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Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

If it's confirmed it's your pregnancy...

Then I think it's not right to abandon her. You ought to be responsible for your actions. I can never advise anyone to abandon a woman carrying his baby. Even though I am sure you aren't ready to keep it.

To think she made that statement about pinning the pregnancy on any guy she sleeps with is quite chilling. It says a lot about the kind of person she is.

Who knows if she is trying to pin the pregnancy on you?

Nooooooo🥱

brain54:
If it's confirmed it's your pregnancy...

Then I think it's not right to abandon her. You ought to be responsible for your actions. I can never advise anyone to abandon a woman carrying his baby. Even though I am sure you aren't ready to keep it.

To think she made that statement about pinning the pregnancy on any guy she sleeps with is quite chilling. It says a lot about the kind of person she is.

Who knows if she is trying to pin the pregnancy on you?

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

I don't think you owns the pregnancy right from when l was reading your chat and she stated one thing which l wanted you to know that she can pin the pregnancy to who ever she wants and it's a clear sign for you to know you r not responsible

Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

@ the emboldened, it is well.

Correct, consistent use of condom would have saved you from this psychological stress.

Lakebib:

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

If it's indeed yours...

Then do the right thing. Not for her sake but the blood - your blood, she carries.

Who knows if it was her "hormones talking" pregnant women are known to act erratically or irrationally sometimes.

Don't punish her with the pregnancy especially if you know she can't afford to "take care" of it herself!

Advice her to carry the pregnancy and deliver. Then go for DNA test to know if you're the Father. If you are.. Take care of your child but if you are not.. Go your way.

Run away from abortion. It may not end well.

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

Lakebib:
I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him.

Us simps, we still matter.

The fact that she retorted to curse and saying she could pin the baby on someone else screams manipulation..
But what can I say,a gf of three years,and na una do the do together...
Goodluck bro...

I sell herbs tho

The pregnancy could be yours o

One of my girlfriends tried that with me
I simply told her to born the child but I will not marry her

She ran away and pinned it on another man
The man gave her money for abortion

I didn’t even bother myself

After her abortion we continued knacking


She now have a new boyfriend but I still de knack her anytime I want

Lakebib:


My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter..

You say na your friend be this? Abi na Lucifer in FRIENDS clothing? Better run from that friend.

AmbassadoR100:
Advice her to carry the pregnancy and deliver. Then go for DNA test to know if you're the Father. If you are.. Take care of your child but if you are not.. Go your way.

Run away from abortion. It may not end well.

The way you young fools just casually and easily mention DNA TEST like it is buying groundnut in a shop. This is clearly a case of a loose girl with no sense that this guy should run from and you are here giving trash advice.

The dude you heard his voice in the background before she hung up the call and refused to pick up your calls afterwards is (one of) her other boyfriend(s). She didn't pick because she doesn't want you to ruin her other beautiful relationship (with the potential father to her unborn child).

He may also be responsible for the pregnancy, but she has chosen you as (one of) the fall guy(s), the chosen mumu who will take responsibility of the result of her philandering.

If you accept this one, then there's more to come.

DNA test isn't cheap, so pay no attention to anyone who isn't mentioning an affordable way for you to know the child's paternity

brain54:


If it's indeed yours...

Then do the right thing. Not for her sake but the blood - your blood, she carries.

Who knows if it was her "hormones talking" pregnant women are known to act erratically or irrationally sometimes.

Don't punish her with the pregnancy especially if you know she can't afford to "take care" of it herself!

Here we go again making excuses for women's bad behavior ...

Why don't this "hormones talk" when she's at a military check point or direct this energy towards her boss at the office? ...

Why are women able to keep themselves in check around certain people but yet rant like headless chicken to others? ...

It's simply because they know that around certain people like you, their fo.olishness would be tolerated and folks like you, will make excuses for them ...

Pregnant or not, verbal abuse (abuse of any kind) is a choice! And should not be tolerated ...

@OP...
Unblock her and if you find out that the child is yours, don't abandon that child ...

You don't have to marry her, God forbid you do, but then, you do have to take responsibility for your child - IF it is yours ...

AllBlack:

The way you young fools just casually and easily mention DNA TEST like it is buying tomtom in a shop.

LeoThaGreat:

DNA test isn't cheap, so pay no attention to anyone who isn't mentioning an affordable way for you to know the child's paternity

💯 💯💯

Allowing the long, harrowing process of pregnancy and delivery, to a child of probability, because a guy decided to go raw and an “educated lady” decided to use her body for jokes, forgetting that one of the aims of female education is being solely responsible for her body; beats my imagination. 😒

Since you don't want the baby so don't bother yourself. She will come around if she needs you.

