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The Nigerian man who lost his wife during labour has released more details concerning what happened


The man who alleged that a hospital demanded N500,000 from him said his wife died while he was rushing him to the Epe General Hospital.

Akinbobola Akintunde Folajimi said he suspects the hospital he first visited did not have the equipment to care for his wife's case.

Two things come to mind when I think about why they rejected us: either they weren’t equipped to handle the situation, or they cared more about money than human lives. If they were truly equipped, the worst that would have happened was that they’d keep my wife and baby in the hospital while I found the money. I would have done everything possible to get it.

Folajimi says his wife would have lived if he had money

But Folajimi said if he had the money to pay the hospital, he believed his wife would have lived. He lamented that a man like him could not raise ordinary N500,000 to pay for his pregnant wife's health care.

He told punch

If the economy were better, raising N500,000 wouldn’t have been so difficult. Despite working day and night, I couldn’t even boast of having N200,000 in my . They said they had to remove the baby from her body, which would cost N150k.

Then we had to buy burial clothes for another N20,000. Before we knew it, we had spent nearly N500,000 at the mortuary. Ironically, this was the same N500k that the hospital couldn’t wait for me to raise. In the end, we managed to raise it."

Almost N500,000 spent at the mortuary

But Folajimi said that when he got to the mortuary to deposit his wife's corpse, he spent almost N500,000, the same amount he was allegedly asked to bring at the hospital.

His words: "

They started giving us charges. They said they had to remove the baby from her body, which would cost N150,000. Then we had to buy burial clothes for another N20,000. Before we knew it, we had spent nearly N500,000 at the mortuary. Ironically, this was the same N500,000 that the hospital couldn’t wait for me to raise. In the end, we managed to raise it – just to settle everything at the mortuary.

https://www.legit.ng/people/1648690-spent-n500000-mortuary-man-wife-died-labour-shares-details/?

This is heartbreaking story, may her soul rest in peace

God1000:
This is heartbreaking story, may her soul rest in peace

This was a self-inflicted tragedy. The only victims are the children — the two at home and the one that died before entering this world.

blena:
May God forgive this country

Country ke, abi people who refuse to take responsibility for their lives and their every decision?

Kobojunkie:
This was a self-inflicted tragedy. The only victims are the children — the two at home and the one that died before entering this world.

what do you mean by self inflicted tragedy? Why blaming them instead of the hospital, Where is your good heart

God1000:
what do you mean by self inflicted tragedy? Why blaming them instead of the hospital, Where is your good heart

I don't blame the hospitals for the mistakes of the man and his wife. As a matter of fact, I would recommend that the man be investigated to be certain he did not intend to kill his wife and kids in all of this.

Kobojunkie:
I don't blame the hospitals for the mistakes of the man and his wife. As a matter of fact, I would recommend that the man be investigated to be certain he did not intend to kill his wife and kids in all of this.

sometimes you don't make sense at all

God1000:
➜sometimes you don't make sense at all

I cannot make sense to the close-minded because they are closed off— some I would guess are entirely sealed off— from reason.

God1000:
➜But Folajimi said if he had the money to pay the hospital, he believed his wife would have lived. He lamented that a man like him could not raise ordinary N500,000 to pay for his pregnant wife's health care.
He told punch, If the economy were better, raising N500,000 wouldn’t have been so difficult. Despite working day and night, I couldn’t even boast of having N200,000 in my . They said they had to remove the baby from her body, which would cost N150k.
Then we had to buy burial clothes for another N20,000. Before we knew it, we had spent nearly N500,000 at the mortuary. Ironically, this was the same N500k that the hospital couldn’t wait for me to raise. In the end, we managed to raise it."

See the example of the result of useless upbringing that many Nigerians have been subjected to?

Why should a poor man even nurse dubious ideas of bringing children into the world? The idiot couldn't even plan ahead, even the woman did not apply common sense. Private Hospitals are profit first. If you don't work in the hospital, you won't understand how people take, or took advantage of the Health Facility generosity; you know Nigerians are evil people naw. They utilized the hospital's services, then refused to pay. Some will even run away.

After poor man and woman don breed, multiply like rabbits, Dem go begin dey curse der children, dey blame them, blame leaders, blame hardship for their dumb decisions. Fk poor fertile people for stunting the growth of innocent souls. Fk em, fk em, fk em....

The question I want to ask is this. Where did his wife do her antenatal? Because one of the things you get to know beforehand during antenatal is if surgery will be scheduled or not. You are even given a date where you come in and this date comes a few days before your EDD.

I know emergency surgery does happen sometimes. But it is very rare.

Let's not sugar coat anything. This man was negligent in every way assuming of course his story should be believed.

For some reasons, make this guy just keep quiet

God1000:
what do you mean by self inflicted tragedy? Why blaming them instead of the hospital, Where is your good heart

Why would you want to blame the hospital? Have you heard their side of the story? I do not know of any hospital in Nigeria that would ask for N500,000.00 deposit in an emergency situation like this.

