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Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Oga u are very stupid and very emotional
All your write up na emotions full am
Only a real man can tell
U open mouth call ur mom selfish , because u dey render financial advise wey she dey render u b4
Just dey play

Too Much Wisdom bro!

PapaNnamdi:
There is nothing in marriage, don't let social media and your girlfriend's pre marriage behaviour fool you,

If you enter you go know say e better u de single .

Marriage go drag you down, I kid you not, mentally, financially, socially,
No good thing for a man inside marriage,
Na only woman marriage favour,

And your mama knw this but can't tell you the truth,

U fit marry now make ur wife wey no de do anything first you buy land,

Nonexisting1:
I have some time and in a good mood so let me drop this. You are not 30 yet, why the rush? You have a business that is paying well now but you are not sure about tomorrow thanks to our useless government. This is your opportunity to do some things before bigger responsibilities like children school fees start coming your way and stop you from doing them. Before going into marriage, make sure you're a man first and the first step to becoming a man is to have a place of your own whether in the village or in the city where you hustle. If you don't have the means, I can understand. If you have the means which I suspect you do, build a house and get yourself a means of transport before getting married. Not when your wife is in labour now, you'll be running around to buy recharge card to call Okey the keke driver. Women always push unprepared men into marriage and when the responsibilities that come with it are not met, they blame the same men. Your mother may also sense that you're not ready and is deliberately trying to slow you down. Sit down and draw a list of things that are needed to be done first before marriage. If your girlfriend can't wait until they are done, she is not for you. You're welcome for the 'thank you'. Now let me go ahead and make my dick available to this girl, she has been waiting.

bro u are on point this is what am suffering now never knew I married a great pretender I was warned but I didn't heed to it

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

For this generation you still dey think for marriage!

Na till you marry before you go know say naija women dey useless especially the working class one! Your mumsi don get experience and she dey try safe this foolish boy for the future but this foolish boy, toto and breast don cover his brain

Untill you start to dey raise another person's child from that very toto! Na there your eye go clear.

Slurity:
I dont expect a mumu like you to understand what i mean. come and plank my head, I am waiting.

Lol, @least you agree that ur Head needs Planking.

Very YEYE Boy like the OP.

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

I am facing the same problem with my mother. I am an only son although I have two sisters. I married early and had a daughter via that marriage although unfortunately that marriage was dissolved because of so many issues. Now I am 39 years old and I have found love again with a 26 year old beautiful lady but my mum has refused me getting married saying why I am in a hurry. I'm so angry. She said if I must marry this new girl she will not come for the marriage

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

yep my mom did this to me, so I cut all direct to her.

DaddyCoool:
You are her man and you tryina bring in another woman. If it were you would you be happy about that?

he is her son not his man

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

I don't know if somebody else has said anything similar but I will tell you say, your mum is very correct..
I'm married too but please if you have the means, please build the house as suggested by your mom.
I lived in my own house I built years before I meet my wife. I drove 3 cars already before meeting her. Marriage is not what you should quarrel with your mom about.
Bro! A bird at hand worth twice in the Bush. If your spouse endup being a selfish partner, you might miss the opportunity of owning a house.
Even if you built your house while married to your partner, it's not same as you owning a house first.

tobby20:

Oga u are very stupid and very emotional
All your write up na emotions full am
Only a real man can tell
U open mouth call ur mom selfish , because u dey render financial advise wey she dey render u b4
Just dey play

The guy sounds very childish and he's exposing himself to great danger in the hand of his fiancee and her family.
They will pitch him against his mom and render him useless afterward.

logan2:
he is her son not his man

That's how she sees it for now, until he gets a certain age, then she'll start saying "All your mates are married..."

Knight247:
bro u are on point this is what am suffering now never knew I married a great pretender I was warned but I didn't heed to it

Bro! If we say make we discuss wives matter some single mind might become damage.
I laughed when I saw OP post, the guy is still a learner. His eyes will clear in less than a year.
He will realise how selfish those gender are.

PapaNnamdi:
There is nothing in marriage, don't let social media and your girlfriend's pre marriage behaviour fool you,

If you enter you go know say e better u de single .

Marriage go drag you down, I kid you not, mentally, financially, socially,
No good thing for a man inside marriage,
Na only woman marriage favour,

And your mama knw this but can't tell you the truth,

U fit marry now make ur wife wey no de do anything first you buy land,

Oga! Abeg tell the mumu guy.

This one wants to rush into marriage and turn against his mother because of a woman, a Nigerian woman for that matter. Oya na, we dey here dey watch

Martinez39s:


I have nothing to say, Victor. Just do what you want to do and be giving us regular updates over a fifteen-year period. Thanks.

Fifteen year period? 24 months is more than enough..

Vikto17:
no... but l am the first child

Body still dey catch you. Which one is if you lose this girl? She should be the one afraid of losing you and not the other way round.

You're just 30 and marriage don already dey hungry you? What do men gain from marriage? Alaye u better calm down!

Good luck to those of you planning on getting married to a Nigerian girls

different family different priorities,
me i am 30 this year,i never stable but anytime i call my mom,my mom dey always tell me say weda i no go show her my girl friend say she wan carry grandchildren,she go always let me know say my father dey 28 years old when he give birth to me.

Osgilliat:
What most single men yarning dusts here doesn’t know is that getting married to the right woman of your choice makes a man to become a real man. You will become more focused, your hustle will be doubled, your thinking will be ginger, your goals will be endless.
@op, don’t let anyone tell you what to do and what not to do. As long as no one is feeding you, clothing you or housing you. Take decision you think is best for you irregardless of what anyone think including your mother. As long as you don’t stop whatever help you are giving to your family, you are good.

Marriage is not for the faint hearted, after marriage don’t rush to have kids and don’t have more than two kids.

