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floss(m): 10:54pm On Apr 21
NairalandGossip:

Funny
If everything you posted up there makes sense, then why do people feel guilty after masturbation?

Because the Christian book says otherwise
Morizo(m): 11:14pm On Apr 21
ReacherSaidNoth:
Can you show us the study that showed masturbation causes vision related issues, because that makes zero sense.

It does makes sense , check the adverse effects of mastubation on your phone

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NairalandGossip: 11:37pm On Apr 21
floss:


Because the Christian book says otherwise
there's no age of the Bible that speaks against masturbation
ReacherSaidNoth: 5:21am On Apr 22
Morizo:


It does makes sense , check the adverse effects of mastubation on your phone
There is nothing like that, just an empty unscientific claim to scare guilty masturbators undecided
MisterKennedy(m): 12:08am On Apr 23
Dpsychologist:

Let’s talk about something every man (and even many women) can relate to—but few truly understand.

There’s a reason why, after orgasm, especially during casual or risky sex, you suddenly feel a wave of clarity, guilt, or even regret. That feeling isn't just emotional—it's biological.

What just happened?

When you're turned on, your body floods with dopamine—the same pleasure chemical you get from cocaine, gambling, or winning a jackpot. Your brain becomes singularly focused on one goal: release. Rational thinking takes a back seat. You ignore red flags. You override morals. You chase pleasure like it’s your last mission on Earth.

But as soon as you cum, your dopamine levels crash, and a hormone called prolactin spikes. Prolactin is associated with sexual satisfaction—but also kills sexual desire. Suddenly, the fog lifts. And now…

📌That person doesn’t look as attractive as they did 10 minutes ago.

📌You start thinking about consequences—pregnancy, STDs, emotional attachment.

📌You begin to feel shame, disgust, regret or confusion.

You ask yourself: “What was I thinking?”

Congratulations. You’ve come to your senses. Literally.

This isn’t spiritual hype—it’s backed by neuroscience. The post-nut clarity is real. And it can be powerful.

But here’s the deeper question:

Why do we need to “nut” to see clearly? Why not pause and think before the act?

That’s where emotional intelligence, discipline, and long-term thinking come in.

Many lives, relationships, and reputations have been destroyed by a few minutes of unfiltered pleasure. People cheat, betray, and even ruin their futures over something they don’t even want once they “come.”

Next time you’re in that heat-of-the-moment tension… pause.

Ask yourself: Is it worth it?
If you’re unsure, wait. Because if you wouldn’t feel good about it after, you probably shouldn’t do it before.

As can be seen from the image. The guy was regretting after wasting his money on what he thought was worth it but as soon as he cum, he came to his senses.

Moral of the story: Don’t let your dick decide what your brain will regret.


Thanks for the write up
HERSLEY(f): 4:21am On Apr 23
RealityKings1:
Let me cum first 😋
with my 2 mins hand job, you will cum 23 times cheesy
FiveFootNinja(m): 8:14am On Apr 24
Some people are advocating for masturbation over sex. 😂

If you must go down the road of masturbation over sex. You should consider that masturbation is overall less satisfactory. It doesn't completely fulfil your sexual needs. I'm saying this as someone who has considerable amounts of experience with both sex and masturbation. 🤧

If you're not careful, you might end up masturbating every day, and more than once in a single day. Sex on the other hand fills you up to the hilt. I feel there's places that sex can take you to, that masturbation simply can't.

Maybe it's the kitten 😁, maybe it's the reality of romping with the real deal, but personally if I've just had sex, I won't be having any urges for the next 3-4 days. Possibly a week depending on how intense the sex was or how many rounds I went. So it's hard for someone like me to get "addicted to sex", if that makes sense. But for masturbation, it's never truly enough.

So if you're like me in that regard, you should practice real self control. Not saying you shouldn't masturbate, but if you can relate to my experiences with the two, you need a whole lot of self-control with masturbation. Try not to do it too often. It can get even more addictive than actual sex, ESPECIALLY if you're doing it to porn.

In fact, never masturbate to porn.

By the way, I'm not disparaging anything the OP said. In fact I'm in complete agreement.

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FiveFootNinja(m): 8:23am On Apr 24
floss:
When you pay 25k for food at an eatery, do you regret your actions after eating the food ?

