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What's your opinion on this issue?

Class01:
What's your opinion on this issue?
A very close friend of mine is taking this girl very serious now and he has talked about proposing to her.
They have known each other for 3 years now but the girl is really good in every other thing as far as I can tell except I 2 years ago my friend told me how the girl's sexual libido is higher than his.

Maybe he forgot he told me but is it ok for me to approach him about this? cus I don't want him to feel bad that I'm bringing up something he told me 2 years ago as complain and then feel that he should never have told me in the first place.

Secondly how is this likely to affect the marriage on the long run?

Go and mind u business bro, u r about to scatter someone’s joy

No the reverse is better.

Mikespecialone:




Go and mind u business bro, u r about to scatter someone’s joy

I understand bro.
My concern is I don't want a situation whereby in the future I will be secretly kicking myself that I could have warned him or caution him and save him from this trouble

But I'm also concerned as I don't want to scattered this new momentum of theirs as they seems to have made up their mind.

Exceed15:
No the reverse is better.

So you suggest I should mind my business?

Class01:


So you suggest I should mind my business?

I mean it's better for a man to love sex more than the wife

Why do people always poke nose into other people's life, sexual life o...

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I don't understand why people always disguise their story as that of a friend. I mean nobody knows you on this forum, so you can come clean and tell us your story instead of lying that it's your friend. So ehmm back to your question, if you can match the libido then go head. If you no get energy to fckk regularly, you better quit otherwise she will cheat on you.

Marrying a woman with a libido HIGHER than yours is like putting a ROCKET engine in a KEKE NAPEP.

It's MADNESS!

A monumental DISASTER waiting to unfold.

Here's why:

When it comes to fucccking, men do ALL the work.
The PUMPING and the THRUSTING are the man's job.

Meanwhile, 85% of sex for women is just LYING there. It increases to 90% when you include positions that's not technically lying down but still involves staying in a STATIONARY position.

5% is for RIDING.
The other 5% is for doing "huh, huh, huh". Or "yeh, yeh, yeh!" if she's a village girl.

The point is the BULK of work involved in sex is done by men. Specifically, by the BACK of men.

Age WEAKENS that.

A 65-year old man will NEVER be able to thrust like he did as a younger man.

Meanwhile, a 65-year old woman would still be able to LIE DOWN in bed like she did as a younger woman.

So even for a couple with COMPATIBLE libidos, the woman's libido would eventually OUTPACE the man's.

Starting at a point where she ALREADY has a higher libido would GUARANTEE that their libidos are WORLDS APART.

That's a recipe for INFIDELITY.

Best thing is NOT to marry.
Second best thing is NOT to marry at all.
Third best thing is to marry someone with a libido that MATCHES yours.

WORST case scenario is marrying someone with a libido that's LOWER than yours. She'll RATION sex like it's water in a desert.

But whatever you do, NEVER marry a woman with a higher libido.

There will be a problem in the future and for the fact he knows this is a red flag but I would mind if you can still recall how he will be able to handle that aspect in a respectful way and any other things should be kept to yourself

Class01:
I don't want him to feel bad that I'm bringing up something he told me 2 years ago as complain and then feel that he should never have told me in the first place.

You already answered yourself. face your own life... or don't you have one?

For friendship concern, ask him casually may be at a bar that hope he's been able to handle that

Go and take a look at the Tuface of today and see if that's how you want to end up. Tubaba fit dey fucck that Natasha ten times a day and she will still be telling him to perform like a man. I see you look like a man suffering from kwashiokor soon if you don't run from women that like sex too much.

Bro are you married? If you are how is your own wife's lilido? For the fact that you are showing much concern reveals that it's you that's in it. I don't know where you are from but let me just give you this idea, tell her that in your community or village that it is forbidden for a woman to sleep with another man outside marriage and the repercussion is madness.
Just tell her this and watch her reaction, but how your woman go dey win you back to back

That's actually my preference.

A lady with higher sex libido so she can be doing me the way I want it

Class01:
What's your opinion on this issue?
A very close friend of mine is taking this girl very serious now and he has talked about proposing to her.
They have known each other for 3 years now but the girl is really good in every other thing as far as I can tell except I 2 years ago my friend told me how the girl's sexual libido is higher than his.

