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Rizzputin:


The blame isn't on the mum per se. That's the surface reason. Surface reasons rarely ever are true problem. They're like symptoms or complications. The real problem is underneath which is you


If you had set CLEAR boundaries (while reassuring her obviously), she would have disobeyed her mum to please you. A woman's primal instinct and urge is to get into a relationship with the best man available. That's the best power men have because we're custodians of relationships. So setting clear boundaries should be paramount

I'm pretty sure this is not the first time she didn't something wrong and came back begging & apologising. The way I see it, she uses this "Do then apologize later if wrong" to test what your boundaries are. The right way is for you to set and make it clear rather than having her "test" it herself.


Secondly, how long has her Dad been away from her mum? If it's a considerable amount of time, then there will still be issues. Let me explain why I asked you those two questions:


----Her Relationship With Her Dad. This is primarily about respect for you. If she respects her dad, his struggles and accomplishments then she has a good idea of what it takes to be a man. In that regard, she'll respect you too.


But that's not all. Respecting her Dad is not enough. So let's look at the next question:



-----Is she from A single parent or broken home. Clearly this girl is a product of a broken home. But why is this a CONCERN. Your story is a PERFECT example.

The reason why women from broken homes tend NOT to be marriage materials is simple: Whenever you have problems with her daughter, she will advise her based on her hidden resentment for the girl's father. She will be quick to paint you in a bad light because of the wrongs of her father

"This is how your father started with me. Don't make the mistake I made" "men are like this. I when your dad this something similar"

A problem between you and her daughter will be overblown by her because of the resentment she feels for her father


These are not all though. There's WAY MORE that goes into vetting a woman. After all, nothing quality comes easy.

From what I've observed, the problem came from your lack of boundaries most especially and then your vetting process.


Anyways, kudos to you for sharing this. Shows strength. It's a lesson to learn

You get time dey analyse wetin nor happen
The boy don smoke him Igbo dey make up stories
Nor be only I told them "I will do traditional marriage ending of November"
Na so them take dey fix date for traditional marriage

Samueltemi337:
You get time dey analyse wetin nor happen
The boy don smoke him Igbo dey make up stories
Nor be only I told them "I will do traditional marriage ending of November"
Na so them take dey fix date for traditional marriage

LMAO. Well still an opportunity for guys to learn regardless of the authenticity of the story

What he described isn't far fetch. Mums from broken homes are fond of poisoning the minds of their daughters

AlphaNugget:

Bro.....
Last year I thought I have met the love of my life, it was as if we were perfect for eachother, so we decided to get married; fortunately our parents agreed.

She moved in with me and we cohabited for 8 months - March - October, during that period it was all love, we did things together.....she made numerous promises, the love was intoxicating, we made other people envious because of our public display of affection, we were young couples (she was 20, I was 26).

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I your case. I wrote to you about it on one thread like that. It's a good thing you are finally out. Enjoy your life, work hard at what you do, and the lessons learnt from that ordeal. Cheers!

Samueltemi337:
You get time dey analyse wetin nor happen
The boy don smoke him Igbo dey make up stories
Nor be only I told them "I will do traditional marriage ending of November"
Na so them take dey fix date for traditional marriage

I just had to see the post that made you say this.

Trust me, I laughed really hard.

Martinez39s:
I your case. I wrote to you about it on one thread like that. It's a good thing you are finally out. Enjoy your life, work hard at what you do, and the lessons learnt from that ordeal. Cheers!

I honestly heeded to your advice and I am grateful you came through. I really appreciate you sir 🙏

AlphaNugget:

My parents tried to clear their doubts, my mum in particular talked to her mum and assured her that the girl can stay with my mum if she doesn't feel comfortable staying with her own parents when I travel.....and I honestly explained that I will do court marriage next year when I visit the country, she agreed initially but her mum just doesn't agree.....it is over, I have moved on

Thanks for clarifying that area.

I guess it's not just meant to be.

Rizzputin:


The blame isn't on the mum per se. That's the surface reason. Surface reasons rarely ever are true problem. They're like symptoms or complications. The real problem is underneath which is you


If you had set CLEAR boundaries (while reassuring her obviously), she would have disobeyed her mum to please you. A woman's primal instinct and urge is to get into a relationship with the best man available. That's the best power men have because we're custodians of relationships. So setting clear boundaries should be paramount

I'm pretty sure this is not the first time she didn't something wrong and came back begging & apologising. The way I see it, she uses this "Do then apologize later if wrong" to test what your boundaries are. The right way is for you to set and make it clear rather than having her "test" it herself.