If yes then you need to work hard…

In life money is the master of all things…

Poverty brings regret and not being able to assume responsibility for one’s actions. If you have millions of dollars to spare, in fact you’ll be proud of your actions…

About STD and other diseases, the more money you have the more sophisticated your sex life becomes. You can make any lady undergo medical lab tests in your personal space before meeting you especially if you knack raw.


So there’s nothing like regret if you have money…. Poverty breeds regrets.

Leave English and work Hard and Smart grin

You just created a poor analogy that doesn't even demonstrate the OP's argument and ran with it. Please how does purchasing food at the eatery illustrate the post-nut clarity? Can you give a proper demonstration of this allegory/metaphor?
Dzzzz: 10:51am On Apr 24
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floss(m): 3:07pm On Apr 24
FiveFootNinja:


You just created a poor analogy that doesn't even demonstrate the OP's argument and ran with it. Please how does purchasing food at the eatery illustrate the post-nut clarity? Can you give a proper demonstration of this allegory/metaphor?

Op is talking about regret… and I narrowed it down to poverty being the major cause of regret… if you are worth $30B and you pay 100k naira for a plate of food, will you have any regrets?

I know you will want to mention Dangote, yes he almost regretted taking the risk of investing in his refinery because it almost took all his money. If dangote is worth $300B do you think he’ll say he almost regretted taking the risk of starting a refinery?

The reason you regret is because your comfort is touched…

Like I said earlier, if you’re comfortable you’ll not have regrets, you made all your decisions from a place of comfort…

You don’t see anyone in comfort having regrets, except when his money has finished, as long as you’re constantly having credit alerts, regrets won’t be found around you


You might not understand this… if Elon Musk goes broke tomorrow, he’ll have a truckload of regrets but for now… he has no regrets whatsoever… he’s living his dream life, his money brought him very close to the White House. (Power)

Once you move out of your comfortable lifestyle, what follows next is REGRETS

When you cum you come to your senses is only talking about regrets because you’re broke…

A broke man regrets his actions because his comfort is being touched… why don’t our politicians come to their senses after they’ve finished cumming inside the pvssy of an oloshoo that came to knack him ?

You don’t expect a man that earns 150k naira monthly that initially agreed to pay an oloshoo 20k for knack not to have regrets or come back to his senses after he has cum ?


Try and be making money, you will see that when a girl makes you cum to your satisfaction, you’ll pay her well without looking at how much you have left.

Mind you some guys pay a lady 2m naira comfortably for making them cum and well serviced ….

A man that has money only regrets for a poor service rendered not because his money is going down
FiveFootNinja(m): 3:56pm On Apr 24
floss:


Op is talking about regret… and I narrowed it down to poverty being the major cause of regret… if you are worth $30B and you pay 100k naira for a plate of food, will you have any regrets?

I know you will want to mention Dangote, yes he almost regretted taking the risk of investing in his refinery because it almost took all his money. If dangote is worth $300B do you think he’ll say he almost regretted taking the risk of starting a refinery?

The reason you regret is because your comfort is touched…

Like I said earlier, if you’re comfortable you’ll not have regrets, you made all your decisions from a place of comfort…

You don’t see anyone in comfort having regrets, except when his money has finished, as long as you’re constantly having credit alerts, regrets won’t be found around you


You might not understand this… if Elon Musk goes broke tomorrow, he’ll have a truckload of regrets but for now… he has no regrets whatsoever… he’s living his dream life, his money brought him very close to the White House. (Power)

Once you move out of your comfortable lifestyle, what follows next is REGRETS

When you cum you come to your senses is only talking about regrets because you’re broke…

A broke man regrets his actions because his comfort is being touched… why don’t our politicians come to their senses after they’ve finished cumming inside the pvssy of an oloshoo that came to knack him ?

You don’t expect a man that earns 150k naira monthly that initially agreed to pay an oloshoo 20k for knack not to have regrets or come back to his senses after he has cum ?


Try and be making money, you will see that when a girl makes you cum to your satisfaction, you’ll pay her well without looking at how much you have left.

Mind you some guys pay a lady 2m naira comfortably for making them cum and well serviced ….

A man that has money only regrets for a poor service rendered not because his money is going down


Bro you're just rambling to be honest.

The op was not talking about money. He's talking about biology and basic human psychology. Don't confuse yourself and other people here.

Whether you're rich or poor, your brain still operates on the same fundamentals of neurochemistry. If you like be a billionaire. If you like be a minimum wage worker. It doesn't matter.

