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This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.

Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refused to come down.

He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the ones who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they live longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on their neck. So don't let anyone push you by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

Seconded

Courtesy of us,the young and single guys who are still facing unnecessary pressure from the evil hands of Nigerian bannies

But God no go allow Dem kpai us

Sonnobax15:

Seconded

Courtesy of us,the young and single guys who are still facing unnecessary pressure from the evil hands of Nigerian bannies

But God no go allow Dem kpai us

Only hustle to impress yourself.

Can you see number of men who have committed suicide this year alone.


Dont let anyone pressure you,no matter what you do it can never be enough.

Once you are eating and healthy surely things will get better so need of unnecessary running here and there getting into debt

A word is enough for the wise.

Marriage financial pressure kills alot of men

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.
Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refuse to come down.
He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the one who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they leave longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on there neck. So don't let anyone push by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

wow

Sad but there's traces of truth in this write up


Men are going through alot, but As a married Man, yours is raised to powers >°

Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those days when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can cater for without stress. Simple!!

skywalker240:
Sad but there's traces of truth in this write up


Men are going through alot, but As a married Man, yours is raised to powers >°

Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans tro even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

Bobodee09:

Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans tro even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

skywalker240:

It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

Agree 100%.

WORDS ON MARBLE.

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can catheter for without stress. Simple!!

Sensini

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can catheter for without stress. Simple!!

Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be able for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can catheter for without stress. Simple!!

Pray to get married first. As a woman, what are you bringing to the table?

You can not come to the table just to be a liability to a man, who does that?

Keep your liability in your father's house.

Most of these Bannies acting karashika for men are always from very wretched Backgrounds.

The man is a fool for having 4 kids and men can control child birth. What happened to getting a vasectomy after having the first kid. Nigeria is only going to get harder. 2 kids is even a lot for an average Nigerian. There has never been a time the economy of Nigeria has been good enough for the average person to adequately provide for 4 kids.

Don't try your best, just do what you can do and leave the rest.

Bobodee09:
This advise goes especially to married men and men in general.
Don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure or take up loans to maintain a certain lifestyle.

I just lost an area senior bros this morning, the news didn't come as shock cos he has been in the hospital for a while and his BP refuse to come down.
He is man in his late 40's married with 4 kids. This man was under alot of pressure to meet end means, he took up too many loans just to maintain his living standards to please his family.

The last time I visited him in general I also checked my BP and it was very high, I was also under pressure myself to meet target.
When I got home I promised myself I wont die young to please anyone.
I will do my best and leave the rest cos at the end no one really care all they want to do is take from you as a man.

Married men enjoy yourself, take care of yourself, buy what you want. You can't be working everyday and be suffering to please your wife and kids.

The men who die young are the one who always labour and don't take care of themselves, you see men who only provide what they have and take care of themselves they leave longer.

We are in this mess together trust me....those people you think are doing better have alot of loans on there neck. So don't let anyone push by comparing you to them.

If what you provide isnt enough or appreciated tell your wife to also provide or take her leave.

Dominique, Farano, Rocktation

what a big advice here. But what you want but don’t buy junks foods and also avoid alcoholic substance. My advice here Too. Be prayerful and involve in the things of God

Bobodee09:


Most times I don't like arguing this things cos it like you women never be able for anything.

So having those kids was actually only the man decision The woman didn't want them to be 4 ,the man was constantly raping her.

They just gave birth to the children last night and since he went broke due to the economy he should killed 2 out of those kids so he can take of wife and the remaining 2 according to you.


It very easy to know someone like you isn't married.


No this fact today, left to most men just having 1 or 2 kids is enough but it is women who clamor for more kids in marriage.

you are very right here. The women caused the problem most

Marrying a 9ja girl is one of the greatest disservice you can ever do to yourself as a man.

If you are married to a 9ja girl, you are a big SIMP aka "girl is more important than my life" because they don't add any value to your life except stress and death.

All 9ja girls are totally useless. It is the importance you as a man attached to them that make them look as if they are important.

