't you find a working class lady who is mature and prepared mentally and be serious with her.

Ps she isn't a small girl , she's 27

Nelsondiego69:
shey na naija girl you wan understand? Dey play my brother, dem be confusing kind

Omo

MikeofKd:
So apparently my age has gotten quite serious yeah, and I'm kinda wanting to settle down at least have a child or something but these Nigerian women , majority of them have nothing in their head. All they care about is their feelings , they never care about yours. Very selfish set of beings. Its Always about them , always about what they want , always about their selfish entitled stupid feelings , all they care about is you validating their selfish feelings while they invalidate yours.


For example, there's this girl I've been talking with ( talking stage ) , she came over to my place this weekend, I was trynna get to talk to her and vibe , she was just on her phone , so i left her alone and then luckily one of my guys came visiting and we started playing PS 4 , this girl starts dey vex say I just ignore her they play with my friend , mhen I be wan craze cus like dis na persin wey I bin dey try follow vibe oh , she just dey on her phone , acting uninterested omo

I pray I find a loyal one soon sha cause time isn't on a man's side anymore , I don't like the idea of babymama. I for don born like two at least. It is well.

You never ready to settle down. She did nothing. That's how some women behave. Also such behaviour sometimes helps to cope with nervousness which is understandable because you are only getting to know each other.

Also, this tit for tat thing that you just did, without even trying to find out from her why she was on the phone, is actually what a woman will do, and is something that we men complain about.

MikeofKd:


Honestly I'm burnt out from taking women on dates , seems like all they really care about is the food hence why I invited over to my place.

That you've taken women out to eat and it didn't work out doesn't mean you stop trying, more so if a relationship is what you're looking for. There're lots of places and activities in public spaces that don't involve food. Your house is not an appropriate place for a first date or any date. Instead of rushing and dating just anybody, do your due diligence and find quality women to date and you won't get burnt out.

Did you ask what she was doing on her phone? it could be something that required attention at that time . Don't be judgmental, you won't find a perfect woman, there are some attitude that can be changed.

NotOfThisWorld:


That you've taken women out to eat and it didn't work out doesn't mean you stop trying, more so if a relationship is what you're looking for. There're lots of places and activities in public spaces that don't involve food. Your house is not an appropriate place for a first date or any date. Instead of rushing and dating just anybody, do your due diligence and find quality women to date and you won't get burnt out.

Y'all keep talking like it that easy , do ur due diligence yen yen yen.
And I'm very far from broke , very very far from it. When I say I'm burnt out I'm not even referring to the money aspect. Its an anonymous forum yes but I'm okay financially, I work very hard ,pay my bills , have few extra sources of income. I can invite you to come see for yourself.

koladata:
Did you ask what she was doing on her phone? it could be something that required attention at that time . Don't be judgmental, you won't find a perfect woman, there are some attitude that can be changed.

Bro she was doing tiktok lmaooo

A lady is free to operate her phone while talking to you because you are not her boss.
Only her boss has that mandate, not a guy she just meant or her boy friend. I did that with a girl working at my office, her phone must be on off or silent while on duty. You acted fine by ignoring her too, but you later spoilt the whole thing by acting angry.

MikeofKd:


Y'all keep talking like it that easy , do ur due diligence yen yen yen.
And I'm very far from broke , very very far from it. When I say I'm burnt out I'm not even referring to the money aspect. Its an anonymous forum yes but I'm okay financially, I work very hard ,pay my bills , have few extra sources of income. I can invite you to come see for yourself.

You're the common denominator, so you're clearly not doing your due diligence. You're the one who needs to look in the mirror and figure out what you're doing wrong. If you're far from broke, then you should act accordingly and not use the excuse that you've taken women out to eat before and because it didn't work out, you're now inviting them to your place and you call that a date. A decent and classy woman herself won't follow you to your house for a first date. Like I said, you should take the time to find quality women to date, but you need to be a quality man yourself. Good luck!

