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Greetings All,

Please I need serious advice.

I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights.

I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout.

Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!

You won't have peace of mind because your mind is already in trouble.

Back out!

You don't truly love her enough or you'd love her child too. And if you can't love her and her child more, please move on and go marry someone else instead of making her miserable in future.

You are in the best position to advise yourself, because you have all the facts, all the pros & cons, & you will be the one to live with the consequences of your decisions.

Nothing anybody tells you here will make you change your mind, especially now wey you don fall inside love.

oziegbep:
Greetings All,
Please I need serious advice.
I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

If both of you love each other, there's nothing wrong in setting down with her.

Don't allow your mind to trouble you,take care of the child as if he or she is your own, you do not know what that child will become tomorrow.

Another Simp has gone to fall in love with a single mother again..

Only today, about 3 different simps has fallen in love with different babymamas.

Upon all we preach here everyday. Kai, these guys will never hear word again.

A single mum whose baby daddy is late is Manageable.

But so long as he is still alive, OKAFOR'S LAW of ConGodynamic must take place

I don't see any issue there with the lady, she has no links to the baby daddy anymore. I guess you are worried that the biological father might take the child after you invest on the child financially and emotionally as the father figure. No worries, the child won't forget your sacrifices even if the dad is richer than you now. Just focus on being a good father not the Strong man definition of father (the one that only pays for the child's upkeep).

If she can love you more than you do to her then you are free to settle with her otherwise flee while there is still time.

Young and old single mums are unstable in all their ways

oziegbep:
➜Greetings All, Please I need serious advice. I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

You need advice for what exactly? You would rather base your choice more on what people say rather than what your heart wants for you to have.

Better yet, I would advise that you leave that lady so she can go find herself a man who would love her without caring what others say or whether she is a single mother or not. Life is too short for anyone to be in a relationship that they are truly not committed to.

She cannot say that she does not know the whereabout of his baby father. Even what about the baby father nuclear or extended families.

oziegbep:
Greetings All,
Please I need serious advice.
I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

Will you die if you begin your life on a "clean" slate rather than carrying baggage around? Or is it an abomination for a young gal with no child to love you? Let the "dead" mingle with the"dead". Single fathers should marry single mothers.Oh boy use your head e too early in the year to dey mumu.

Kobojunkie:
You need advice for what exactly? You would rather base your choice more on what people say rather than what your heart wants for you to have.

Better yet, I would advise that you leave that lady so she can go find herself a man who would love her without caring what others say or whether she is a single mother or not. Life is too short for anyone to be in a relationship that they are truly not committed to.

kobo how I wish u were like this

So are we saying that all single mothers are bad news?

We guys can sweet mouth a lady to make her believe she has found her heaven on earth o ly to abandon her after childbirth.

I really hope we stop this bashing for mistakes made by women who were given assurance by men.

Namaster:
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!

Why are you so hateful?

Namaster:
I have commented EXHAUSTIVELY on the perils of marrying or dating a single mother.

Check my profile for them.

But the summary is that single mothers are BAD NEWS.

They are FIT to fuuuccck because their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS. They CANNOT form when you have evidence they had been viciously RAWDOGGED in the past.

They are UNFIT for dating or marriage because, again, their bastards are walking testaments to their LOOSENESS.

Single-motherhood also points to a LOW IQ and STUPIDITY.

Because said woman not only CHOSE an irresponsible man who was willing to ABANDON his child. But ALSO chose to fuccck him WITHOUT condoms or other forms of birth control.

That stupidity would be a TAINT in the gene pool if both of you have children. Dumber kids will result.

There is a reason a LOT of the children of single mothers end up as Yahoo Boys and Hookup girls (future single mothers).

It's NOT just about the upbringing, or lack thereof, but also the STUPIDITY and IRRESPONSIBILITY inherent in their genes asserting themselves.

Also WHEN the father eventually shows up, the child you raised with your money, time and energy will DISCARD you without a second thought.

Chances are equally high the mother will do the same.

Fuccck her, if you must.
But NEVER marry a single mother!

Omo u dey vex o!

TAKE NOTE OF THE BOLDED

oziegbep:
Greetings All,
Please I need serious advice.
I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra [b][/b] GARBAGE to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

oziegbep:
Greetings All,
Please I need serious advice.
I am currently dating a lady that I truly love. She is caring, enduring, financially stable etc. The truth is that this lady really loves me. But she's a single mum and its like an extra baggage to me. Am single and planning to get married to this lady, but the single mum status gives me sleepless nights. I have asked her several times about the baby daddy, but she keeps telling me the dude abandoned her and the baby long ago and that she doesn't know he's whereabout. Please I need advice on how I can cope. Because I truly love this lady alot

Anytime the baby daddy returns, they will continue from where they stopped 😁

Secondly, every single mothers are respectful and act loyal, until you marry them 🤣

If she has a daughter go a head,when the daughter clocks 20, then you can Bleep her to fulfill the scripture that says the husbandman that labour must be the first partaker.

Ok

Marry her if God is leading you.

GOFRONT never even finish de talk am for the other thread one simp don come prove am right.

SMH

rest be assured the father of her child would always have access to her punnani

Do what pleases you, abeg.

Na person later realized say na him wife born the child wey dey call am 'auntie' for grandma's house.

Lots of teens in our society are carrying unwanted pregnancies, so there's no way some bachelors won't end up with single mothers, while some spinsters also end up with single fathers.

Note that she won't be with you if she's not a single mother. Why should you be with her now?

Why you?
Why not her close friends?

What happens after the baby daddy and her reconnect matters.

You see, Sex, Love and Marriage are three different matter.

You can Love, You can marry but that 3rd one is the issue.
Even the culprit would look innocently and submissively downwards after the whole strong heads.

Get her commitment on Fidelity and adopt the child.

Enjoy.

Anything that tinkle your fancy. Who am I ?

Negative comments full this thread

There is nothing wrong with marrying a single parent because it's not a disease.

Just be sure of the reason you're with her because I have a string suspicion that most single guys in Nigeria only profess love to single mothers who have a lot of money to burn

Are we still discussing this in 2025?

Well, It's better people learn from their own personal experience sometimes.

I wish you goodluck young man.

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