Stop SIMP today and know the true worth of any 9ja girl, aka ashawo/Olosho/borehole/money for hand back for ground/gold diggers/from prick to prick. They are all the same.

skywalker240:

It is what it is

Even this year now we are battling how to make payments for school fees, house rent around the corner, the expenses keeps building up

Most times when I get home from work, after taking my bath, i just pretend that am sleeping and take a quiet place to reflect on what and what to do to improve the condition to favour

Life goes on

Nowadays, I don't work myself up, elders over here say

"Na the one WEY you chop for your Belle, na im be your own"

So most times when am at work and I see anything that i long to put in my stomach or for my satisfaction, I buy it, even if it means telling my wife a lie

Try to rest mostly on Sundays and when you get any chance off, lock yourself in the room and sleep

I'll never forget what A Man in his late 60s told me almost 10 years ago

He said if you as a family Man fall down and die today, the children you left behind will still achieve their goals and life purposes and yes they'll survive even without you.

100% fact here. I decide what I want and it works for me perfectly and not been bullied by mere pressure from people. Do things that will make you happy and also be contented in what you have. Some people divorce cos’ they want peace of mind

Bobodee09:

Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans tro even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

see it’s you that design it that way seriously. Do things for yourself and be happy with it.

You are lucky you realized this early,

I've always had this realization since I was a child.

Na men dey like to suffer.

When u are in your 20's start early and awake ur investment mindset.

If u can do this early enough,at your 40's ur ive income should be enough to take care of your family expenses while u continue to grind with life.

I learnt this technique at an early age...not from my father but from someone whom I lived with years back.

Example is. If u have 30million,invest it for one year,use the proceed to settle all family expenses for one year,after that u can rest and be happy. Not all the time,waiting for salaries that isn't enough.

May his soul rest in peace and may this serve as a lesson to all our able young men especially our teenagers.

For those who may not find this feasible,this theory is working for me and u can always adjust it to suit ur figures especially if u think the figure is too high. na advice ooooooh.

Jennyclay:
Why would he have 4 kids when he knows he’s broke and poor

Gone are those when people born as many as possible.

Take care of your wife and have just 1 or 2 kids that you can cater for without stress. Simple!!

y must u always show your stupid side on every thread, I know u have good sides y not endeavour to show that so people won't see u as a fool

U never bothered to care about what happened to his finances or probably he lost his job or lost his business u just come here to display madness

I wish there could b a technology where fools like u could b slapped through d phone, at least it will purge d internet of stupid people

Bobodee09:

Is so bad that has a married man you can't even buy yourself new wears.

Throughout last year I couldn't get myself a new set of jeans tro even tho I needed it badly despite having the money.
All the money I made last year 90% when into paying bills and household expenses.
It so crazy how you has a man you will have over 200k in your acc and you be scared to even buy yourself something of 10k cos of fear of the unknown.
In all of this my wife and kids still has many clothes they haven't worn I paid for you.

Last weekend my wife bought herself over 10 new shirt and when I saw it I reminded her how I couldn't even buy myself new jean....she told me nah me no wan buy nah.
It really hurt me cos whatever money I make the family expenses come first before my own personal needs but it isn't same for women.

I just feel marriage is design for men to suffer honestly.
People just taking from you and no one really care about what you need.

your wife no dey work?

That statement na u no wan buy shows u are in your own

My own family is not like this though cos my wife drops too but that statement ehn, if person tell me I swear down from that day na only food I go provide for her any other thing she should do it herself

Nigerian marriages has centered everything on the man, from the very first top important down to the least important, it's the man responsibility to do it. Sometimes it makes me wonder why do many women blow up like nuclear explosion, but the man is looking no different from a homeless person?

Enjoy yourself the little way you can, do your best the little way you can for your family and leave life to take care of the rest. Too many responsibilities and baggages is why many men just fall down and die. Nobody is coming to save the man, the man has limited options in life, so why not enjoy the little you have when you're alive.

Savedday2:
Marrying a 9ja girl is one of the greatest disservice you can ever do to yourself as a man.

If you are married to a 9ja girl, you are a big SIMP aka "girl is more important than my life" because they don't add any value to your life except stress and death.

All 9ja girls are totally useless. It is the importance you as a man attached to them that make them look as if they are important.

Stop SIMP today and know the true worth of any 9ja girl, aka ashawo/Olosho/borehole/money for hand back for ground/gold diggers/from prick to prick. They are all the same.

U are alone on this.

Nigerian women are still the best,because I married one of them and she is my beloved wife.

Ok

Rule No. 1 for men in 2025.

Hmm

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🚫 Don't get your wife pregnant if bank no gallant or your system no fit turn up on short notice. Unless na stress and pressure go finish you.

🚫 Marry into wealth, don't Marry a woman out of pity or beauty, your eye go clear when life hits.

🚫 Space your kids, no be your sperm potent , learn withdrawal and protection before or after sex