My wife can't even get pregnant... And I'm reading this. Chia... 'Inside Life'

Homeboiy:
One of my girlfriends tried that with me
I simply told her to born the child but I will not marry her

She ran away and pinned it on another man
The man gave her money for abortion

I didn’t even bother myself

After her abortion we continued knacking


She now have a new boyfriend but I still de knack her anytime I want

nawaooo men dey suffer oooo, and that one na fit dey pamper her, he no go know say dem still dey give her free doggy outside

Have you tried local ways?

James4358:
My wife can't even get pregnant... And I'm reading this. Chia... 'Inside Life'

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation.

I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

With this type of friend you have, you don't need an enemy anymore

This is not the time for you to do anything. Doing nothing is your best bet now, including thinking about her. The only thing you should do is secretly make sure you know where you can find her. Nine months later, appear, and demand a DNA. Anything you do now will just be setting yourself up for more lies and manipulation such that you have never seen before. Women can be ruthless to whomever they perceive has some soft spot for them especially in moments like this. Your best bet is to act like you don't care for 1 year!

Fahvvy:


Here we go again making excuses for women's bad behavior ...

Why don't this "hormones talk" when she's at a military check point or direct this energy towards her boss at the office? ...

Why are women able to keep themselves in check around certain people but yet rant like headless chicken to others? ...

It's simply because they know that around certain people like you, their fo.olishness would be tolerated and folks like you, will make excuses for them ...

Pregnant or not, verbal abuse (abuse of any kind) is a choice! And should not be tolerated ...

@OP...
Unblock her and if you find out that the child is yours, don't abandon that child ...

You don't have to marry her, God forbid you do, but then, you do have to take responsibility for your child - IF it is yours ...

Well, I don't think I am making excuses for her per say...

A baby is growing inside of her. It's unfair to think she isn't pressured. She isn't like the op who is here deciding whether to abandon the consequence of their bad decision. The consequences of their bad decision is growing inside of her. She can't abandon or run away from it.

It's also not fair enough to judgement based solely on what op has said. we have not heard her side of the story yet. It is only fair to try to balance our judgment by cutting her at least a small slack.

Lastly they have been together for 3 years and he didn't specify whether she has been this irrational in the past period. Or acted carelessly with her comments. So I take it its her first acting that way hence I attributed it to hormones. (By the way, women do act out of place in the presence of others including their bosses, sometimes people just don't pay attention to notice)

If she has acted irrationally in the past 3 years and it had been a constant behavior and he stuck with her till now only to abandon her now she is pregnant for being irrational then I think he is been the irrational one here.

Life is not always a straight line. That's why we must at least try to balance things... Especially life judgments!

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

Early this year is January, which is last month. It's too early for bump to show, it's not your pregnancy. Forget the Werey girl

Homeboiy:
One of my girlfriends tried that with me
I simply told her to born the child but I will not marry her

She ran away and pinned it on another man
The man gave her money for abortion

I didn’t even bother myself

After her abortion we continued knacking


She now have a new boyfriend but I still de knack her anytime I want

Fear that gender

Lakebib:
Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her s.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

Don't be a fool.... if she was in r shoes , she would be extremely ruthless ... that woman is out to ruin u... don't ever let her back in ur life or u will regret it for the rest of ur life

All the story about forgetting to take the contraceptives is just cock and bull...she was already pregnant b4 u banged her .... she just see u as the mugu that will accept cos she knows u are soft , reason she insults u

God bless you for the insults. The girl is loose, I agree but why will the guy sleep with her raw and release inside of her. This is clearly a case of two people who were not thinking of the consequences of their actions. The girl is now pregnant and the only way the guy can find out if he's the one is to run a DNA test.

I don't Abortion especially when the baby has started growing.

AllBlack:


The way you young fools just casually and easily mention DNA TEST like it is buying tomtom in a shop. This is clearly a case of a loose girl with no sense that this guy should run from and you are here giving trash advice.

brain54:


If it's indeed yours...

Then do the right thing. Not for her sake but the blood - your blood, she carries.

Who knows if it was her "hormones talking" pregnant women are known to act erratically or irrationally sometimes.

Don't punish her with the pregnancy especially if you know she can't afford to "take care" of it herself!

Stop making excuses for these uncultured women....ur wife is the only person that u can take that from... not babe .... she's at the man's mercy , so if she decides to act like a fool claiming hormones, then treat her like one as well.... any woman that gets pregnant, got pregnant intentionally.... forget the cock and bull they sell to u with fake tears

When you guys had sex in January who brought up the idea of going raw, you or her?

AmbassadoR100:
God bless you for the insults. The girl is loose, I agree but why will the guy sleep with her raw and release inside of her. This is clearly a case of two people who were not thinking of the consequences of their actions. The girl is now pregnant and the only way the guy can find out if he's the one is to run a DNA test.

I don't Abortion especially when the baby has started growing.

Growing, just last month

First go for std tests