Maybe he forgot he told me but is it ok for me to approach him about this? cus I don't want him to feel bad that I'm bringing up something he told me 2 years ago as complain and then feel that he should never have told me in the first place.

Secondly how is this likely to affect the marriage on the long run?

1. Is it okay for a human being to marry another human being?

2. Is it okay to broadcast something he told you years ago in confidentiality?

3. Is it okay to worry about another man’s life if he hasn’t complained of recent?

4. Is it okay to believe there is something wrong even if you claimed yourself that she is “good in every other thing?”

Answer those questions first. I’m coming.

meobizy:


1. Is it okay for a human being to marry another human being?

2. Is it okay to broadcast something he told you years ago in confidentiality?

3. Is it okay to worry about another man’s life if he hasn’t complained of recent?

4. Is it okay to believe there is something wrong even if you claimed yourself that she is “good in every other thing?”

Answer those questions first. I’m coming.

1) I never said it's wrong for anyone to marry anyone.

2) Broadcast??. I am technically non existence as far as Social media is concerned. You will say what is NR. That's y my pics, real name or anything private is never on SM. So I posted this just for advice to be sure I'm not making a mistake.

3) it's not a bad thing to try and look out for people you care about.

4) I guess this is debatable. Depending on angle of view.

suckprick:
I don't understand why people always disguise their story as that of a friend. I mean nobody knows you on this forum, so you can come clean and tell us your story instead of lying that it's your friend. So ehmm back to your question, if you can match the libido then go head. If you no get energy to fckk regularly, you better quit otherwise she will cheat on you.

Thanks for your contribution.
But I have no need to present it as another mans story if it's mine. Like no one knows me here or any other social media platforms.

Me and this guy has been friends since primary school. Most people think we are brothers. But again I don't want to look like I'm over stepping my boundaries as it concerns his private life.

kenn4rill:
Bro are you married? If you are how is your own wife's lilido? For the fact that you are showing much concern reveals that it's you that's in it. I don't know where you are from but let me just give you this idea, tell her that in your community or village that it is forbidden for a woman to sleep with another man outside marriage and the repercussion is madness.
Just tell her this and watch her reaction, but how your woman go dey win you back to back

Lol. This is why I like Nairaland. You will sure get all kinds of responses..

As for the questions above you asked, they re too private so sorry I can't answer..

Mopeola:
There will be a problem in the future and for the fact he knows this is a red flag but I would mind if you can still recall how he will be able to handle that aspect in a respectful way and any other things should be kept to yourself

Thank u

illicit:
Why do people always poke nose into other people's life, sexual life o...

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I understand your point but technically I am not poking like you claim if you look at it from another angle.

I wish he never told me that before now.. by now I will be gladly getting ready for best man duty..

Class01:
What's your opinion on this issue?
A very close friend of mine is taking this girl very serious now and he has talked about proposing to her.
They have known each other for 3 years now but the girl is really good in every other thing as far as I can tell except I 2 years ago my friend told me how the girl's sexual libido is higher than his.

Maybe he forgot he told me but is it ok for me to approach him about this? cus I don't want him to feel bad that I'm bringing up something he told me 2 years ago as complain and then feel that he should never have told me in the first place.

Secondly how is this likely to affect the marriage on the long run?

Maybe his libido has leveled up

Nothing bad..but the man shouldn't see it as a job.

Class01:
What's your opinion on this issue?
A very close friend of mine is taking this girl very serious now and he has talked about proposing to her.
They have known each other for 3 years now but the girl is really good in every other thing as far as I can tell except I 2 years ago my friend told me how the girl's sexual libido is higher than his.

Maybe he forgot he told me but is it ok for me to approach him about this? cus I don't want him to feel bad that I'm bringing up something he told me 2 years ago as complain and then feel that he should never have told me in the first place.

Secondly how is this likely to affect the marriage on the long run?

It may sound like a simple or no big-deal issue but if your guy has a lower libido then it's a very serious issue cos the lady will cheat on him. Sexual issue is a very serious matter but many people over look it

@op, mind your business.

Your said friend didn't complain to you but casually told you a secret and it has been paining you for over 3 years, whereas the person involved has gradually adjusted to like his girl as she is. If it is a problem to the said guy, he should have disengaged the lady since then but as it is, it seems the guy is enjoying the high libido and you are here taking paracetamol on someone's headache.

