| Davidnilla: 5:35pm On Mar 09 |
checky619:
You can’t turn a hoe to a house wife, but men never learn, sorry for the poor child you’re bringing to this world out of unah useless immorality. Life no get manual, you will learn
Useless immorality? You don’t need to be rude. No body wey no dey bang woman wey e never marry, e dey very for guys in a particular age set. Lets be realistic, na only online everyone be saint
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| DAramis: 5:45pm On Mar 09 |
Davidnilla:
The second option doesn’t sound easy bro. I really need custody of my child.
I’ve told her a little about this, and in return, she said that if she stays loyal and i cheat, she’ll just run away with my baby.
Thanks alot for your input. Its one of the most helpful so far.
I’ve decided to take her to a new state, new people, new life. Then watch her closely for a year.
Though your last paragraph seems noble, but I do hope it will not affect your source of income?
You don't have to relocate to a new state with her if your business or work is there where both of you are currently. You can simply change your house address, street or town where you guys will be new faces in the community and start afresh together.
In addition,get a new sim card, and give to her (then destroy the one she has after she gets her parents and important out. Also shut down her social media platforms (deactivate it completely including her WhatsApp)....I mean everything. After giving birth,she can set up one to document her new status as a mother.
These are practical steps to cut her off the old beastie or ex that don't add meaningful thing to her life. If she is intelligent,she will never protest against this approach because she will know it is for her own good.
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| DAramis: 5:53pm On Mar 09 |
Davidnilla:
Useless immorality? You don’t need to be rude. No body wey no dey bang woman wey e never marry, e dey very for guys in a particular age set. Lets be realistic, na only online everyone be saint
Leave those acting like saint on the forum. Reality out there is different from fantasy and wishful thinking.
Some men married their women because she got pregnant. And everything turns out good for them. Others marry virgin, and they become wayward later in life.
There is no formula to these things.
NB: I am not saying you should marry her. Just be responsible for the pregnancy since it is yours according to you, and observe her. Other things can come later (2 years , 5 years or even 10 years later). Your obligation lies to the child for now and most probably to offer her all the she will need while pregnant.
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| Davidnilla: 5:56pm On Mar 09 |
DAramis:
Though your last paragraph seems noble, but I do hope it will not affect your source of income?
You don't have to relocate to a new state with her if your business or work is there where both of you are currently. You can simply change your house address, street or town where you guys will be new faces in the community and start afresh together.
In addition,get a new sim card, and give to her (then destroy the one she has after she gets her parents and important out. Also shut down her social media platforms (deactivate it completely including her WhatsApp)....I mean everything. After giving birth,she can set up one to document her new status as a mother.
These are practical steps to cut her off the old beastie or ex that don't add meaningful thing to her life. If she is intelligent,she will never protest against this approach because she will know it is for her own good.
The second paragraph, yes, relocating was already part of my plans before it happened. I just had include her in the plans.
The third paragraph, yes, but i’d be able to do that when i pay her bride or do the necessary. Then I know say, na woman i don pay for.
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| DAramis: 6:01pm On Mar 09 |
Davidnilla:
The second paragraph, yes, relocating was already part of my plans before it happened. I just had include her in the plans.
The third paragraph, yes, but i’d be able to do that when i pay her bride or do the necessary. Then I know say, na woman i don pay for.
Okay bro.
As for the third paragraph of mine,you don't need to marry her to do that. Just throw it to her as suggestions and see if she will do it herself.
That it is to cut her off from situations that will tempt her back to those lifestyle she is planning to leave. It may only takes a hi, and maybe old picture of them together (she and ex together) to re-kindle the old flame between them. She shutting them off completely seems practical and logical
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| Davidnilla: 6:11pm On Mar 09 |
DAramis:
Okay bro.
As for the third paragraph of mine,you don't need to marry her to do that. Just throw it to her as suggestions and see if she will do it herself.
That it is to cut her off from situations that will tempt her back to those lifestyle she is planning to leave. It may only takes a hi, and maybe old picture of them together (she and ex together) to re-kindle the old flame between them. She shutting them off completely seems practical and logical
Thats very true. Cause last time she posted a twerking butt video, the replies to the status were all related to her “coming over”. You have strong point here.
