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For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

How long have you been married? When and why did she start monitoring?

Patented:


How long have you been married? When and why did she start monitoring?

we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

deluckiest:
we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

Do you monitor her own phobe?

What pictures is she gathering for proofs?

Go to the network you are using to lay a complain.
Accessing your chat, is either she has your or you are both using the same Gmail or iCloud.
Besides your WhatsApp can be easily cloned

deluckiest:
we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

11 years and she hasn't found anything incriminating on your phone yet?

If so, consider her a blessing, and continue as you have. You'd appreciate her more when you celebrate your 50th wedding anniversary.

And yes, she's doing it because she's insecure. And your trustworthiness is her blessing, and the fact you are not a pig.

deluckiest:
we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

Na conversation and maybe therapy go for settle this matter, I think

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Stop using iphone. Iphone can be monitored by paying online companies to do it after providing them your phone number. They don't need physical access to your phone to do this. All your iphone information on iphone is backed up on their cloud that is where the spy companies get your chats, photos and call records.

Android phones can be monitored but the person must get physical access to your phone first to install a hidden spy app which shows no screen but will be running. You have to reset your phone to factory settings. If possible flash it. Then it. Don't let her know your and don't let her know the pattern lock or don't allow her add a second finger print. Set your phone screen to lock back within 3 seconds after it's idle. Also don't even use fingerprint so she doesn't use your finger to open it when you are asleep. If she cannot open your android phone in your absence, she won't be able to install a spy ware

She has the right to! You should be happy she can.. Only legends can understand

There's trouble with women everywhere. Just because she's your wife doesn't give her the right to clone your phone. You're walking into a precarious situation. Abeg,do something fast.

No go destroy your sweet marriage because say she dey monitor your phone.

deluckiest:
➜ we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

Guess?

Bergavis:
There's trouble with women everywhere. Just because she's your wife doesn't give her the right to clone your phone. You're walking into a precarious situation. Abeg,do something fast.

You're right Chief. Happy New Year! Longest time!

Kobojunkieee:
Guess?

She's feeling insecure. She has no reason to doubt my loyally. She's one of those ladies who always their gender. She believes no woman.can misbehave without the influence of the man.

I want to put an an end to it. I don't want to continue tolerating her.This is 2025.

deluckiest:
➜She's feeling insecure. She has no reason to doubt my loyally. She's one of those ladies who always their gender. She believes no woman.can misbehave without the influence of the man.
➜I want to put an an end to it. I don't want to continue tolerating her.This is 2025.

You both probably should engage the aid of a professional marriage counselor at this point in time to better help you both understand the root of the problem, whether it is psychological or due to your behaviors in the marriage.

2. The good of professional marriage counseling is that it also helps you both make decisions about the status of your relationship and where you both wish to see it go next.

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How long has your wife been jobless?

deluckiest:
we've been married for the past 11 years. I can't really tell why she's doing it. But it started when I was in the University and warned me not to have any female friend. Guess, she's feeling insecure.

Your story doesn't add up.

According to the OP, she started monitoring your phone 6 years ago.

Upon enquiry, you said you were married 11 years ago.

Meaning she started scouting 5 years into your marriage. Then how did she start since university?

So what turned your wife to a detective from the 5th year of your marriage?

deluckiest:
She's feeling insecure. She has no reason to doubt my loyally. She's one of those ladies who always their gender. She believes no woman.can misbehave without the influence of the man.

I want to put an an end to it. I don't want to continue tolerating her.This is 2025.

Her insecurity comes from her past relationship experiences. Men don too Bleep her up with double dating. She too fit get that terrible past too because people with past horrible experiences are often the ones that are most insecure. Let her seek see a psychologist for help

Odotech:
Stop using iphone. Iphone can be monitored by paying online companies to do it after providing them your phone number. They don't need physical access to your phone to do this. All your iphone information on iphone is backed up on their cloud that is where the spy companies get your chats, photos and call records.

