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Hello House, please help I need advice.

I have a girlfriend who's been with me for 2 years, she's a very good girl, respects me to the core, she is beautiful and has no faults, she loves me so much and has also suffered with me even when there was no money and we've been through it all, she's every man's dream and a complete wife material in of character and also a great chef.

Problem is I am not sexually attracted to her, I can be in same room with her for a week and not touch her, even when she's totally naked running around the house.

I'm only attracted to light skin girls with big ass but she's chocolate and average ass, I don't want a sexually boring marriage.

She's good in bed and knows how to make love, but I just don't feel sexually attracted to her, is it because we've been having sex for 2 years? am I tired of her? I don't even know, she has never insulted me, she s me and we hardly have disputes.

Married men in the house should I go ahead and marry her? Can lack of sexual attraction to your spouse be a big problem?

I don't want to break up with a good woman just because of sex.

She loves me so much and I know breaking up with her will hurt her so much, I know how much she cries anytime we have issues, most times over minor issues. I love her too. But this sexual attraction thing is a problem.

She no de hungry me to fvck at all. How person wan take marry woman wey no de hungry am to fvck.

Is it see finish? Will I get sexually attracted to her if we give each other space? Or is it because she's not my spec physically? But I love her so much and I'm just confused.

I don't even know if it's love, because she has no one, I'm her everything, her family is poor and I always feel pity for her whenever I want to break up.

Of recent we had issues and she went to discuss it with her ex and that made me so angry. I don't tolerate women that still keep in touch with their ex and I considered breaking up but she cried so much and was apologising, she even fell sick and was begging.

I have a soft spot for her because I know she doesn't have anything or anyone, I'm the person that s her financially and everything, so whenever I want to break up, I think about those things and I feel so much pity for her like if I chase her away where will she go? and this is a girl that has been there for me few times when I was low.

I'm just confused.

Bro, dis ur case no b hard nut jare. u b confirm ingrate just own dis ur personality with ur full chest n chase er away, stop worrying about er she will b fine. since ur peace of mind no really dey dat important to u no worry boss u go learn n na d hardest way e go b.

emillysmigael:
You're really confused my brother!!!

Please, don't just waste her time

Thank you.

Biqsahm:
Bro, dis ur case no b hard nut jare. u b confirm ingrate just own dis ur personality with ur full chest n chase er away, stop worrying about er she will b fine. since ur peace of mind no really dey dat important to u no worry boss u go learn n na d hardest way e go b. Shey oni o stupid ni

I didn't ask for insults but thank you.

As I am right now, no matter how woman take fine reach, I will always be tired of her
That's my main problem now" I can't even spend a week with my girlfriend without getting tired of the sex, sometimes I think I have a problem somewhere because how am I going to stay with my wife for years in marriage.
I always tell any girl I like so much to always cover her body and we should not be having sex almost very day when she comes visiting so that my sex urge towards her won't die.
My best friend said maybe I'm that way because I have so many sisters so I'm used to women unclothedness,

Don't marry out of pity.
Bro don't let anybody advise you other wise. Man up and do what is right for you.


If you don't want her, please send me her

YoungBTCxchange:
As I am right now, no matter how woman take fine reach, I will always be tired of her
That's my main problem now" I can't even spend a week with my girlfriend without getting tired of the sex, sometimes I think I have a problem somewhere because how am I going to stay with my wife for years in marriage.
I always tell any girl I like so much to always cover her body and we should not be having sex almost very day when she comes visiting so that my sex urge towards her won't die

Bro you understand my predicament, how person wan take marry like this when woman de quick tire person😭

whatmoreng:
Don't marry out of pity.
Bro don't let anybody advise you other wise. Man up and do what is right for you.


If you don't want her, please send me her

Idiot

YoungBTCxchange:
As I am right now, no matter how woman take fine reach, I will always be tired of her
That's my main problem now" I can't even spend a week with my girlfriend without getting tired of the sex, sometimes I think I have a problem somewhere because how am I going to stay with my wife for years in marriage.
I always tell any girl I like so much to always cover her body and we should not be having sex almost very day when she comes visiting so that my sex urge towards her won't die

Same here. But in my own case I don't get bored of the sex. Just bored of the woman

AGManuel:


I didn't ask for insults but thank you.

apologies bro, but if ur story z real bro, Neva leave that girl unless she cheat on u. or move er self. peace of mind is the most important thing u need in marriage.