Secondly, how long has her Dad been away from her mum? If it's a considerable amount of time, then there will still be issues. Let me explain why I asked you those two questions:


----Her Relationship With Her Dad. This is primarily about respect for you. If she respects her dad, his struggles and accomplishments then she has a good idea of what it takes to be a man. In that regard, she'll respect you too.


But that's not all. Respecting her Dad is not enough. So let's look at the next question:



-----Is she from A single parent or broken home. Clearly this girl is a product of a broken home. But why is this a CONCERN. Your story is a PERFECT example.

The reason why women from broken homes tend NOT to be marriage materials is simple: Whenever you have problems with her daughter, she will advise her based on her hidden resentment for the girl's father. She will be quick to paint you in a bad light because of the wrongs of her father

"This is how your father started with me. Don't make the mistake I made" "men are like this. I when your dad this something similar"

A problem between you and her daughter will be overblown by her because of the resentment she feels for her father


These are not all though. There's WAY MORE that goes into vetting a woman. After all, nothing quality comes easy.

From what I've observed, the problem came from your lack of boundaries most especially and then your vetting process.


Anyways, kudos to you for sharing this. Shows strength. It's a lesson to learn

To corroborate this statement of a girl coming from a broken home. A girl whose mother resents her father, will always see things from her mother’s lenses.
There is this girl I met in uni back in the days, I still check her WhatsApp status. The story I heard was that both her parents were separated, and her father is irresponsible and didn’t cater for them. She worships her mother on her status.

Whenever I check her status I just smile, because I know she will have relationship issues. Already, she is separated from the guy who took her virginity because of her indecisions and flimsy opinions from friends.

It will be hard for such girls to see the potential in a man. It can’t work, because you can’t give what you don’t have.

Coming from a home with both parents living together, I know the type of discussions my mom and sis have against my father, just because he isn’t a full provider of the home.

How much more, a girl that isn’t from a home with the father has the foundation. Something will always be missing in her life. And do you think you can deal with it?

Settling with a girl is beyond being in love, other things need to be considered.
You need to vet her properly, set boundaries.

sabbiboi:

To corroborate this statement of a girl coming from a broken home. A girl whose mother resents her father, will always see things from her mother’s lenses.
There is this girl I met in uni back in the days, I still check her WhatsApp status. The story I heard was that both her parents were separated, and her father is irresponsible and didn’t cater for them. She worships her mother on her status.

Whenever I check her status I just smile, because I know she will have relationship issues. Already, she is separated from the guy who took her virginity because of her indecisions and flimsy opinions from friends.

It will be hard for such girls to see the potential in a man. It can’t work, because you can’t give what you don’t have.

Coming from a home with both parents living together, I know the type of discussions my mom and sis have against my father, just because he isn’t a full provider of the home.

How much more, a girl that isn’t from a home with the father has the foundation. Something will always be missing in her life. And do you think you can deal with it?

Settling with a girl is beyond being in love, other things need to be considered.
You need to vet her properly, set boundaries.

And what of a guy that brought up by single father?

sabbiboi:

To corroborate this statement of a girl coming from a broken home. A girl whose mother resents her father, will always see things from her mother’s lenses.
There is this girl I met in uni back in the days, I still check her WhatsApp status. The story I heard was that both her parents were separated, and her father is irresponsible and didn’t cater for them. She worships her mother on her status.

Whenever I check her status I just smile, because I know she will have relationship issues. Already, she is separated from the guy who took her virginity because of her indecisions and flimsy opinions from friends.

It will be hard for such girls to see the potential in a man. It can’t work, because you can’t give what you don’t have.

Coming from a home with both parents living together, I know the type of discussions my mom and sis have against my father, just because he isn’t a full provider of the home.

How much more, a girl that isn’t from a home with the father has the foundation. Something will always be missing in her life. And do you think you can deal with it?

Settling with a girl is beyond being in love, other things need to be considered.
You need to vet her properly, set boundaries.

Yup. Single mothers generally have resentful views about their daughter's father. And they don't hesitate to paint their potential son-in-laws in a bad light over the tiniest issues

Women make rules for men that they are not attracted to, on a deeper level, even in marriage. The assholes/bad boys/players she chose have run thousands of mileages over that pûssy without conditions.