Android phones can be monitored but the person must get physical access to your phone first to install a hidden spy app which shows no screen but will be running. You have to reset your phone to factory settings. If possible flash it. Then it. Don't let her know your and don't let her know the pattern lock or don't allow her add a second finger print. Set your phone screen to lock back within 3 seconds after it's idle. Also don't even use fingerprint so she doesn't use your finger to open it when you are asleep. If she cannot open your android phone in your absence, she won't be able to install a spy ware

I don't think any of you understand op
Things de oo. I am having a similar experience please can we talk off nairaland

SoftSport:


You're right Chief. Happy New Year! Longest time!

Thanks bro. I am good and well. Happy new year.

bukatyne:


Your story doesn't add up.

According to the OP, she started monitoring your phone 6 years ago.

Upon enquiry, you said you were married 11 years ago.

Meaning she started scouting 5 years into your marriage. Then how did she start since university?

So what turned your wife to a detective from the 5th year of your marriage?

Good question!

deluckiest, what did you do to make your wife start monitoring your phone?

budaatum:

Good question!

deluckiest, what did you do to make your wife start monitoring your phone?

Like I said, my wife and I have been married for 11 years, but she never told me from the beginning that she could monitor and access my phone anytime she likes. I think the only reason she confessed was when I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project, and I told my wife about it. I had the technical skills, while my partner was the sponsor. But my wife insisted I end the partnership and look for a male partner instead. She believed something was going on between us, even though there was nothing like that. Because of this, the business was put on hold and eventually failed.

For those asking, there’s no problem with my marriage. We are living peacefully, and both of us are doing well in our jobs.

The only challenge I have with her is that she invades my privacy.

bukatyne:


Your story doesn't add up.

According to the OP, she started monitoring your phone 6 years ago.

Upon enquiry, you said you were married 11 years ago.

Meaning she started scouting 5 years into your marriage. Then how did she start since university?

So what turned your wife to a detective from the 5th year of your marriage?

You're missing it. Read again.

deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

If you have anything secret, switch to Nokia touch light phone and use your android for free conversation

With Nokia touch lights, there are no pictures or anything to screen shot

But she get enough time sha to dey monitor man

One day she will see what she is looking for

deluckiest:
I introduced my female business partner to her.

My friend and I were working on a project

The above makes me suspect your communication skills might have been at fault.

If you so easily slip from "female business partner" to "friend" in communicating with me, I can't help but wonder about possible faux pas when communicating with your wife.

Insisting you "end the partnership and look for a male partner instead" is a bit much, and you complying further rings alarms in my head since its invading your pocket too.

Do know I'm merely speculating, since I know absolutely nothing about you and your wife.

deluckiest:
For the past 6 years, my wife has been monitoring all my phone lines—MTN, Glo, and Airtel. She screenshots my chats, records my calls, and even gathers proof with pictures. Changing my phone numbers doesn’t help because she says as long as I use my NIN to a SIM, she can still track everything I do, whether openly or secretly, unless she chooses not to.

I want to put an end to this, but I don’t want to get her into trouble with the law.

Has anyone gone through something like this? How did you handle it? Please share your advice.

Then use her own NIN to a secret line and be chatting with other women in peace. Marriage should not stop a gentleman from seeking true happiness. By the way, if your wife is that much insecure, chances that she too may be cheating is 98.991%. But Victor AKA Obamamessi, I hope this is not one of your bullshit stories.

Odotech:
Stop using iphone. Iphone can be monitored by paying online companies to do it after providing them your phone number. They don't need physical access to your phone to do this. All your iphone information on iphone is backed up on their cloud that is where the spy companies get your chats, photos and call records.

Android phones can be monitored but the person must get physical access to your phone first to install a hidden spy app which shows no screen but will be running. You have to reset your phone to factory settings. If possible flash it. Then it. Don't let her know your and don't let her know the pattern lock or don't allow her add a second finger print. Set your phone screen to lock back within 3 seconds after it's idle. Also don't even use fingerprint so she doesn't use your finger to open it when you are asleep. If she cannot open your android phone in your absence, she won't be able to install a spy ware

Oh really? Just knowing this information