The core fact here is that when dopamine crashes and prolactin rises after sex, ALL HUMANS will experience the same biological reset. Wealth doesn't automatically exempt a human being from HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY. The richest people on earth still do stupid stuff when they rely on their impulses instead of calming down to think. Having money won't automatically make you calm and reasoned. And just because you can use money to "fix" your mistakes doesn't mean you will not recognize them as mistakes once your hormones balance out. That's the single factor you missed. So your entire argument is BS.

There's nothing like poverty breeds regret. That's just a motor park rhetoric that doesn't have any basis in reality. No scientific backing, nothing.

So it's honestly ridiculous that you'll try to make this topic about financial anxiety. The clarity that follows sexual release is just your rational mind stabilizing after being temporarily hijacked by the pleasure seeking mechanisms in your body. What is important here is that you have the wisdom to understand yourself and maintain discipline.

Some of you guys read topics and interpret them with your own faulty biases.

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floss(m): 8:42pm On Apr 24
FiveFootNinja:


Bro you're just rambling to be honest.

The op was not talking about money. He's talking about biology and basic human psychology. Don't confuse yourself and other people here.

Whether you're rich or poor, your brain still operates on the same fundamentals of neurochemistry. If you like be a billionaire. If you like be a minimum wage worker. It doesn't matter.

The core fact here is that when dopamine crashes and prolactin rises after sex, ALL HUMANS will experience the same biological reset. Wealth doesn't automatically exempt a human being from HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY. The richest people on earth still do stupid stuff when they rely on their impulses instead of calming down to think. Having money won't automatically make you calm and reasoned. And just because you can use money to "fix" your mistakes doesn't mean you will not recognize them as mistakes once your hormones balance out. That's the single factor you missed. So your entire argument is BS.

There's nothing like poverty breeds regret. That's just a motor park rhetoric that doesn't have any basis in reality. No scientific backing, nothing.

So it's honestly ridiculous that you'll try to make this topic about financial anxiety. The clarity that follows sexual release is just your rational mind stabilizing after being temporarily hijacked by the pleasure seeking mechanisms in your body. What is important here is that you have the wisdom to understand yourself and maintain discipline.

Some of you guys read topics and interpret them with your own faulty biases.

So why’s it only broke guys that come back to their senses after they’ve cum ?

Except if what Op meant by that statement is being satisfied… if it’s satisfaction is what he meant by coming back to his senses after a guy has cum then I agree I was wrong .

But if Op statement is coming from a place of regret, then you need to go back to school and work on your understanding. Tell me why a full grown adult will regret fvcking a girl if his action didn’t affect his finance.


What you don’t understand is that money controls 85% of your decisions.

If what OP meant was “once you cum, your body will calm down “ then it’s only pointing in the direction of satisfaction and not regret…

So even you criticising me, you don’t know what OP meant by that… you’re looking at it in the area of biology… I’m bringing it towards reality, because guys that I’ve seen making such statements referred to how their finances were affected due to their high sexual escapades…

So don’t criticise what you don’t know…

Like I said if OP was going in the direction of being sexually satisfied (coming back to your senses) then that’s a different story entirely.
FiveFootNinja(m): 9:10pm On Apr 24
floss:


So why’s it only broke guys that come back to their senses after they’ve cum ?

Do you have any study to this statement? Have you done any significant research that shows this is a fact, or you're just guessing from your limited observation?

floss:
Except if what Op meant by that statement is being satisfied… if it’s satisfaction is what he meant by coming back to his senses after a guy has cum then I agree I was wrong .

But if Op statement is coming from a place of regret, then you need to go back to school and work on your understanding. Tell me why a full grown adult will regret fvcking a girl if his action didn’t affect his finance.


What you don’t understand is that money controls 85% of your decisions.

If what OP meant was “once you cum, your body will calm down “ then it’s only pointing in the direction of satisfaction and not regret…

So even you criticising me, you don’t know what OP meant by that… you’re looking at it in the area of biology… I’m bringing it towards reality, because guys that I’ve seen making such statements referred to how their finances were affected due to their high sexual escapades…

So don’t criticise what you don’t know…

Like I said if OP was going in the direction of being sexually satisfied (coming back to your senses) then that’s a different story entirely.