I’m not insulting you but honestly you have a problem, who gives a fvck about your spec?! Person dey give you peace of mind you say she’s not your spec!!! Because for marriage you go fvck till you’re 60 abi?!

Please just kindly breakup with her and stop pitying her, she’ll be fine trust me, after 1 week to 3 weeks she’ll find someone else.

AGManuel:
Hello House, please help I need advice.

I have a girlfriend who's been with me for 2 years, she's a very good girl, respects me to the core, she is beautiful and has no faults, she loves me so much and has also suffered with me even when there was no money and we've been through it all, she's every man's dream and a complete wife material in of character and also a great chef.

Problem is I am not sexually attracted to her, I can be in same room with her for a week and not touch her, even when she's totally naked running around the house.

I'm only attracted to light skin girls with big ass but she's chocolate and average ass, I don't want a sexually boring marriage.

She's good in bed and knows how to make love, but I just don't feel sexually attracted to her, is it because we've been having sex for 2 years? am I tired of her? I don't even know, she has never insulted me, she s me and we hardly have disputes.

Married men in the house should I go ahead and marry her? Can lack of sexual attraction to your spouse be a big problem?

I don't want to break up with a good woman just because of sex.

She loves me so much and I know breaking up with her will hurt her so much, I know how much she cries anytime we have issues, most times over minor issues. I love her too. But this sexual attraction thing is a problem.

She no de hungry me to fvck at all. How person wan take marry woman wey no de hungry am to fvck.

Is it see finish? Will I get sexually attracted to her if we give each other space? Or is it because she's not my spec physically? But I love her so much and I'm just confused.

I don't even know if it's love, because she has no one, I'm her everything, her family is poor and I always feel pity for her whenever I want to break up.

Of recent we had issues and she went to discuss it with her ex and that made me so angry. I don't tolerate women that still keep in touch with their ex and I considered breaking up but she cried so much and was apologising, she even fell sick and was begging.

I have a soft spot for her because I know she doesn't have anything or anyone, I'm the person that s her financially and everything, so whenever I want to break up, I think about those things and I feel so much pity for her like if I chase her away where will she go? and this is a girl that has been there for me few times when I was low.

I'm just confused.

whatmoreng:


Same here. But in my own case I don't get bored of the sex. Just bored of the woman

I mean I get tired of having sex from that particular girl, but with another fresh new girl I'm ready to go

Bro when you marry you and your wife cannot love yourself forever now not after the whole see-finish and everything... That’s where deliberate commitment comes in... very important in marriage.

AGManuel:


Bro you understand my predicament, how person wan take marry like this when woman de quick tire person😭

It's obvious you don't love her but only have pity for her in abundance simply because she doesn't have anyone or anywhere to go to

God go give una better would-be wives finish,come share wereys wey go dey parade themselves as senseless bannies for us . Life's really really unfair to some of us,and na why I no go ever go church again be that

AGManuel:

Idiot

Na true na. Give me na. You confuse, stingy and wicked at the same time. It's not good na

Biqsahm:
apologies bro, but if ur story z real bro, Neva leave that girl unless she cheat on u. or move er self. peace of mind is the most important thing u need in marriage.

No problem Boss I understand, thanks.

YoungBTCxchange:
I mean I get tired of having sex from that particular girl, but with another fresh new girl I'm ready to go

Clear now. We are in the same ship. Me wonder how I Wan take marry. If only my society don't frown at polygamy

AGManuel:


Bro you understand my predicament, how person wan take marry like this when woman de quick tire person😭

i don't know if this is a problem because this stuff is making me to be scared of marriage, my sister's are worried about it, they said I should be praying against it,

Find your spec and date her alongside.

see if you also get tired of that one after the 2 year mark.

I may be wrong…

Your girl is likely good to you and still with you because she feels you’re the best she can get.

If her view changes, you’re out. Forget what her behavior is at the moment.

