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Good day y'all

Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion

There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together

It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship

Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.

She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.

She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.

I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo

She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.

My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?

Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.

Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?

Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally

I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint

Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go

(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)

Alaye, MAN up and take responsibility... nothing spoil at the end of the day...

Get a steady source of income to foot current and most important, future bills...

THAT, IF IT'S YOURS OH ..

Tho, I don't have a child yet, but (leave religion and all it's bruhaha) children have a way of opening doors in ones life...

It is well with thee...

Peace🙏🏾...

Davidnilla:
Good day y'all

Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion

There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together

It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship

Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.

She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.

She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.

I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo

She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.

My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?

Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.

Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?

Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally

I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint

Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go

(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)

Since you already got her pregnant, deal with it ohhhh.

Maybe you should start thinking about "wifing" her

Fisiryorh:
Alaye, MAN up and take responsibility... nothing spoil at the end of the day...

Get a steady source of income to foot current and most important, future bills...

THAT, IF IT'S YOURS OH ..

Tho, I don't have a child yet, but (leave religion and all it's bruhaha) children have a way of opening doors in ones life...

It is well with thee...

Peace🙏🏾...

Im open and more than capable to take responsibility. Hell ive always wanted a child at a young age too.

To me its like a prayer come through, the only doubt, is the girl with the pregnancy. But thanks for the input

Adebishow:


Since you already got her pregnant, deal with it ohhhh.

Maybe you should start thinking about "wifing" her

Yes, i just dont want the embarrassment of another man saying he dey bang my wife. If she no dey one place while she was dating other men since, is possible she go change cause of pregnancy?

That pregnancy isn't yours. If you go ahead and marry her, I see you suffering terribly in that marriage.

This I have seen.

Davidnilla:


Yes, i just dont want the embarrassment of another man saying he dey bang my wife. If she no dey one place while she was dating other men since, is possible she go change cause of pregnancy?

Oga, as it stands now, she may reject your suggestion of abortion, if you bring it up.

The only option you have is to keep her as your baby mama or marry her officially.

That story wey you dey tell about her knacking other men while married to you or not staying in one place - that story is your cross, you have to bear it if you marry her.

Every married man get him own cross with respect to his marriage. We all manage the cross (es).

Enjoy being baby daddy or marriage. Make your choice!

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FalseProphet1:
That pregnancy isn't yours. If you go ahead and marry her, I see you suffering terribly in that marriage.

This I have seen.

If na you, u go pay girl bride price if u never do dna?

Adebishow:


Oga, as it stands now, she may reject your suggestion of abortion, if you bring it up.

The only option you have is to keep her as your baby mama or marry her officially.

That story wey you dey tell about her knacking other men while married to you or not staying in one place - that story is your cross, you have to bear it if you marry her.

Every married man get him own cross with respect to his marriage. We all manage the cross (es).

Enjoy being baby daddy or marriage. Make your choice!

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Na me even tell am to keep am. Girls no really send na, if it was a random guy, she no go think twice take drugs.

Thank you for the advice though

First off, you can't changed her. She can't change her freegift nature. You have to accept this reality. Secondly, other men will also bang her same as you have done. That is life. Thirdly, accept the child. DNA if you can afford it.

The true, you are on a path of unhappiness already. Only Divine intervention can save you now. The true is your union is not sustainable. You have to get your ass down and rethink your life. You f**uckup

Dude said she DOESN'T double-date. She just FUCCCKS her plethora of besties.

Dude emphasized it like it's a VIRTUE.



A girl who DOESN'T respect commitments gets pregnant for a guy who DOESN'T respect commitment and BOTH want to enter into a COMMITED relationship.

Hilarious!

Namaster:


Dude said she DOESN'T double-date. She just FUCCCKS her plethora of besties.

Dude emphasized it like it's a VIRTUE.



A girl who DOESN'T respect commitments gets pregnant for a guy who DOESN'T respect commitment and BOTH want to enter into a COMMITED relationship.

Hilarious!

When i say she no dey double date, you get my point say, a girl go dey serious relationship, yet she get male friends wey she dey attend to whenever they call am.

About that your sentence about commitment, bro you are damn right

I know this should or supposed to be private. I just shared this to gather advices, suggestions from fellow guys abegi

Davidnilla:
Good day y'all

Please I need advice on this, or more like suggestion

There's this girl I got pregnant, a childhood friend and we've been close for over 9 years. We always spend together

It was like friends with benefits but with strong bond. Based on old time friendship

Don't get me wrong on this, we've been friends for long to the extent that she tells me stories of her past and current relationship life.