NotOfThisWorld:

You're the common denominator, so you're clearly not doing your due diligence. You're the one who needs to look in the mirror and figure out what you're doing wrong. If you're far from broke, then you should act accordingly and not use the excuse that you've taken women out to eat before and because it didn't work out, you're now inviting them to your place and you call that a date. A decent and classy woman herself won't follow you to your house for a first date. Like I said, you should take the time to find quality women to date, but you need to be a quality man yourself. Good luck!

I guess my problem is coming from the fact that I have little time left (in my head ) to settle down , I don't want to be 50 years and my kids are still in secondary school or something.

Now the rush is what is killing me , perhaps I need to be more patient. But the results I've been getting so far has been disappointing, I take ladies out on dates , even settle some of their bills but it's not cutting it anymore , I would rather have me one woman who is worth spending all my money on than all these girls I'm just taking out on date and not finding any of them suitable. I'm tired you wouldn't seem to very much understand how sensitive this is to me. Cus you might think I'm not doing enough apparently. It is well.

What do you mean by time is no longer on your side? Are you a woman? Are you planning on experiencing menopause anytime soon?

You better know your worth as a man and stop acting desperate for a woman's love, even worse, a Nigerian woman's love. Tueh!!! 🤮🤮

Op from exactly what you wrote, the girl coded you are after sex. That's why she used phone to make it look like she is busy. When your friend came in that is when she was comfortable knowing nothing will happen.

Oga stop this your desperation before you enter one chance.

These Nigerian girls no worth am at all. Na survival mode them dey.

Even the working class no worth am.

We don see them tire

COOL10:
What do you mean by time is no longer on your side? Are you a woman? Are you planning on experiencing menopause anytime soon?

You better know your worth as a man and stop acting desperate for a woman's love, even worse, a Nigerian woman's love. Tueh!!! 🤮🤮

I hate the ideas of babymama , I need to have kids , I don't want to be 50 years old and my first child is 10 years old , it doesn't make any sense. Try see from my pov

Chingyyy878:
Oga stop this your desperation before you enter one chance.

These Nigerian girls no worth am at all. Na survival mode them dey.

Even the working class no worth am.

We don see them tire

Omo , no be desperation my bro , na calculation. I no wan dey retirement age make I still dey pay school fees. U sef check am nau

MikeofKd:


Omo , no be desperation my bro , na calculation. I no wan dey retirement age make I still dey pay school fees. U sef check am nau

I totally understand yet you need to be calm. Getting the kind of woman you really want nowadays is not easy.

Na survival mode most of them dey.

Communicate effectively to her.

Tell her that you do not appreciate when she is in your presence with just her body, but her mind, and soul is absent. If you didn't tell her this, but instead, ignore her to play video games with your friends, then you are guilty of the same offence as the accused.

Your leadership as a man are reflected in scenario like this, which are teachable moments that establishes the direction a relationship with you would be like.

MikeofKd:


I hate the ideas of babymama , I need to have kids , I don't want to be 50 years old and my first child is 10 years old , it doesn't make any sense. Try see from my pov

Look, I understand where you're coming from, but this is 2025, and you need to be realistic. Expecting love and loyalty from a Nigerian woman is like looking for gold and diamonds in a septic tank.


Those children you're rushing to have will most likely end up preferring their mother over you and probably won't even take care of you in your old age, that's if you're even lucky to live that long.


Don't rush into something that you may end up regretting in future.

The problem isn't Nigerian women. The problem is the type of women that attracts you. There a millions of marriages going well, we don't hear of them because bad news spread faster than good news. Just change your mentality on what you want from a woman. Speak with couples in successful marriages. You will notice that serious ladies don't talk too much, they are loud, they don't strive to be trending. Clout chasers have no destination.

MikeofKd:


I'm not looking for a girl to worship me , who the Bleep am I ?
And I very much understand that we are all humans with flaws , nobody really perfect like dat. But at least I need a girl that would match my energy , a calm loving and gentle lady , someone that her eyes isn't outside. Am I asking for too much ??

E get any Nigerian girl wey her eyes no dey outside,,a great philosopher (mosdii) once said "Nigerian girls are useless,all of them..


Till this may 2025,they naija girls proved him right