AGManuel:


Bro you understand my predicament, how person wan take marry like this when woman de quick tire person😭

This is the difference between men and women, men sincerely sacrifices but majority of women don't. No woman will ask these questions when in this situation, they will just take a walk.

Please no one will tell you what to do, do what is in your best interest .

Oh, she's in touch with her ex! Very good 👍
That's a big excuse to break up, bro.

GUYS!!! Don't be with a girl that's still in touch with her ex!!! You're putting ur life at high risk⚠️

The way you feel about her now will be worse if you marry her. Please tell her now and let her move on . She deserves better.

AGManuel:
Hello House, please help I need advice.

I have a girlfriend who's been with me for 2 years, she's a very good girl, respects me to the core, she is beautiful and has no faults, she loves me so much and has also suffered with me even when there was no money and we've been through it all, she's every man's dream and a complete wife material in of character and also a great chef.

Problem is I am not sexually attracted to her, I can be in same room with her for a week and not touch her, even when she's totally naked running around the house.

I'm only attracted to light skin girls with big ass but she's chocolate and average ass, I don't want a sexually boring marriage.

She's good in bed and knows how to make love, but I just don't feel sexually attracted to her, is it because we've been having sex for 2 years? am I tired of her? I don't even know, she has never insulted me, she s me and we hardly have disputes.

Married men in the house should I go ahead and marry her? Can lack of sexual attraction to your spouse be a big problem?

I don't want to break up with a good woman just because of sex.

She loves me so much and I know breaking up with her will hurt her so much, I know how much she cries anytime we have issues, most times over minor issues. I love her too. But this sexual attraction thing is a problem.

She no de hungry me to fvck at all. How person wan take marry woman wey no de hungry am to fvck.

Is it see finish? Will I get sexually attracted to her if we give each other space? Or is it because she's not my spec physically? But I love her so much and I'm just confused.

I don't even know if it's love, because she has no one, I'm her everything, her family is poor and I always feel pity for her whenever I want to break up.

Of recent we had issues and she went to discuss it with her ex and that made me so angry. I don't tolerate women that still keep in touch with their ex and I considered breaking up but she cried so much and was apologising, she even fell sick and was begging.

I have a soft spot for her because I know she doesn't have anything or anyone, I'm the person that s her financially and everything, so whenever I want to break up, I think about those things and I feel so much pity for her like if I chase her away where will she go? and this is a girl that has been there for me few times when I was low.

I'm just confused.

Let her go bro, that's when you'll realize you've lost something tangible. Sebi you don't know her value ni

AGManuel:
Hello House, please help I need advice.

One of the most annoying things about topics of such nature which start by making a clarion call for the need for advise is that it doesn't come with any statement that shows the will to pay for the advice especially when the responder would have to leave whatever he/she is doing in order to pay rapt attention to every word and detail so as to efficiently deliver well tailored and sincer advice especially in a public place like nairaland where the pool of intellect is already filled with derailers and other assorted psychos who just want to catch that thing they term as CRUISE.

I would have preferred having a face to face conversation with you, not because I want to have a conversation but because I actually saw the burden you bear in the way you narrated your ordeal. The sincerity of your heart trauma was felt and I appreciate your maturity in being articulate about the areas of concern.

My submission:
Permit me to start with questions which you should pose to yourself.
- If this your girl was the last woman on earth, would you marry her?
- If there were two women left on earth and she just happened to be one of them ; would you stick with her that has accorded you all respect without dumping you in your lowest moments for better options and still serving you hot sex even when you don't show any desire for her? OR would you take a chance on the other woman?
- Why do you want to get married? For sex? Peaceful coexistence? Eye candy?

- If after spending over 730 days (2 years) with her and you are still with her, with all the qualities you yourself has mentioned, will you sincerely say you can afford to do away with her just for your own inability to bring yourself to see beyond your own selfish desires for someone whose skin just happens to be of different complexion and flesh that protrudes at the back?

- Before I rest my keypad, I have to congratulate you for finding a babe with big ass and yellow skin that has all the wonderful characteristics which can be found in this babe you are now thinking of dumping. In this world full of annoying and disrespectful women, It is not easy to find such a female but you managed to achieve that and this is what is fanning the embers of confusion that is burning in your mind. Wait... Just in case I am wrong and you have not found such a magnificent yellow pawpaw in 2 years, then what exactly is your reason for instigating the demise of your relationship with this current unfortunate babe?