That one has high libido doesn't make them wayward. (A wayward person will be a wayward person, whether high libido or not).
Just mind your business and be happy for your friend and stop wishing that their union will fall apart.

Class01:


1) I never said it's wrong for anyone to marry anyone.

2) Broadcast??. I am technically non existence as far as Social media is concerned. You will say what is NR. That's y my pics, real name or anything private is never on SM. So I posted this just for advice to be sure I'm not making a mistake.

3) it's not a bad thing to try and look out for people you care about.

4) I guess this is debatable. Depending on angle of view.

1. You never said marrying others is wrong. Hands off from your man’s matter. Don’t be a hypocrite.

2. Nairaland qualifies as social media. There are many fools here who copy Nairaland stories to their social media s for engagement. Unless your man lives off grid, he will likely come across the story online or as a radio discussion. You don’t know if he or the female have Nairaland s. Them go just dey laugh you right now.

3. He is not your brother. You have a selfish motive behind this.

4. Once again, you can’t even stick to something which you started off with a conclusion. I dey fold arms watch you.

Class01:


Lol. This is why I like Nairaland. You will sure get all kinds of responses..

As for the questions above you asked, they re too private so sorry I can't answer..

On one hand, you claim Nairaland is private and no one knows you here. On another hand, you claim questions asked are too private? Are you here for help or just ready to waste our time? I’m beginning to regret indulging in the first place. Something smells out of place.

You can always outsource if your mind no dey.

At the start the guy will get excited. Give him a week or a month he will get frustrated

bestman09:
@op, mind your business.

Your said friend didn't complain to you but casually told you a secret and it has been paining you for over 3 years, whereas the person involved has gradually adjusted to like his girl as she is. If it is a problem to the said guy, he should have disengaged the lady since then but as it is, it seems the guy is enjoying the high libido and you are here taking paracetamol on someone's headache.

That one has high libido doesn't make them wayward. (A wayward person will be a wayward person, whether high libido or not).
Just mind your business and be happy for your friend and stop wishing that their union will fall apart.

God!!! Where in my write up did it suggest that I'm wishing that the union falls apart please?

meobizy:

1. You never said marrying others is wrong. Hands off from your man’s matter. Don’t be a hypocrite.

2. Nairaland qualifies as social media. There are many fools here who copy Nairaland stories to their social media s for engagement. Unless your man lives off grid, he will likely come across the story online or as a radio discussion. You don’t know if he or the female have Nairaland s. Them go just dey laugh you right now.

3. He is not your brother. You have a selfish motive behind this.

4. Once again, you can’t even stick to something which you started off with a conclusion. I dey fold arms watch you.



On one hand, you claim Nairaland is private and no one knows you here. On another hand, you claim questions asked are too private? Are you here for help or just ready to waste our time? I’m beginning to regret indulging in the first place. Something smells out of place.

So because no one knows me here I should start discussing my intimate moments with my partner with you??

Class01:
➜What's your opinion on this issue? A very close friend of mine is taking this girl very serious now and he has talked about proposing to her. They have known each other for 3 years now but the girl is really good in every other thing as far as I can tell except I 2 years ago my friend told me how the girl's sexual libido is higher than his.
Maybe he forgot he told me but is it ok for me to approach him about this? cus I don't want him to feel bad that I'm bringing up something he told me 2 years ago as complain and then feel that he should never have told me in the first place.
Secondly how is this likely to affect the marriage on the long run?

Mind your own business! 🙄🙄🙄

If you don't like the choices he makes, then you can disown him as a friend and find yourself better friends, abeg!

bestman09:
@op, mind your business.

Your said friend didn't complain to you but casually told you a secret and it has been paining you for over 3 years, whereas the person involved has gradually adjusted to like his girl as she is. If it is a problem to the said guy, he should have disengaged the lady since then but as it is, it seems the guy is enjoying the high libido and you are here taking paracetamol on someone's headache.

That one has high libido doesn't make them wayward. (A wayward person will be a wayward person, whether high libido or not).
Just mind your business and be happy for your friend and stop wishing that their union will fall apart.

You might have missed something.
My enquiry was "is it ok for me to approach him and discuss it with him"? Or i should just ignore?.


Where in my write up did I describe anybody involved as wayward?.