The average woman is rarely CONFUSED at spotting and choosing her target of sexual interests and provider interests. The appearance of CONFUSION and POOR-DECISIONS is done deliberately to project a victim image, mask her innate hypergamy, AVOID RESPONSIBILITY/ABILITY for her deliberate actions and throw the untrained mind off the scent of her manipulative whims.

In The Matrix , Neo, the protagonist, lives an average late 20 century box life. He works in a box-shaped cubicle, lives in a box house, and spends his time staring at a box computer screen. Neo’s life is fine, it’s the average corporate America rat-race existence. One day, though, everything changes, and Neo becomes part of a conspiracy.
Neo meets Morpheus who makes an offer, “Take the blue pill and everything goes back the way it was, take the red pill and experience the truth in all its ugliness.” Neo takes the red pill, and discovers that everything he knew about the world was a lie, what he learns isn’t pretty, and it isn’t easy to stomach, but it is true.
Red Pill Theory is based on this metaphor from The Matrix . As we go through our life, much of what we learn about the world and each other is filtered through numerous cultural biases, and it isn’t at all true. Our society creates a psychological matrix, an illusion about what it means to be human..
For example, we learn about sex and romance through the lens of religious traditions and Hollywood movies which make dating seem like a noble, enlightened part of who we are. But the truth is much darker, and dating is often motivated by selfish, evolutionary drives that have everything to do with successfully ing on our genes to the next generation, and little to do with anything noble or enlightened.
We learn who we are through a culture that tells us what it wants us to hear, and we believe in a narrative that is both comfortable and pacifying. By believing what we are taught, we learn to act within the bounds of the societal narrative. We date how our society wants us to date, we learn what our society wants us to learn, and we work the kinds of jobs our society wants us to work.
With Red Pill Theory, you’re offered a choice, you can continue living in relative comfort by blindly following the path that society has set for you, or you can give up that comfort and learn the truth.
Just like in The Matrix, the truth isn’t pretty. Human behavior is often driven by petty, selfish impulses, and taking the red pill means confronting that who you are might not be as noble or heightened as you’ve been taught to believe.
Through taking the red pill, you’re sacrificing comfort but gaining power: the power to control your life.
Instead of taking a job that society has taught you is appropriate to you, once you take the red pill, you can create a career based on your personal ions.
Instead of marrying someone who society has taught is appropriate for you, you can date anyone, because you will learn that what you’ve been taught about the opposite sex and sexual attraction is dead wrong.
Instead of being trapped by the limiting beliefs that have been ed on to you by your family, friends, and society as a whole, you will free yourself to understand that who you are is something you can control and change.
Taking the red pill isn’t pleasant, a lot of what you will learn will be difficult to accept. You should only proceed if you value truth over comfort.
Here, you will learn what you need to learn to change any area of your life, whether it be your financial success, dating success, or anything else- but none of those changes will be easy to make.

Self-help gurus use inspiration and blind positivity to motivate people to take action, but this doesn’t work in the long-term because that motivation always runs out. Here, you will learn the no-bullshit truth about what it will take to make the changes you want to make, without the sugarcoating and marketing.
Because Red Pill Theory covers the topics of sex and dating extensively, I do want to make one thing clear. The online Red Pill community originated with the notion that the truth about sex isn’t always pretty, but many of its have taken a victim mentality in which they treat women as a scapegoat for their problems.
This trend in the red pill community is something that you won’t find here. Yes, it is true that you may learn things about women that are difficult to hear, but you will just as often learn things about men that are difficult to hear. Women have selfish motives and have the capacity to deeply hurt men because of these motives, but that coin has two sides, and men are just as guilty of this.

Articles that imply that women are immature, stupid, or hateful in comparison to men are not based on scientific truth, they are based on an individual’s hurt feelings. Red Pill Theory isn’t about blaming women for your problems, it’s not vs. them, it’s about learning to thrive despite the flaws of both sexes.

Hopefully, we can change the culture of the Red Pill community back to its scientific and philosophical roots of discovering the harsh truths about humans in general. Its current state is, unfortunately, deeply damaged and has largely lost touch with what made its core values so great.
If you’re prepared – and willing- to learn the harsh truths of human behavior, then dive in and take the red pill. What you will learn can change your life, so long as you are prepared to face the truth.

#Redpilltheory

Another day to remind you all that - you should only date women or be with women who have genuine desire for you.

Rather spend 1-year scouting or opening yourself to a woman like this than spend 1 year frolicking with many women.