Thanks alot bro. Just trying to take it slow, to avoid her aborting it
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| DAramis: 6:15pm On Mar 09 |
Davidnilla:
Thats very true. Cause last time she posted a twerking butt video, the replies to the status were all related to her “coming over”. You have strong point here.
Thanks alot bro. Just trying to take it slow, to avoid her aborting it
Yeah bro,
I am team pro-life. If a guy is not ready to shoulder responsibilities of having a child, the said person can avoid sex altogether or at minimal level, use protection.
So, abortion is out. And I am happy you share similar views about pregnancy or child.
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| turawaa(m): 8:33pm On Mar 09 |
Davidnilla:
Good day y'all
Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion
There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together
It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship
Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.
She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.
She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.
I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo
She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.
My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?
Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.
Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?
Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally
I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint
Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go
(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)
Your relationship to marry her starts after Delivery.
As most Male Friends will japa now due to pregnancy and she will Wana proof saint.
In summary... Don't rush to marry because of pregnancy.
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| Karlifate: 9:12pm On Mar 09 |
Namaster:
Dude said she DOESN'T double-date. She just FUCCCKS her plethora of besties.
Dude emphasized it like it's a VIRTUE.
A girl who DOESN'T respect commitments gets pregnant for a guy who DOESN'T respect commitment and BOTH want to enter into a COMMITED relationship.
Hilarious!
LMAO! 🤣🤣
Very laughable
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| timmydrogba(m): 9:16pm On Mar 09 |
DAramis:
Though your last paragraph seems noble, but I do hope it will not affect your source of income?
You don't have to relocate to a new state with her if your business or work is there where both of you are currently. You can simply change your house address, street or town where you guys will be new faces in the community and start afresh together.
In addition,get a new sim card, and give to her (then destroy the one she has after she gets her parents and important out. Also shut down her social media platforms (deactivate it completely including her WhatsApp)....I mean everything. After giving birth,she can set up one to document her new status as a mother.
These are practical steps to cut her off the old beastie or ex that don't add meaningful thing to her life. If she is intelligent,she will never protest against this approach because she will know it is for her own good.
Bro you made a lot of sense esp last paragraph 👊🏾
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| checky619: 10:08pm On Mar 09 |
Davidnilla:
Useless immorality? You don’t need to be rude. No body wey no dey bang woman wey e never marry, e dey very for guys in a particular age set. Lets be realistic, na only online everyone be saint
One minute lust can ruin a man’s life nah why every man suppose use him brain, when bringing a child is involved you’ve to be extra careful and be smart with your decisions, sooner or later he will realize his decisions, like I said life no get manual, you will learn from your mistakes
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| Baronthecelebri: 4:49am On Mar 10 |
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Don't settle down with her.
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| Maitunbi: 5:21am On Mar 10 |
DAramis:
Though your last paragraph seems noble, but I do hope it will not affect your source of income?
You don't have to relocate to a new state with her if your business or work is there where both of you are currently. You can simply change your house address, street or town where you guys will be new faces in the community and start afresh together.
In addition,get a new sim card, and give to her (then destroy the one she has after she gets her parents and important out. Also shut down her social media platforms (deactivate it completely including her WhatsApp)....I mean everything. After giving birth,she can set up one to document her new status as a mother.
These are practical steps to cut her off the old beastie or ex that don't add meaningful thing to her life. If she is intelligent,she will never protest against this approach because she will know it is for her own good.
This advice sounds so out of touch with reality and it shows the state of mind of the person giving it.
Essentially you're advising this man to subject a woman to all these extreme measures just because she is pregnant for him?
You people are something else.
As for the silly poster,
The woman that serially cheats on her love interests with you and you enjoy it. Now the tables have turned and you're suddenly scared that she might also cheat on you. With all due respect sir, you're just dumb. What makes you think you're so special?
If you were smart, you would handle your business with your full chest and not run to this place and start whining.
Let me shock you; there is no type of advice anyone gives you here that would save you from the consequences of your action. So just zero your mind on that. Good luck
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| Uptheante(m): 6:05am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
I get your point and thats my sole concern. My problem again is that, I don’t know if they she will let go of my baby if it doesn’t work out. I wan keep custody of my child if anything goes wrong, is that possible?
How are you sure the pregnancy is yours, since you said she has other male friends that she has sex with?
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| Davidnilla: 6:55am On Mar 10 |
Uptheante:
How are you sure the pregnancy is yours, since you said she has other male friends that she has sex with?