You don’t need to have a house or a car before you can marry, that’s just an excuse for your mother to delay you getting married.

I swear to God u be mugu so he should not have a roof over his head before getting married so he should be living in a rented apartment I swear ur mumuness no be small

Vikto17:
it still doesn't justify anything.. l will still marry and start my own family bro...how do u think l should handle this,, if l lose this girl l won't be happy with them honestly...

You're a mvmu man!

You're way too emotional to be talking about marriage. Oga there's nothing in marriage. This one they're telling you now , you have refused to hear. U dey rush things! Body dey catch you bah?

We'll be here to read ur endless stories after ur marriage to that girl

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Very easy, get your olori ebi involve. When the extended family get involved, the matter will be settle. And when you get married, don't forget her so that it won't be case of "What I feared most has happened to me"

Bro u are a mumu to argue with ur mom
If u marry u go Dey rent for 10years
Billings from diff corner go weak u down
Ur gf dey in an hurry because she don Dey old
Men dont get old

G0Oodharddick:


You're a mvmu man!

You're way too emotional to be talking about marriage. Oga there's nothing in marriage. This one they're telling you now , you have refused to hear. U dey rush things! Body dey catch you bah?

We'll be here to read ur endless stories after ur marriage to that girl

Abeg leave am
Go ahead marry her
He no won listen or take advice till he enter trap
Billing go finish am
He salary go small for he eyes by then

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

Your mom never said u shouldn't get married
No Dey make us feel lik say she dey against her
All she said establish and enjoy small before marriage if not u no go fit established again if u marry

Osgilliat:
What most single men yarning dusts here doesn’t know is that getting married to the right woman of your choice makes a man to become a real man. You will become more focused, your hustle will be doubled, your thinking will be ginger, your goals will be endless.
@op, don’t let anyone tell you what to do and what not to do. As long as no one is feeding you, clothing you or housing you. Take decision you think is best for you irregardless of what anyone think including your mother. As long as you don’t stop whatever help you are giving to your family, you are good.

Marriage is not for the faint hearted, after marriage don’t rush to have kids and don’t have more than two kids.

[b]You don’t need to have a house or a car before you can marry, that’s just an excuse for your mother to delay you getting married.

u be correct mugu so he should not have a roof over his head before marrying abi
U be correct idiot so he should be living in a rented apartment

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

oga u better listen to ur mother u never build house u wan marry I even think say her reason for not allowing you to marry was senseless but from what I read ur mother has a point u gats develop urself before marrying u dey live for rented apartment u wan still marry on top
Buying a car is not necessary but building a house is very necessary before marriage na my advice be dat and besides u are still 29 yrs old u have enough time the best time for a man to marry is in his 30's when it becomes late is when you are approaching 40
Take ur mom's advice she has a point

You don't have your own car yet and you said your business is paying you well. Pay you well to eat apu and agbado abi... Lols

Bros listen to you mum and achieve a fine level of financial stability before you populate your life and the already crazy society.

I was so comfortable that I have 2 cars, and bought land in places of my choice before I got married. But now, I feel like i still rush into the marriage!

Marriage is not rosy bro, my advice is to plan your life carefully before bringing a woman.

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

You will not enjoy that marriage, trust me, King Of Bad News Is Talking To you, think brother.

Your family will approve your marriage, so that, when you are in problem, they will come And Recuse you, Don't Marry without consent.

McLizbae:
You don't have your own car yet and you said your business is paying you well. Pay you well to eat apu and agbado abi... Lols

Bros listen to you mum and achieve a fine level of financial stability before you populate your life and the already crazy society.

I was so comfortable that I have 2 cars, and bought land in places of my choice before I got married. But now, I feel like i still rush into that marriage!

Oil Dey Your Head, My Brother

Vikto17:
My mother is becoming something else honestly... l don't know if it selfishness or something else...

l will be 30yrs next year ,have a business that is paying me well , my fiancee is also doing well for herself .....

l realize that each time l raise issue regarding marriage. my mother keep on emphasizing on building house first and riding cars...l feel she is either not in touch with reality or she is afraid the help l am giving the family will stop once l get married...

In either way l am gradually smelling danger...my parents may disapproved my marriage because of their selfish reasons...

The thought of it annoys me honestly,, because l intend doing this marriage with or without their concept.. how do l start handling this issue? l intend getting married highest by 2026.please l need ur advice nairalanders..

She is not against you, she is certain you are not ready. Forget the small money you are seeing, you must be a bit comfortable to extent your married friend will begin to envy you. For now, I don't think you have reached that level, When you do, even your mom will be the one to ask you how far .

That your girl wey dey pressure you, if money finish your for your hand, the things wey she go tell you eeeh!!!! E go shock you.

If knack, Knack her well...but, becareful.

Marriage should come naturally.

G0Oodharddick:


You're a mvmu man!

You're way too emotional to be talking about marriage. Oga there's nothing in marriage. This one they're telling you now , you have refused to hear. U dey rush things! Body dey catch you bah?

We'll be here to read ur endless stories after ur marriage to that girl

my life my choice,, it is not all marriages that are like that of ur family ... ur wish for my marriage won't cone to

Munzy14:

She is not against you, she is certain you are not ready. Forget the small money you are seeing, you must be a bit comfortable to extent your married friend will begin to envy you. For now, I don't think you have reached that level, When you do, even your mom will be the one to ask you how far .

That your girl wey dey pressure you, if money finish your for your hand, the things wey she go tell you eeeh!!!! E go shock you.

If knack, Knack her well...but, becareful.

Marriage should come naturally.

nobody is pressuring me,, everyone with their priority... l want to get married and start raising kids ,, you want to keep fvcking around.... so each with their priority... l don't find joy in those things honestly...