It's not a matter of fvcking many different women.

As a man, you need to experience genuine desire from a woman.

You need to see a woman do anything for you. Not because of your wealth or status. But for your personality and whole being

There can be sex without genuine desire.

But there's no genuine desire without sex.

If you're not her crush, she will crush you.

Stay blessed.

All the best @AlphaNugget with your current & future endeavours.

Let me just chip in into the topic a little.

If truly she aborted it. I repeat if truly she aborted it. Whether she was coerced by her mother or not. Infact the best decision was really to end it.
If only we men know the extent to which ladies can go far and beyond for a guy. We will stop making excuses for women. If woman dey feel u, I tell you not even her mother or father can interfere. Them go collect. I've seen this in real time.

Do you think if the unborn were to be CR7's, Messi's, WizKid, Davido etc she will abort it? Even without any marriage rights & yeye conditions.

Again all these lovey-dovey stuff cohabiting etc aren't defining factors to know whether a lady really digs you. Infact they're very good in that. A woman could be all lovey-dovey my bae this that etc..all over you and you will be surprised inside of her you're really not it. And another might not be but she really digs you. It is in critical matters like this you know the ones that dig you or not. The ride or die type.
All those cohabiting when Una do she wan say she know really knows the thing you can do or not. She wan say she doesn't trust you to know whether you go disappoint am or not.

We men should learn to value ourselves oooh. You're also a Messi, CR7, WizKid etc in ur own way. Any woman that cannot see you as her king in your own small hut, free them. We have billions of people in the world. Move on to the next. I bet u, there are thousands of women out there ready to be in such positions.

You sef na king. We think women don't know what they're doing that's how the disrespect will start. It's start subtle. From aborting innocent unborn to more & more disrespect later on.

Do you know what it means for them to remove your baby behind your back if truly they did? They have no utter regard for you & your seed. No be same women they huzzle sperm from billionaires condoms to conceive. Ahaaa.


Men abeg make una see una sef as kings even u dey sell pure water for street. There are many women out there for you. You get to call the shots not a random girl. Have a big ball.

1. Women easily get sex, but not commitment.
2. Nature is kind to women, but harsh to men. Time is harsh to women, but kind of men. Mother Nature, Father Time.
3. When a woman says that she can't find a men, she doesn't mean that guys don't talk to her... Hell nah... There are legions of simps dying for her attention in her DMs. What she means is that she can't find the man that she wants, not necessarily a man that wants her.
This is an example... How many simps do you think DMs this specimen per day?

Rizzputin:


Yup. Let these guys keep dreaming that men have higher sexual pleasures than women.

Women's sexual pleasures knows no bounds. Of course, like many men before and After them, the hard way is the only way they learn

They'd learn.

People that can go consecutive 10 rounds in a go. Even after it's all dried up. Little touch here & there, Bam! Ready for another. And Mr. Big Dixck!, that needs some time to recuperate before ignition again.

The greatest obstacle to absorbing the redpill knowledge is not intellectual but emotional. It's not that simps cannot grasp the information, it's that simps cannot handle the truth.

women love the chase too.

what we have been saying.... A guy plays hard to get by closing his heart and being Emotionally Unavailable.

The moment you let a woman know you're Emotionally available for her, that you're have caught feelings for her, ITS LIKE HOW A GUY FEELS AFTER FINALLY SLEEPING WITH A GIRL HE'S BEEN PURSUING FOR SOME TIME.... There's no longer any challenge. Nothing to look forward to. No more wondering "he loves me, he loves me not". No more late night discussions with her friends trying to figure you out whether you love her or not. The fun is gone. The ambiguity of the chase is thrilling. But when things are confirmed beyond doubt after you assure a girl of your love, the fun part has ended.

AlphaNugget:

I wanted to start young, wanted to build my family and have something to make me come back to the country......note that she had already done change of name and I indicated married in my marital status in my documents, which she was well aware of! It was not like I was cheating or hiding anything from her, I literally made effort to include her in all my things.

I understand the mum, but I was just not prepared because I wanted the court marriage to be done after childbirth.....but it is well, I don't see it as the end of the world, life continues, another woman will come and hopefully I will make the right choice.

omo nothing wey anybody go tell me... for the fact that she took knife to attempted stabbing you should be a big red flag.

JESHAL007:
women love the chase too.

what we have been saying.... A guy plays hard to get by closing his heart and being Emotionally Unavailable.