[quote author=idahme post=134844980]This is the difference between men and women, men sincerely sacrifices but majority if women don't. No woman will ask these questions when in this situation, they will just take a walk.

Please no one will tell you what to do, do what is in your best interest .[the

You don't get am,them no dey think twice

This op is a pompous prick

whatmoreng:
Don't marry out of pity.
Bro don't let anybody advise you other wise. Man up and do what is right for you.


If you don't want her, please send me her

100% correct. Never EVER continue a relationship out of pity, even if the woman threatens to kill herself. Follow your mind, be a man and ditch her. You will always find someone else. No need to "manage" something that is supposed be for life

I stopped reading your story when I saw the part where you mentioned, "I prefer light-skinned girls."

Don’t rush into decisions to end the relationship. Try being with a light-skinned girl for six months, and you may find that you eventually grow tired of it and start looking for someone else, and this time your interest maybe for a darker-skinned woman. While sex is important in marriage, it’s not the only thing that matters. Even if you marry someone who is extremely white, i mean those very fair-skinned woman—you might eventually get bored with that too. After marriage, things will definately change, and intimacy might not always be what you expect. Go and ask married people

Don’t let sex be your main factor when deciding whom to marry. There are stories of people who even grew tired of someone who seemed perfect someone got tired of Tonto Dikeh as white as she is

Men sexual desire isn’t always within our control. It's not that we’re trying to be disrespectful, but the reality is that sometimes it’s not choosing; it’s about what happens naturally. The penis has a mind of it own, it won't raise if you keep feeding it rice rice rice, it wants a new food sometimes and only our forefather was able to solve this problem with polygamy.

AllBlack:


One of the most annoying things about topics of such nature which start by making a clarion call for the need for advise is that it doesn't come with any statement that shows the will to pay for the advice especially when the responder would have to leave whatever he/she is doing in order to pay rapt attention to every word and detail so as to efficiently deliver well tailored and sincer advice especially in a public place like nairaland where the pool of intellect is already filled with derailers and other assorted psychos who just want to catch that thing they term as CRUISE.

I would have preferred having a face to face conversation with you, not because I want to have a conversation but because I actually saw the burden you bear in the way you narrated your ordeal. The sincerity of your heart trauma was felt and I appreciate your maturity in being articulate about the areas of concern.

My submission:
Permit me to start with questions which you should pose to yourself.
- If this your girl was the last woman on earth, would you marry her?
- If there were two women left on earth and she just happened to be one of them ; would you stick with her that has accorded you all respect without dumping you in your lowest moments for better options and still serving you hot sex even when you don't show any desire for her? OR would you take a chance on the other woman?
- Why do you want to get married? For sex? Peaceful coexistence? Eye candy?

- If after spending over 730 days (2 years) with her and you are still with her, with all the qualities you yourself has mentioned, will you sincerely say you can afford to do away with her just for your own inability to bring yourself to see beyond your own selfish desires for someone whose skin just happens to be of different complexion and flesh that protrudes at the back?

- Before I rest my keypad, I have to congratulate you for finding a babe with big ass and yellow skin that has all the wonderful characteristics which can be found in this babe you are now thinking of dumping. In this world full of annoying and disrespectful women, It is not easy to find such a female but you managed to achieve that and this is what is fanning the embers of confusion that is burning in your mind. If I am wrong and you have not found such a magnificent yellow pawpaw in 2 years, then what exactly is your reason for instigating the demise of your relationship with this current unfortunate babe?

Thanks alot for this advice, you gave me so much to appreciate and think about and I really appreciate. Thanks Man.

OP.., na lifetime of regret you wan enter so. You see girl wey you, don’t give you any problems and more. You say na Big Yansh and light skinned girl you dey find.

Most girls you described don’t stay in relationships not to talk of marriage. Those kind of girls are feminist.., they will argue with you, waste your money and send you to the village. I would love a case scenario where you’d leave this your current babe and try what you want! If you nor see pepper eh!! Just continue to play..

50 cents” solved this mystery along time ago in the song 21 questions.