Inasmuch as I feel sad that the man lost his wife, we should not be quick to attack hospitals and health workers. We should listen to the two sides of a tale and make informed decisions.

Most of us are just too emotional. Plus, we already have a biased mind against health workers... especially doctors and nurses.

Do you know how many private hospitals that have provided care in emergency situations and don't get paid afterwards? Some patients would either run away or make trouble.

Can you even measure the losses these hospitals run into?

This is what happens when we are greedy and self-centred. We betray the trust of a benevolent and kind mind not minding how this evil action may impact future clients that may be in need of this benevolence. In the face of life and death, we make all sorts of promises and when things are settled, we show our true, evil selves.

And, of course, once a patient cries to the social media, the doctor, nurse, or hospital is declared guilty without a fair hearing.

And, I still dey talk am, N500,000 deposit for an obstetric emergency case? Or for any emergency sef....? HIGHLY UNLIKELY!

TONYE001:


This is what happens when we are greedy and self-centred. We betray the trust of a benevolent and kind mind not minding how this evil action may impact future clients that may be in need of this benevolence. In the face of life and death, we make all sorts of promises and when things are settled, we show our true, evil selves.

And, of course, once a patient cries to the social media, the doctor, nurse, or hospital is declared guilty without a fair hearing.

And, I still dey talk am, N500,000 deposit for an obstetric emergency case? Or for any emergency sef....? HIGHLY UNLIKELY!

Your write up actually says it all.

But then, 500k is more likely than unlikely for a private facility given our present economic reality. Before now, how much was emergency CS?

Then most people also forget or are neglecting the state in which the woman presented to the private hospital. She most likely was in a critical condition.

And for businesses to avoid long stories, sometimes such bills are mentioned so critical cases without funds for immediate payment can just move to government facilities.

May her soul rest easy.

This man want to use his wife's death to cash out.
He should take part-responsibility for the death of his wife and be sober

My advice to everyone especially ladies is.

Don't marry a man whose plan has no financial backings.

Don't be surprised that the same man is part of those who s evil such as bigotry in Nigeria.

He practically killed his wife. He had nine months to prepare for the worst but he had none and not even friends to help out,no family to help.

Shameless man for that matter. Just wasted someone's daughter.

See him all over the news shamelessly talking and talking when he should hide his face for not amounting to anything.

Now,I understand when my dad used to say,avoid men or woman who has no shame.

ibechris:
➜My advice to everyone is especially ladies. Don't marry a man whose plan has no financial backings.
Don't be surprised that the same man is part of those who s evil such as bigotry in Nigeria. He practically killed his wife. He had nine months to prepare for the worst but he had none and not even friends to help out,no family to help. Shameless man for that matter. ➜Just wasted someone's daughter.

Women who choose this kind of man are not victims. She is culpable, as her death is also due to negligence on her part.

She already had two kids, she was aware they were not being raised well, yet she proceeded to have another kid on top of that. In addition, she made no plans to ensure that she would be taken care of in the case of an emergency. How can she trust it all in the hands of the same man who has not been able to properly feed her and her two children?

2. She wasted her own life and self—provided the man did not intend to kill her. People should begin raising daughters with higher intelligence and standards. Why should any woman submit her eggs to such men? Why? A woman ought to hold out for as long as is necessary to ensure any kid they have has a worthy father— it is better to have any kids at all than to help a deadbeat proliferate; she submitted her life and self to an entitled entity, and look at the result.

Burial party is a mockery of the dead.

People created burial party do they can sabotage on the living moments of people while they're alive : birthdays, anniversaries, weddings, job promotion, shoulder to cry on...

You miss out on a person birthday because you know that when the person is dead, you can compensate their dead body by inviting the best drummers and renting the most expensive event centers

You had to wait for the people you claim to love to die before you made them feel special.
Lolzzz. The patient dog

https://nairaland.unblockandhide.com/8306218/burial-party-mockery-dead

How awful.

The hospital that turned them away, seeing this was an emergency, is very useless. This idea of Nigerian hospitals turning people away needs to stop. The man that didn't have the money to get his wife itted is just as useless, as well as irresponsible. How can you, as a married man, not have money to take care of your family or for an emergency? Broke men really have no business getting married.

May her soul rest in peace. Amen.

ItisWell22:


Your write up actually says it all.

But then, 500k is more likely than unlikely for a private facility given our present economic reality. Before now, how much was emergency CS?

Then most people also forget or are neglecting the state in which the woman presented to the private hospital. She most likely was in a critical condition.

And for businesses to avoid long stories, sometimes such bills are mentioned so critical cases without funds for immediate payment can just move to government facilities.

May her soul rest easy.

I get, I get, I get.