The moment you let a woman know you're Emotionally available for her, that you're have caught feelings for her, ITS LIKE HOW A GUY FEELS AFTER FINALLY SLEEPING WITH A GIRL HE'S BEEN PURSUING FOR SOME TIME.... There's no longer any challenge. Nothing to look forward to. No more wondering "he loves me, he loves me not". No more late night discussions with her friends trying to figure you out whether you love her or not. The fun is gone. The ambiguity of the chase is thrilling. But when things are confirmed beyond doubt after you assure a girl of your love, the fun part has ended.

I use to talk like this but you need to grow up and find genuine connection with a girl with high EQ. You don’t win by being redpilled, you just cope.

CaveAdullam:


You need to see a woman do anything for you. Not because of your wealth or status. But for your personality and whole being

Stay blessed.

Why not many women do anything for you? :DWhy a woman? Abundance

Dear men, as you rise higher in life, be careful how you associate with women, especially when it comes to sex. I don't know how many of you would know Neil Gaiman - he's a speculative fiction writer and the creator of Sandman, the outstanding comic which that Netflix series is based on. This man also happens to be one of my favorite writers of all times.
If you go on the internet, you'll see that this man is hot soup. Like Diddler he might be dealing with multiple sexual allegation cases soon. And this is happening in the West, where women are strategically innocent by the law. Hail Feminism!
It's very sad to see a man of such standing fall like Humpty Dumpty - his legacy would be damaged, if he releases a book after this no one might buy .

I'm not trying to side with sexual misconduct, but listen, we are in an era where a man's empire which he had spent years building can fall in one night with a woman if she dares say you sexually assault her.
If you have to become a monk to protect your achievement, please do.

Your future wives


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMyRb0DqV-U?si=Zfag_NL5t_ePZdPT

RedpillAnalyst:
Your future wives


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uMyRb0DqV-U?si=Zfag_NL5t_ePZdPT

In Nigeria, women have weaponized sex simply because the vast majority of men are simps.
I'm talking at least 80% of men.
Hence why these hoes are comfortably expressing themselves.
On the other hand,it tells that the vast majority of women in Nigeria are of low quality,they lack value.
They have very little to add to a man's life.
Their way of life is extremely superficial.

Don't take them seriously for the sake of your sanity.
Value must match value.

Learn to discern the art of categorizing women , it'll help control the amount of attention you give to them.

Attention is currency, it's the key to a man's world
Secure it very well so you don't let in a stray cat.

By default, a woman is emotionally stronger than a man, while a man is physically stronger than a woman.

Martinez39s:
All I can say is konji is a bastàrd. One thing most people don't know is that being ignorant of the red pill is not the only thing that can make a man simp. You can be very vast in red pill knowledge and alpha mindset, but if your sexual urges are always getting the better of you, you will find yourself simping big time, and you will become an easy prey to women who can manipulate your sexual incontinence. Control your sex urges, you won't die if you do so; the ability to be above your sexual urges is a super power that many people underestimate. If you can achieve this, you will be able to "see" more clearly and it will automatically occur to you when someone is trying to exploit your sexual desires for their benefit. It won't work on you, and you will never act needy or desperate for sex because you are above your sexual urges and you will not die if you abstain.

That's why I always encourage everyone to go monk mode for at least one or two years; practice saying "no" to sex even from very enticing and hot ladies and let it master you, and at the same time channel ALL your time, energy, and money on improving yourself or learning something. After that, if you want relationships, no problem; if you still want to remain a monk, no problem.

Edit: growing up, men are never taught or encouraged to learn the useful skill of mastering and taming their sexual urges. Instead, men are praised for having many body counts, and they see such as a glorious pursuit. It is not necessarily bad, but neglecting the useful skill of sexual self-control, which is very important for men to learn, is what is bad. Not only will it prevent simping big time, it will also avoid terrible and embarrassing situations for men.

Most girls love when guys begs them...like it's gives them an ego boost or something

The Redpill is a lifetime drug. I try my best to maintain my daily dosage. Fighting against one's biology and social conditioning is not an easy feat.

men love the most to be loved loved the least"
This realisation is the engine that powers the RedPill movement.

Una still dey inside this dream

Abeg, make nobody quote that 🤡 above me.


Thanks !!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w8HdOHrc3OQ&list=PLxSY1ddzIrD5wIRyYZ53eBs8RyzZFXg5q&index=4