She fit come visit me, post am, her boyfriend go ask her why, she go swear say she didn't do anything with me, but me deep down i know say we do something.

She fit dey with me make her boyfriend call her, she go swear say she dey house.

I've watched her date guys, visit male friends, get banged and so. Just as friends oo

She doesn't double date, but she gives access to just her male friends. Like, a girl go get serious relationship, but she still gets banged by just her friends.

My point is, (I'm not judging her tho), now she's pregnant for me, should I go ahead and settle with a girl with this kind of history? Cause As I do my follow my man, is there any guarantee she no go do same to me with other men? I carry two heads?

Yes I know it's wrong to bang another man's girl and expect not to experience same when I finally date her. Just that, I no dey even know when she dey relationship or not, she fit dey for January, make February she go begin cry say person break her heart.

Or do women change when they get pregnant for a guy?

Since the pregnancy she's been trying to make US A THING. like trying get me into a romantic relationship finally

I do have access to all her social handles as we were friends for over 9 years now, but since this past month on pregnancy stuff, she's been deleting some chats make I no see am, she's been trying to prove to me that she's a saint

Pls I need experienced advice on this, should I just her till she gives birth? Which I'm scared I might get attached or feelings for her and will be difficult to let her go

(I've also confirmed the baby is mine)

How many months pregnancy?

id4sho:

How many months pregnancy?

3 months or almost 3 months

Davidnilla:


3 months or almost 3 months

Medical approach Abeg

Davidnilla:


Im open and more than capable to take responsibility. Hell ive always wanted a child at a young age too.

To me its like a prayer come through, the only doubt, is the girl with the pregnancy. But thanks for the input

Go ahead and marry her

id4sho:


Medical approach Abeg

No idea bro

Kobicove:


Go ahead and marry her

good idea?

Davidnilla:

No idea bro

Abort

id4sho:

Abort

can u throw more light to why you advised so?

Since the baby is yours, you must take responsibilities. This is no debatable. If I were in the dating pool or believed in marriage, I would go for the devil I've known for 9 good years rather than the angel I knew nothing about. Women treat their male friends better than they treat their boyfriends and you have also known and seen her finish. The only thing now is that you will not beat karma. As you knew she had boyfriend and was fuccking her while she lied on the phone, another man will likely fucck her one day while she lies to you over the phone. Karma is a bitch brother.

Nonexisting1:
Since the baby is yours, you must take responsibilities. This is no debatable. If I were in the dating pool or believed in marriage, I would go for the devil I've known for 9 good years rather than the angel I knew nothing about. Women treat their male friends better than they treat their boyfriends and you have also known and seen her finish. The only thing now is that you will not beat karma. As you knew she had boyfriend and was fuccking her while she lied on the phone, another man will likely fucck her one day while she lies to you over the phone. Karma is a bitch brother.

Taking responsibility isnt the topic here, at all. Ofcourse na my child, i no fit leave am commot.

Me seeking for advice, is for the possible future. Thats why i added “getting belle for a man, does it make the girl change?”

Shes been my friend for years, i know her well, she knows me well, so i no go see am as see finish.

Yes you also have a great point. I’ve known and trusted her for years as a friend, going further with her shouldn’t be hard

Pregnancy is not a requirement to marry a girl. But you must take responsibility for the child if it's yours. On the part of marrying her, you must understand that this girl doesn't respect commitment and a time will come when the initial excitement and hype of her marriage to you will die, and see finish will enter, and then she'd start seeing you as nothing and cheat on you with different guys. Her character of sleeping with different men says it all. So it's up to you, if you can endure your wife and mother of your children cheating on you and possibly getting pregnant for another man and having you father that man's child, then go ahead. Wisdom is profitable to direct!

drstranged:
Pregnancy is not a requirement to marry a girl. But you must take responsibility for the child if it's yours. On the part of marrying her, you must understand that this girl doesn't respect commitment and a time will come when the initial excitement and hype of her marriage to you will die, and see finish will enter, and then she'd start seeing you as nothing and cheat on you with different guys. Her character of sleeping with different men says it all. So it's up to you, if you can endure your wife and mother of your children cheating on you and possibly getting pregnant for another man and having you father that man's child, then go ahead. Wisdom is profitable to direct!

I get your point and thats my sole concern. My problem again is that, I don’t know if they she will let go of my baby if it doesn’t work out. I wan keep custody of my child if anything goes wrong, is that possible?

Namaster:


Dude said she DOESN'T double-date. She just FUCCCKS her plethora of besties.

Dude emphasized it like it's a VIRTUE.



