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@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

Who else is in the same shoe with me?

Breatheon:
Who else is in the same shoe with me?

you should thank God. I am 30 years with no job and nothing. I see my mates getting married building houses while to eat na Wahala for me. Wallahi its very depressing im just suffering and smiling, lots of time I think about considering the ROPE

There's a car mechanics near you. Go and ask if they'd accept you as an apprentice in your spare time, you'd pay.

Do it for at least 2 years and the future will scare you much less.

Do note, other apprenticeship opportunities (like computer mending, or photography etc) may exist and be more up your line.

budaatum:
There's a car mechanics near you. Go and ask if they'd accept you as an apprentice in your spare time, you'd pay.

Do it for at least 2 years and the future will scare you much less.

Do note, other apprenticeship opportunities (like computer mending, or photography etc) may exist and be more up your line.

But I have never seen a rich mechanic.
Except for the abroad based ones.
And the trade is not for the weak.

abba190b:
you should thank God. I am 30 years with no job and nothing. I see my mates getting married building houses while to eat na Wahala for me. Wallahi its very depressing im just suffering and smiling, lots of time I think about considering the ROPE

Eyaa

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From birth, you were given a name, a religion, and programmed by society. Everything you believe, even your identity, was fed to you. Unlike inherent traits like race, no one is born with a name or belief system. Your current state is a result of your past, and your future can be better if you consciously plan for it.

To change your trajectory:

1. Be intentional daily. Focus your actions to lead toward the future you desire.


2. Pursue curiosity. Choose something you’re genuinely ionate about and strive to master it.


3. Study deeply. Dedicate a minimum of 4 hours daily to learning topics that your goals.



If you do this consistently for 5–10 years, cutting out distractions, success will follow. The key is discipline, no shortcuts.

My advice:

Acquire high-income skills that are internet-friendly, especially media-related ones.

Build a personal brand while the barriers to entry are still low.

Share your knowledge. Guide others by teaching what you’ve learned.


Enjoy the journey! If you commit to building your skills for just 2 more years, even while working your current 85k job, your future self will thank you. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it if you truly want a better life.

Diversify. Find other means of income, preferably something online.

Amazon KDP for example, can be done alongside your job. Domaining too. People still make money from online surveys/AI trainings

Or find someone to teach you USDT arbitrage although that takes a lot of time and capital.

None of them is easy though. So you have to be disciplined.

Forget your age and face your fears.

Live your life one day at a time.
Do not over presure yourself

You don't know what you're saying. My local mechanic with ssce is building his second house.if you don't book him down, he might not have chance to touch your car in one month. Someone that all these university graduates dey learn practical aspect from.

LordBiden:

But I have never seen a rich mechanic.
Except for the abroad based ones.
And the trade is not for the weak.

The reality is no good job in Nigeria without connection.

Here's what you will do: Look for a service and offer it - anything online service, since you're a graduate you will make money.

You only need your brain, your computer or phone and your Internet to conquer poverty and the future.

Age is just a number.

Check my past threads to see what I've done.


Here's another advice I think you can consider

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

You talked of business, what business can you do?

LordBiden:

But I have never seen a rich mechanic.
Except for the abroad based ones.
And the trade is not for the weak.

be deceving your self the mechanic that fix my car as two bungalow, two wives, benz cls 500 and c300. You will see them dress dirty because of the nature of their job but they pay all there bills.

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

At same age.. some are earning 20k

Live in the moment... You don't know when you'll die
Plan for future.. not at the expense of the present

telim:
be deceving your self the mechanic that fix my car as two bungalow, two wives, benz cls 500 and c300. You will see them dress dirty because of the nature of their job but they pay all there bills.

Most people don't know that these handiwork people are millionaires

LordBiden:

But I have never seen a rich mechanic.
Except for the abroad based ones.
And the trade is not for the weak.

I know a mechanic who's rich. He has 2 children and doing very well.

telim:
be deceving your self the mechanic that fix my car as two bungalow, two wives, benz cls 500 and c300. You will see them dress dirty because of the nature of their job but they pay all there bills.

Only a few of them can boast of that especially the ones in high brow areas and with big connections.

The successful ones are mostly the criminal minded ones who would always look for faults to fleece customers monies.

telim:
be deceving your self the mechanic that fix my car as two bungalow, two wives, benz cls 500 and c300. You will see them dress dirty because of the nature of their job but they pay all there bills.

I haven't seen a rich mechanic too. The ones that spoiled my car or the ones that stole from me and keep hiding till today. Most of them are wretched due to their wayward lifestyle.

LordBiden:

Only a few of them can boast of that especially the ones in high brow areas and with big connections.

The successful ones are mostly the criminal minded ones who would always look for faults to fleece customers monies.

your are wrong those that fleece there customers are often poor because they hardly get refferals or recurring customers due them being criminal minded.
My mechanic is not in any high brow area and it is difficult to locate is shop as first time customer. He relies mostly on refferals and recurring customers but one thing is certain with him if you follow is advice your engine will last for a very long time.

Have being using my car for 5 years plus without any major engine problem due to his advice. This is the main reason we all like him. Things like car scanning is free and he also import original benz part and engine oil from abroad.

Breatheon:
@33, I'm more afraid of the future

So reality is dawning on me for the tasks ahead.