But even at that, N500,000.00 for an obstetric emergency....or any emergency sef...is unheard of. For real.

In emergency, the cost of treatment is not requested. Most times, doctors may not even know the actual cost of complete treatment. All that's requested is a decent deposit with which the patient can be stabilized. Upon stabilization and complete review, further payment for definitive treatment can be requested for.

Now, obstetric emergencies are different. They have to do with 2 lives....obs is considered sacred...and in a good number of these emergencies, delivering the baby is a resuscitative measure. So, per the teaching, doctors don't ask for impossible amounts to urgently operate. All things being equal, they just want to go in and come out in the shortest possible time...to save the lives (life) of the mother and the baby (or the mother). In public hospitals, a lot of protocols can even be broken to take the woman to the theatre.

So, I strongly doubt that huge sum was requested for. If it's true, then it's not common. But importantly, we should hear the hospital's side of the story.

God1000:
what do you mean by self inflicted tragedy? Why blaming them instead of the hospital, Where is your good heart

Blame the hospital for what exactly?
Does your govt give them free equipment, free interest loans or even help them recover their debts when patients abscond or refuse to pay as is common in Nigeria?

NotOfThisWorld:
How awful.

The hospital that turned them away, seeing this was an emergency, is very useless. This idea of Nigerian hospitals turning people away needs to stop. The man that didn't have the money to get his wife itted is just as useless, as well as irresponsible. How can you, as a married man, not have money to take care of your family or for an emergency? Broke men really have no business getting married.
May her soul rest in peace. Amen.

If a hospital lacks the facilities and/or skilled personnel to handle a case, especially this woman who presented in a critical condition after prolonged labour at a maternity centre, it's within its rights to refer the patient to a more equipped centre.
That's exactly what the first hospital did.
What else do you expect them to do? To accept a case that's beyond their capacity to handle so that you turn around to blame and curse them?

Tinubu has caused too much hardship on many South Westerners.


May God comfort the family

Anyway, it’s a pity such a young woman and her baby had to go just like that.

May their souls find rest.

TONYE001:

I get, I get, I get.
But even at that, N500,000.00 for an obstetric emergency....or any emergency sef...is unheard of. For real.

So, I strongly doubt that huge sum was requested for. If it's true, then it's not common. But importantly, we should hear the hospital's side of the story.

Kobojunkie:
I don't blame the hospitals for the mistakes of the man and his wife. As a matter of fact, I would recommend that the man be investigated to be certain he did not intend to kill his wife and kids in all of this.

ItisWell22:
Anyway, it’s a pity such a young woman and her baby had to go just like that.

May their souls find rest.

Absolutely. Such a pity. Maternal mortality should attract a very serious national attention forcing government to implement changes to prevent similar events in the future.

Can't imagine losing one's wife and child on the same day.

May God strengthen everyone she has left behind.

In as much as this is a sad story. But I’d still say this, Nigerian ladies and couples need to think deep when when nursing the idea about childbearing. If women (especially) can reason like men sometimes, situations like these wound be minimal. My reason for this thought is that, women, young or old (specifically Nigerian ladies) to the best of my knowledge are so naive/eager to childbirth, maybe because of the way they are wired genetically. I have seen/heard cases where men would want to approach childbearing without emotions, but ladies would just want to give birth so as to live a fulfilling life. E.g a young couple would agree on 2-3 kids, after the planned last child, the woman would starting pressuring for another child without thinking about the man’s financial situation, saying things like “God would provide, na God day give pikin” I had my own fair share when my then uni girlfriend jokingly told me she wanted a baby because one of her coursemate just delivered, this was someone who was in her early twenties and me in final year. If you and your spouse aren’t financially comfortable, just be mindful of the number of kid(s) you birth

I am sorry but you guys didn't need the third child. May their soul rest in peace.

ChybuzzDD:


If a hospital lacks the facilities and/or skilled personnel to handle a case, especially this woman who presented in a critical condition after prolonged labour at a maternity centre, it's within its rights to refer the patient to a more equipped centre.
That's exactly what the first hospital did.
What else do you expect them to do? To accept a case that's beyond their capacity to handle so that you turn around to blame and curse them?

These are the issues.

"The hospital rejected him" is the narrative that usually flies around. Wetin them want the facility to do? it and manage case way fit need higher-level care?

People should be asking these questions...let's stop hating and unfairly judging Nigerian health workers. Let's stop being emotional too.

I don't know why people who are poor and struggling like adding more to their life.
You can't raise 500k yet trying to have 3rd baby, does it really make any sense?
Like, surfer no dey tire una?
At the end of the day, they start putting unnecessary pressure on a close relative or family member for help and start throwing jabs at him if he doesn't.
They will say he doesn't want to help despite having or are they not seeing the kind of car, house and party or vacation he goes to? So why can't he stop those things for them? Entitled people.