A girl who DOESN'T respect commitments gets pregnant for a guy who DOESN'T respect commitment and BOTH want to enter into a COMMITED relationship.

Hilarious!

they are both jokers and f**ls. They will suffer terribly eventually

Davidnilla:


Im open and more than capable to take responsibility. Hell ive always wanted a child at a young age too.

To me its like a prayer come through, the only doubt, is the girl with the pregnancy. But thanks for the input

Just dey play..if you like follow this simp advice na you go cry last last no worry yourself,go marry Olosho you go learn..Oga collect your baby move ahead of you know what's good for you. You see problem korokoro but you want put hand inside based on galadima wey you be na..no worry we dey here de wait you cries of pain when e set..

Talismann:


they are both jokers and f**ls. They will suffer terribly eventually

You don’t need to pour your frustration here.

70% of males and females that age, tend to behave like this. I no be pastor

torqque7:


Just dey play..if you like follow this simp advice na you go cry last last no worry yourself,go marry Olosho you go learn..Oga collect your baby move ahead of you know what's good for you. You see problem korokoro but you want put hand inside based on galadima wey you be na..no worry we dey here de wait you cries of pain when e set..

I no really get plans or mentioned plans to marry am.

Cause for a girl that always has postinor 2 in her bags and still says she forgot to use it after we met, i never understand

Is it possible to get custody of my baby? Cause I don’t think she will let go easily

Davidnilla:
can u throw more light to why you advised so?

Forget about that unfortunate guy's suggestion. Bro, most women do change after pregnancy....they may change for good or for bad.

Example, eleganza company owner, heard the woman was an Ashh..wow before she married the old man (allegedly). But now she is sitting tight in the marriage. Same with other young ladies or people out there (hence it is called a hoe phase).

My personal advice, sit her down and have heart to heart discussion with her on the need to cut off all relationships or friendships with her male besties and exs. (She can make new ones within your circle of friends). That you are willing to give her permanent contract (marriage) only if she will be willing to be committed to you and you alone.

Any form of cheating (not necessarily sex, but sex chatting with an ex or bestie, you will check out of the relationship and send her packing....you don't care how long you guys are married). In general, just let her know your deal breaker in the relationship with having sex with another person once you become an item is non-negotiable. Also let her tell you her own deal breaker and see if it is what you can keep to (you know some women will tell you no form of female friends even when they know you will never cheat with the said lady).

Once this has been sorted out, be with her till she give birth, observe her during nursing child stage for at least 1 year before you can finally talk about doing wedding with her. If her culture or family don't her having child outside of wedlock,you can take the gamble and go ahead with it.

Just make sure she knows she will lose you in a jiffy once she messes up. It will keep her on her toes.

Second option and the easiest
Be a deadbeat dad and forget about her and the pregnancy

You can’t turn a hoe to a house wife, but men never learn, sorry for the poor child you’re bringing to this world out of unah useless immorality. Life no get manual, you will learn

DAramis:

Forget about that unfortunate guy's suggestion. Bro, most women do change after pregnancy....they may change for good or for bad.

Example, eleganza company owner, heard the woman was an Ashh..wow before she married the old man (allegedly). But now she is sitting tight in the marriage. Same with other young ladies or people out there (hence it is called a hoe phase).

My personal advice, sit her down and have heart to heart discussion with her on the need to cut off all relationships or friendships with her male besties and exs. (She can make new ones within your circle of friends). That you are willing to give her permanent contract (marriage) only if she will be willing to be committed to you and you alone.

Any form of cheating (not necessarily sex, but sex chatting with an ex or bestie, you will check out of the relationship and send her packing....you don't care how long you guys are married). In general, just let her know your deal breaker in the relationship with having sex with another person once you become an item is non-negotiable. Also let her tell you her own deal breaker and see if it is what you can keep to (you know some women will tell you no form of female friends even when they know you will never cheat with the said lady).

Once this has been sorted out, be with her till she give birth, observe her during nursing child stage for at least 1 year before you can finally talk about doing wedding with her. If her culture or family don't her having child outside of wedlock,you can take the gamble and go ahead with it.

Just make sure she knows she will lose you in a jiffy once she messes up. It will keep her on her toes.

Second option and the easiest
Be a deadbeat dad and forget about her and the pregnancy

The second option doesn’t sound easy bro. I really need custody of my child.

I’ve told her a little about this, and in return, she said that if she stays loyal and i cheat, she’ll just run away with my baby.

Thanks alot for your input. Its one of the most helpful so far.

I’ve decided to take her to a new state, new people, new life. Then watch her closely for a year.