Scan bro. Tho i go still do dna, but we did scan to determine the age of the pregnancy vs the day we both ‘met’ last
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| DAramis: 6:58am On Mar 10 |
Maitunbi:
This advice sounds so out of touch with reality and it shows the state of mind of the person giving it.
Essentially you're advising this man to subject a woman to all these extreme measures just because she is pregnant for him?
You people are something else.
As for the silly poster,
The woman that serially cheats on her love interests with you and you enjoy it. Now the tables have turned and you're suddenly scared that she might also cheat on you. With all due respect sir, you're just dumb. What makes you think you're so special?
If you were smart, you would handle your business with your full chest and not run to this place and start whining.
Let me shock you; there is no type of advice anyone gives you here that would save you from the consequences of your action. So just zero your mind on that. Good luck
That is one unfortunate problem with the people on this forum, and reason I hardly comment. You cannot state your opinion without first of all insulting everyone.
You have a contrary opinion,....okay state it so we all learn. But you simply go about insulting me because I gave a realistic approach to a problem.
Anyway, peace upon you. I already got a lot on my plate. See no reason to add extra drama from you on mine.
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| Uptheante(m): 7:12am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
Scan bro. Tho i go still do dna, but we did scan to determine the age of the pregnancy vs the day we both ‘met’ last
That's not a reliable way of determining that you are responsible for the pregnancy.
DNA test is the best solution
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| Davidnilla: 7:18am On Mar 10 |
Uptheante:
That's not a reliable way of determining that you are responsible for the pregnancy.
DNA test is the best solution
How sure are you?
Cause aint no way im spending or taking responsibility that long without confirming paternity, if i should wait for dna
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| Uptheante(m): 7:31am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
How sure are you?
Cause aint no way im spending or taking responsibility that long without confirming paternity, if i should wait for dna
What if DNA test shows that you are not the father, at the end of day, what happens to all you have spent to take care of her during the pregnancy & delivery?
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| Heavensake1: 7:57am On Mar 10 |
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Take up your responsibility,bro. After delivery,if the feelings is still mutual,you can progress with her.
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| Dzzzz: 8:06am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
Good day y'all
Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion
There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together
It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship
Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.
She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.
She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.
I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo
She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.
My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?
Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.
Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?
Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally
I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint
Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go
(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)
When you Dey shoot sperm inside like Rambo you no remover history lesson..Oga shut up and be responsible..
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| Davidnilla: 8:32am On Mar 10 |
Dzzzz:
When you Dey shoot sperm inside like Rambo you no remover history lesson..Oga shut up and be responsible..
Oga read before you comment. Nobody dey talk of taking responsibility.
Girls are used to telling guys to pour inside, especially when she knows she no dey the period wey pregnancy dey possible
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| MrCork: 8:32am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
Good day y'all
Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion
There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together
It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship
Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.
She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.
She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.
I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo
She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.
My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?
Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.
Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?
Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally
I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint
Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go
(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)
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| Davidnilla: 8:33am On Mar 10 |
Uptheante:
What if DNA test shows that you are not the father, at the end of day, what happens to all you have spent to take care of her during the pregnancy & delivery?
Na when we go hear say “justice for chioma”
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| MrCork: 8:33am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
Good day y'all
Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion
There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together
It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship
Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.
She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.
She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.
I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo
She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.
My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?
Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.
Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?
Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally
I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint
Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go
(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)
Ok Daniella...is she lightskin sir??
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| Davidnilla: 8:35am On Mar 10 |
MrCork:
Ok Daniella...is she lightskin sir??
You dey suspect your babe?
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| MrCork: 10:58am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
You dey suspect your babe?
No. Your Sister sir. I used to date her. Real talk!(no oofencsse)
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| Davidnilla: 11:09am On Mar 10 |
MrCork:
No. Your Sister sir. I used to date her. Real talk!(no oofencsse)
Okay
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| Yugoslavia247(m): 11:17am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
Good day y'all
Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion
There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together
It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship
Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.
She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.
She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.
I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo
+
She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.
My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?
Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.
Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?
Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally
I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint
Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go
(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)
Someone that fuc.ked. other guys while she was dating.
You that bleeped while she was dating.
You believe the pregnancy was yours.
Truly she knew why she did not date you.
You are not a man yet.
You could not even date her because you were a weakling and she saw u as a tool.