My guy, the OP even cited the post-nut clarity phenomenon, which is very popular in biology and psychology circles

Read this part again:
Dpsychologist:
There’s a reason why, after orgasm, especially during casual or risky sex, you suddenly feel a wave of clarity, guilt, or even regret. That feeling isn't just emotional—it's biological.

What just happened?

When you're turned on, your body floods with dopamine—the same pleasure chemical you get from cocaine, gambling, or winning a jackpot. Your brain becomes singularly focused on one goal: release. Rational thinking takes a back seat. You ignore red flags. You override morals. You chase pleasure like it’s your last mission on Earth.

But as soon as you cum, your dopamine levels crash, and a hormone called prolactin spikes. Prolactin is associated with sexual satisfaction—but also kills sexual desire. Suddenly, the fog lifts. And now…

📌That person doesn’t look as attractive as they did 10 minutes ago.

📌You start thinking about consequences—pregnancy, STDs, emotional attachment.

📌You begin to feel shame, disgust, regret or confusion.

You ask yourself: “What was I thinking?”

Congratulations. You’ve come to your senses. Literally.

This isn’t spiritual hype—it’s backed by neuroscience. The post-nut clarity is real. And it can be powerful.


My emphasis with the yellow highlights.

The bottom line, if you read OP carefully is that post-nut clarity affects all humans regardless of wealth. It is a biological reality, and it is not affected by what is in your pockets.

He even described the neuroscience behind post-nut clarity in the excerpt I lifted from the OP. Financial regret is another topic entirely. You're confusing the two. Yes people regret spending money on sex, but even when the sex is for free, you can still get that post-nut clarity.

Money is not the only thing that controls poor sexual decisions. What about loneliness? Low self-esteem? Insecurity? Peer pressure? Hell, even substance abuse (i.e being under the influence) can cause you to make poor sexual decisions.

Rich people have this same experience too. Their wealth might help them to manage the consequences, but it doesn't change the reality of basic neurochemistry.

Abi Dpsychologist, come clear this thing up for floss abeg.
Illegal1(m): 10:43pm On Apr 24
omoh......at dis point you will realise day vanity upon vanity,all is vanity
floss(m): 1:42am On Apr 25
FiveFootNinja:


Do you have any study to this statement? Have you done any significant research that shows this is a fact, or you're just guessing from your limited observation?



My guy, the OP even cited the post-nut clarity phenomenon, which is very popular in biology and psychology circles

Read this part again:


My emphasis with the yellow highlights.

The bottom line, if you read OP carefully is that post-nut clarity affects all humans regardless of wealth. It is a biological reality, and it is not affected by what is in your pockets.

He even described the neuroscience behind post-nut clarity in the excerpt I lifted from the OP. Financial regret is another topic entirely. You're confusing the two. Yes people regret spending money on sex, but even when the sex is for free, you can still get that post-nut clarity.

Money is not the only thing that controls poor sexual decisions. What about loneliness? Low self-esteem? Insecurity? Peer pressure? Hell, even substance abuse (i.e being under the influence) can cause you to make poor sexual decisions.

Rich people have this same experience too. Their wealth might help them to manage the consequences, but it doesn't change the reality of basic neurochemistry.

Abi Dpsychologist, come clear this thing up for floss abeg.

I don’t feel that way, if I must feel the way OP stated, then it’s because I was satisfied sexually…that’s the only time I come back to my senses.

But I think I understand your point of view now,
Thanks for pointing it out

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lenghtinny(m): 12:48pm On Apr 29
UncleKoboko:
There's absolutely nothing special in sex with a particular kind of girl...

THE ONLY SPECIAL KIND OF SEX IS THE SEX WITH A VIRGIN.
AND YOU BEING THE ONLY PERSON IF IT CONTINUES...
THE FEELING OF BEING THE FIRST...
EVERY OTHER ONE NA SAME AND RUBBISH.
There’s nothing special in having sex with a virgin either…

There are people that won’t touch a woman with a virgin hole with 100 inches stick

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UncleKoboko: 5:03pm On Apr 29
lenghtinny:

There’s nothing special in having sex with a virgin either…

There are people that won’t touch a woman with a virgin hole with 100 inches stick
Shut. it
When I posted, I was talking to d o l t s.
lenghtinny(m): 9:55pm On Apr 29
UncleKoboko:

Shut. it
When I posted, I was talking to d o l t s.
That’s because you are their ringleader angry

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