Presently 33 with N85k/month salary job

During my days in school, I had thought life will be far better after school but here I am earning 85k/month and that is money that cannot even meet my immediate needs and not to talk of wants and unto other responsibilities.

By age, I'm supposed to have been married but still living in one room which is not advisable to even think of marriage in this condition.

To arrange myself for marriage, I need at least a one bedroom, furnished and comfortable. The yearly rent for that is about 400-450k

Then I am also worried about renewing the rent every year, year and year.

How about catering for the family? Aside rent, feeding, school fees (once married, you begin to reproduce), medical, clothing and so so and so forth.

To live a good life, you need a car for mobility sake as a family.

I can't continue to pay rent. Meaning I need to build a house.

Obviously, the 85k salary is not enough. I need to start a business.

And so many other issues giving me stress and sleepless night.

So my worry is, where would i get the money to do all these with these kind of job i am doing? For years i may not even raise a million naira.

I have seen situations where people no longer able to change clothes just because they now have a family and I'm trying to avoid that by all means.

I'm really really afraid of the future.

I feel there shouldn't be any future.

Start a business..but look at your pocket..you should av started this business long ago what av u been doing. If I didn't study my kind of course in the university I would av gone for a course that wasnt too demanding and in which I can finish in record time..while focusing in on my learning a business line and starting it..paid employment is not for everyone..please learn a skill or trade and start something..

Men very sad. That’s the average Nigerian life for you.

Learn bricklaying
Electrician
Pop...wall screeding etc
Phone and laptop repair
Fish farming
Poultry farming
Tiling
Photography..a very lucrative job
Keke driving if u are street..just look for hire purchase and learn the street rules
Barbing...not expensive you can learn in 4 to 6 months and become a pro
Aluminium
Dry cleaning
Catering...small chops...shawama..pizza
Carpentry and interior design
Data analysis if u are into tech
Programming..time no too dey for u..u need to start earning fast
Pos stand
Tailoring
Making shoes
Look for anything g you can buy and rent
Snooker stand..Once u ahave started making money from other sources you can have it by the side
Food stuff business..but u need family for this one or good savings.
The list is endless...hustle while you still av energy..time is going bro.

Na person wey go dash you millions you dey fund.... Will 5million be okay??

LordBiden:

But I have never seen a rich mechanic.
Except for the abroad based ones.
And the trade is not for the weak.

Age is just a number meant to put you under pressures of life.
LIFE IS A JOURNEY OF WISDOM,YOU LOSE SOME,YOU WIN SOME,BUT THE KEY IS MOVEMENT. KEEP MOVING AND TRY HARD TO WIN more TIMES THAN YOU LOSE.

Listen. You cannot jump the gun or put the cart before the horse. You still have to go through some experiences. 90% of men start to get a grip on their lives from age 45 upwards. Just work hard in whatever you are doing and pray to God for his mercies. Start something small and grow it to a successful business. Read books online and watch YouTube videos. Don't dip your hands into illegal stuff. Just be honest. Cheers.

Life is simple. When you begin to embrace simplicity, you start to attract simplicity

To be prepared for marriage, you need to understand the first message up there. Know yourself. Who are you ?

Know your self because you'll only attract who you are for marriage. And if your self is lack of contentment, woe unto you when you attract an uncontented woman for marriage.

There is nothing like enough. Have you seen enough money before? How much is enough money. Enough is a psychological quantity. You can never have it all.

To live a good life, you have to work towards knowing yourself. Don't rush into marriage only to rush out. I know my advice may seem vague to Yiu because I'm not telling you to learn programming or forex or all of that.

That's not what you need. Whatever skill anyone recommends to you will only carry you as far as you want it to carry you

Can you dedicate 4-5 years to a skill even when money isn't forthcoming yet?

Can you be humble enough to learn from someone younger than you

Can you be patient with good character?
How discipled are you when you start making money? Will you land on money just to blow it away on nonsense people tag as 'living life'

Are you loyal enough to remains faithful to the wife you think you need now?

Can you give a customer quality regardless of the economic situation?

Know your self. It's a journey. All will be added as you progress, hopefully.
Money isn't all. Nice clothes isn't all. Flashy lifestyle isn't it. Focus on Self

I hope my other posts can help you.

Blitzking:

Start a business..but look at your pocket..you should av started this business long ago what av u been doing. If I didn't study my kind of course in the university I would av gone for a course that wasnt too demanding and in which I can finish in record time..while focusing in on my learning a business line and starting it..paid employment is not for everyone..please learn a skill or trade and start something..

You're right. The earlier one starts something, the better. If you had started something 4 years ago, you would have made some progress. So, start something today. Cheers.

@O.P if you have up to 2M in your and you base here in Lagos

Let's hand and create an organisation from the scratch if age is not a problem to you

It's alright to feel that way......

I'll be back to update this post

It is this lack of contentment that has put us all in misery.

Everyone wants to be rich, living in a maisonette and riding in a “jeep”.

You will rather cry in a private jet than in your one bedroom, right?

I wish you well.

Midlife crisis. Don't worry, you'll be fine. You are not the only one who thinks they've not done well enough. Even the millionaires are thinking they didn't make billions and so on. Keep trying and never give up. Life will reward your perseverance.

It because of failed leaders you and your likes always because of Igbo matter