But worse is you are now a fo.ol.
Because you will regret your life.
You will live in constant mistrust.
What makes you think you are the only fuckmate?
Someone u did not date?
Someone that hardly keeps a relationship and it is because of you
Fwb is so easy. You know why? It jas not sense of commitment or responsibility. You know why married men are called responsible and marriage is used to tame wayward adults? It has so much responsibility overload.
You think u can shoulder her excesses that other guys ran from within a month.
Someone that has no emotion or knows what dating entails.
I always say this the motive of a relationship is far more important that starting.
If the motive was fwb then it will always be as such and regrets go full am.
U why we have many single mothers
The gals want to chop the money and guy want to Bleep kpekus
Belle enter they cant keep it together
What is the issue? The motive.
The guy will want that kpekus without responsibility and the girl wants more money with no responsibility.
After some time they start forcing each other to be responsible while being irresponsible at the same time.
Chaos
Fight
Hate
Disgust
Ends it all
Whether it is your child or not. You will pay the price
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| Davidnilla: 11:41am On Mar 10 |
Yugoslavia247:
Someone that fuc.ked. other guys while she was dating.
You that bleeped while she was dating.
You believe the pregnancy was yours.
Truly she knew why she did not date you.
You are not a man yet.
You could not even date her because you were a weakling and she saw u as a tool.
But worse is you are now a fo.ol.
Because you will regret your life.
You will live in constant mistrust.
What makes you think you are the only fuckmate?
Someone u did not date?
Someone that hardly keeps a relationship and it is because of you
Fwb is so easy. You know why? It jas not sense of commitment or responsibility. You know why married men are called responsible and marriage is used to tame wayward adults? It has so much responsibility overload.
You think u can shoulder her excesses that other guys ran from within a month.
Someone that has no emotion or knows what dating entails.
I always say this the motive of a relationship is far more important that starting.
If the motive was fwb then it will always be as such and regrets go full am.
U why we have many single mothers
The gals want to chop the money and guy want to Bleep kpekus
Belle enter they cant keep it together
What is the issue? The motive.
The guy will want that kpekus without responsibility and the girl wants more money with no responsibility.
After some time they start forcing each other to be responsible while being irresponsible at the same time.
Chaos
Fight
Hate
Disgust
Ends it all
Whether it is your child or not. You will pay the price
You made alot of irrelevant comments here and ‘slow’ assumptions
Your comments sound so personal, like you’re trying to take out the anger of your past experience on me.
If you actually took your time to read the post, you’d see where i pointed that i always decline whenever she asks us to be in a relationship. Someone here said “why buy the cow while you can always get the milk”
Listen again, we are childhood friends, and naturally meeting alot would bring sexual temptations. I no dey pay her and she no dey ask me for financial .
Is she the one to see me as a tool, or me as a guy to see her as a tool?
I never said i was the only fukmate, i only asked if pregnancy can calm a girl down
Bro, no be me hurt you. I only shared and asked for suggestions
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| Yugoslavia247(m): 11:48am On Mar 10 |
Davidnilla:
You made alot of irrelevant comments here and ‘slow’ assumptions
Your comments sound so personal, like you’re trying to take out the anger of your past experience on me.
If you actually took your time to read the post, you’d see where i pointed that i always decline whenever she asks us to be in a relationship. Someone here said “why buy the cow while you can always get the milk”
Listen again, we are childhood friends, and naturally meeting alot would bring sexual temptations. I no dey pay her and she no dey ask me for financial .
Is she the one to see me as a tool, or me as a guy to see her as a tool?
I never said i was the only fukmate, i only asked if pregnancy can calm a girl down
Bro, no be me hurt you. I only shared and asked for suggestions
U go cry
Las las u go accept that pikin.
Your church and family go put mouth.
U go cry better cry.
Make sure to quote me then.
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| Davidnilla: 12:00pm On Mar 10 |
Yugoslavia247:
U go cry
Las las u go accept that pikin.
Your church and family go put mouth.
U go cry better cry.
Make sure to quote me then.
I go forever accept my pikin.
Na poverty dey give una that mentality say anyone wey born go leave em pikin or dey avoid responsibility.
No wahala, anyhow e turns out, i go sure have my pikin. i go share you pictures here.
No be me do you bro. I seeked advice from the elderlies and the experienced, not pouring the pain from your past experiences on me
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